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yommys01:
I got married on Saturday 20th of February 2016. We were in an hotel till Monday, wanted us to stay longer but she refused saying she wants to go home ( that used to be my house).

Ever since we got home yesterday ( Monday), she has been crying. Called her mom, she prayed for her, my mom called her too and prayed for her.

She stopped crying for a while, we woke up with another round of crying this morning.

This is breaking my heart. I hate to cry as it often leads me to depression now I am close to tears myself.

I don't know if I have done something wrong or what to do. It is hurting as she cries.

When we were dating, she finds it difficult without her family for long " oh, I am already missing my dad, I am already missing my siblings" could this be the reason?

One day she came to mine from home as we have Dr appointment early and she lives in another state, she got to mine and 1 hour later she wanted to go home. "I am missing my dad sha" which got me annoyed then.

Could it be that the crying now is linked? She is 25 and I am 30 and we spent quite some time together before marriage. The fact we used to be together for so long makes it more confusing. This is a house she has always been in why the crying now?

It is hurting me. Badly and I am confused.

What do I do?

Oh well! She will get over it... If e too hard form your own cry too and see her response.

ruggedtimi:

Yes it could be a big deal depending on who the guy is to her.
If the guy is her brother fine, else....

SSpeter:
I have not been feeling too well lately, I visited a clinic. I took some drugs but it didn't alleviate the pain so the doctor referred me to a friend of his at the teaching hospital. I got info that the place is often crowded to I decided to leave home early so that I could still utilise the latter part of the day. When I arrived, they were people already waiting for the doc. We queued while sitting on a bench. I was the last person on the bench although we sat comfortably, that means the bench could still accommodate one more person with a degree of discomfort. Minutes later, A beautiful lady....really pretty....walks towards me and was about to use her buttocks to shove me inwards without uttering a word. Immediately I expanded my legs and gave her a slight push....Just as I looked the other way.....People on the bench didn't even blink someone sitting on the bench even hissed.......when she stood and couldn't find where to sit she walked away embarrassed .....later a guy came and was like....good morning can I join you? I was like sure...I dragged my buttocks a bit and we all squeezed ourselves while sitting on the bench. She came back and was walking aimlessly starring icily at me. I just fix my Ipod, blast music.
..........................I know some other ladies do these act too but no matter how pretty or beautiful you are if you lack courtesy, you are a pile of trash waiting for lawma!

Ladies and their enternal beef for finer ladies

Mavelshee:
It was on a sunday afternoon during this xmas holiday. My wife and I decided get a little kinky because honestly we havnt had some good actions for a really long time. So my wife asked Martha our nanny to take the kids to our neighbours house upstairs for some play time and bring them back by 6pm. Kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa we don comot cloth, kpo kpo kpo kpo kpo kpo we don start pre-intimacy, and that was when it happened oo....Our 10yrs old son just opened the door "mum can I have some....." and saw his mum leaning on the edge of the bed crying and his dad eating his mums buttoks. Lo and behold this little dude just paused and thereafter there was a big grin + disgust on his face. My wife hasn't stopped crying oo, mostly because she thinks this kind of scenerio can eff up kids chemistry n stuffs. Plus he now looks at me somehow whenever we are together. I hope he doesn't tell the others what he saw.

So please nairalanders how can I explain or brainwash my kid about what he saw that day.

Always lock your door with bolt or key no matter who's in or out. My son will definitely ask "Daddy what are you doing to mummy?"

guccidriver93k:
My boyfriend said I should buy him Gucci Driver shoes worth N93k when I am coming home for Christmas break, said he will give me the money when I come back. This is going to be the first time we will meet since we started our fragile relationship 9 months ago, we knew a bit in University few years ago.

Severally, I have told my boyfriend prior to now that I cannot afford it. Last before now, he said "but you can start saving now and you will get the money before your arrival". So this time, to be the virtuous girlfriend, I had to go all out and check up the prices for this shoe.
I think he assumes that because I am a self-sponsored student abroad, I am Dantata's love child.
Anytime i debunk this claim, he goes like "haba!" and

Wake up from thy slumber... He's a diamond digger

qualityovenbake:
Always spewing an ambiguous sentence with no frame of having an intrinsic or objective meaning; his vocabulary most times lacks definite structure or organisation.

