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Nerd111:
Please, help me!!! I need a job before hunger kill man pikin. I graduated with a First class honors in Microbiology in a Nigerian university since 2018. Since then, I've not been able to get any job. I dropped my certificate for a while and entered street to hustle, but this coronavirus pandemic has cut off all my access to my part time informal jobs. I've been learning data analysis and other skills too. I have acquired like 5 professional certifications. Nonetheless, I'm unable to get a job. Please, I'd be glad if anyone could help me out with ANY job. I'm not picky o. I currently reside in Ilorin. I have thought of relocating to Lagos but I don't know anybody there and I'm very broke. Please, God should use somebody to help my life.

I have been in your shoes before. If you are interested in the academia, you can touch base with your undergraduate project supervisor, HOD, Dean, VC or any bigwig you know in your alma mater it you can be hired as a GA. Since you are still young, you can send your resume to KPMG. About 10 years ago, KPMG regularly schedule first class and 2:1 degree holders for aptitude test. If you ace the test, you stand a chance of getting an offer. You need to be resilient in your job hunting.

I wish you the best!

Amotolongbo:
If you are really interested, it is never too late.

The best you can do is to go to a school like FUTA for the PGD. Hopefully, SURCON can register you for the pupillage with the PGD and MSc sir

FSS Oyo doesn’t offer PGD in Surveying and Geoinformatics but PD (Professional Diploma). They only offer PGD in GIS.

Believe you me Madam, it's already too late for me.

Amotolongbo:
That is where the problem lies jare.

Even the registration is almost only useful for cadastral.

If you are still interested in the registration, you can take the pain to do the PGD and go back for the SURCON exam.

The reason I want to be a licensed surveyor is because I am interested in cadastral surveying.

I think it's too late for me to do a PGD at FSS or any other institution based on the path I'm following to achieve my license. I'm trying not to give out lots of details on a public forum because it will give away my identity to people who know me in real-life.

Amotolongbo:
If you had done PGD in Surveying, SURCON would have accepted it sir.

I guess you went straight to do MSc in Surveying without the PGD after your BSc?

It is well Madam. I'm already exploring other options. Yes, I didn't do a PGD before MSc.

Amotolongbo:
starting my pupillage soon after the PD program in FSS

Ya, every pupil surveyors have to write SURCON exam to be qualified as a Surveyor

Great! My bachelor's degree is not in Surveying. I did my Master's degree in surveying but SURCON rejected my application for pupillage.

Amotolongbo:
@dear OP, Sagna112

I’m writing to you as someone who had passed through this kind of experience before. Mine was worse than yours. I will share the experience with you

Inform your parents on what is happening, they can’t beat or rebuke you

I was admitted to study pharmacy in 2006 at the great citadel, Obafemi Awolowo University. After my first session, I had 4 carryovers. Not as if I wasn’t serious or very dull, things just went in the way I didn’t understand.
I summoned courage and repeated the first year, taking only the 4 courses. I passed all and proceeded to 200level.
I repeated 200level and had to take all the courses again in my fourth year at the university. After the fourth year, I passed the courses though with resit in two courses. I promoted to 300level for the fifth year.
I repeated 300level and had to take all the courses in 300level in my 6th year at the university.

Finally, the worse came after my 6th year in OAU pharmacy school, it was a withdraw from the faculty of pharmacy to other faculty.
I wept and felt so bad as if that was the end of my life. Every thought in me had elements of suicide in it. But my parents were so aware, I called my mum who was at work immediately my course mate notified me of my fate. Dad had known earlier that day before me through one of our lecturers.

My parents stood by me and made sure I was happy and supported me financially, physically and spiritually until I was able to change my department to Geography in the faculty of Social Sciences.

I’m a Geography department graduate now and on a verge of being a registered Surveyor and I feel more happy and fulfilled than being a pharmacist

Being withdrawn from the medical school is not the end of life. There are billions of opportunities in other fields.

Please notify your parents now. They will know later, but they will feel more disappointed then than now.

Sagna112: Follow this advice and inform your parents ASAP. Think of the best time and way to inform them.

Amotolongbo: Great. Are you currently undertaking pupillage? Did you have to write some exams?

MelaninSkinGirl:
I am sure ladies you can all relate with this, many women all believe that all men are nice but in fact they are shy, sly and slick. Women get carried away and get loved up and think love is true but these men walk all over women

Many women do not look before they leap and end up in deep water. So ladies, guard your heart, play hard to get or you will regret the day you were born when he leaves you for another woman/man because "Good men are like finding a needle in a haystack".

