I have a 49 year old colleague who has 4 grandchildren. The first one is 12. She had her first at 19, her son had his first at 18. She was a granny at 37.

Where are those people who say SA girls only date Naija men for money? come and read what one of them is saying. This is a SA woman talking about approaching a Nigerian man without consideration of his financial capabilities.

You can continue being willfully ignorant or you can kiss the truth.

Faithfulness - Most relationships end because people have options or choices. They can or they think they can go be with someone else. If couples have only themselves, know it and show it, a lot more relationships will survive.

I mean physical and emotional faithfulness, not the “as long as I haven’t had sex with other people, then I’m faithful” faithfulness.

They need to drink more water

A submissive woman to me is one who understands and acknowledges hierarchy and structure. One who agrees with the concept of her husband being the head of the family.

It doesn’t mean she doesn’t have her ideas or she sheepishly follows her husband, it means whenever there is a conflict of ideas her husband has the final say even if she doesn’t entirely agrees with him.

A good example of submissiveness is the relationship between the Appeal court and the Supreme Court. You don’t see Appeal court judges pouting when the Supreme Court overturns their decision. That’s Acknowledgement of hierarchy.

No institution can survive without a clearly defined structure and hierarchy, if you don’t want to be a submissive woman, marry a submissive husband. Even in partnerships, there’s always a managing partner who’s the head.

He’s going to lose her anyways, he may as well do it on his terms. It may seem mean but it’s a good way to protect his dignity and self esteem.

Nobody who has tasted raw sex likes condom. Sometimes people use it out of necessity but it’s never the preferred option. People risk not using it once their sex partner looks healthy enough.

All he has to do is release a track explaining his own side of the event. He will bounce back. The church mind in Nigerians usually have us pitying people who seem down.

This case and many more just reveals that there is no difference between the average Nigerian and the SARS the protested against. Everybody became judge, jury and executioner in the court of public opinion over this case. SARs were Nigerians with guns, the average Nigerian is a SARs member without gun.

The cheating married women and the guys sleeping with them aren’t complaining. 🤷🏼

There’s nothing like a real man. A man is a man. A man who sleeps around can also pick the women he sleeps with. He doesn’t necessarily have to sleep with every woman who wants him.

Sex doesn’t come easy for men, the scarcity of sex is what makes it valuable to man. Like money, the ones who have it in excess are considered better off than the ones who doesn’t, due to its scarce nature.

Sex is ego gratifying for men. It goes beyond just humping. Every woman he gets to lay with is affirmation of his value. It’s a pointer to being better off than his peers.

I’m against cheating because I think it’s betraying the trust of the people who you should cherish the most. I’m all for getting all the sex you can get when you aren’t committed to anyone.

You hardly see a Yoruba woman who’s a feminist. One of the pillars of the culture is respect for elders, and since most women are married to men older than them the respect naturally follows.

So if a Yoruba woman is disrespectful to her husband it’s because she doesn’t want to be married to him, it’s never a case of wanting to be equals.

There’s nothing wrong with sex on the first date if the sexual chemistry is there. However, a woman who wants something long term can separate the wheat from the chaff by delaying gratification.

A guy who wants just sex won’t stick around with a lady who says she’s not interested in sex. A guy who wants something long term will.

If she’s comfortable discussing sex with you then it’s worth shooting your shot.

Interviews abroad does not test knowledge. They test speaking ability and your understanding of the language. If they invite you it’s because they know from your application how knowledgeable you are.

They are trying to see how you will communicate with customers, colleagues or your boss. Just smile and act like you are colleagues with your interviewer. Unless you lied about your knowledge, no question on the interview should be difficult.

You snooze, you lose.

Maths, Quantitative, intro tech, Taxation, Management accounting, Advanced Accounting, Equities & Derivatives, Applied economics and many others. Very hard lessons.

Poor people on average are more generous than rich people. The rich is obsessed about keeping and gathering, the poor thinks what he has is too little to gather so he spends it.

Even abroad, whenever there’s a natural disaster, you see celebrities who made hundred of millions in one tour posting links for McDonald’s workers to donate.

