₦airaland Forum

Gaggi:
There is a thin line between being an alpha male and an idiiot. Most boys here are beginning to move towards borderline idiocy. Those women are good looking, they only have skin imperfections. There is something known as a bad day, even to the most good looking man or woman. Nobody is born flawless, Makeup are supposed to be used as enhancement, same thing with having a haircut, using moisturizers etc. Only a slowpoke will be disappointed that a female doesn't look as good without makeup.
Alpha males are kind, warm but firm not stupiid, petty and senseless. I hope these boys here who always talk trash women will grow up and know the difference. While we will not allow women use us, we also owe it to them to respect and treat them right.

BROS, PLS CALM DOWN... IT IS A BIT OBVIOUS YOU HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST THE SO CALLED "NAIRALAND ALPHA MALES."

I WOULD LIKE YOU TO HAVE A CRITICAL LOOK AT THOSE PICTURES, THE GIRLS WITH SKIN PROBLEM. LOOK AT THE BEFORE AND AFTER MAKE-UP PICS, YOU CAN CLEARLY SEE HOW THE MAKE-UP MADE THEM LOOK AND FEEL MORE CONFIDENT. YOU COULD TELL THEY HATED THE WAY THEY LOOK WITHOUT THE MAKE-UP.

I CAN EASILY SENSE WHEN A GIRL IS INSECURE ABOUT HER LOOKS, AND IT COMPLETELY TURNS ME OFF..... WITH OR WITHOUT MAKE-UP, LOVE YOURSELF

Blu03:
The first time i created an account here was because i wanted to get over my first boyfriend who had cheated on me...
We dated for about 2months. Before then, we were just classmates.
The relationship wasn't 'bad'. We only kissed once and that was my first time...
He started dating another girl. I found out from a mutual friend who wanted to date me. His intention was to destroy my relationship.
It backfired. I forgave my bf for cheating and we tried to make it work. But the guy wouldn't let go of the other girl.
That was my fault. I had told him to take it easy on her since she didn't know about us. I even became her friend after the whole wahala... I got tired of his attitude and called it off. And i moved on...
The problem now is that he hasn't. We dated for just two months and he's been disturbing me for a year now to start over again.
I'm not interested anymore but i find the whole thing to be weird...

From your story, one can easily deduce that you are still a teenager and still in secondary school (assuming the story is real). I'll try my best not to act like a Nigerian parent.

What you need my dear, is a little more self-love, self-respect and confidence. Never settle for less, never share your man, and always value you first. Make sure you always look your best at all times. Always work hard to be on top whether it be academics or not....learn to stand out, be different, be uniquely special (dont follow the crowd).

These are the traits will get you anything you want

DKM123:
I don't blame this girls. We see our men even following old grandmas and marrying them just to go to the abroad. They thought they were in love and were going to have a better life abroad and there is nothing wrong with that. It is the devilish men who maltreated them that should rot in hell.

The men know why they are there, to hustle not to fall in love and sit at home all day with no plan

Jceeee:
Hello everybody , I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short. I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job , my parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed , I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her , I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well , I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people , finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too. Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen , I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you , please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do

It is better your husband hears the truth from you than from someone else.

The truth sets us free

Burstingbrain:
Hey famz…this is a quick question for us all… Let’s have some fun together… If a man Propose to his girlfriend and she said no, is the relationship over

overtime, we’ve seen many cases where ladies had turn down guys’ proposals…..infact Many doesn’t even have a genuine reason for this, while just very few has… Whichever way, that’s not even the subject of discourse here….

The point is that, this days ladies don’t see it as any big deal to decline marriage proposals, irrespective of the years they’ve been with the guy…

So, directing this to you… as a guy, despite ladies declining proposals here and there, you still summoned courage and proposed to that girl you are dating

But unfortunately for you, she declined your proposal….what would be your next step?? Like what action would you take?? Will u still continue to date her?? Or is the relationship over just like that

And as for ladies too, after declining a guy’s proposal, will you count the relationship as being over can you still continue dating the guy??

Drop all comments on the blog….we would like to know your thoughts about this….tnks


https://burstingbrainmedia.com.ng/if-a-man-propose-to-his-girlfriend-and-she-said-no-is-the-relationship-over/

The purpose of the relationship has been defeated.

