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Hypocrisy. Only death separates humans from the trait.

SpyMaster1:
Merry Christmas to everyone!
Today, December 25, 2025, I decided to step out and soak in the festive vibes at the Uyo Christmas Village. What I witnessed there has got me thinking deeply about human nature, and I just had to share it here for some discussion.
The place was buzzing with energy – lights everywhere, music blasting, food stalls overflowing, and people from all walks of life letting loose. I saw old men chilling with bottles of beer, cracking jokes and laughing like they were teenagers again. Old women and ladies were dancing, sipping colorful cocktails, snapping selfies, and indulging in everything from grilled suya to ice cream and games. Families were there too, but even the adults seemed to forget their worries, chasing that momentary high of joy and pleasure.
It hit me hard: We humans are inherently hedonistic, aren't we? We chase pleasure, comfort, and enjoyment at every opportunity. Whether it's through food, drinks, music, or just the thrill of the crowd, we're wired to seek out what feels good. But here's the real question that's been bugging me – why do we pretend otherwise?
In our daily lives, we put on this facade of being all serious, disciplined, and "moral." We judge others for "partying too much" or "living recklessly," yet when the lights dim and the festivities kick in, we're right there in the mix. Is it society? Religion? Fear of judgment? Or are we just hypocrites who deny our true selves to fit in?
I'd love to hear your thoughts, Nairaland. Have you had similar experiences? Do you think hedonism is our default mode, or is there more to it?

What a well written story. So, somehow, I should believe that 99% of the family knows of this secret, yet the father doesn’t? This is why I don’t watch Nollywood movies. So, your elder brother looks like grandma, your elder sister looks like your aunt and the last born looks like your granduncle. You, on the other hand, look like the security guard — and somehow no alarm bells have been rung? Abeg, tell me another story.

Okay, weak men afraid to raise another’s kids, food don done.

Let me drop advice since I’m waiting for sleep to carry me: whoever raised you is your father. Blood means nothing if you weren’t treated well. The person imprinted in your mind from four years old to adulthood is your legitimate parent. If the man is so good, he’s already set your share of inheritance.

Kcash200:
Hi guys,

I have a problem i have been dealing with since i was 12. I am from a large family and when i was 12, my mum told me my Dad is not my biological father and for me to make it a secret. I did not know what to do with such an information at that age but i knew it was wrong but i couldnt talk so i am not the one who destroys the family. Everyone lives in peace but i always wonder what will happen if only they know the truth. My biological father has other children and some of them know me that i am outside. He was involved in my life financially from 12years as far as i am aware of. He sent me money then and i kept quiet too and also supported me financially a couple of times though we have no personal relationship asides 2-3mins phone calls here and there and it is been like that for years.

I know my biological father and we kept in touch while i was in secondary school. Now that i am an adult now, i feel really sad about the whole thing and sometimes i even cry on my bed. I have been living in secret and a double life and fearing i might be outed one day. Some people in my mother's family are aware which is very strange and i find it shameful as a man now but i did not choose my fate. I have always tried to forget it and just leave my life but it is always just there especially when i think about starting my own family. I am striving hard for it not to define the way i see marriage and life as i am trying to write a different story for myself.

I grew up with my father who is not my biological father and i have been a good son to him as well and still taking care of him but it bothers that my whole life is a lie and it is hard knowing what i know and i can't say anything as that will scatter the family. I met some girls from a very good home who i can marry but i am scared if i tell her or other girls, that her parent will not let me marry her with that secret.

I am scared of getting married publicly as someone can take the news to my biological father as i do not intend to invite him as my biological father but i always feel heavy anytime i think about it. I want to start a new life for myself but i don't know how to handle this. I do not plan to tell my father as he is getting old and this can kill him at his old age as he has been through a lot in life. He is finally enjoying and i am taking care of him very well and he prays for me all the time.

I am building a good life for myself as a professional and have a lot of girls around me but i don't know what to do. Should i keep quiet and tell the girl i marry after marriage ? Isn't that me building my marriage on deceit. It is a shameful thing to talk about if you look at it.

Sometimes, i feel like they caused me trauma putting me in this position but i am an adult now and will bear responsibility for how i live my life and cant continue to blame any trauma or anyone. I am the one who has to keep quiet for peace to reign in the family.

I don't want to wait too long just incase it is a dealbreaker for someone but i also don't want to be disclosing to anyone.

Aside from marriage, i still do not know what to do with that information.

