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CzarChris:
Guys, thank you so much for your advice on this issue.
On her family not making me the ATM, true but remember that this is Africa where you marry not just the individual but also the extended family.

Of course you will assist the family as much as you can but you will have to set boundaries for the good of your own home. Goodluck.

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One thing that should be clear to you first of all is that this is your future and happiness we are talking about here.

At some points in your life you'll have to take steps that some people will not like.

Her reasons for not liking her are not serious issues if you ask me.

As for your in-laws, you are not marrying their daughter in order for you to help them solve their financial problems. Don't think that it's your responsibility to carry their burden on your head. As long as they are healthy and can work for their survival, you just help where you can after all they've been surviving before you came into the picture. You are not coming into their family to become their bread winner.

You said she is still a student, what level? I guess you will have to take over her educational expenses. Well, if you are financially capable, go ahead.

You also said she's short at 5ft7"? Does your mum want her to also be 6ft? Or is she afraid of you giving birth to dwarfs? She need not worry 'cos your kids could pick up their genes from her taller ancestors. By the way 5ft7" is not short.

Your mum would have had a stronger case if her objection was based on her behaviour. But if she's well behaved and responsible, I see no reason why you can't walk down the isle with her.

What?!

OMG! where's my handkerchief?...oh forget the hanky, I'm going let the tears flow....

This life is too short for one to engage in frivolities. Do the much you can to impact others positively.

He has left his footprints in the sands of time.

what?!

The entire justice system has long been 'hacked' by some corrupt judges who fail to deliver justice to the people.

As it stands now, GEJ is the only presidential figure I see. What are the APC waiting for that they've not presented someone already? My patience is running out. If GEJ should win (i can't predict the future), my advice to him is to be a little more decisive so that he can use the remaining years to correct whatever mistakes he's made in his first tenure. My advice to the Apc candidate? None for now 'cos I can't see anyone for that position at the moment.

Caracta:
Lol. Thanks. You should have ignored him. Thanks anyway.

You're welcome. Some people just need to be set straight sometimes.

Adikam:
1st u ask him to contact TEHN now you asking wat he treated for are you insane?why cant you respect ur miserable self & stop comenting on this thread fool.

If you carefully read through this thread, you'll see that she has done a lot on this case. You are going to have to apologise to her.

God bless all those who have showed concern in one way or the other towards this young man's plight.

The Op needs proper medical attention at this point. Please any doctor here who works at LUTH should help him get good medical attention and I advice that a team of experts should put heads together and attend to him and not one doctor writing one thing and another writing something different like the op pointed out earlier.

DJDOLA, where are you now? Are you in the hospital? Are you taking any drugs presently?

It is not advisable for one to recommend drugs via the internet since one is not physically present to assess your condition. But let me mention that you can take Furosemide 40mg orally 12hourly or Spironolactone 100mg orally every 12hours.

It will help you urinate and eliminate some of the fluid you've accumulated in your abdomen.
However, if you're already under expert care, follow their recommendations.

This too shall pass.

anonimi:
The solution is to focus on our state gorvernors and LGA chairmen's performance on such BASIC things like ensuring ALL our children receive PROPER education from PROFESSIONAL qualified teachers.
Focusing SOLELY on the federal government's performance while these two tiers are stealing recklessly from us is a recipe for continuing disaster.

I like how you put the emphasis on the state and local governments. People often forget that they exist, that's why they always focus on the federal government. The state and local governments are closer to the people and should be able to effectively manage things like this. Over the years, the state and local governments have done little to help the populace and that's why we are where we are today. And the sad part is people don't know who to hold responsible for certain things in this country. For instance, when someone's tap water is not running or the road leading to his house is bad, what does he do? He rains curses on the federal government (and whoever is the president) for it.

