HenryWilliams: You have unknowingly married an iceberg. And it would get colder as your marriage (if it lasts) goes along. The technical word is FRIGID. They don't like sex or male touch. They aren't necessarily gay or anything. They're just wired that way. They can survive years without sex or intimacy. In Western Countries, they're the ones that become Old Cat Lady or that spinster Librarian or that old primary school teacher that never got married. After this pregnancy, forget touching her again She just got this pregnancy as to make people comot eye for her matter That's why sex before marriage helps to weed out such undesirables early on without the messy complications after marriage.
I hope you know that old cat lady and spinster is no longer the insult it used to be 100 years ago.
Many western ladies are choosing that lifestyle to have a peaceful and drama free life
Ozzyk: We got married in ending of August We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period Here is the issue; Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being..... And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance.... I am already tired 😩
Didn't you talk about this before marriage?
For the pregnancy to stabilize doctors usually advise no sex until after 3 months along.
But if she's avoiding you, then your sex game is not good at all. You have probably traumatized the poor woman from the whole thing.
Thirdly pregnancy causes hormonal changes to women, what you see is what you get.
Fourthly, congratulations on marrying a virgin. This is one of the downsides of marrying one. If their first experience isn't good, they start avoiding you.
Just talk to her and try to find out what is going on, then masturbate to keep the urge under control like all the other married men
Beremx: The Man Behind the Legendary 7 Keys Herbal Mixture
Long before modern pharmacies dotted our streets, a man from Arondizuogu in Imo State was already crafting remedies that healed countless Nigerians. His name was Chief Fredrick Aladinbuli Ike fondly called Dr. Aladdin.
In the 1950s, when measles and chickenpox swept through communities unchecked, Dr. Aladdin began experimenting with local herbs. After years of refining his formula, he produced what became known as the “7 Keys Herbal Mixture” a potent blend believed to treat measles, chickenpox, and other feverish skin conditions.
From a small herbal shop, his brand F. A. Ike and Sons Medicine Company grew into a household name across Nigeria. Parents swore by it. Herbal vendors stocked it. And soon, “Dr. Aladdin” became a symbol of homegrown healing wisdom.
Though he passed away in 1995, his legacy lives on through F. A. Ike and Sons Ltd, which continues to produce the 7 Keys Mixture today one of Nigeria’s oldest surviving herbal brands.
Chief Fredrick Aladinbuli Ike’s story reminds us that African knowledge systems have always been rich, scientific in their own way, and worthy of preservation.
A true son of Arondizuogu whose roots gave birth to remedies that touched generations.
This 7 keys behind all sort of illnesses especially kidney failure
Meedon: As a man if you marry from my village there are things you need to be wary of and your wife committing adultery is one (the most important). If your wife commit adultery and you heard about it but did not care to do anything about it. My brother, your stomach would swell up and you would die. Sicknesses would attack your body, you wither and die abruptly without wasts of time. My ancestors (Ibegwu are very active here) kill anyone that is a victim of wife cheating.
Another one is if you lick your wife or girlfriend private part, you are also in trouble unless you perform some sacrifices to appease the ancestors (Ibegwu). I have seen many women run to the village to perform this sacrifice to the ancestors. One girl did for 2 times. The third time, the Ibegwu asked her to bring goat instead of the normal cock that is required.
This is just a warning to men who want to marry from my village. If you want to live long run to the village and perform the required sacrifices when noticed that your wife is playing away march if not otilor is your case.
We have so many rules which if you go against you would see shege from the Ibegwu's but this one is the most common amongst the folks in the village. If you as a wife no fit deh faithful to your husband, the result must show.
please tell us the name of your village so that I can run.
OLAADEGBU: FAITH RESURGENCE: At a time when America is wrestling with declining church attendance, a surprising reversal among Gen Z — once labeled the “least religious generation” — has pastors and researchers talking about the possibility of a new revival.
omooba969: Section 37, 1999 Nigerian constitution does not expressly address privacy in the context of taking someone's picture or video in a public space. You may want to rely on the part that reads 'protection of activities', but it can be argued that the word 'activities' is ambiguous because the activities are not appropriately specified.
Covertly taking Nkechi's picture in the gym (public space) is not unlawful nor illegal.
what of the data protection act?
Especially look for the part on taking media in public and private spaces
Kastonkastroll: So they killed their husband because he isn't satisfying them Someone should make it make sense! If the man ain't satisfying you, simply end whatever union you have with him instead of killing him.
You want a man to be satisfying you in today's economy abi? Doing 40minutes man at his own detriment. Wicked wives!!! See as the second woman hold the man head dey give the man better uppercut.
meobizy: She’s angry that her illusion was unraveled. These women love deceiving men with unrealistic images. It’s no wonder the men get disappointed when face to face with them.