Her No is her way of saying she doesn't want the guy for marriage. It might be that she has other reasons but if he couldn't pick up those vibes after dating her for so long, then they ain't right for each other.

xcabczyxabczzzz:
Is nairaland an extension of Twitter? If I need the information on twitter I know where to get, stop chasing me with nonsense.

Help me tell those bloggers o....

It's like they are on a mission to share every vomit on nairaland

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iClef:
Simp? The question should be, "How can I get a hold of the amazing books you wrote under the pen name Joé Clef to stop being a simp or wasting MB watching free alpha male tutorials by betamale white men on YouTube when there is a pro-male, AMOG, books by you?"

See some below and you can grab the ones you can afford. And link to download the free version of ChatDîcted and Lasticle. https://shop.wetclef.com/download-chatdìcted/


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Not every smart IT inclined man knows how to stop Google. Though, the blackhat guys do. Most IT gurus are whitehat and use Window or Mac while the bad guys mostly use Linux, Ubuntu, etc.

I ain't that dude and i dont write books... I coach people into becoming the best version of themselves.


Majority of the people reading our conversation use windows and have a google account, they dont have to switch over to linux.

One doesn't need to be too smart to stop google from tracking your activities. You should ask me how

iClef:
I guess you're too young to know more than you do. You'll get there one day. It's not a trick. Every smart IT inclined man knows about what I said.

You're at the stage of learning Redpill, so focus on it more and don't be distracted for now — it's a good skill to have. One love.

I hope our conversation on the other thread won't turn to stalking. I hate being stalked.

hahahahahahahahhahaha.... i nor even know say na u self. This just begs the question... am i already in ya thoughts?.... bro, that shit's weird. I know the pill works on girls and simps. Hope u aint a simp?

Anyway, Every smart IT inclined man knows that there are ways to prevent google from keeping a track record of ya activities

iClef:
I'm the worst person that will ever take your phone to investigate you. Even things you've deleted for long and all the apps you've been opening on your phone, I'll find them.

When next you want to investigate, go to her browser and type https://myactivity.google.com/myactivity

If she is logged into her Google account on her Playstore or anywhere, you'll see the history of all the things she has ever searched or done in there with the date and time she did it.

If you want to catch all the things your woman search, make sure she has a Google account or create one for her and make sure you use it to login her Playstore account, then syn it to your computer.

Whenever you're bored and you want to see what she has been searching on her phone, open your laptop or her phone and on your Chrome broweser, type https://myactivity.google.com/myactivity and you'll see everything she has ever searched starting from day 1 even if she has deleted them on her cache and history.

I have 7 more secrets, but let's not expose it. If I reveal all of them, lots of marriages and relationships will collapse and I don't want that.

Bros, that ya trick doesn't work in every case...na only amateurs e dey work for. Who done bad, done bad

Offpoint:
Op what sin has she committed by visiting Xvideos?
She's a human being with sexual desires like every other human being including religious heads.

Cause you saw her browser history about porn doesn't mean you should conclude she's a wayward type. She commit no sin watching sex videos.

I personally visits those sites once in a month or twice depending on the level of testosterone in my body and I enjoyed lesbians videos and ladies self serving themselves.

When you want to improve your whatever skill, you visit YouTube to learn from pros. Visiting porn site is liking visiting YouTube to improve on your present or future skill.

Let the girl be...
I don't watch porns to masturbate over it, I watched porns to study how women sex life works, how they react to different styles OR pre-intimacy.
I'm gathering all these details for my future wife.

SMH!!! if your wife act like those girls way u dey watch for xvideos, that means she is a pro with a very long CV.

I nor sure say u wan marry pro, trust me.... only your company nor go fit pay her

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iClef:
Wow! I'm so impressed. Though, I was actually thinking the pill is just like paracetamol so I can drink it and go to bed, then wake the next morning and understand everything about women. I didn't know it will take this long process.

Will they pay me for learning from them?

No, they won't. but you will stop asking stupid questions

Kennedyiheme02:
thats your problem...

Not a problem to me, maybe to u it's a problem

Kennedyiheme02:
First off.. pete edochie said this first.. its very wromg for a man to kneel and ask a womans hands in marriage, cos check the advantages women get in marriages compared to men.. I'm providing, I'm saving you from lonliness and menopause, you shouldbe thanking me for that . why on earth should a man eho stands as authority degrade himself to that level of degradation.. our culture never asked us to do this.. all we did was copy white people..

