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CotenantNIG:
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Godeppme:
Hello nairalanders,

I have a very big problem here.
I have been at home for close to 3 years now and i am loosing hope daily. I feel worthless. I graduated since 2012, then i traveled abroad and returned in 2015, then i did all my clearance and all and got my statement of result from uniben which read 2012.

However while registering at NYSC portal in 2017, i realized they made errors such as wrong names,wrong date of graduation. I graduated when i was 26 but nysc portal says i graduated in 2017,i have done everything possible,wrote student affairs,submitted copies of documents to back my claim,greased the palms of the stupid staffs at student affairs for my complaint to be posted to abuja,but even after that no difference.

I am really frustrated and i feel someone is after me why was it when it got to my turn,the idiot person feeding the computer at student affairs entered my details all wrong,right from my names to date of graduation.

Please who can help me out, i am eligible for service cos i graduated at 26,now till now they are telling me to take exemption letter with the error like that on the exemption.

I do not want it, it is not my portion..

i want to serve. please help me

OROSUNBOLB:
I sincerely don't know but you can make your enquiry online or visit any of their branches nearest to you.

Do have a nice day.

OROSUNBOLB:
Try Union Bank.

Judah95:
Access bank really sucks bro. I will initiate quick transfer of my cash balance to a more effective and customer-friendly bank. Maybe you could advise a better bank sef

Judah95:
A Nigerian bank(Access Bank) has refused to resolve my complaint for failed transaction even after debiting my bank account. I communicated the bank via their Twitter handle and they promised to refund my money within 72 hours.

Today makes it 1 week(168 hours) they haven't refunded my money even after several calls. This act by Access Bank has cost me a lot in my business.

I want to know if it's ideal to charge the bank to court or I report to CBN. Either way , I think Access Bank should pay heavily for this.

I need your advice.

SierraT:
Christianity and No, i am not open to people outside the US.

SierraT:
I'm a tall(175cm), dark skinned female, 27, smart, intelligent, good looking, buxom, no kids and my friends usually describe me as nice. I describe myself as open minded.
I'm looking for someone who legally resides in the US (Greencard or citizen, not trying to be offensive but i don't want to be a green card ticket and eventually end up divorced), intelligent and smart, within 29-39yrs, good career (I have a fairly good one and why i don't mind it, i understand most Nigerian/African men do), someone with a good heart (very important), preferably above 175cm tall and ready for a Serious Relationship, No Games!
I came here because i am trying to avoid games and people who arent sure what they want as far as relationship and being serious goes because I am not looking to play games and it will be really weird to ask every guy that asks me out what their intentions are right off the bat and i don't want to end up dating someone for a while then find out it's not on their agenda for the decade, i am thirsty for a family but i don't want to make a fool of myself so only serious minded folks please.
Send me a PM if i check your boxes and vice versa, and if we want same thing.

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

ModestGal:
See this Op o, let me ask you a question, did you tell any of these ladies you would triple date before they started the relationship with you? Now you Are you planning to crash their hopes after you have raised it that they have find husband?
Oga, God will judge you, and punish you as you wan break my heart like this.
People, I am the number 2 girl

azvm:
2014. i met a guy on Nairaland, i'll call him C. i'm not a new member, only using a new moniker. I was 27, him 29 (now we're 32, 35). i'm yoruba, him igbo. we met in Religion where we were encouraging one suicidal, depressed dude in a thread. he PMed me abt liking what i wrote then the friendship began. we had things in common, had interesting discussions, talked about ourselves and families, problems, etc. we agreed to be in a ldr, communicated mostly over email, whatsapp texts. we've done video calls too several times and till three years ago but i put a stop to them bc he was always asking me to show him parts of my body