Most of these kids are from less privileged homes. It pains my heart to see kids who should be in school, hawking under the hot sun and gettin drenched in the rain sometimes. Whenever I see them, I wish I have enough money to give them so that they would not have to hawk ever again. Not patronizing them on my part may not really be a good option unless everyone thinks that way. I say this because, if I refuse to patronize them, someone else will and so it continues. The solution is to find a way to help struggling families so that kids are not sent out as breadwinners. Also a very decisive step has to be taken by the government to stop parents from using kids that way.

Good for them

Amuga:
Very much involve in kitchen bussiness abi? He should be prepared to cook the food he bought.

That shouldn't be a problem. As for me, when I get married, as much as I have the time, I wouldn't mind adding items to her list. And as for the cooking, she can't 'threaten' me with that. If she doesn't want to cook (for whatever reason) I'll simply do it myself. I know how to do that very well. You may want to read my comment on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/1971465/boy-child-should-also-domestically-inclined#27540153

One down, many more to go.

It's unhealthy indeed.

Rather than writing the list, I suggest he estimate how much the items needed would cost and then give the money accordingly. And writing the list doesn't always mean that he's stingy. Some men are very much involved in household/kitchen 'business'.

Satire of the year.

And by the way, OP, the papers endorsing your BAN just arrived at my desk.
Offense? Spreading false news and thereby causing massive cardiac arrest to some individuals on this forum.
I'll be forwarding the papers to the admin very shortly.

I wanted to ask how sure we are that it's really Lagos until I saw 'beware of 419'.

I guess it won't be easy dissociating that number from Nigeria.

Good luck to him.

Choose between what? Is the old people from the older generation who are so used to corruption or the new generation who have learnt corruption from their fathers and all they do now is wait for their own turn to eat the national cake? Whether young or old, methinks we Nigerians need to redefine our values and make up our minds to do the right thing. We need to refocus our vision to stop seeing things from a selfish perspective and start doing things that will benefit us all and make this country worthy of respect among other nations.

It's going to be the 8th wonder of the world when Nigeria finally overcomes her power challenges.
It would mean that we succeeded in overcoming the generator cabals and those interested in making gains from the country's woes.
It would be a major step forward as politicians will now have to include more innovative plans in their campaign manifestos and not like the present case where everyone is using power generation as a major campaign point.

There is no better way to grow as a country than to encourage young people with potentials.
Encouraging talent not just in entertainment but in every form is the key to building a great nation with a bright future.

Our future is in danger if all we can boast of is young people singing and dancing on stage alone. Young people should be encouraged to go into research and engage their power of imagination to solve problems. What we have on ground now that even professors are not adequately motivated to do research is not good. A great nation is built deliberately by taking appropriate actions to achieve the desired result.

anonimi:
Absence of MAINTENANCE culture won't kill us in this country
What will it take for the LGA in charge to organize regular and constant clean up exercise of the beach so they can have more visitors and their people make more money from which they can increase their IGR
Abi we need oyinbo wey get two heads to come and re-colonise us so these facilities are maintained ni?

We waste and abuse a lot of things in this country. I don't know why we don't have good business sense. That place could generate a lot of money if well maintained. Those in authority are only interested in oil money when there are other things that can generate good money.

It is high time we realised that our problems are our responsibility to solve. We are in this state today because we've been shifting responsibilities hoping that a 'messiah' will come from somewhere to solve them for us.

The landlady caused him damages worth 300,000 and ends up being given an OPTIONAL fine of 50,000?
I don't get it. Someone should please explain the maths and reasoning behind this.

I applaud the determination of the man behind innoson ventures. It's commendable.

koikoi2: There are thousands dat God has healed wen modern medicine failed to. I am a live witness to dat.

I personally don't dispute the facts of divine healing. The point is medical attention should not be ruled out. God is the source of all knowledge including medical knowledge. Let's take advantage of that knowledge when necessary.

ican2020:
But there are situations where hospitals will fail you.
Apart from going to the hospital, we can still get cure by changing our unhealthy habits

Like I pointed out, medicine does not have all the answers. And the bolded is true. Simply changing some habits places one on the path to good health. Thank you for your contribution.