Which states in the country utilize incinerators for waste disposal? I need a list.

Eriokanmi:
We are specialists only in the installation of linear incinerators in hospitals and in the oil and gas sector, Where exactly do you need help? Apologies for responding late.

@eepeepook, kindly explain what you mean in your previous post. Tnx

He doesn’t know. Lack of information won’t kill us in this country.

Gotocourt:
Eriokanmi, we'll need your input

Celibacy sure pass.

ahamonyeka:
Experts in the house ,please as a man and you don't want to impregnate a woman which pill can one take to make sperm less powerful or hitting the egg ?

They closed for Christmas. Try again on the 28th.

Nifemy4:
To my greatest shock , ShopRite has finally shut down operation in Nigeria . The once ever bubbling and lively suruelre mall , today , was like a ghost town ! Totally shut .

Bimpe, I want you as my Christmas present.

Yes.

sacajawea:
So who would be lying? Me? Or the Yahoo Boy?

December has six days to finish and you’ve started the Detty December flood of articles? You also need more paragraphs, mainstream journalists will create 20,000 word reports.

Visiting home is never a bad idea unless one is based in their hometown.

sinorte:
Every December, it feels like the entire country is on the move. Airports are jam-packed, bus stations buzzing, and Nigerians from Lagos to London, Abuja to Atlanta all heading home for the ultimate festive reunion. The vibe? Pure December madness! But here’s the real question: is it worth all the hype?

On one hand, nothing beats that first hug from family, the smell of smoky jollof wafting through the house, and the festive chaos that only Naija can deliver. Street parties, music blasting, laughter echoing through the neighbourhood—it’s the ultimate homecoming vibe. These moments? Absolutely priceless. They’re the stuff memories are made of, and for many, it’s the highlight of the year.

But let’s keep it real—the struggle is real too. Tickets are ridiculously expensive, traffic will test your patience (and your sanity), and then there’s the pressure to “show up” like you’ve been living in a music video. Add the stress of packing, flight delays, and logistics, and suddenly Netflix with pepper soup sounds like a solid plan. Is the joy of reconnecting worth the cost and chaos? Or is it time to redefine what “celebrating at home” really means?

So, what’s your move? Boarding that flight or chilling where you are? Drop your thoughts—because this debate is hotter than fresh suya and twice as spicy! 🔥

Watch a random coup take place there in the near future.

Nairaland is for jobless people, that’s why.

PepeXKermit:
Anybody wey don make am no dey too come nairalamd. The ones wey still dey come no dey raise topics, just commenting anonymously. Reno was active here as Beef too, even Deji Adeyanju and VDM

Why are parts of the documents heavily redacted? At this point, people are more confused than ever on the matter.

Obrigardo:
This is so sad and surprising that the US DOJ has fallen so low to respond like this on twitter?

Oh my god. Nigeria right now has mor decorum than the US.

We have Indians here? Why aren’t you on Reddit or Quora?

Mscheew. See me responding to a bot.

AndrewJamesly:
Hi, my name is Andrew, and on a fine morning, I was going to my office. I was driving in my car, and all of a sudden, another car from the wrong side hit my car, and my front glass broke, and certain particles hit my eyes, due to which I was facing difficulty seeing, so I went to an eye hospital in Phagwara to check up my eyes. Now I feel better, and I was thinking, should I drive or take more time to recover first?

January should kick off let all these jobless children return to school. I don tire to read lie for this forum.

He spent up to five years? Where is his recent picture?

Hushpuppi might come home next year. If not, 2027 is sure.

Sothelo:
Nigerian businessman Invictus Obi released from U.S. prison, faces deportation after serving five-year fraud sentence

The U.S. Bureau of Prisons has released Nigerian serial fraudster and businessman, Invictus Obi Okeke, after spending six years in jail for scamming America-based businesses of $11 million between 2015 and 2019.

Mr Okeke, arrested in 2019, was no longer in custody as of Wednesday with arrangements for his deportation to Nigeria underway as stipulated in his guilty plea agreement.

FBI agents arrested Mr Okeke in August 2019 at the Dulles International Airport in Virginia where he had booked a flight to return to Nigeria.

He was tried and sentenced to 10 years imprisonment in February 2021 but released on Wednesday, seemingly benefitting from the first-step prison reform policy that President Donald Trump signed into law in his first term.

The reform shortened sentences for offenders based on adherence to certain standing behavioural rules. The fraudster is believed to have qualified under the policy.