Which health issue more than pre-diabetes? She should go and sleep. She no get argument.
Thundafireseun: A lot of Nigerian women see themselves as assistant god …. Madam you turned your self in to a public figure, and you are now angry about being seen in the public without your permission….
70 years old woman
There are privacy laws. You don't take someone's picture and post without consent in a public setting.
Kobojunkie: Your friend is probably lucky she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers you introduced to her would have likely sealed her death or regret in marriage.
A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have yet to normalize divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are trapped in such situations. On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up in tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while openly demeaning her friend for having standards.
women are not made for men, women are not an object, a toy or property.
uchkochi: Never Marry a Woman Who Thinks Children Are Burdens
Let’s cut craps.
Marriage without children is just a friendship with rings.
It’s not family. It’s not legacy. It’s just two people playing house until they get bored.
Because children aren’t side effects of marriage. They’re the foundation of it.
They’re the proof of love, the fruit of union, and the carriers of your name.
And any woman who sees them as an inconvenience, a distraction, or a burden— isn’t a wife. She’s a roommate with benefits.
Let’s break it down:
—
1. Children Are Not Accessories—They’re the Mission Modern women want the wedding.
They want the pictures. They want the “Mrs.” in their bio.
But the moment you mention kids? They flinch.
Why? Because children require sacrifice. And sacrifice exposes who’s really serious about family.
Marriage without children is like a farm without seed. No matter how pretty it looks, it will never feed the next generation.
—
2. A Legacy Without Heirs Is Just a Memory You can build businesses.
You can buy land. You can stack millions in the bank.
But if you don’t have children to carry your name, your work dies with you.
That’s why Scripture says: “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him.”
A woman who rejects children is rejecting your legacy. She’s rejecting the reason men build in the first place.
—
3. Love That Refuses to Multiply Isn’t Love—It’s Lust Let’s call it what it is.
A woman who doesn’t want kids doesn’t want a covenant. She wants comfort. She wants companionship. She wants the benefits of marriage without the burden of motherhood.
But real love multiplies. It creates. It produces something greater than itself.
Love that stops at “me and you” is selfishness wrapped in romance.
—
4. If She Sees Children as a Setback, She Will Resent You as a Father
Don’t be fooled.
The woman who complains about stretch marks today will despise family duties tomorrow.
The woman who fears “losing her body” will one day shame you for wanting more kids.
And the woman who postpones children indefinitely will eventually replace them with pets, plants, or pointless projects.
But none of those will carry your bloodline.
—
5. Unless God or Nature Says Otherwise—Fruitfulness Is Non-Negotiable
Yes, there are couples who face infertility. Yes, some suffer medical setbacks. That’s different. That’s not rebellion—it’s reality.
But when a woman chooses barrenness? When she negotiates fruitfulness? When she says children will “ruin her freedom” or “limit her career”?
She is telling you clearly: Her vision for marriage is self, not family.
And brother, that’s not a wife. That’s a saboteur of legacy.
—
Final Word: A Woman Who Rejects Children Rejects the Future
Never marry a woman who treats kids like baggage. Never build a house with someone who doesn’t want it filled with laughter, noise, and generations.
Because marriage without children isn’t a covenant. It’s a contract.
And a man who ignores this truth will wake up one day with money in the bank, a house with no heirs, and a last name that dies with him.
Choose wisely. Because without children—your legacy ends the day you do.
Copied.
Children are a burden. Yes they are a gift from God, but raising a child alone? Ask any single parent, widow or widower. Although they will tell you that they love their kids, deep down they are resentful. They are resentful of the things they had to give up for that child. They are resentful of they fact that they are no longer 1st priority in their lives but 2nd.
Mothers in general pay a heavier price for motherhood. Many men choose to walk away from parenthood with little or no consequences. Most women do not have that luxury.
Many women pay the toll with their bodies. Their health is never the same after pregnancy and childbirth.
Many women experience set backs in their careers because of marriage and motherhood. Meanwhile men earn social status, promotions and prestige because of marriage and fatherhood.
Many men don't take an active role in parenting their children and blame the mother when things go wrong.
There is a reason why children prefer mothers.
What most feminist are afraid of is having with men who think fatherhood is dropping a cheque and showing off kids to others.
What they are afraid of is having children in men who insist on wanting children but do nothing once the kid is there.
Let us not lie. Children are no longer the return on investment they were 50-100years ago. The cost of raising a child to be a decent adult is way more than what you reap in old age. Children may be fulfilling emotionally, but they are a depreciating asset financially.
If men are ready to be true fathers, not armchair 'head of the household' then there is no sensible woman who won't support them and think that the next 35years will be worth it
“When someone says ‘God told me you are my wife/husband’, that alone is never a strong enough reason to accept a relationship or marriage proposal. God is not an author of confusion. If it is truly from Him, He will confirm it to both of you, not just one person. Remember, God does not force people into marriage—He gives us the freedom to choose. Let God also speak to you personally before making such a life-changing decision.”
