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KOPT33:
You fail to understand the viewpoint of the men. It is not enough to castigate a situation, you can sit still for a second and try to put yourself in another's shoes.

Men do not like this type of sneaky behavior, period. When you hurt a man's ego in whatever way, no matter how insignificant they appear to you, he will fight back. If said man is the passive aggressive type, he will make a mountain out of a molehill in order to assuage his ego.

I am a man and I can understand why the man would take offence. It's a primal response hardwired into the psyche of every man. Don't fight it, learn to manage it.

LadySarah:
She knows her husband .she is also trying to secure their future,their children's.
I know someone whose husband was like this and she had to take a bold step like this.When she revealed what she achieved ,her husband broke down in tears.

He doesn't joke with her now and also doesn't fail to tell ppl what the wife did.He has put her in charge of finances and has curbed his excess spending habit.

I'm trying to understand why the man wants to divorce her,even when his name is on the property.

You marry someone who strengthen s ur weakness not ignore it.That's why you are a team.Gosh!

I'm married and my dh says it's no big deal

LadySarah:
She knows her husband .she is also trying to secure their future,their children's.
I know someone whose husband was like this and she had to take a bold step like this.When she revealed what she achieved ,her husband broke down in tears.

He doesn't joke with her now and also doesn't fail to tell ppl what the wife did.He has put her in charge of finances and has curbed his excess spending habit.

I'm trying to understand why the man wants to divorce her,even when his name is on the property.

You marry someone who strengthen s ur weakness not ignore it.That's why you are a team.Gosh!

I'm married and my dh says it's no big deal

KOPT33:
I am even afraid of the woman as I type this.

In the earliest stages, it made sense not to inform the man, but I feel at some point, the woman should have informed her.

I will not sleep in the same room or talk to a woman who pulls this kind of act behind my back. It is wicked, demeaning and terrifying.

ZIMDRILL:
are you saying its ok for a man to do it

but wrong if a woman does it ?

its most men who surprise wives with new houses a project done in secret from start to finish and that ok

if the woman does the same to surprise hubby, you know see her as enemy please swallow your ego and praise

ZIMDRILL:
i see stupid responses from my fellow man

1 the wife eventually knew that husband is not good at money so she tookover being the financial mananger in house and managed to built a house

2 as individual we are gifted in different ways, the wife is gifted wise with little you have and do something great, being a man doesnt mean you have gifts in all, lets honour good wives that steer a family in a good direction, having your own home is what every man & woman wish for on this earth whether it was the wife or hubby bought/built behind the back doesnt matter as long get informed on presentation day to say hthis is OURS

3 the wife is not claiming the house to be hers but THIER house, hubby should swallow his stupid ego that produced no house for the family and praise wife of being wiser person on this house issue

4 if it was me i would put all shit together to be a better financial manager and buy the wife a great gift eg a car or fly her to good holiday she never thought she would go

4 lets praise were credit is due like they do us when we presents houses, cars gifts etc

ZIMDRILL:
i see stupid responses from my fellow man

1 the wife eventually knew that husband is not good at money so she tookover being the financial mananger in house and managed to built a house

2 as individual we are gifted in different ways, the wife is gifted wise with little you have and do something great, being a man doesnt mean you have gifts in all, lets honour good wives that steer a family in a good direction, having your own home is what every man & woman wish for on this earth whether it was the wife or hubby bought/built behind the back doesnt matter as long get informed on presentation day to say hthis is OURS

3 the wife is not claiming the house to be hers but THIER house, hubby should swallow his stupid ego that produced no house for the family and praise wife of being wiser person on this house issue

4 if it was me i would put all shit together to be a better financial manager and buy the wife a great gift eg a car or fly her to good holiday she never thought she would go

4 lets praise were credit is due like they do us when we presents houses, cars gifts etc

iLegendd:
The person at the back is my dad's younger brother (uncle) — their last child. Though, he's married, else, I would've introduced you to him. The location is my grandpa's house in the village. I went for my aunt's traditional marriage and we were expected to wear native. I hate native and I hate suit. I prefer T-shirt, blazers, or g-string. Unfortunately, I had to wear what I hate just to please the people at home.

Now, I have told you about my family, it's your turn.

iLegendd:
Chaii! This girl go tear my brain with grammar o! She don use another one again called "caress." The only thing our teacher taught us in school about the word "caress," is when a man slowly rubs his cold hands on a woman's beasts at night. If there is another meaning for caress, please, teach us.

iLegendd:
See, Eberechi, in my village, we don't use vocabulary. What do you mean by sensational? Is it when a guy is touching your nípples and you begin to feel some sweet sensations? That is the only type of sensation I know. I wish I went to school to know more.

SafetyFirst:
e meaniri ihe a?

mhd5757:
Poverty, boredom. Especially boredom, I would rather die than live a boring life so I do what ever I can to avoid it.

nowpresence:
fear of not enjoying my life the way I want it, like traveling and adventures. Fear of not achieving my goals because of fear.

aragon4realz:
funny statement though...but I don't think that's her reason, I believe it's love-it's all about sacrifices

dahmie2013:
Fear? I don't have fears, cos I live life as it comes. All I do is thank God 4 His mercies, grace & faithfulness. Ambitious ppl have fears, but ppl like me, hey, we just live 2 glorify God.
Life's 2 short & my only ambitn is 2 go 2 heaven.

Winter4:
My fears...

Falling to grass again
Bad marriage
Failing my children
Failing as a first child

The pressure is real...but I choose to believe!