₦airaland Forum

Traditionally, Osun state always vote for the same party at the gubernatorial and presidential elections.

Whether Adeleke supports Hashim or not, if he wins the gubernatorial election, Hashim will get a large chunk of Osun state votes. Maybe not enough to win but majority of the vote Atiku had in Osun in 2023 will go to Hashim.

Former lovers who keep communication alive are bound to rekindle old flame. It doesn’t matter how long they dated, whether they started in Primary one or they met last year.

In my opinion, the intensity of love is measured by memories created not time period.

Atiku doesn’t think he can win. He’s just very fond of running. He’s a professional runner and failure emeritus.

Tinubu will do what he wants to do. He’s not one for eye service. Despite the uproar about his running mate in 2023, he forged ahead. If he replaces Shettima nothing will still happen. Whoever he picks would have his own advantages as well.

Tinubu is running against the same people he beat in 2023 when the odds were against him, there’s no need to make changes to the winning formula when he’s now at a vantage position while they are weaker than in 2023.

What did the UN demand from you before they denied your affiliation to them? If the agency was real, would it not be easier and less scandalous to remove you and bring in someone ready to play ball?

We live in a country where someone sold an international airport to foreign investors, no scam is impossible here. However, this shows how weak our internal control is in our government institutions. Heads should roll for this anomaly.

Advantages of cohabitation

It’s cheaper - Double income, consolidated expenses. Helps both people save, it’s like having a roommate.

Partnership - live in friend, companionship, helper.

Show of commitment - someone agreeing to live together can show you are the only one or at least the main one in their life.

Disadvantages
It goes against religion and tradition, your parents won’t like it.

Break up can be just as hard as a divorce. Someone has to move out, you have to split shared properties etc.

A lot of women expect marriage within a short time of cohabiting, so if that isn’t your plan as a man, run.

In today’s world, it is courteous to text to check if you could call. It is also important to be wary of the person’s communication preferences.

It’s best practices to tell the person what you would do when you get their number e.g I will call you or I will text you, if they prefer text over call, they would let you know. A lot of people prefer texting initially until they get comfortable with you, calls put people on the spot. You can atleast pause to think when responding to a text.

If you walk up to someone and get their number, that is sufficient show of confidence, texting or calling afterwards does not change anything.

Rufai the twister. You won’t need to sell Akara if you had the aspirations and opportunity to be a First Lady. Madam Remi was referring to the poor and unemployed, a lot of Nigerians would go abroad and wouldn’t need advise to become a care worker or cleaner.

Even the bible says whatever your hand finds to do, do it well. There are Togolese in Nigeria who have bought properties back home from selling beans.

Your first fear of marrying a politician’s child should be your safety from criminals and the curses Nigerians lay on them.

flexyrule:
Nigerians are their criminal-mindedness.

What is "Salary - N250,000 to N400,000"?

It’s a salary range. what they pay you would depend on your experience/negotiation. A new graduate whose current salary is 80k would get the 250k while an experienced hire who’s currently earning 320k would get the 400k.

Your experience would determine if you start on the low band or high band. There are lots of organizations who pay people different amounts for same job.

Lanresnett:
After 5 years in d university, 1 year in law school, 1 year of nysc, plus 3 years experience for 200k salary.

This is what we call the citizen’s mentality. This mindset is common with citizens of countries like the UK, Canada, USA and SA. When an immigrant who’s willing to make even lower to get an experience takes the job, people like you start shouting ‘go beck to ya kountri, they are stealing our jabs’.

Would you want to work with a company who lay workers off after three years so they can hire fresh graduates and pay them less?

The HR saw your resume and still decided to call you for an interview, that’s because they want you to explain why you are looking for a fourth job in five years.

Saying you will leave if you get a better offer is one of the wrongest thing you can say to an interviewer, you could leave a job because you have a set of new skills that has outgrown the role, or the company is small and does not have a role you can be promoted to etc.

When a company hires, the hr goes through 100s of resumes, interviews 10s of people, they train you, you get familiar with their clients, you make mistakes that may sometimes cost money, your team starts getting used to you, then you quit in six months and they have to start this process over again.

Unless in a toxic workplace situation, you should be giving your job at least 2.5 - 3 years. I won’t hire anyone who’s seeking a 4th job in 4 years as well.

I like Funsho Doherty. I wish him well but 2027 permutations isn’t in his favour. PDP, ADC and NDC will share the opposition vote and APC will keep its vote. Femi Hamzat is very smart as well and has the backing of state.

The good thing is Funsho profile would be raised with this outing, he’s also a better candidate than Gbadebo.

Marriage is like a job, you hate it when you have it , you miss it when you lose it.

95% of divorcees want to remarry or at least have another long term relationship. 80% of divorcees wish they handled their marital issues differently.

Even children know what they want before they have the urge to have sex or position themselves in the female eyes. Our decisions are governed by our needs and the top of the hierarchy of needs according to Maslow is the need for self actualization.