You are wrong on that one, he uses his vocabulary in the right structure. Checkout those words and see the examples used then you will understand.

Omotola is very wrong on this one... If she did her NYSC she wouldn't use the word scrap. NYSC is a beautiful government initiative that simply needs some good welfare attention from the government.

Service oriented businesses go along with insults.

Benz anyday

jidesp:
I wish this makes FrontPage though

I just had to post this. I hope every employer and employee can learn from it and put their acts together and fulfil their obligations without prejudice..

I know because our people are far backward, even some so called educated people wouldn't dare learn anything outside their main, It is a bad idea doing that. Man must continue learning, it is the only way to keep whatever is Natural about man in existence, we must evolve.

Ooops sorry for taking your through my brooding. OK I want you any Employee to understand this due to a question raised so many times on Nairaland.

In Nigeria, If your boss strikes you, then he/she has committed assault and you need to file charges. Calmly call the police and file a report.

The police are likely to come and take a statement. If there is a great deal of evidence (mark on your face, a cut, witnesses to the event, etc) your boss will be arrested and taken to jail. You may be terminated; however most companies wouldn't dare to immediately fire an employee who was struck by a member of the management team. They would instead start an investigation, which would likely lead to the termination of the manager.

Even if the police do not arrest your employer, contact your HR department immediately. Tell them what occurred and strongly request that action be taken. Also, ask for the remainder of the day for personal reasons and contact an attorney. You may have the makings of a civil suit against both your boss as well as the company.

Do NOT hit your boss back. The urge to do so will be great, but you need to be the mature and professional person in this situation that your supervisor was not. Call the authorities and let them handle this.

I doubt if this will work in Naija since the boss is a friend to the police

biaka1994:
Please I just need your advice or advices which ever of them. I met my husband in 2013 things were going on well and sweet. We normally make love almost every minute of the day so much dat I got used to it. When we got married and I got pregnant my husband became so cold towards sex I thought maybe he was scared of my pregnancy. Some times i'll have to beg him to make love to me. After much begging he'll reluctantly do it. I gave birth and I thought things would change but it's all the same. I keep begging and begging I have just decided to be myself and take my mind of it. The only person I talk to is his cousin and have become so close to him that am beginning to lust after him he is married tho but he lives close to us. Just this evening I nearly kissed him and I felt so embarrassed. Please guys help me it's Getting out of hand. What do I do? Please no bashing we all are humans and we do silly things atimes.




Cc: Lalasticlala

Hi, please love your husband's cousin, kiss him, sex him up but ooops! Your husband will catch him and kill him, so who next to lust after?

Please sit down and talk things with your hubby jor, its possible you there's a reason he isn't giving you sex. Start with your hygiene and other related matters.

Girlie! Just try do am for your hubby... At least for a change in ten years, do it as a surprise for him and I BET YOU HE WILL GET YOU A LOVELY GIFT THE VERY NEXT DAY. Just try ehnn.... I get your point of view as per not liking it but then, just try like am small.

niyiguy:
The question "Is Having Sex As Couple Before Going To Church Godly Or UnGodly?" is posed to Married Couple, Pastors and Religious personnel.

I personally have heard several comments about issues of having sex as couple being Godly and Un-Godly.

I am throwing this question to all readers to kindly share your thoughts around the topic "Is Having Sex As Couple Before Going To Church Godly Or UnGodly?"

Being shy of commenting shouldn't be any issue, you can as well comment anonymously.

I wish to learn from your individual comments.

Happy Sunday

culled from: http://www.sharegist.com/happy-sunday-is-having-sex-as-couple-before-going-to-church-godly-or-ungodly/

It is very very Godly according to the bible, infact what is ungodly is denying any of the parties involved of sex

1Corinthians 7:1
Now as to the matters of which you wrote me. It is well [and by that I mean advantageous, expedient, profitable, and wholesome] for a man not to touch a woman [to cohabit with her] but to remain unmarried.
2 But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband.
3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband [has his rights]; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights].
5 Do not refuse and deprive and defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.

Elephone P5000 still beats this one:

Battery: 5350Mah

Camera: 16mp and 8mp front.

What else do you want lol?

