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if you are hinging your happiness and value on people who you help, you have lost it. no man is an island, same way you helped others ,same way people have helped you. It is not necessarily the people you helped that would help you and everyone cannot be there for you at the same time. some people ignoring you now would be your pillar in 20 years.

just imagine if this said boyfriend is a nairalander.

my greatest fear is knowing how much I spend every month

op, if this your story is true, kindly report at the police station closest to you. If you are taking them to an orphanage or the village or ph, also report to the closest police station when you get there. This relative that doesn't have money, you will be surprised how he will pursue a case that you have sold his children. If you say you don't have money to dash police now, you will surely have money to bail yourself later.

better do and employ the man's son

fidalgo19:
i feel so honored to comment. All of my hardwork and dedication has paid off. Getting to the top comment has been a dream of mine for many months, and i would like to thank those who have helped me along the way. First and foremost i would like to thank God for giving me this opportunity. Next i would like to thank my parents. I want to thank my friends for being beside me as always. I would also like to thank my pet fish for surviving against all odds for over a week. Next i would like to thank the squirrel that lives in my backyard for climbing trees because that gives me inspiration that i need to get through the day. This is a special moment in my life and i would like to thank any of my unmentioned friends and family that have helped me along the way. This moment will be a moment that will never forget. I just remembered a few other people i would like to thank; nairaland, the bird i caught in standard 3, the light in my room because i wouldn't be able to see the keyboard without it, the internet for letting me go on nairaland, my house because without it i would be homeless.I cannot stress how much of a big deal to me this is. I have been trying to be the first comment on a post for years,but that has not been possible untill this amazing day. Hopefully my good luck will continue, but this is undoubtedly a rare occasion. If you asked mehow i did this, i would say, you can achieve anything you set your mind on. To everyone outthere reading this, i would like to tell them to follow their dreams. Being the top comment is amazing, thank you everyone.I wouldn't forget my village people that make me like this

sorry to disappoint you, but it looks like you are the 20th to comment. while you were typing this epistle, others were submitting their one letter word comment.

so una never know say seun no dey do name change abi, it happened last in 2006. You have to wait till 2026 when name change will be possible on nairaland, till then, manage the name wey you call yourself.

Your dad is cheating with married woman, so he thinks if other women are doing it, then his wife might be doing the same.

I keep thinking some people would like to go to jail for a year and be paid 1.5m once they are released. Learnt jail time is also calculated half the time, so a year equals 6 months.

op, show me his gadgets, IE, cars, laptops, phones, TV, camera, etc

And you had to wait till five days after the wedding to post this abi. Chop alone and die alone.

paving way for their kids obviously, if you think it's for you, sorry

I read animal farm by George Orwell again today after over 15 years, when I finished it, I almost wept.

I solicited funds from some politicians who were indigenes of a village where I served in nasarawa to provide desks and chairs for two classes. One politician refused to drop money, that the project was meaningless, that he could just pick up his phone and make a single call and the whole school will be filled with chairs. Na so I start to disturb the man to make that call, even when I had finished the project. Till I left, nothing.

Someone was stabbed, left on the floor to fight for his life, his attacker was attacked for stabbing him while he was left half dead. Una scale of preference is very amazing.

A whole three course meal. Freshly fried groundnut with lush sea green garden egg, followed by delicious oven baked doughnuts and chilled refreshing ice cold Coca Cola, with a finishing of sensational sweets is what you are complaining about, must everything be about rice?

loshybab:
wowww! wowww!! wowww!!!
It feels like u should just continue writing while I do the reading. This piece is so in contrary with your moniker, and I wanna tell you it's awesome.

@OP,i dunno what to say,having seen how annoying and frustrating men like that could be, but I believe you can pick one or two things


I wish you a safe delivery!

thanks it's actually moneypersonified not pridepersonified. still waiting for the year I can change it.

so basically sec school is more expensive than uni ¿

someone just typed on this thread that Jesus doesn't understand ijn. Like we and the devil are getting wiser but Christ isn't. May wisdom fall on you ijn.

Some people are meant to be led, not everyone is a leader. If you believe you can take the lead, your marriage will work. First off, I would like you to find out how your friends, sisters, aunties, etc are doing in their marriages. Do you think you can live with their husbands? What would you like your home to be like in 25 years time? If you speak to your husband gently and lovingly, do you think he is someone you can influence? What are his hobbies? Do you think if he gets a better paying job easily he would do the job?

We all are wired differently, maybe he is contended with little and doesn't see the need to seek or work for more. If for example he enjoys being in a bar, or football viewing centre or nairabet shop or barbering salon, look for ways of assisting him start up his, not necessarily financially. You can look for people already doing the business to mentor him. please note that you would also have to spend time making sure the business runs smoothly.

Or you can start up a business for yourself and he helps you out with running it. Do not ever give the impression you have too much money. Just make him always feel you are struggling to feed, if you have to reduce the pieces of meat you guys eat, do it. Stop running your gen once there is no light or subscribing for dstv before expiration, we are in a recession and even if you aren't feeling it, you have to sacrifice something in solidarity with others, lol.

Bottomline, there is always a way out, you have got to find it. Life is not black and white. Stop looking at how others run their homes and try to find what would make yours work. If you husband is a nice guy, try to make it work. Get him in your team. You guys are not competitors, but team mates.

Lastly, maybe you should change your prayers from 'father change my husband to be the breadwinner ' to 'father show us what to do to have a wonderful and self sustaining family '.

I once gave my sister this advice, sometimes when he pisses you off, wait for him to leave the house and then start quarrelling with him in his absence, speak out loud, cry if you want to. When he comes back, you won't feel those resentments because you have thrown them at him. At times, you won't even remember what issues you spoke about in his presence or absence, your brain just automatically registers that the issue has being dealt with.

the police should investigate this, what if the girl's brothers and friends did this to him , not every hanging is a suicide abeg.

funny op , I like the way you analyzed each of them, it almost made me click the link

I read an autobiography where a single mum used to check herself into a psychiatric hospital from time to time because of pressure of taking care of her family. Maybe lai Mohammed should have introduced this instead

and you didn't invite Laura to show herself

it's like you people want lai Mohammed to ban marrying a white man or woman

if your phone torchlight is behind the phone, put it on while using your phone in the dark.

Seems you married Jesus in prison and left Him there.

avaa:
Thank you very much. Almost anything can become addictive when care is not taken, but our religious zealots have invented names for them. Spirit of smoking, spirit of sex, spirit of masturbation e.t.c. Trying to explain to an average Nigerian that there are natural explanations and solutions to most of the things they pray and bind everyday is like teaching a dog to recite poetry. Sighs...

The problem is most people who try to tell them there are natural solutions also tell them that there is no God. Won't it be better to explain and leave out their spiritual beliefs? Most churches also don't teach looking for solutions beyond the spirit. How can someone be looking for a child for 10 years and no one can encourage her to try IVF or others because it would look like you don't have enough faith?

have you posted this topic before? looks too familiar

Some times a disadvantage might be an advantage. Jonathan's weakness would have worked in Nigerians favour. Even if Jonathan was on life support, he would have at least sent video messages to his people. if there is no need of a buhari, please tell us, what was the essence of an election in 2015?

Is pause not better than rewind? How many years would it take us to get back to 2015, talk more of moving beyond the state of the economy as at 2015. Hope this recession would not lead to depression. This is stretching the coping capacity of the people too far. Imagine selling your wife and child for 270k, by 2019, won't people start eating their children?

I refuse to give up, recession is a word.