Could you explain who a good man is?

EkeBarry:
Though i av 2 accounts with them, 1 being a Diamond-Access account, but were they did this strange deduction was on the main access acct. Its not to state that the other account is not continuously being touched. Seriously, they wil hav to explain to me after this lock-down then i wuold knw whether to stll continue with them

I might also consider closing my account with them but I don't know if other banks are better. I will close my accounts with UBA next time I visit their branch. I stopped banking with GTB.

EkeBarry:
Pls oh, mine is 'savings'. At one swoop, a whopping 1,128.75 was deducted from mine too . They tagged it DEBIT CARD ISSUANCE FEE/VAT whereas i av never for 1nce requested for any card. 1nc this lock-down ends, they would av to do some explanations to me

I didn't want to have anything to do with Access Bank until they merger with Diamond Bank. I liked Diamond Bank because they were quite efficient. I stopped using my Diamond debit card about 5 years ago and the card expired two years ago. A couple months ago, I was surprised to be charged over 1k for card issuance. I contacted them and they told me they will work on the reversal. I followed up few weeks later and they told me they are still working on it, it has been a couple of months and I can't get my money back.

prepresh:
Thanks a lot, this sounds good but the fact that he has not said anything at all I don't know how to go about it, we only see in church or home cell, he is always busy and so am i

He might just be a nice guy or he wants to know you enough before he can make a commitment. The earlier you have a discussion with him the better for you. If you keep waiting for the perfect time for both of you to meet, it will never come. The next time you see him, you can ask him for a lunch or dinner during the week. If he tells you he doesn't have time, you can ask him for a brief discussion after service or home cell. You don't want to wait one month for when will be convenient for both of you and you eventually he's not interested in getting involved with you.

All the best!

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Timson01:
We have only been married for three (3) months. February 12 was my husband’s birthday, but being that it fell on a Wednesday, we decided to mark it on Sunday, February 16. We hosted friends to a-get-together in our home. I did a lot to make the day memorable. The last group of friends left around 9:30pm and by the time we were done cleaning up, it was about 11pm.
We had our bath and all I could think of was sleep, but my husband was thinking differently. He wanted sex, but I was just too tired for anything so I said NO and asked him to wait until morning.
My husband angrily left the bedroom and I drifted off to sleep because I was too tired, but I was woken up with a slap in my face. I thought I was dreaming, but I wasn’t. I was startled when I saw that it was my husband who actually dealt me a slap!
As I wanted to ask him what the issue was, he gave me another slap and said I had no right to deny him sex. I was forced to slap him back, but that made him angrier, he hit me back and pinned me down- I struggled with him, but he overpowered me. He tore my nightwear and RAPED me to his satisfaction.
I still do not believe this happened.
I was too tired- was I wrong to ask him to wait until the next day?
Was he right to have slapped me?
Was he right to have raped me?
SEX! Should it have been because of sex? We still had sex a night before- in fact early that morning- three (3) hot rounds.
It’s been three days after the incident, he’s still feeling fly like he was right.

Somebody please advise me on what to do?

https://www.nairaland.com/5697086/please-need-advise-husband-beat

Timson01:
Good day nairalanders,

I have a question bothering me. I have been in a relationship with my fiance for almost 3 years. Our wedding is this Easter. So we got a new apartment and he has been living in that apartment .

I visit almost every day and we both cant wait to get married. We moved some of his stuff in one of the rooms and I was trying to clean up and arrange some of the items when I saw some pictures of my fiance and his ex.

Personally,I was surprised he still kept pictures of his ex. (I discovered this ex is in the same church with him. I recognized her cos she is a church worker but he never mentioned they were ever together until I found these pictures). I put them together and my intention was to confront him and later,maybe burn the pictures. So I packed them in a bag waiting for him to return so I can show them to him.

I continued cleaning but I also saw like old CDs and I was wondering which ones to keep or throw away so I had to play them one by one in the DVD to determine which one was still good or which ones are bad so I can throw them away.

Just as I continued playing the CDs,I played one that I was not expecting. It was a sx tape of my fiance and his ex (his church member o) and another woman. I recognized the ex from the photos that I saw earlier on. I was stunned and shocked. Why did he make sx tape of himself having a party with his ex and someone else?
At this point,I lost it and couldn’t wait for him to return. He of course lied that he did not know he still had the pictures and video. He said the video was a mistake. He was young and stupid. The video was made when they were drunk.