2016. i was doing a school research project i needed a website for. C told me he knew someone in Nigeria to build it for me, said he would pay him the money, about $100. after the website was built , a week later he started hampering me to return the money, hurling insults at me, telling me i stole his money and he would tell everyone i took his money and ran. i told him i thought the money had been a gift. we were in a relationship, i didn't think i had to return it. after all the verbal abuse i sent him the money -actually sent him more than $100, then he was happy. it wasn't until i told him how bad his behavior was towards me that he apologized. after this, he wanted me to visit him in Nigeria (we had talked abt me visiting Nigeria since 2015) but i couldn't make it. he soon quit talking to me, disappeared. i didn't hear from him at all for three months, no calls, no nothing. i ended up meeting a man here, a Jamaican. i wasn't attracted to this man, we weren't in a relationship. i don't want to get into these details but i was sexually assaulted and lost my virginity, at 29. i reported to the police last year, it's still an ongoing police case. i somehow blame C. i've felt if he hadn't disappeared i wouldn't hv fallen into the hands of this rapist. C knew my goal was always to save myself for marriage like i had been doing.

rewind. some background. before i met C, i was in a relationship when i was 25, in 2012.
2012. i met a yoruba guy my Uni. he was an international student. we never had sex due to me wanting to wait for marriage. we kissed, hugged during our weekly outings. we saw each other once a week for movies, dinner, bowling. he ended up cheating. 7 months later, i broke up w him. this dude is history but is who i consider my ex if you ask who my ex is. i consider this relationship my first ever relationship, the only real-life relationship i've ever been in all my life, though a non-sexual one.

back to C.
2017. he did encourage me after i told him what had happened to me, provided moral support. but he then disappeared again. when he contacted me four months later, i was upset, we exchanged some words over email- mostly me calling him dishonest, unfaithful, untrustworthy, which were all true. he took things too far and was verbally abusive calling me horrible names and using the things i've told him about myself to insult me, like the sexual assault. he apologized later but i was quite hurt. we decided to start anew for a relationship mostly doing whatsapp texts and email as usual. he isn't a phone call person, he has the tendency to need his space for a week a two- i never complained.

2018. he disappeared again this time for 8 months, from april to november, no communication at all. i had told myself to forget about him. he suddenly called my phone one november afternoon 5 times. when we got to talking he confessed he was engaged to an igbo girl in Nigeria, was busy making preparations for the marriage but her family were making too many financial demands so he opted to call it off. i was shocked to hear he had been engaged. i told him he only contacted me again since the marriage plans didn't work out. he apologized, said it's me he wants to marry, i'm a simple girl, i'll give him peace of mind, blah blab blah. he wanted us to start where we left off. i told him i no longer trusted him but said we could try again, see where it goes

2019. we continue and things were fine till Valentine's Day. a week before V-day he said he loved me, promised to never leave me again. on Valentine's day i got no Valentine's message from him either or email or whatsapp, no call, nothing. meanwhile i would see him on whatsapp. fast forward to two weeks later i needed a logo for a blog of mine. i found a guy on nairaland for it. initially i wanted to send C the money to give to the guy but i decided to send him the money myself, i sent him the money then C started ignoring me. long story short the guy didn't send my logo after receiving the money. i told C, asked him to call the guy for me to release my logo, he refused. after this, i stopped communicating with C myself this time, he didn't contact me either, not till later last year

2020. fast forward to last month he told me abt his laptop which got damaged after a power outage. i started looking online to buy another laptop for him ( i didn't tell him ). my plan was to surprise him, send it to him for his birthday in October. we chatted on whatsapp the next day, i was doing my best to make him feel better, asked him what laptop he's using now, other questions to show him i care. all of a sudden he went of on me calling me deplorable n all sorts of names, saying stuff he knows will hurt me. i dunno maybe he was having a bad day or what. i told him i was planning to buy another laptop for him but he carried on insulting me. i blocked him. asides, his communication towards me recently has been sexual -he's always talkn abt wanting to make love to me, how attracted he is to me ( he has my pics ), how i'm his fantasy. he emailed me days later talkn abt me being the love of his life. he first refused apologizing for all his insults said over whatsapp, he said he doesn't need to apologize before i forgive. he finally said "i'm sorry ok" days later, i told him there's no more relationship. he says he doesn't want to let me go, i'm the only one who understands him. lately i've been thinking abt sponsoring him or going to nigeria to marry him. despite the fights he hs been my friend over the years. plus i'm thinking being in the same place may help us bond a lot better, start a family someday. my fears are he may not be a good father or husband, will be abusive, or i may find out he's got a wife in Nigeria. what do u guys think i should do?

*he's still on nairaland though not too active. he may or may not see this thread... it wouldn't matter either way.