BTW I'm rocking my Microsoft 640XL... very tight with no complains at all

Take her to the movies, liase with the movie personnel and have them splash the question "will you marry me, her name ?" Just after 10mins into the movie. Immediately the question pops, put ur hand into your popcorn bag and bring out the ring while on your knees. She will never forget the scene in a hurry

No! This is how you know someone has regular diarrhea. So simply needs comfort while releasing the pra pra pra thingy

clevvermind:
i was going through my sister's phone, and i saw indecency films. i just feel like smashing her head that moment. i just manage to hold myself. i was very angry with her cos i don't want her to be watching such things. i should be the only one watching such films. i don't want her to corrupt herself. she is just 20.
please, what should i do to her? what punishment should i give to her.

Advice her to follow your footsteps since you lead by example not by force

kilokeys:
same tinubu with the heavy mouth odor..

the trials and tribulations women go through in this life

are you for real? Have u kissed him before?

hi everyone,

The word of God is the final seal for any situation, laws God gave the Jews were to arouse their understanding to know that the wrong things they were doing were wrong before His eyes. Nevertheless, if we want to talk about this thread in view of the New Testament, we will have to check Romans 1, from verse 27.

Its better to read the whole chapter 1 to grasp the understanding of what led to this other verses.

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,

31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:

32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

Verse 32 is for those of you who don't practice these acts but commend those who practice them.

32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them

lagos360:
A friend has been into music for like eternity. He'd always sing for us (friends). He's an IT guy, not that he's making millions but fairly comfortable. He was into a very serious relationship last year and composed a song that he meant to be played on his wedding day. Unfortunately things went sour and the relationship was ended. He finished the song about two weeks ago. We convinced him to put it online and the response has been small but exciting. Thing is, he got an email, then a call from one of the current top 10 artist in the Nigerian music industry offering to buy the song for 5 Million naira cash.

Point is, cos of the response he's been getting from the song, he's thinking of recording an album. We've been talking of taking the songs to radio stations (we understand it's not going to be free and we could pull it off to get a fair amount of airplay).

I don't want to sound arrogant but 5M while quite an amount isn't enough I think. This song in question is the type of song that's just different and unique in its own way. I think my friend's song can shape his music career just like "African Queen" shaped 2Baba's career.

Can your friend sing? Possibly yes, does he have the clout to make the song sell for more than five million if he sings it? Maybe Yes/No. If he can sing and get 5 million then he should sell the song to the artist for a higher amount and then write another song and sing.

Not everyone who can write can sing and not everyone who can sing can sing enough to bring in money.

Most of the western musicians don't write their songs, they buy the songs they sing.

Wouldn't the same gas affect the Chibok girls if used? Just asking

Its interesting to know that the media is now making a celebrity out of the body guard.

A bigger celeb is gonna hire the guy soon lol

Has anyone got this phone? I'm seriously considering getting one but I wanna know if their battery claims are true.

If we can't categorically state that the afore mentioned are going to heaven then I wander who is going.

Small pikin go read your maths and English

IYADARA:
I have a six month old baby who watches keenly while hubby and I enjoy our 'quickies' but these days i get set back and often loose concentration because i feel someone is watching...hubby on his part would say babies at this stage understand nothing...?

Do you think is too early to start putting a break to such?

Did i mention walking naked most time is our routine?

When do babies start giving meanings to what they see?

Never let your kids watch you while having sex no matter how young.

My kid will just re-echo every sound heard us make if we allow him watch, his always like:
Daddy what are you doing to mummy any time I wanna hug

20 years of service in the army and you ended up as a sergeant. How? Abeg this story no tally at all.

The Borrowere

Please can I make use of your biro for a second? Second turn to minute to hours lol

ItsAnderson:
Good evening my lovely pals, pls I need your candid
advice, me & my finance are presently courting, also
getting ready to be together and I notice dis attitude of
staring at a man's biceps or chest whenever we are together. The
one that got me annoyed most was on Friday when
am together with her and her friend watching a movie,
suddenly they showed Iyanya Mr Oreo video and she quickly shouted “ah dis is big chest and sexy six packs o" I felt ashamed cuz I have flat chest
and not quite long I left d parlour to the room
thinking. Pls pals wht will be ur advice to me on dis
issue because am afraid of going into dis marriage wit
her cos of dis attitude. Thanks.

You are not her type. Ho!Ha!!

This is quite interesting... God visited her for her faith in Him.