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Nonwa gam tai still remains the best

Nawa..
Some of my gender ju see t des fall hands bog time. I'll rather visit olosho than to rape any lady.
God go punish any lady we go generalize this shameful act
It's well

Almaigaa:
The Soldiers are used to that too. They will be fine. That's the beauty of being a Galant Soldier.

If shame no catch a mad man e go catch im brother i dea shame for una, how many foreign soldiers you don see weh dea use hsnd the dig water for ground when they supposed to dea fight insurgency? If boko show face now them go run.

Woooo

Almaigaa:
They are batter off. The entire Enugu no even get Water at all.

It's not something new, enugu has water issues from time memorial.
So chillax, they will sort themselves out

At least this will make up a little fraction of the suffering they ve caused civilians

Issorite

Out of all other things na snake farming you choose..
E be like say your life no dea sweet you

Penguin2:


Please don’t go naked o.

We are not interested in seeing your saggy scrotum

That’d be an eyesore

Who told you it's saggy?
Something that's firm and hard 24/7

richiemcgold:
abeg think twice before going naked.
..you might be mistaken for a mad man

Anything to avert the coming desaster is welcomed

babajero:
If this your story is truth, then there is nothing wrong with it, if that is their tradition, because that your girlfriend is a bastard if going by the real sense, but when you pay the bride price on behalf of the girl and her late father, she automatically have a surname. And it is not every thing that must end up on social media, I believe you have elders.

Yes, dad is not around I'll seek his opinion once he comes to town

Penguin2:
This is now serious.

Tinubu really meant it when he said he is willing to fight dirty.

At this juncture, I’d advise PDP to hand their ticket to Atiku.

Let’s see what an election between Tinubu/Ganduje and Atiku/Obi would look like.

Tinubu ain't getting no ticket, if he does i go naked swear for am

Albert0011:
Not a trap bro
She even said that nothing concerns u with the girls mum and some times they just do it for doing sake, that its left for the ur girl's family (her uncles) and her mum to settle them selves.
And she even said that they maybe they are trying to extort money from u.
So my advice for u is to thread carefully, if u really love the girl then stand on ur ground that u can't do it.

Thanks bro

EduadorOSCA:
It shouldn't be, when such issue occurs, depending on whom you talk to and their level of knowledge in the tradition of the land, the mother's people will come on the day the bride price is scheduled to be paid, payment will be made to the girls father for the girl, which the father will in turn hand over to his own in-law for his wife cos he cannot collect when he has not paid normally. All the necessary arrangements as regards to who and who to talk to should be finalized before fixing a date hence your event might be scattered; trust village people.

Another way is if the man is the reasonable type, you can delay your own and sort he settle his wife's kings men first then you can proceed with yours.

The father is late

diogo23:
Where is she from? I have not heard such a thing before, if you pay for her mum pride price who will marry among them?

Question waiting for answers oo my brother

emmykk:
You are using us to catch cruise you are lying and even if it is true don't you have your brain

The fact i stated her place should tell you something, why lie with such a sensitive matter.
I wanted to seek opinions before tabling it before my own family which am sure they won't agree

Albert0011:
Bros i just called my mum this mum this morning and i explained everything to her.
She said it do happens in ukwuani tradition but u just have to pay certain amount of money like 20k 25k and thats all.

Thanks sir
Is that payment not a trap?
For God sight it might be that am now legally married to the mum after paying that money

ginggerxy:
which part of Delta is that? If its Igbo part of Delta then I think your girls family is trying to play smart on you in other to avoid being embarassed from her mother's family. Why I said that is because if a man doesn't complete the marriage rites of his wife and the woman gives birth to a girl , during her own traditional marriage , the mother's family has every right to seize what ever is left undone on her mother and it's embarassing . So I think that's what the girl is trying to avoid.

Yes from the igbo speaking tribe

Albert0011:
Bros am from the same local government with ur girl..but i have never heard of that kind of tradition in ukwuani land.
I think i will call my mum or grand ma on ur behalf so that i will ask them.

Pls do n quote me

kaymart:
From this particular response of its....Ur story seems more like just takes of mere fabrications...

That's was what some of the comments suggested i don't have any other options than to stick with that

LesbianBoy:
I want to believe some of the stories are cooked because what the fvck

Real matters bro.
Am lost

Neroiam:
I'm Deltan. Na job dem wan job u so

It may not be the girl's intention tho. She's probably a pawn in the game.

Remember what happened to Jacob in Gen. 29. Laban had to marry the older sister,Leah first because of thier tradition and had to work extra 7years for Rachel.

In my own opinion, paying her mother's bride price means you're marrying them both.

The people who I think should pay the mother's pride price are the Late Husband's kinsmen.

You have a point, I'll stick to that when next i meet her

Enemyofpeace:
Lucky you! That would automatically make you a chair holder to her mother’s pussy. Chei some guys are fokn lucky

You no serious

linearity:
I am from Delta but not the part the OP mentioned, we also have that tradition, but the pressure will be on the mom’s husband to complete the marriage rites of his wife, it is not passed on to the incoming husband of their kids.

This is actually a negative of the daughter, because no man will ask her hands in marriage until her mom bride price has been paid as a result many men will pass over them to other household. In fact in many cases, it is the mom that will go borrow money and give to the husband to do the needful so that, he does not keep holding down their daughter from getting married.

It is not the obligation of the new son Inlaw and he can’t be forced into doing it, but he can contribute or bounce, by the time two or three good suitors bounce like that, their eyes go clear and they will run and go do the needful.

Her dad is late

lecturer22:
The thing is, in Anioma tradition, a daughter cannot be married if brideprice is not properly paid on her mother. But the children are the ones expected to pay the brideprice and not the suitors. If she has brothers, she and her brothers should be the ones to pay the bride price. If she is an only child or the siblings are small and well to do, then she should pay it. I don't know about Obiaruku, but the ones I witnessed in the Ika area, the whole bride price is usually less than a hundred thousand for the money and drink including all the items. And this is for the first visit, second visit and third visit.

And it's the mother's family that are making this demand, not the father's.

I no even get 50k to waste self.. i tot the girl was taunting me now i know its real

godofuck231:
You will become her husband , by tradition the mother of the girl will no longer have the shame of not being properly married , you will be part of them and they will regard you with respect , if you reside there you will be entitled to a chieftain title , its just a culture shock in ancient times in calabar men marry the mum and her age group and then the girls age group , it was too expensive and it was abolished

I no fit foot that bill abeg, why me

mmsen:
If they are already causing you problems at this stage in the relationship how much worse do you think it will be as the years go by?

That's why am seeking you guys opinions, am in a tight corner

iLiquidator:
Will she serve the same purpose as his wife in za oza rum??

Na my fear be that, since shes still young b4 them go say make i lash her join

Truvelisback:
How old is the girl if her mum is 30? Did she give birth to her at the age of 12?

Late 30s oga, read well b4 finding fault.
She gave birth at a tender age

Truvelisback:
Na for here the story get K-leg.

How e take get k leg? the mum is very young, have met her personally. According to my babe she gave birth very early

GooodHardDick:
In this life my brother, u don't need to be gentle and be acting nice guy. If not people go use u play tire, esp Nigeria girls.

You need to be tough, be an alpha!!!!

Take our advice and dump that girl asap!

Thanks bro, i do appreciate

GooodHardDick:
Oga, You better stop simping around and leave that girl asap. The earlier the better!

No say we no warn you!

You harsh

Lalasticlala, mynd44, seun pls make una do the needful