BiafranDel:
Hello guys
Please I want to know if it is still possible to graduate with a first class after been in second class upper in 100 level.

100 level first semester, I had 4.04 GPA then in second semester instead of going up, I dropped to 3.53 GPA reason being that I faced some personal challenges, bringing my 100level Cgpa to 3.83

I'm just happy that I never had any carry over in my first and second semester 100level.

Is it still possible to graduate with a first class from 200level to final year, 400level.
This has been bothering me because I really need a first class to source for full scholarship to further my studies abroad.

Please I need your inputs on this. First class
graduates, did you start getting first class from 100level till final year?

miniziter:
People are commenting negative on your book and you didn't say anything which means you agreed with them.

hesilo:
Wow....one of the very best advice so far. Thank you.

hesilo:
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.

My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.

What do you think guys?

Should i quit my job or the marriage idea?

maxjax:
my 2cent advice....find your way to canada. IT job pays more over there and they are in high demand. after some months invite her over, Nurses are also in high demand in Canada

chatinent:
[color=maroon] Hi friends, I need your opinion on this. There's this (say) friend of mine who I misdeemed as friendly not knowing there was sth more to it.
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First of all, I'm single. Not like I'm searching but I really want to be single till I achieve some few things on my to-do. I have a good job too. Marriage is not sth one should jump into. I've turned some advances down majorly because I wasn't ready to settle down: I believe dating should solely be for marriage and not trivialized. (my religious belief I hold unto dearly).
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Back to my tale. She's this kind who complements me and sometimes chat, call and text-message and I return the favour by checking up on her sometimes too by also calling and sms-ing (I was always civil and careful with my words not to incite unusual feelings).
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Fast forward to last week, she called me and asked where this relationship was heading to. I paused for a moment and hung up. I was so mesmerized. Relationship? What relationship? We didn't have that kind of relationship, I thought. With the most pleasant words, I re-called her and explained things to her, acknowledging she was beautiful and never would I undergrad her but that I was just simply being nice and civil and appreciated it that way (but not for anything intimate or relationship). I didn't know those nice words of mine wouldn't work. This girl started pestering my life from that day. I've literally beseeched her I wasn't ready for a relationship but she wouldn't leave me be. She has tried many things; trying to seduce me the day she invited me with the guise of apologizing for her errs, threatening 'female names' (thinking they are my girlfriends) on my contact to leave me (however she got them!)..latest was she telling my friends I broke her heart. In fact, people she told may rightly think it's true because of how she incessantly tell them to talk to me.. I'd be like going to coma when they do! Not as though she isn't beautiful but I AREN'T READY TO DATE! Even if I were, it wouldn't be her! Worst is she is acting as a wife! Cooking and bringing for me and putting me in a position to reject or take it (with the pity 'accept it na' from my co-staffs around). I don't want to embarrass her there but I've explained it countless time to her I'm not interested. As in, what part of the sentence doesn't she understand! .
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Yeah, I know some people will think I aren't a 'guy man' bla bla to have not 'used her' up till now but f your feelings. This is my life. I don't have to be you.
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Note, I haven't had anything intimate with her. We haven't even discussed about anything intimate! She doesn't even know my apartment. You need to see me hiding when going home so she wouldn't even know there. Oh, I'm getting crazy. The only far I think we went was she asking about my marital status which I firmly said I was single and not searching. I even thought she understood. In all I thought she was joking and repeatedly told her to come off it, but she is damn serious about this shit.
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The bomb came yesterday when she told me she wouldn't let another girl snatch 'what she has worked for for years. That she will not let another girl marry her man, that it is her I must marry.'
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I nearly exploded. My head has overgrown its size.
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I don't chase after girls. I don't flirt. Please explain this life to me. Could this just be a joke because I'm beginning to go bananas.[/color]

ModestGal:
Yes, because you went to a private school. Children in private schools have a slower education

Interesting15:
Today, it is not uncommon to see women that are always complaining about how they keep meeting men who are only interested in their bodies. In fact, some women now thinks there are no responsible men out there that still have full control over themselves and don't fornicate or commit adultery (or other immoral acts)

If you are a single lady out there who has been dumped by several guys because of your no-sex-till-marriage stance, and you are now getting tired (or about to compromise), my message is meant to strengthen you not to settle for less, and not to allow any guy make you sin against God your Creator.

