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XhosaNostra:
Yes! That's true! It's a very scary experience. One I hope to never repeat unless it's for cosmetic reasons

Thanks girl. You've been under the knife too?

No, Mom but I went through the process with her.

lefulefu:
she will jus turn u to full time houseboy if u marry her.u will be washing her big big pants and her giant bras.anyway u don gain sha since she don open bet naija shop for u. its like she really despirate to pin u down.at 23 ur life is ahead of u so u go first ask urself weda u dat is 23 Yr old guy can really settle down wit a woman way way older than u.wey ur papa and mama sef? i wonder wetin dem go get to say abt dis.

Wonderful. if na woman Nl will burn.

XhosaNostra:
Thank God! Yeah, I'm sure it changes a person to a degree. When I had an operation to remove a ganglion on my foot, I had nightmares for a very long time. Not because of the operation itself, but the whole experience. I couldn't do anything. Had to sit in bed the whole day because I was told not to be up on my feet or it was going to delay the healing process . That was the worst part for me. Felt like I was gonna lose my mind. Then came the itchiness that I wasn't even allowed to scratch I was half-mad by the time I got my stitches removed.

Glad to know you survived it.

Scary part of this operation is not the operation itself but before and after effects. Before you are wheeled to theatre room, you will have your heart in your mouth and so many question rummaging your brain, will I make it alive? what if the doctors are not qualified? what if something goes wrong? so many question...

You are a strong woman

Adasun:
save ur pity and stop throwing this emotional tantrum,it woun't change anything.



Attack what i said,i dare u Ebere to bring forth point(s).

I refuse to engage you, you have nothing important to say expect women should be bundled and throw into fire.
I don't want to promote such on my thread. you can go to ubja thread, that's where your kind are found.

ednut1:
Op is CS not a private matter. Why should anyone aside from ur husband know u used CS or not. Those with those archaic stance let them be. Na u go die

Cs is not a private matter, you would need help from relations and friends from the very day you delivered.
A woman who operated on can't bathe (clean actually) herself, can't wash or cook. She would be immobile, that's why friend/relations are necessary

So, keeping it private is almost impossible, even if it get to to public it shouldn't be seen as abnormality.

Those with archaic stances should be enlightened

princfred:
See mumu sense. I pity the lady that will marry this achaic unconscionable thinking she has married a human being. if they give this one chance he wont even take his wife to hospital for delivery. Afterall she is genetically...bla bla bla and posseses all the required hu hu hu

ignore him, he has behavioural and mental disorder.

Adasun:
you are not making sense

you are shameless

eyinjuege:
Ignorance rules

Such ignorance need to be addressed to save lives.

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Adasun:
women were genetically modify for this,they where mearnt for this.



They have all the necessary organs required to aid her delivery.



Any woman that choose her belly being slice to bring forth a baby is not worth to be called a woman

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you are a potential disaster to womanity and need to be abolished!!! I Pity who end up with you

kazyhm:
I don't understand the use of word GIVE ?

You're trying so hard to make a 5/4 years training/investment look like a boxers gift

Does training someone in school amount to a an ordinary gift like a car ?



When you TRAIN someone is giving yourself away...........stop talking like a demented fellow

You are a slowpoke, if you find it difficult to follow up serial arguments and fail to understand my point of view.

Am of the opinion, give what you can afford to lose even when you are promised the world. If  not, you  keep facing this kind of problem. You will be promised heaven and earth just to render financial assistance and people will keep using you because your password to help is PROMISE. Promise is very  easy to make but hard to keep. Promise can be made under duress

If the guy in question had followed this rule he won't find himself in this position.

You are giving/helping not investing. You can train your child/relation without promise because you are under obligation to do so.

Sharpen your comprehension skill. We all can't have same opinion
If we all condemned the act without analyzing or  proffering solution, what impact have we made?

AirFireEarthH20:
The thing weak me... Maybe I will have to see her tomorrow so we could talk

She is embrassed. There is nothing wrong with garlic in vagina, it maintains the ph level of vagina. Even If it's to cure infection, she will be uncomfortable discussing with you. Most men at the mention of infection, flare up.
Stop talking about it, she forgot to remove it.
Stop tormenting that Girl. Afterall, she did it to keep vagina safe.

Women are trying abeg.

Adasun:
apart frm da condition i gave,any other reason is trash.


Labour is da joy of motherhood,it bond da mother to da child.

Na so. Be a woman first, then we talk about "joy of motherhood"
You can equally say "dying is strength of motherhood" Woman will die because she wants give you a child. If she can't endure labour, she goes for option that suit her best. You can't be a man and be a woman same time

Adasun:
Women should always give birth naturally... Except in da case of health challenge.

most women want to give birth naturally, those that opt for elective CS willingly are few , not a handful.

Whatever method used to bring forth a child shouldn't be frown upon as far mother and child are healthy. That's the point.

Biglittlelois:
Facebook, especially some groups is where you meet illiterates and highly ignorant set of people who feel so proud of their silly comments thinking they've said the most important and valuable thing, what am I saying, they're plenty on here too so why am I not surprised.

My dear social media exposes our level of mentality. Some are proud to be dumb on social media in the name of am "entitled to my opinion ". Funny side of it is that they don't want to learn and don't care to.

exposing this mentality to next generation is fatality, that my concern

Not true am not busty and harsh. also not careless.

jakandeola:
am rich got property got a good family. and a girl to love me. am happy and have peace by God grace. wat do u have if not pains?

