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I'm just watching the drama unfold

Ok

Hmmm...

Season of types of people

We are waiting. But let there be transparency. Hope it will really contain the truth.

I've posted this on this forum before but let me repeat it here perhaps it might be of help. Try the following and you may not even have to get angry in the first place.

1. Talk Yourself out of being offended
In the heat of the moment, try asking yourself these questions:
“What am I getting so bent out of shape for? Does this really matter? What’s the big deal?” Reason with yourself: “Did he really mean it the way I perceived it? ‘’what is he really trying to say?”
Remember, the reason we usually feel offended/angry is because of the meaning we attach to what is said or done: “That means he really doesn’t care!” “She’s saying I am no good!” “I knew he didn’t really love me!” “She wouldn’t say that if she was …” And so the internal interpretation goes. So simply reframe it. Talk yourself out of the offense. Know that the person is simply expressing his opinion. You will be happier as you learn to talk yourself out of offence.

2. Reserve Judgment, don’t be quick to conclude. Delay your response
Delay judgment until the conversation has run its course. You just may find there is no offense to be had or nothing to be angry about by the time you get to the end.

3: Accept Imperfection

We all have foibles, idiosyncrasies and personality and character flaws. Yours just may be different than mine. So don’t hold on to the imperfections of others so tightly that you strangle yourself in the process!
Part of accepting others’ imperfections is also learning to forgive them their past mistakes (so the current problem isn’t blown out of proportion as an extension of a previous problem unresolved) Remember, people are imperfect. You are imperfect. Life is imperfect.

This is why it is not good to make quick conclusions until all the facts are available.

Good

Busy now. Be back later

Brb

Serious

Ok

Hmmm...

really?

politics

Good

We should all support this fight against terror but unfortunately some individuals have decided to play politics with the whole situation. Rather than unite against the menace, they have made up their mind to find fault with every step that is taken against these terrorists in an attempt to score political points.

Nobody is safe until we are all safe. Let's support the fight by encouraging those at the forefront of the battle.

goodluck

wow

If people go wild for being first to comment on a front page topic then I wonder what the thread owners/creators will do.
Funny as it may be, I think people should try to control their 'excitement'.
Being first to comment is playing second fiddle to the OP. Why not try to create an important and valuable topic that can be put on the homepage too.

Thinking...

noted

politics

This is not good

bad

Coming back

This boko haram is a cult with a large following. Anybody who subscribes to their philosophy can simply carry out acts in their name. That's why they don't seem to finish.

RIP

This promises to be interesting. I'll be back.

Hmmm...

Ebola will soon be history

Hmmm...