What God has instructed is that sexual pleasures should only be shared between a married man and his wife inside the safe circle of their marriage institution. So, if you have made a decision to honour Jesus with your life (and body) by adhering to His commandments, then you should not allow anyone make you feel sorry for your purity stance, and you should not allow anyone push you off the path of sexual purity.

Many ladies do ask, "why do I keep meeting men that want sex before marriage?".. The answer is simple: "You keep meeting men who are ungodly".

I can assure you that there are still lots of God-fearing men out there who themselves are honouring God with their bodies. When I say God-fearing men, I'm talking about men that have made Jesus Christ their Lord and Savior, and are serving God in spirit and in truth. These are the type of men you should associate with. Unlike the "bad boys" out there, a born again Christian won't regard you as a mere tool for bodily pleasure, but will even contribute to your growth in important areas. In fact, a sure way to enjoy your marriage is by marrying a genuine born again Christian, where the foundation of your home is built on Christ. Such a man, who himself is Christ's bride, will know how to please God by treating you as the queen you are meant to be

I see some ladies today living anyhow they want and will always say, 'I want a God-fearing man' (or will always complain that all the men coming to them are only irresponsible sex-chasers). Well, likes will always attract likes. A born again Christian will want to marry a child of God like himself, and won't go for a lady that lives anyhow (indulge in acts contrary to God's Will).

Therefore, to attract a God-fearing born again Christian, you must be a guniune child of God too (God won't give any of His true sons to just any kind of lady that will ruin his sonship). So, you must make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior and start living a life devoid of sin and iniquity. Focus on serving God in spirit and in truth, and He knows how He will connect you with a responsible God-fearing man that will ensure you have a joyful marriage

Please, don't compromise your purity stance. I know you are getting older and many of your mates are already married. But listen to me, God is about to do something great in your life if you will continue holding to His Word. You are facing those temptation because the devil already sensed your greatness, and he is doing all he could to hinder you from being the great woman God has destined you to be.

Men that are disturbing you for sex are majorly agents of satan that were sent to ruin your life. Please, don't allow them. If you are currently in a sinful relationship where you and the guy are already indulging in immoral activities, quit the relationship immediately, and ask God for forgiveness.

This is a generation where God is raising women (especially young women) that He will grant great authority and power to enact great influence in various spheres and sectors, with the aim of bringing Glory to His Name and establishing the Kingdom of God on earth. Don't allow any randy guy hinder you from becoming the Queen you are destined to be. Worship God in spirit and in truth through Jesus Christ our Lord.

ModestGal:
The most educated state in Nigeria

ModestGal:
I'm starting to think I might be special, not the type that would invent this and that or is something wrong with me? because I really do not know why I'm this way

LITTLE BACKGROUND INTO MY CHILDHOOD
I grew up intellectually very fast, more than my peers or anyone else I knew of my age.

In primary 1, I was the best, though I attended a public school, but, those in my class were quite older, I was 2years old and my classmates were mostly 5years old children.
My schooling was very fast, I graduated University at 19years old,
In my Primary school, I was a normal kid, played but I was quite thoughtful more than my peers and I understood my environment, that is one of the reasons why I could still remember everything at this age (I'm in my early 20s).

In my secondary school things started changing for me, I was finding it difficult to relate with friends, I was turning quiet. When I got to JSS2, my school was changed, and it was at this point I turned fully into an extremely quiet girl till I graduated.

Why I think I'm a rare gem is that I find myself to be extremely good in anything I lay my hands on, so far I have the interest on a task, I come out there extremely great. For instance, when I was learning sewing, I learnt very fast that I was teaching those I met there, and I find myself extremely perfect with metric sewing. I'm not currently practising that now because I wanted to buy 3 sewing machines of $655 each, and at this moment, i do not have such money. And I do feel very sad when I sew and I can't take all my imaginations into reality.