Any man that says this line is a walking red flag who must be avoided at all cost.
Ladies should look the other way.
This is the kind of Christian who would use the name of God to absolve himself from blame for any wrongdoing he commits.
This is the kind of man who doesn't have the confidence for any reason(incomplete hometraining, character flaws) to win/woo a woman's heart based on who he is as a person.
He is using God as a threat to make you submit to him.
A word is enough for the wise. Ladies! Run o!! Don't come and cry to us concerning your marriage to your God fearing husband'.
I think the Telcom should be sued for failed transactions, not the banks.
Using the analogy above, If you go to 7 ATM ls with no money, you won't be charged. But the Telcom are charging for every transaction. Let's bleed these Telcom dry
A Nigerian lady shocked many after telling her boyfriend, “Did I tell you to train me in school?” when he tried to collect his wig back on her graduation sign-out day.
The fact that 2 of them descended to this level tells me all I need to know.
SmartPolician: If this is not a skit, I must say that this guy is funny. If you want to marry a grajet (in Odumeje's voice), why not marry your own wife, get her to have your first child and insist she must go to school?
The funny thing is that despite this trend going south, you will still see thousands of young guys doing it.
While it's good that he sponsored her and all. Did he discuss with her to see if she was feels good about a proposal.?
Why must he propose on her big day and take away the spotlight from her?
It reeks of manipulation to me.
It's giving the same energy as someone proposing on your birthday party that you planned for.
I have never been a fan of public proposals without prior consent from the other party, especially on special days like graduation. It's gives off enemy of progress vibes, and I want to steal your shine vibes.
Before you men come for me.
Imagine if your girlfriend decides to give a public pregnancy announcement at your graduation party, your promotion party or success of your business party without telling you first? Yes you will get congratulations from well wishers and friends. But how will you feel?
What was supposed to be about your achievements will now be overshadowed by the news of pregnancy.
Many of you will force smiles in public, then complain to your friends and address grievances at home.
yummy001: It beats me how some of you on this thread cannot recognise when someone is busy trolling a.k.a catching cruise in Nigerian parlance.
The best way to troll a troller is to tell her she is being extremely wasteful for using a whole 5k to cook in a month.. That is the best way to indulge idle trollers.. Two can definitely play the trolling game.
I would have ignored the joke of a thread but I had to drop this comment for the sake of those of you who cannot identify a glaring joke whenever you see one and even going to the extent of challenging someone who is obviously trolling.
Nnamdipapa: It is actually cheaper for me. I no longer snack, dine in restaurants, I cut all my carbs 100%. I have saved a lot of money already on this diet.
One small indomie is 300 naira, one raw egg is 300.
Unless you are doing witchcraft or withholding information, don't know mathetics or live in a village, the total cost of that plate should be minimum of 1200naira.
Please could you share your grocery list and what the 5000naira covered, because this is confusing.
Esthered: Ehen. The wife didn't get the best of him but had to care for him at his worst
Exactly. A real losing deal for women. No wonder many are choosing to become side chick's and baby mamas. To chop and clean mouth is better than being a caretaker
ZaraArewa: GoodMorning my good people of Nairaland. I have good new from my previous topic https://www.nairaland.com/8506066/it-normal-ones-partner-demanding/5#136589875. About my man always wanting sex and his attitude of not showing commitment to our relationship. I finally had an honest conversation with him and he has promised that we are seeing his family members tomorrow, i am so excited right now. To all those who advised me to take the bull by the horn, i just want to say thank you.
I will be dropping more updates tomorrow.
it's not enough that he promises. He must truly follow up on his actions AND CONTINUE TO DO SO.
A lot of men like breadcrumbing women with promises to change only to revert back to old habits. Time will always tell. I am happy for you and wish you luck
yemre: How is that your headache? Are you a medical doctor?
A governor has done an upward review of minimum wage in his state and rather than commend the governor, you're here blabbing "is it before or after tax"! During tax ni😂😂😂 all the enemies of good news will have their own share of what they pray for!
I am a medical doctor.
I know better than anyone that when politicians announce news like this, there is a lot being left out.
They will tax that money so much that the recipients of the increased salary are often worse off than before the salary increase. Meanwhile the public still thinks they are receiving the full amount and will increase prices. In the end, truly worse off than before. It's just one big publicity stunt
Family › Re: My Newly Married Wife Took in and Had Refused To Copulate by DrFunmisticGlow: 6:51am On Oct 17, 2025
Someone should make it make sense! If the man ain't satisfying you, simply end whatever union you have with him instead of killing him.
