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This is based on a story my friend told me about.


He has been living together with his girlfriend for close to 9 months now. However, she plans to move to her own apartment by December, 2021.
He often complains of his girlfriend's incessant living the house to an unknown place and stay the night without calling my friend to tell him about her whereabout. This has happened on several occasions without the lady feeling any form of us remorse. The one that happened recently was when she went out and didn't come back till the next day, my friend was upset and has asked where she spent the night. She answered and named the place. My friend asked her, what was happening there? She replied that, 'same thing that happened every other place'.
My friend is not trying to control her based on what I understand, he is however, worried concerning the insecurity in the country. If anything happens to her while they are together, he knows that he's in a deep mess.


Kindly advice

Benard5050:
I'm 29 yrs old, I had a breakup with the girl I've been dating for 4 yrs this year April. Since then it has been so hard for me 2 be in a relationship cos I think my ex could still come back cos I still love her.

I had a brief relationship with a lady last 2 months but didn't last long cos I'm still yet over my ex.

There's this lady that joined my working place and also my next-door neighbor, she's kind and her character has been so gud for d six weeks she started working at my place of work.

I think I'm loving her but I will not want what happened with d lady I had a brief relationship with to happen again.

Guys do u think I should go ahead and ask her out?

I'm scared of d negative that might arise cos we are working in d same establishment even though I'm a senior colleague to her there.

Guys is this advisable? I'll be on d tread to answer any question u might want to ask. Thanks.

Avoid workplace relationships. I'm talking from experience. I won't say more than this

It is well

My people WES want to give me heart ache. I logged into my dashboard this morning and this is what I saw. Pls what does this mean abeg? Help a brother

DBestDoc:
So who will sponsor them now that you’re in debt and lost part of the money?
I read before replying.

Who will sponsor them?
Did you fix a part of the money somewhere to cover for their studies? You didn’t say so in your post.

Those were questions you should have asked. I earn well enough. And a substantial amount was fixed for 3 years.

DBestDoc:
@ effico
Posterity will not forgive you for being so greedy, selfish and unwise at the same time.

You took the money meant for all of your late father’s dependents and squandered it as you wish in the name of acquiring an extra degree when your other younger siblings do not have Undergrad degrees yet.
What happens to them now?

Your uncle was right to tell you to hold off with the MSC plan because that was not what you and your family needed at that point in time.

You couldn’t even set up a business or side hustle from that money. How far did you think 3 M could go?

Damn! What an ungrateful and selfish man you are.

Were you told they wouldnt be sponsored. Pls read the post well

LilMissFavvy:
You did the right thing by not giving your uncle the money, if you did, you would have regretted it today. What gave you the effrontery to take all the money? Who gave you the right to think you are the one who should take care of your step siblings/decide their paths, when you know their mother is alive? I know your dad made a mistake and never wrote a "will", but you should have dialogued with your step mum, share the money/keep part for the house, irrespective of wether she was thrown out because of adultery, her children were not denied by your late father. Selfishness made you think your MSC is more important than their education, even when you know they are far younger and have a long way to go academically.

You did well to have fenced the house and process the documents, but I want you to know that if you also take over the house, your siblings will seriously fight you in future. So now that the building isn't completed, you can get an uncle and see how far you can share the rooms for the 5 of you. Or you simply inform your younger ones that upon completion, the house will be shared. Then arrive at how to source funds to complete it.

In your write up I can see that you never carried anyone along, so you better start gathering all receipts, documents, etc so that you will table issues and make them know that you dumped a good amount of money fencing the house, processing documents, the amounts you spent processing the gratuity, etc. If only you were open right from the beginning, you wouldn't be facing the current harrassment. I didn't understand your last paragraph, I don't know if you were trying to say that part of the money still remains, if it does, then it's proper you call a meeting, explain yourself a bit, but don't give them room for too much arguments, then share whatever is left of the money.
Modified: in some cultures, the first son inherits the house, if that's the case in your culture, then it's needless you share the rooms.

