At a time I didn’t have a Nigerian bank account, a very substantial amount of my Naira was in my girlfriend’s Naira bank account. We broke up, I stopped talking to her and I was willing to forfeit the money, lucky for me she sent it through a mutual acquaintance.

I learnt my lessons nonetheless, relationships no matter how good they are can be temporary. Stop making permanent decisions on hope. I won’t be making the same mistake ever again.

You prefer we do it like you? Accumulate body count and lie about it? When women start wanting men who can’t get other women, men will start boasting about their virginity.

Either of both consistently will put you out of control. The secret is to mix the pace up. Fast, slow, very fast, regular, very slow. If you feel it coming, stop and do other things, switch positions, kiss, finger, head, whatever gives you a break.

When she cums, you can then give up control and let go.

I don’t like errands. I don’t send people on errands, I don’t want anyone to send me on errands. My girlfriend could be coming out of the bedroom, while I’m walking in to go get something. She finds it surprising that I wouldn’t just ask her to get it. That’s not my style.

If I have to eat fish and plantain, I will make plans to go to the store to buy fish and plantain. If I’m hungry and she’s not cooking, I will go make us something, not ask her to go cook. I don’t inconvenience people, I don’t like to be inconvenienced.

I didn’t become an adult to be sent on errands or told to do chores against my will.

The circumstances that make people go/stay broke are usually not within their control. It’s tough to deal with the loss of wealth coupled with the betrayal of a partner arising from the loss of wealth. A more realistic advise is to expect the betrayal so it doesn’t take you by surprise.

Kissing is an habit that’s formed from repetition. If you kiss your partner every morning before you go to work and the evening when you return. It becomes a routine. It’s the same as saying I love you every time they or you are about to leave. Form the habit and it becomes automatic.

If you don’t kiss your partner it’s because you have formed the habit of not kissing them. Good thing is habits can be changed when there’s determination.

Will smith style - Keep my wife’s name out ya Fking mouth.

Sex with a minor is illegal in many states in Nigeria.

Look for;

1. Younger girls - under 24 years old. At this age marriage isn’t on most girls mind. They have like three to four years to waste away with you.

2. Non Nigerian women - The average SA or Kenya woman can date indefinitely if they like you.

3. Seperated, divorced - They aren’t in a hurry to commit again.

4. Single older women - above 37 years old. At this age most women tend to have given up on the dream of marriage and just take happiness in whatever form it comes.

5. Have money and date a regular girl. She can’t get another guy on your level and women find it difficult to go back in lifestyle, so she’s stuck like Chioma is to Davido.

6. Don’t date - keep it casual until you are ready to settle. That way you will be the one they cheat with when their bf isn’t ready to marry them.

The North will support Tinubu in 2027 because they want a seamless transition back to the north in 2031.
So whether Tinubu does well or not he’s going to do 8 years in power unless he dies. If Obi miraculously wins in 2027 will he agree to do just 4 years? Or will the North want a 12 years southern presidency?

Congratulatory messages and staying relevant in the media won’t change anything. You had your chances and blew it. Your first error was your unknown vp candidate.

In some ways you are correct. Except for prostitutes, there has to be some sort of attraction for a woman to sleep with a guy but there are women who sleep with guys knowing the guys wants nothing more than sex.
In that moment she’s having sex for the purpose of sex.

There are a lot of casual relationships these days. A woman may want more than just sex but if the man she likes is only interested in sex, she indulges him and enjoys the sex for the purpose of sex.

If feminists didn’t drag her she wouldn’t have received all that money. Men gave her money to encourage her submissiveness and to pepper feminists. So the feminists one way or the other uplifted the woman.

That’s commercial quantity, she had intent to sell or distribute and they can’t verify it was prepared in hygienic conditions or guarantee she’s not running an unregistered business. 1 cow, 2 rams that will last 10 years.

Someone who has left 2 marriages is not afraid of walking out. So if you want someone who will stick with you against all odds then it’s a red flag.

I will consider someone who has been left twice as a red flag. So find out from third parties what made their other marriages end.

2015 - 2017 were terrible years for oil producing countries. The biggest oil producing province in Canada, Alberta was in recession during that period. They had so much money prior that they proposed a $20 minimum wage by 2020 but it’s 2024 and they are still at $15. Minimum wage hasn’t gone up in 6 years.

2018 things began to get better with the oil prices. 2019 - 2020 Covid shut everything back down and that rang loudly over the world too.

2021 things began to get better then Russia - Ukraine went to war. The impact is still being felt on the world economy.

It’s convenient to blame APC and Buhari. That the man even kept the country together is praise worthy. Nigeria can not have a stable economy relying on unstable oil prices.

Do what he’s doing to you. Remind him every opportunity you get that you don’t want a relationship. Talk about other guys in his presence. For you to be hurt over his coldness means you like him more than you claim you do.

You are going to get hurt eventually if you continue this way. You are a passenger in your situationship, you need to be a co-driver. How would you feel if he tells you he’s moving on? Hurt? Jealous? Used?

You are better off being with multiple people instead of pretending you don’t like this guy, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.

These days it is women who take their husbands abroad. They are the ones who gets the job or admission then the husband tags along like a polythene bag.