Nigeria is like the headquarters of Africa. If you ever worked for an organization with branches and a head office, you will know that females at the branches want to get with men from the head office while females at the head office despise men at the branches.

Don’t hate the player. Hate the game.

I will be holed up in a secure location with my family. There will be too many criminals out. You go to rob a bank, you meet other robbers there, they kill you so they can keep the money for themselves. You go to rape a girl, there’s a gay man waiting for you by the bush path. You go to kill your enemy, he knows you are coming because he plans to kill you too.

I will rather commit crime on a day when crime isn’t allowed.

This isn’t revenge cheating. Even if the OP never cheated she would still have cheated. Some of your wives are getting ready for the return of their abroad based lovers this Christmas. They have perfected plans on the when, how and where.

If a woman’s cheating catches you by surprise in this decade, you must be living in Pluto. If person knack your own, find another person own knack.

If I have an option to choose between two women of the same character, personality, looks and drive whose only distinguishing factor is stretch marks. I will go for the one without stretch marks.

However, it isn’t a deal breaker for me. If my ideal woman has it then it’s all good. I’m not attracted to it but I also do not hate it.

Did Wizkid tell you he expected celebrities there? Did he invite them and they refused to show up? You are used to clout chasing celebrities.

The more serious a relationship gets the more difficult it gets. There’s increased expectations which results in more arguments and fights.

There are friends with benefits who have been involved for more than two decades. Some got married and divorced but the casual relationship stood. Even when the benefits stops they can easily revert to being friends unlike people who chose to date/marry.

I know someone who was in the talking stage for 5 months but the official relationship crashed in 6 days.

Men say one thing on social media and then do different in the real world. Ask Pere what kind of woman he wants and hear him list classy, homely, decent bla bla.

Mercy is a hustler, she’s high maintenance and Pere is no match for her. Mercy will sleep with the married COO of a conglomerate to get a deal. She will get flown out by some baller for a weekend rendezvous. A woman who within weeks in the house got comfy with kidd waya, white money and then Pere is who a man with a functioning brain want to claim in public.

When it’s said and done he will get his little heart broken then come instruct us to fear women. I hope for his sake this is for Clout.

If the amount paid per month adds up to the amount per year then for most people it wouldn’t matter. Unless there’s a discount for paying annually. I pay my vehicle insurance annually, I save a little for paying yearly instead of monthly because there isn’t a monthly processing fee.

One could argue that paying monthly is better. Assuming your rent is 100k per month or 1.2m per year and you have your money in an interest generating account, your money can grow while you only take out monthly rent as against the lump sum.

Annual payments on the other hand gives you peace of mind. Just pay and forget for a whole year.

Minister Dave needs to exercise tact next time. You don’t lock people out for coming late like they are secondary school students. Who locks Dave out if he comes late? What if someone took permission from his boss to come in late the next day? What if I resume late and close late and my boss is aware?

It’s just Nigerians and bigi manliness. Lecturers, pastors and people in position do same to exert authority. Initiate a clock in system or swipe cards to monitor lateness. Give people queries and the fire repeated offenders. The next step will be to ask them to kneel, raise their hands and close their eyes?

A lot of women do same. They usually register anonymously, no real picture or name. They may even state they aren’t looking to date on their profile. Just like marriage, cheating is universal. It happens everywhere.

Why are you focused on her when the man was caught on the site? An eye for an eye can leave everyone blind but there’s satisfaction in blinding the person who blinded you. A little evil for evil can gratify the soul.

Funny guy. If several ladies are getting married then several men are getting married too na. Abi who the several ladies dey marry?

Your husband doesn’t think it’s worth it to spend $3k on a vacation and I share his sentiments. I will rather buy a wristwatch and a couple pairs of shoes than go on a vacation my self.

I’m more of a fan of staycations myself. Time off work, lazy around, eat good and sleep good. I’m not spending $4400 to go eat tacos and take pictures in Mexico for seven days.

Your insistence on donations is suspicious. Does his mom know you are soliciting donations on her behalf? If you feel like blessing his mom do so. If you visit her and think her living condition is bad and she requires assistance then post her account number here.

The mom may be living better than the people you are asking to donate. Your intentions may be noble but this is Nigeria.