The need for sex, intimacy, family comes a distant third. Sex often doesn’t come to mind when you are failing in life.

It’s likely he lived abroad for a long time where everyone is on a first name basis. The formality begin to sound awkward with time.

When I was in uni, a transfer professor from the US came to teach a semester and he wanted us to call him by name, it sounded somehow. Then I went abroad and realized it was normal. You will call your grandfather’s mate Dan.

Hayatudeen will step down for Atiku eventually. Besides all Obidients moved to NDC with Obi.

Amaechi is confident, nobody gave him a chance in the 2022 APC primaries as well, then he came second. His popularity will skyrocket If he’s able to pull this political upset by defeating Atiku.

The advantages he would have over the other man would be;

1. He’s also a Christian
2. He has something to show for his time in government as governor and minister.
3. He’s younger
4. He doesn’t jump around looking for where to contest without going through a primaries.
5. With Atiku’s support + the Buhari’s influence he would do decent in the core north.

Amaechi is likely to give Tinubu a run for his money in the 2027 election if he defeats Atiku at the primaries.

When a married woman starts liking another man, she starts disliking her husband, she blows the littlest things out of proportion. If she has an argument with him, if he talks - he’s verbally abusive, if he stays quiet - he’s immature to keep malice.

All these mind work is to convince herself that she was pushed into sleeping with the other guy. Her response to her cheating allegation achieves same aim. It makes her the victim.

Theres nothing like revenge cheating. Heck, we can say the husband cheated in advance in anticipation of her own cheating. Women hate been caught cheating especially if it becomes public, they would say anything to rationalize and justify it.

Remember when T-billz accused Tiwa of sleeping with Don Jazzy, Tuface and Dr Sid? She came out with her own counter accusations with tears, people quickly forgot about her husband’s claim. You stand a better chance accusing a woman of witchcraft and murder in public than accusing her of cheating/sleeping around. She will come for you hard.

Your first misconception is that the women supporting Chike are doing so because some feminist influencers are pushing them to it and the ‘herd mentality’ syndrome.

The same reason why men defend cheating men is the exact same reason women are hailing Chike and that reason is most men are cheats and most women will cheat with Chike. Plain and simple.

Most men also frown at Sandra’s cheating because every married man or every man who plans to eventually marry is a potential Frank. We are just living vicariously through these celebrities.

The difference between men and women is the male gender has accepted himself vis a vis the human nature of pleasure seeking, women continue to live in denial of it. They not only lie to the men, they lie to themselves first.

In my adult life, i have had nothing less than 30 talking stages. When the question have you ever cheated in a relationship comes up, i have never had one woman agree to ever cheating. Their response is always similar to yours, ‘when i fall out of love, i leave’. I’m sure Sandra has used this line severally in the past and would continue to use it if her cheating wasn’t exposed.

A couple of years ago when we would discuss how marriage was outdated and how women now cheat more than men, we would meet fierce resistance mostly from women but a few men joined in. They would insult your mother and every woman in your family and claim only women in your circle cheated.

Fast forward to today, there have been three high profile women cheating saga this year. Mayowa vs Roby, Ugo the tech guy vs wife, and most recently Frank vs wife. In these instances, the cheated has faced the most backlash from both men and women.

So this writeup is to show you how to be the winner in a cheating story. A case study of Chike.

Men like Chike are men who refuse to get married. The man who keeps himself free to be with whomever he chooses to be with. He doesn’t encumber himself with a woman’s needs, wants, feelings or emotions.

Men like Chike do not commit for long, they find a girl, give her the best three months of her life and find an excuse to leave. They leave at the honeymoon phase, before the bickering and fighting.

Men like Chike can always sleep with their exes - single or married. In the three months relationship they had, he showed up with a small gifts whenever they met (which was like six times in total). He’s the standard now. Their husband of ten years doesn’t show up with gifts everyday. So if opportunity arises they would run it back.

Men like Chike loves women already in a committed relationship. These women aren’t bothersome, they don’t ask questions like ‘where’s this relationship going’. They already have a man handling their emotional needs so they are in it for just the pleasure.

Men like Chike never get karma. They have so much experience sleeping with peoples own that they can write you a profile of a potential cheating wife from a deep slumber. So if/when they decide to get married, they know exactly what to look out for when choosing a wife.

Men like Chike gets the best of a woman. When they meet your wife, she’s all dressed and glammed up, she’s shaved, she has matching underwear, she’s on her best behaviour because they have few hours at best.

In comparison, your wife wakes up besides you with smelling mouth, she then heads to the toilet to do the stink, she’s on her period, she walks around with low cut hair and a natural face looking like your twin brother, just finding something random to be mad about.

The long and short of this post is, as a married man in this dispensation, you are being dealt the wrong hand. The men who always knew this were termed ‘banger boys’ now women are in agreement.