I met my fiance through a mutual friend. Never for once did my fiance mention that his ex is still in the same church with him. In fact,he never mentioned her. I go to his church once in while but I never got any hint…I feel so fooled.

For me,its bullshit. All I can picture is him and his ex and that LovePeddler. Who is she,that ex…who is the other woman?…why is the ex pictures and videos still with the man I am getting married to in a few weeks.
My fiance has been begging me,saying he has destroyed the pictures and video.But that is not comforting me,my gut is telling me there is something about this ex. I mean,I know my guy is not a virgin,I know he has been with other girls in the past but never in a million years did I picture him as the kind of guy who would sleep with two women at the same time and even film it.

Plus filming it..he kept the tape…We have been together for 3 whole years…why does is that tape still in existence?Maybe he is still in love with the ex or maybe they are still seeing behind my back.

Or maybe he kept the tape as a reminder of the kind of s*x he likes…I am confused and I truly feel like there is something he is not telling me but he says I am just paranoid for nothing,that there is nothing going on. That he has not spoken to this ex for over 4 years.
Please advise me…is he telling the truth…his motive for making the tape too is scaring me…is he that type of guy or was this just one time stupid mistake?

Abeg nairalanders,make una advise me on what to do?

https://www.nairaland.com/5722832/wedding-just-few-weeks-away

Yuneehk:
Fight, throw jabs and make up. Odimma.

Yuneehk, I can't access my email account linked to Nairaland.

Cheers

Daisyflora:
09037305014 am Daisy by name n am currently in Enugu.
Age:25yrs
Blood group:O+
Genotype:AA
Currently hv my poultry farm that am managing

Cool. What specifications are you looking for?

unibenakpos:
hello nairalanders, I'm UnibenAkpos nick name sha. i am a 300lv student of university of benin, faculty of agriculture. currently studying agricultural econs. I'm writing this to inspire others to do better in their academics, although i know school does not guarantee success or financial freedom but i believe what is worth doing is worth doing well.

I gained admission into uni in 2017 then i was working with Ajeast nig ltd. I left secondary school in 2012 although i got OND during that before proceeding to uni, it did not reduce the difficulty i faced adapting to academic life in uni. when i saw my prospectus and the courses i will be registering for 100lv, i knew i have to start reading immediately to avoid stories that touch. It was not easy as new student we did not know who the scholars were, everybody just dey form scholar. I registered for tutorials outside school, went for night class, and did all i thought was necessary. The result came out for 100lv and i had 3.2 gp, that was 2:2. i decided to work harder putting more effort and when the result for 200lv came out i had 4.3 gp. i know hard work is what i need to come out with a good result. so if you are out there thinking you are not good enough, that's not true, just keep studying make the brilliant student your friends, attend lectures regularly, perform well in your test and assignment and finally dont wait until you see the time table for exam before you start reading.
God bless you all

Congratulations! Keep it up and work harder.

snitchbitch:
He does not drink beer, he does not smoke do such men exist?

he does not sleep with women all about

do such men exist or they don't?

matured comments only and no insults please!!

They exist and I know many. The irony is that many ladies are not interested in them because they think the men don't have want they are looking. Sometimes the ladies are not patient enough to know such men have what they are looking for.

Phenomenal16:
I went to a saloon this evening and the young Lady of my age which I know from my church was talking about how she spends money on clothing,,, hair do,,,,,to get a man ...
She was actually laying emphasis on the fact that how expensive u look determines the kind of ppl u attract.....except if the grace of God is upon ur life
So I was like do I need to look expensive to attract a man or what?
She was like if u want a rich man ..u av to dress rich....the thing weak me cos me I don't av that kind of money...
Forgive my typos

I don't care about expensive packaging as long as what you wear is neat and decent. Thereafter, your character will be your greatest asset.

favoryte33:
A friend of mine who is a lecturer in one of d fed universities discussed d above topic with me.He's been dating d student secretely though but he's just worried about how d department would welcome d news when he eventually ask this girl to marry him.

Not the best. I think it is still manageable if she's from a different faculty or a graduate student in his department.

faithfull18:
My point is nobody eats their cake and have it, you will have to choose what's important to you. You can't have it all in one person.

That's true.

faithfull18:
Why would you want to change someone to please you, when there are thousands who already do that.