Thank you for the wisdom in your right up. The family is well aware of the whole scenario and it was supported that since the structure is like this, I should use the funds to sponsor their schooling. They refused me sharing the remaining funds. Very receipts and payment is available with all evidence.

chatinent:
The first part is you feel it's your money...that's where everything went sour.


cc: lalasticlala mynd44 seun Dominque food for front.

Even after catering for them in the last 4 years now, not until 3 months ago? Pls say something else. I'm not that evil abeg

EmptyGarden:
I said if he meant well, you know him better. and if he didn't my point remains that the money would have been better invested with proper guidance than than the ponzi you may have invested in. You're not wrong for pursuing further studies, which you have, for that reason your much younger siblings may not even have a chance of pursuing a University degree.
I'd like to remind you of the Rotaract 4way test.
1. Is it the truth?
2. Is it fair to all concerned?
3. Will it build goodwill and better friendship?
4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
Instead, you've made enemies out of everyone in your family.

You didn't get my point. Their university degree is guaranteed. My point is that the last 3 months of not providing funds for schooling made my step mum to start calling me out. Which has made me start having a double mind of continuing with the funding.

EmptyGarden:
Your late Date had at least 5 Children, that money you recovered wasn't meant for you alone. It's not like getting an Msc guarantees an instant good paying job. The money would have been better invested, and your Msc and other needs of the family handled from the proceeds. If your uncle meant well, his suggestion would have been better for all concerned. You were just being selfish.
You chose to squander what could have sustained the whole family.

Alright , thank you for your observations. You mean I should have given my uncle the money, right? What's the guaranty that it will be appropriately used? Am I wrong for pursuing further studies?

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Ogooluwa2040:
Lol, I already told you people that its the Bank with the horse logo,they wont be asking any deep deep questions as it is not a full time job offer ,its a contract work ,just normal basic interview questions

The job is an entry level role. Isn't that supposed to be full time job offer?

Nigerians and scam. Una no dey tire?

Pls go get a life

I used their app to fill the account opening form for over 2 weeks now. Account hasn't been opened.

08100146986

Adekunle1665:
Who were able to take the assessment today

I did

Hello everyone.
Can a certificate in data science from IBM be useful to use in applying as a data scientist?

Cosmatikka:
Eatrich don eat people money

Why has EFCC not arrested Maxwell Odum of MBA forest.
That guy wrecked people's lives.
Naso my #2M take go.

God go punish all these ways investors wrecking people's lives

A protest to CBN will hold on 27 September in that regards. Join in our location.

idrisonly:
It takes one week to sort for the raw material and another one week to package it before supplying to the company in Lagos.
You can contact me for the minimum amount you need to go into the business.

Oga explain everything here let's see na. Whats the need contacting you

psucc:
Have you been able to know the marking venue for last year in your area?

no

psucc:
it's so simple! Get to know the marking venue. Ensure you participate on the opening that attendance matters.

Also ensure you participate very well in the coordination proper by answering questions. Also, go for your field.

The selection from the list of gate crashers will favour you.

Pls send me WhatsApp message let's discuss.
08100146986

psucc:
it's so simple! Get to know the marking venue. Ensure you participate on the opening that attendance matters.

Also ensure you participate very well in the coordination proper by answering questions. Also, go for your field.

The selection from the list of gate crashers will favour you.

I'm still confused oo. But I want to be part of those to mark

psucc:
They don't mark at their office.

Most likely, they use secondary schools that has a large facility to host them for the 2weeks period.

But how can I partake in the marking

Where is port Harcourt office pls

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Nackzy:
OP don't stress yourself with those people i had Same experience with them, send me a mail so i can show you the best loan app ever, even when you default they give you a lengthy grace period

Why not share the information with us here?

I will sell mine to you for $100

This writer is a bad economic analyst. I Won't say more than this

CrispyLiz:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/08/01/central-bank-governor%E2%80%99s-policy-somersault-foreign-exchange-bureau-de-change-dr-adeola