Along the line I started so many fun journeys, one is learning more about beautification, skin care, hair care, I learnt how to make hair products et cetera.
I understood very well, even though I learnt through DIY methods, and not like I went to learn professionally, but I did myself lots of favours by reading so many chemistry textbooks, and so many books I could lay my hands on, but also, I do not have money to establish (I would need a standard lab, Nafdac registration, etc), I can't be mixing rubbish and be selling to innocent Nigerians like some people are doing, endangering the health of beautiful Nigerians.
Although I still teach women all forms of ways to beautify themselves, what to buy and what not to purchase, I have a FB group and pages I do that, I have also successfully grown a waist length hair, yes its true, but I still had to neglect those skills as regards making income out of them.
In addition, I'm a good oratory, I started that in JSS1 when my English teacher would teach us Oral English and along the line, I picked interest, and I can say, I speak quite above average, eloquent, starndard British English, and my Yoruba is quite good as well, I often speak in parables, proverbs. I do voice overs.

After sometimes, I thoughy of what else to do that would be proffessional, that i would enjoy doing greatly and earning good income out of (as you can see I didn't establish in all the skills listed above due to no resources since my taste is quite high and professional), I looked else where.
I proceeded to learn digital marketing (Social Media), digital branding, and creation of animations and I can bet that I'm a top notch as well. Even though my background is quite different (in health line, where I'm currently heading my local government on the fight against Covid19, I have an initiative I lead that raises awareness on several community topics for the betterment of our society) I'm doing quite well in the TECH market.
I get so happy when client gives me good reviews without asking and when people come up to meet me and tell me how well I'm doing in content writing, and Branding without having spoken or worked for them before

Growing up, I had this problem of people viewing me as weird, after thinking about all these tonight, I started feeling ''What if Im a rare type of Genius'' ''What if im a rare gem'', I never thought of myself to be exceptional until this moment when I was evaluating my life and my skills
So please, I need you to evaluate me of what I truly am, am I a genius or an averagely brilliant lady or I'm just over thinking and over valuing these skills?

Note**please feel free to point out grammatical errors, vocabulary mistakes et cetera, I'm more than willing to learn from you

nnadychuks:
Ladies and Gents in the house; I’m fvcked! Computer science is a wonderful course home and abroad. The good thing is I’m good at logic and maths but computer science wasn’t the course I aspired for in my secondary school days. After trying for the second time I was admitted into Computer science department in FUTO. Ever since then, I feel frustrated. I’m currently on a 3.51CGPA but That’s because I’m a very hardworking student. I know about different branches of my course but the problem is I don’t know what I need to learn, I don’t love the course, I only believe I’m here for a purpose which I don’t know yet. I’ve researched online and I understand “Software development” is the most lucrative, but we know Our beloved country always has a different approach to everything.
Dear sir/ma,
If you have read to this point I believe you have an experience in this field. Please give some advise That will help me make the decision for my career.
Best regards,
Nnadychuks

Naomibelle:
I am so heartbroken at the moment. I have been dating this 40 something year old single man who has been pretending to be a responsible man ready to settle down only to find out he is a liar, deceiver and manipulator. Lying his way to get in between my pants. We embarked on a project and made an agreement. I was to be financially responsible for the first part of the project, while he handled the remaining part. I did my part and when it got to his, he reneged claiming he was not financially bouyant. After my investigation, I discovered this man has money stucked somewhere in another account. Seem he just wanted me to be fully responsible for the project. Always telling lies to make me believe him and claiming he wants to marry me before end of this year. This is someone who has never given me a dime claiming he has the bigger share of the project cost.

Anyways I just realise this man is a liar and deceiver and pretender and I am so hurt, pained and disappointed because this is someone I trusted so much. I have told him to go his yet he keeps coming to plead. Please how do I get over this heartbreak? And how do I permanently put him off as I am not ready for any makeup.

The mod should please take this to front page so I can get more response a

GodPunishBiafra:
Yes

GodPunishBiafra:
In Islam, any profit greater that 100% is a sin.

Middleborn:
OK, so I got a job employment from FIRS (federal inland revenue service). I was asked to come to Abuja Monday next week.
Today I also got a mail that I have been employed in the SDG's (sustainable development goals) team. I was asked to report to Abuja next week.

I'm so happy. But I realize I have to choose one of them, since they're both federal jobs. please I want those of you here who know about these jobs to tell me which of them is the surest, which of them will fetch me the bigger bucks. BTW, I'm a Bsc holder in Mathematics and Statistics. Please I need your inputs. Thank you.