He was charged with conspiracy to commit wire fraud and conspiracy to commit computer fraud. Mr Okeke stole the login credentials of Unatrac Holding Limited, a company that exports Caterpillar industrial machinery, and intercepted emails to divert payments. He dubiously pocketed approximately $11 million.

Investigations by the FBI revealed that Mr Okeke masterminded a computer hacking scheme, compromising emails to rob unsuspecting victims of millions of dollars.

“Through subterfuge and impersonation, Obinwanne Okeke engaged in a multi-year global business email and computer hacking scheme that caused a staggering $11 million in losses to his victims,” a statement by Raj Parekh, Acting U.S. Attorney for the Eastern District of Virginia, stated in 2021.

The Abuja Division of the Federal High Court issued an order for the temporary forfeiture of over N280 million in Mr Okeke’s Nigerian bank accounts.

Mr Okeke, 38, before his criminal activities came to light, was celebrated in the Forbes 30-under-30 section in 2016 as one of Africa’s most promising entrepreneurs.

Described as the founder of Invictus Group with a humble background, Forbes said Mr Okeke named his company “after one of Nelson Mandela’s favorite poems, by William Ernest Henley, about the undefeated and unconquerable soul of a hard worker, from an impoverished background, who will not give up.”

Forbes praised Mr Okeke for his investment in construction, agriculture, oil and gas, telecoms and real estate.

BY Peoples Gazette

Not compulsory. You can use it immediately. Devices of the sort are usually halfway full. When it’s about to die, say blinking light, charge it to 100%.

After a Google search: Use it to one bar then charge it to 100%.

Kodak9:
Hey guys I just bought a power bank and I charged it for just 3hrs before use....is it compulsory to charge for 24hrs before use and will it damage it's battery capacity if used?

My crush will soon birth a second child… and I’m here fooling myself!

TITOPE:
Singer Simi flaunts her baby bump

The singer and her hubby, Adekunle Gold, are expecting their second child. She showed off her baby bump in the video of his new song which he released earlier today.

Congrats to them!

I would do the same. Many big Nigerian companies are run by Lebanese. There are wealthier ones in Ghana and Cameroon. They come to foreign lands and make use of opportunities which the locals would otherwise laugh at. Intelligence is man’s strongest point. Use it to your advantage.

Source: Egbon, trust me. I no fit lie give you.

sacajawea:
He brags that they are up to 20, and many more still down
A very repulsive guy. dirty looking Yahoo boy, or Man.
Barely literate.

To get a clear picture, something like these Slim tall guys that are associated with some popular celebrity. Very repulsive Human.

Said he has had sex with many many of these Lawyer Ladies. Many.
What will seem unlikely. And Banker ladies too. Not contract staff, full working bankers ladies that you would deem more educated and mature. More refined, more exposed.

Bimpe, my handle is not required. Stay and enjoy the attention. If anything, you are the one obsessed with me.

Detty December no touch the joints? They never could compete. All the places that matter in Lagos are overflowing with merrymakers.

LagosOrigin:
Have you noticed that the happening joints and Lagos are now almost empty because the money spenders and chop life gang, the Igbos have traveled home for Christmas?

I'm currently driving through Toyin street and connecting Allen roundabout and I noticed that the joints within this area are almost empty.. this used to be bubbling joints before the Christmas .

I still drove through akowonjo Egbeda and quickly checked "De Dems" and it's like a ghost joint. The people there aren't up to 15.

There have been complaints by some Yoruba traders in Lagos that sales have dropped because the Igbos have traveled back to south east for Christmas. One trader even said that this usually happens during Christmas period and it's affecting there sales.

This has confirmed what we've been saying all this years that without the Igbos in Lagos, the economy of the state will be reduced to almost nothing.

That’s my fourth wife right there looking good for daddy.

When showing off went left.

Let me find out which state is serious about waste management in this country. If our flares still burn, I don’t see why incineration will pose a worse environmental threat.

Which states in the country implement incinerators? Landfills are a waste of space and pose a hazard to public health.

I’m waiting.


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They don talk say no dey travel for night, una still no hear. Anything wey do you, take am.

talk2chomchom:
Please who knows where I can get Lagos to Abuja Night bus around Ikeja or Ishaga. Where are they loading. Please help me with the information. ......also any idea of the price will be appreciated. Thanks. Compliments of the season

Mscheew. Skit. One would think these people make millions from going viral.