No, peace

jakandeola:
did my blog anyway.I dont need to fight anybody but I wish u use ur Brian to understand d issue before coming out to bark as a dog. I wish u the best

I wish you the best too dear as long you solve your anger issues and have internal peace at last.

Toks2008:
[s]a onye nwere a ziri ezi iko abụghị otu dị ka a onye na-ehi ụra banyere[/s]

Pls stick to Yoruba, your language. You just give me headache

jakandeola:
u are getting me angry

Then get your head knocked on a wall nearby. It solves anger issues

MariaLavina:
Why did your relationships end? You seem like every man's dream.

Maria, you dey find trouble.

Truth be told there is no statue quo to gett things right. Don't be surprised those girls who are looking for big car and always begging for money are getting married happily òr in happy relationships

You are a wife material online, what happens offline? Are they men no offline?
Interestingly, she may not lower her standard for some kind of men to approach her..
Living is Gambling

Toks2008:
A n wi iru o n wi ru...

Nke ahu gbasaru gi ebe ahu

Nobodys:
. Ignorance is disease.

Forget about them, dear. don't even worry about them..

I have a neighbour with this same mindset, her daughter died trying to push a big baby... I asked, why didn't they option for CS? didn't they check her pelvic?... So sad, They were actually warned by the doctor, but with the mindset that CS is a bad thing, they pushed the girl into labour room...[ you will deliver like the Hebrew women, we are praying for you].. Things were getting out of place, she was bleeding too much and it was too late, she died....... poor girl......

Even after this, one of my neighbors still said "I would never allow my wife to give birth through CS, after all nor be CS my mama take born me"... I just ignored him. no need wasting energy on dumb people...

Ignorance is a disease....

That Hebrew women theory confuses alot of people. Did Bible specify the form of delivery Hebrew women used?
What Bible means in that context is that baby and mother came out alive and healthy.

Women embrace every option to stay alive! Don't leave your baby in this cold world due to stubbornness

lilmax:
you have your opinion
they have their opinions

with all the nonsense opinions flying around nairaland, you have to deal with it

That opinion is sick and distasteful. It should be frown upon and discouraged.

faithfull18:
Na wa o, they would have preferred they lost their lives or that of their babies right? God grant them understanding.

Come to think of it, unless you are told, there's no way to know who was birthed through normal delivery or CS.

The end goal should be to give birth to healthy babies with both mother, child alive and healthy be it normal delivery or cs.

May God grant them the understanding, #Amen.

Yesterday was battle between virginal birth and CS birth. No woman want to feel lesser in any circumstances...

The bolded is fact.

I never knew stigmatization against women who delivered through CS is still in existence.
What I read on Facebook yesterday broke my heart.

So much energy against CS out of pure ignorance and mockery. I can forgive ignorant one but mockery I can't! I have a sweet cousin born through it, each time i read those silly commenst, that boy flashes in mind and I can't stand the stigmatization!
Now, Imagine what women that gave birth through CS went yesterday?
One of the women was ignorant, she is from east Africa.
According to her, CS is a sign of curse. A curse! Something needs to be done in that part of Africa.


Of course I lashed out at those women who feel that given birth through vagina is a sign of bravery and birth through CS is that of weakness.
Its a crime a to switch to available options to save your baby life and yours ?

Cesarean section (delivery)means Delivery through operation(surgical incision)
Names were censored because of our "tennagers"

Subconsciously, we (both gender) are selfish in nature. We tend to go for what benefits us most, no matter how much we deny it.

Have met men who said they can't marry a non- graduate and can't train one. Even if the girl comes with potential to keep a home. So what they do want? A finished product- a graduate. This is not different from a girl who wants to marry a man with riches. They are under same category. These decisions are made after life experiences. I have come to understand and respect it.
A plain girl on street with potentials to be helpmate and a flashy girls on street without, who gains more attention?

Why the plain is still seen as a liability even when she didn't pose as one. But the flashy one (even if what she wears is borrowed) is seen as a finished product and with potential..

The list goes on and on.

You may be in a better position, before you judge and condemn, walk in peoples shoes you will have a better grasp of what life entails.

samchuks2018:
I don't believe in giving without expectations it does not exist in this world even when we give to beggars we expect that one day God will bless us. Girls should not make promises they can't keep in order to get favour.

Because training somebody in school involves a lot of sacrifice and when someone sacrifices he/she must expect something in return. That is the law of nature.

Give what you can afford to lose. Don't be expected of anything. Promise and expectations can be unfulfilled.
If you can't afford to train a child and forfeit it. Don't do it! and no one would question you.

They may give you those promise under duress and at last break it.

And if God didn't bless you for giving a beggar some token, you go and fight him.

Toks2008:
Can you for a minute close your eyes and imagine yourself in any of the situation I listed in my write up? DON'T GIVE ME THAT FOOLISH TALK THAT IT CAN NEVER HAPPEN TO YOU...

Continue to rant if that will make you sleep well at night. You are obviously naive.

I have closed my eyes and imagine myself in that situation and comes up a solution.

Hunt for my alternatives. whatever theory you come up with that isnt balanced on any angle is rubbish. What are the feeling of wives whose husbands sleep outside? Very happy and supportive I guess.
And pls stop shoving the your misogynist theory of men are polygamous in nature with your bible backup down my throat.

When Bible command men to love their wives just as Christ loved the church, he didn't include emotional blackmail but support.

Christ loves the church with everything in his strength, Christ gave church everything withholding any thing. He is faithful to the church.

Stop twisting the bible for your gains.