Several others who makeup may not meet other specifications he's looking for.

stinflame:
Take things easy, look for your old girlfriends you broke up with and mend things up..As it stands now falling in love with a new young lady is risky.
my take

That's a good suggestion. I have only been involved in one relationship which ended a couple years ago and I can't go back to her. The reason I wasn't involved is because I didn't want to waste anybody's time or tie myself down because I had a very long way to becoming self-sufficient. Over the years, I have relocated from from one state/country to another.

I lay low and try to be "undercover". Thanks.

TonyeBarcanista:
By mid 30s I guess 34-36...

Baba, when you go marry?

Yes, 34 - 36.

Haha

chikk:
This is more than concern then... Has a "monitoring spirit" feeling attached. Abeg, block those ones off asap.

Thanks

Prognose:
Lol, surely it's not that bad.

Thanks.

joy199:
I am going through same issue, went for my little cousins wedding last week, that how family members did meeting on top my matter ooo, bla bla that I am getting old, mind you, I am in my late 20s. All they kept on saying is that you are a woman, you might have delays in child birth, they want to eat my yam before they get old Bla bla bla, to the extent that when some of them sees my mum, the first greeting is, when is your daughter getting married.

I don't understand why they think it is right to pressurize someone to get married, marriage will surely come at the right time. I had to leave after the wedding to Lag, because its becoming annoying.

Whenever they ask, I tell them it will happen at the right time and I will let them know when it is time. It can be really annoying. Thanks.

stinflame:
if you have a stable job,a roof over your head and you okay.Uncle go marry unless you lacking the above mentioned.
Give those kids the privilege to meet daddy when he is still strong and fun to be with ,not one old man whose life then rotates on drugs.
Secondly you can easily place your child when he or her is done with schooling.
get married next yr and in twenty years time you will be 55yrs will your kid will be 20..
plan now and you will appreciate all advising u to marry later.

I have a permanent job and accommodation is not a problem. I agree it is good to start early. The problem is someone asking me today if I have found someone to marry and I tell the person no. I speak with the same person two weeks later and the person asks if I have found someone to marry. Two weeks is too short for me to conclude I will marry someone.

sisisioge:
Well...I have turned it to fight with them all. It was a tough Christmas when we had a huge fight over me declaring that I'm nolonger interested sed .

Just tell them to either leave you to do it at your time or you aren't going to do it at all sef

Haha. Thanks.

chikk:
Sorry I didn't take time to read the second page, but it's possible that someone has already said what I have to say, as some are on the first page.

First off, Being ready to settle down means both in pockets and mind. You're building your pockets, but is your mind ready? Do you have someone at the moment? If your friends are matchmaking you, it means you don't have anyone and that's not very good.

Waiting till you make heaven and earth might also not happen. Remember, your wife might be the key to your breakthrough, your star. So joining forces with her might give your the stability you need.

I also don't think anyone is ever 100% ready to settle down, it begins and ends with you, your choices and spouse. So first, start a meaningful relationship and then together, build your future.

Cutting off people has its good and bad sides. If they're genuinely concerned, then don't, otherwise, by all means do. Me, I resulted to telling my folks to send me a text and I'll call right back once I determine their purpose of communicating. I cannot come and kill myself.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck to you and may the new year smile at us all.

Compliments of the season.

I believe my mind is ready even though I have not been married before. I don't have anyone at the moment, I have been engrossed in my academic and professional pursuit and will be rounding up soon. I am presently looking around.

They are genuinely concerned but I feel like they are overly concerned when they should not. Someone asks if I have found someone to marry, I tell the person no. I speak with the same person two weeks later and the person asks again if I have found someone to marry. Even if I meet someone after our last discussion, two weeks is too short for me to conclude I will marry her.

Amen. I hope 2020 will be better for us all.
Thank you so much. Compliments of the season. All the best!

faithfull18:
Lol, you can't escape it as long as you are in this part of the world. It is what it is, worse for ladies.

I can only imagine what ladies go through.

culf:
starting early is good but if you're not ready for it then wait.

I'm in same age range and I'm married.


Bros, if you like to settle down, once you see a lady that understands you, go ahead.

Thanks bro. My initial plan was to get married in my early 30 but I had to go back to school and develop myself professionally.

Sure I will.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Everyone is in their time zone. Everyone running their own race. Settle down when you certain it will work.

Absolutely. Thanks.

olabrinks:
Yes you should have

Haha

olabrinks:
Young man? Mid thirties? You are approaching middle age you are no more young oh.

Yes, I know I am getting old. Should I have used "old man" rather than "young man"? Thanks.