She’s rendering a service. You are either interested or not. I respect that she’s willing to earn the pay. She’s not billing you, she’s not feeling entitled to your money because she had a conversation with you.

I only pity the brother who’s married to her. I hope he finds out soon before it’s too late.

What will telling you about it beforehand have added to you? That’s what he wants, it’s about him not you. If you had any questions as to his reasons then ask. A simple ‘’nawa o, I was at your place last week, you didn’t think I deserved to know’’ would not kill you.

Your reaction to what is supposed to be a good thing for him is the reason he didn’t tell you in the first place. If he told you when you were at his place, you would have been mad he didn’t tell you when he got his visa, if he told you then, you would be mad he didn’t tell you he was applying and if it did, you would get mad it wasn’t when he conceived the thought.

Not like you were going to give him anything, you will find a brothers nephew aunty who wants to send garri and ogbono to her son in a different province. His first point of duty on getting to Canada will be looking for a post office to distribute ogbono and stock fish to Saskatchewan.

It means don’t settle for less than you deserve. If you think you deserve better then you should demand better. As humans, we know what we deserve. We know how we deserve to be treated and we shouldn’t settle for anything below that.

Ambitious, strong and independent. They grew up seeing their mom’s strength and the need to not rely on anyone.

Why did it lead to physical altercation? He wanted to beat the lesbian out of her? Women are supposed to be the emotional ones and men the tactful ones. He knew what would happen if he reacted the way he did but still did anyway. She probably is the one with the visa while he’s the attaché.

First, a man doing menial jobs to sponsor his wife studying is dumb to me, it almost always end up the same way. She becomes better than you and merely tolerates you or leave.

The man should have delayed his reaction till he was in a better place regarding his immigration status. When you look at it properly, cheating with a woman doesn’t seem that terrible, nothing a good talk and a rearrangement can’t fix. He just has to join in 🤷🏼.

It’s funny how these UK stories usually come from a third party. Never the ones directly involved.

Successful women always justify their inability to make a relationship work with their success. There are some behaviours that won’t sit well with any man whether you are successful or not.

It’s also not like your success is beneficial to him. It’s common knowledge that a woman can have sufficient to feed a community but have problems with providing for her household because it’s not her ‘role’.

If the things you do to attain the success or what the success has turned you into is inconveniencing to the man and there’s no benefit derived from the success, that’s a lose-lose situation, why should he put up with you?

It’s very possible the guy was just being nice, enjoying the experience of being needed and being able to help. If he was doing it for the sex he would have ran out of patience. It’s not his fault you think sex is the only way to pay a guy for his kindness.

It is your duty to make your partner secure. If she doesn’t want you to go out, insist on her coming with you. When you receive calls from female clients put your phone on speaker and keep the call short and straight to business.

Give her access to your phone and the right to go through it whenever she wants. Let her be able to answer your calls if you aren’t willing or available to answer. She is suspecting you because you have given her a reason to and only you can give her a reason to trust you.

In my opinion, getting angry over a partner’s insecurity is usually proof of guilt. If you were innocent her insecurity will be cute to you.

We are all entitled one way or the other. We get so used to how things are we forget the sacrifices that goes into making them how they are.

A father pays his child college tuition abroad, the child knowing how much debt he would have raked up would be more appreciative than in naija where your parent paying your tuition is the norm.

Just last year you all were insulting Buhari for not doing anything for you. Despite paying 1/3 of the cost of fuel you buy and incurring debt to keep the exchange rate low so you can buy goods for cheap.

The cure for entitlement is to withdraw privileges. If you think your woman is entitled show her what life will be if you were not putting in the effort.

If Nigerians come for him, he can just say “of course I 4cked up, who neva 4ck up hands in the air”.

Guys like Chike can’t commit to one person because they have too many people at their beck and call. The several excuses they give are just rationalizations. When you have 30 ladies chasing you, giving up 29 to be with one looks like a punishment.

You could take 20 more years and still end with wrong one. The passage of time has no bearing to the rightness or wrongness of your partner. There’s no difference between this and saying I’m not getting married now because I’m broke, but you have a gf who doesn’t mind your brokenness. Just say marriage isn’t hungrying you, nobody will beat you.

When you get used to not using condoms, it’s almost impossible to enjoy using condoms. Besides women only worry about STDs when men cheat.

Yemi! My guy.

The reflex action of her legs closing whenever you try to insert your fingers is proof that her hymen may be intact. Fingering could be painful for most virgins.

I think your major problem is her behaviour of doing whatever she wants despite your objections. If she doesn’t mind losing you now, it’s going to be worse in marriage. The toasters are not going anywhere, the more unavailable a woman is the more toasters she will get, if she puts herself out there.

She’s told you expressly she doesn’t see chykers as a problem. If you see it as a disrespect that’s a compatibility issue. If you can’t be on the same page, you need to stop taking her seriously, just as she isn’t taking you seriously.

For cheating to happen, two things must happen. 1. Be in a committed relationship 2. Be sexually or emotionally involved with someone else.

People focus on stopping number 2 which is a lot harder than stopping number 1. Cheating will stop when human focus shifts from 2 to 1.

Cheating is for losers, it shouldn’t be justified or rationalized. It comes with deceit, lies, disappointment, hurting someone you claim to love. Just stay single.