What do you think

I have no interest in laws, traditions, beliefs, culture but i do believe in me.... I love my future wife, and im going to do anything for her but I will not do anything that i know isn't right and one of such things is to kneel down for a woman cause of a proposal.

iClef:
What is Redpill? I have never heard of that before. Is it like tramadol or paracetamol?

It truly need it bro....tramadol and paracetamol are things you shouldn't be be thinking of....

There are many threads here about Red pill.

You can go to youtube and check these guys out Coach Redpill, coach corey wayne, sandman (this one is for MGTOW), Alpha male strategist etc

Just take the Red Pill and you wont worry about a woman cheating on you ever again

SirLiquidGold:
I will go straight to the point. I'm 29years old and I have no girlfriend to call mine. Although when I was in school and during my NYSC some girls do give me attention but the moment we all did POP it was like the world changed for us all. I realized maybe I was too busy getting worried about the future than I should have had more time for women.

All along, my intention was to graduate, have a good job, then go into a serious relationship and get married but reality can be often disappointing.
It's rather unfortunate that no job is forthcoming since I finished service in December, 2017.

I'm very sure you would not believe it if tell you that I'm a virgin because I've never tasted sex all my live. Though i intend getting married at 30 and I've no job yet, I really feel like having a girl in my life now. I feel really lonely waking up alone everyday and hugging my pillow. It's as if nature is craving for what I ought to have had by now.

I need somebody that I can share my thought with, somebody I would be there for and also would be there for me. Guys I know you are wiser than I am, please advise me!!! Just yesterday night I came across a post on front page about "if money was delaying one from getting married and I am really worried

Forget women

Focus on your life

Be intentional with your goals

All good things come to those who wait on the LORD

Pierced:
U are looking for who to control......beta leave her alone.

Is that what you understood from what he wrote

Sometimes is not our universities that are bad, some peeps just cant comprehend simple things

Jeweltz:
Good afternoon my fellow women,

This is going to be a long Post

Kindly be reminded that I don't need insultive commentaries as I'm already hurt by the narratives I'm about to share . I only need an advise. Google search lead me to this website few hours ago.

I have been into many relationship in the past with guys that their behaviour and way of life are nothing to write home about. The last straw that had the camel's back was the one that made me gave up on men to focus solely on my career. I was disvirgined at the age of 22 by a guy who I gave 100% love to.

It happened;

Sometimes around last year, a friend of mine was having her birthday. She was a colleague from work. I work in an audit firm in Lagos, VI( identity witheld). I didn't plan to spend the night there, but as it happened to be on a Saturday, I didn't have any objection when she asked me to spend the night in her place.

About 7pm in the evening, we decided to go out and chill which will be funded by her boyfriend. It was there I met this guy, which was a friend of the said boyfriend. Talks run into talks, he seemed like a perfect match for me and I was already getting used to him. I liked him.

Few days after,he asked me out which I found nice and cool.

Later, I got to know he has no job and has been into some side hustling all the while. I had no problem with this.

Months later , he started requesting money from me which he claimed went into settling some debts. There was a time I collected salary, said he needed 130k, it was so hard but I had to give him. All that I wanted is his happiness as he claimed he needed money for some hustles.

To cut the story short;

He told me his Love for Virgin girl and how he can Never marry a girl that's not a virgin. I asked him what if I'm not a virgin, he responded in the negative and I started getting nervous about us. I knew I'm not a virgin but ..........

He has been pestering me for sex, which I understand it's not a big deal. But the conversation we had about virginity has been making me scared of losing him. What if he dump after sex Just because I'm not a virgin. My mistake was that I had lied that I am Virgin. Didn't know why I had to .

I have resist all his attempts to have sex with me. Few days ago, I saw his chat with a girl which he's been going out. He had sex with her. I confronted him and he denied. This has make him to be ignoring me. He's not picking my calls, barely reply my text and if he ever, it's only one word and boring. But anytime he needs money from me, he call me.

Last week, he told me he needed money but I refused him. He started cursing me on the phone and vow to call it quit with me. he's still yet to respond to all my pleas.

Ladies in the house, what have I done wrong??

I should get to know you