I leave you with the wise words of women on social media ‘Marriage may endure for a night but Chike comes in the morning’! Be a Chike today Fellas.

A lot of omen do not think of this when dealing with men. They say it to the children as it is, they may even add jara.

Their mom will say her truth, you need to say yours so they can be the judge when they are older. Their minds may become biased towards their mom because you didn’t say your own story.

A mother will say her story to her toddlers but a father will think his teenagers are too young to understand.

Kwankwaso has never considered Obi a peer talkless a superior. He considers the Tinubu’s and Atiku’s political equals. He was governor in 1999, minister in 2003. This was before Obi dreamt of joining politics.

Deputizing Obi is however a win-win strategy for him. He can demand the SE bloc vote in 2031. He can even ask Obi to deputize him in 2031.

In 2019 some young presidential candidates suggested they would merge and support the interest of one candidate. Once the candidate emerged in a primaries the others called foul and the unified opposition crashed.

In 2023, southern governors came together and decided the presidency must come south after the north’s 8 years. The governor who hosted them became the running mate to a Northerner.

All these agreements wouldn’t hold up when push comes to shove. Not every politician has the patience of Tinubu to see a merger through.

Can’t she have sex with him without asking for help?

Bants aside, it’s a dirty habit to demand sex to help someone. Those are two totally different conversations. Help if you can, don’t if you can’t.

However, since women now place a price on sex, there’s nothing wrong with a man doing same.

I think the INEC chairman should be replaced as well. Tinubu has worked to hard to allow his win be tainted by Amupitan.

There is nothing wrong with his tweet showing support for Asiwaju in 2023 as he wasn’t with INEC at the time. Afterall, any chairman they appoint would have voted a candidate in 2023 and would be partisan as well.

What is wrong was him trying to cover it up, turning the account to a parody account and denying it wasn’t him. That shows dishonesty.

When Tinubu wins in 2027, these losers will pray the court to annul the election because of these tweets and start shouting all eyes on the judiciary.

He will be arrested very soon. We’ve had people run their mouths like this in past because they felt untouchable. This is an open order to assassinate someone. The pastor in question should press charges as well.

However, it is not only women that settle. A woman’s settling may come earlier than the man’s but when a man is ready, his criteria for picking a wife also changes. His demands reduces, his level of tolerance increases. He would accept things he would have ghosted a girl for five years ago.

At the end of the day, we all settle and are settled for one way or another. If we all had the ability to pick anyone we want to be with, more than 99% of humans will not be with their partners.

All a man can do is to pick the best of the options available to him and hope for the best. Look at what you can benefit from the relationship and not only what you would sacrifice.

Regardless of whether you like the OP or not, he’s speaking the mind of a lot of men. For most guys looking to settle down, finding someone who genuinely likes you is a priority.

A lot of ladies want to be married by 26-28, The anxiety sets in when this age goes by and the goal isn’t achieved. Women past this age ‘talk to’ multiple people to see which one sticks around.

At this point, can he provide and is he ready to settle down are more important than love and feelings. Most women will tell you love grows, just marry and hustle for love later.

At this age range, most women can’t date you for long. They aren’t with you because they like your presence in their lives, they are with you for a purpose and when that purpose isn’t aligning, they walk.

Some of the arguments against 50/50 usually by women are usually centred around the following;

Will you carry the pregnancy for half term and go through labour? - God has seperated the duties of both genders in childbearing. If you are able to impregnate him, I’m sure carrying the child won’t be an issue.

God cursed men with labouring and women with childbirth - This was how it was for years till you decided you wanted to participate in tilling the ground as well. You fought hard to participate in the curse of man. Deal with it.

My advise to men who wants a woman to contribute to the home is to find an already independent woman. For someone who works and pays her own bills, contributing part of her money to her home is a relief not a burden.

Nobody says marriage should be 50/50. We are saying finances in marriage should be 50/50. One of the core characteristics of money is divisibility. One of the main reason the barter system was eradicated was because you couldn’t ensure fairness in the measurement of the consideration received and the one given up.

A lot of women act like 50/50 is asking them to give up 50% of their salaries. In most cases this arrangement benefit both parties as you will spend less than you would if you lived alone. Imagine a couple making 300k each, with household spending of 200k. Both contributing 100k each with 200k left for themselves seems fairer than one holding on to her 300k, while the other has only 100k left.

While the 50/50 is the most straight forward option, there are other options to treat the home finance. Like the couple contributing a percentage of their earnings (with this, the higher earner contributes more) or 100/100 where both party bring their salaries together and share it into two (This benefit the lower earner more).

The only time a partner should be exempted from contributing to the household is when they don’t earn or they earn considerably lower than the other partner. Even the government and churches collect tax and tithe based on income, not gender.

They chose ADC because of the similarities in name with APC. Of course their next step is APP or whatever shares at least two alphabets with the APC.