Samuel1402:
Pls pardon me if the headline didn't go well with the message, I'm emotional imbalance. This post is not to seek for advice on divorce, but really want those who av gone through this to share their experience, to keep me up going after the divorce. I really love my wife and I belief she love me too. Short story about our relationship. We av being together for over fifteen years now but we got married eight years ago immediately after her NYSC and she moved in with me in Lagos. That was the first time she will come to live in Lagos permanent, cos before that time she only come to Lagos maybe once in four years. when she came to Lagos she told me she doesn't want to work under anybody and I agreed I asked her to think of what she want to do and she said she want to learn more on hair dressing and open a salon. Six month later I got a shop for her and bought some things she needed in the shop. everything was going fine but after six months the whole things change everything about her is on her business, no time for anything at home she go to shop from Monday to Sunday, and to make the matter worse she will leave for shop in the morning and not come back until minimum of 10pm everyday including public holidays xmas , new year, everyday! I got tired I fought her, I reported her to her parents, her brother her sister I av done every things I can do to make her understand that I'm not comfortable with her attitude but instead of her to change, the whole things is getting worse. As at present I cook myself I clean the house, last year I change our resident to a more far area and told her to look for shop in that area that I will pay and equipped the shop, but she refused I called her late last year and told her to change or I filled for divorce, she begged and promised to change, she even told me that she just want to do the end of the year business there and by January she will move her business, since then every things has gone from bad to worse last month I called her and told her I av no option than to go for a divorce, she also begged and cry but nothing has changed I've concluded to go for divorce, but the issue is how I will cope, how I can move on fast after the divorce, NOTE Despite how she work no single financial assistant from her in any form, even when I'm broke no help from her. I pay every bills from the smallest to the biggest expenses in the house, pls reasonable advice needed especially if u have gone through this before thanks.

ahnie:
Who does that in this century?
See I don't trust anybody with my kids.. not even my shadow that walks with me every moment of my life!



God bless you. Try talk to that Lilian make she treat her own children with love







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Oga talk your wife ....even if you have to use loud speaker to drum it into her ears!

buknija:


You jyst chatted the greatest shit of your lifetime, why are sexist so extremely insensitive like this? My daughter did the right thing by reporting that they were left with a stranger, if the kids were kidnapped, would this ur stupid statement you made come off ur head? Hell no. I work my ass out to make sure everything is fine, i take care of the kids too, we have an housemaid, she rarely does much for the kids, so hush up if you dont know more about whats going on around here. Says am nagging over insecurity of my children, i doubt ur married, even if u are, u must be barren.

ahnie:
Who does that in this century?
See I don't trust anybody with my kids.. not even my shadow that walks with me every moment of my life!



And if she doesn't, would you suggest he becomes physical?







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Oga talk your wife ....even if you have to use loud speaker to drum it into her ears!

Cityqueengirl:
I never knew I would have to post anything personal on nairaland but I deeply feel like sharing this.
I am a graduate in my late 20s. And I got employed in 2017. In 2018 I told my dad my intention to move out and be staying alone so that I would be a bit free. This is because all through my undergraduate years, I went to school from home and couldn't really have male friends around.

My mum was totally against it, but dad was indifferent . Her opinion was that men would play me and not get serious with me.

In July 2018, I moved to my own apartment. Now the problems is, men I meet are either after something else or just want to be eating my food or collecting money from me. The ones that are a sane: have trust issues.

I don't know if men think when a lady is living alone she's not to be trusted or she's a cheat.

In November 2019, late last year, I started dating this guy. And everything seems normal, till he starts snooping around my phone. Atimes he will visit my place without calling, but I will wave it off. I think of it as him just trying to surprise me.

But on the 15th of January this year, he wrote me a very long message on whatsapp telling me how I have been disloyal and dishonest deleting text messages. What sort of nonsense is that? Is it possible for him to see a deleted text message?
I was never even receiving text messages from admirers except on my birthday. Which he didn't even give me anything. I was even the one who transferred money to him to take us out because he had not been paid and was short on cash. He said he couldn't go out since he was short on cash that we should stay at home, but I said it was my birthday and really felt like eating out.
I feel there is nothing bad in helping him out when he is in need and this is how he is paying me back; accusing me falsely, painting me bad when I have not done anything wrong.

He went and hacked my Facebook and was sending me chat history of 2016 and 2017 that had no business with his life. Digging my privacy and lunching accusations as if I had met him in 2017 and 2018.

All my life I had only get to keep a single man at a time unlike most of other ladies around me. I am starting to believe the adage "don't keep all your eggs in one basket". I am thinking putting all my thoughts and hope in a single man while trying to settle down is a mistake.

Collette9:
Do you have junior sister for me? I’m single too but I’m 29

dochenaj:

Without any iota of doubt. This is the most sensible post I have ever read on nairaland.
Did you write this?

Fortissimo502:
None of these issues would be controversial if we actually read and understand the bible.

A305:
What you call lust is the brain primal instinct for reproduction. Without that "Intinct" in effect, man would have forgone the desire to procreate hence gone extinct.

If you see hen chase and mount on a chicken, Is he been lustful or helping the biological continuation of said specie?

Men is polygamous in nature for a biological purpose; This is why your pastor even chase after the most prettiest girls in the congregation even if women are married.