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taryour:
true picture of a Good fearing man. Nice one, may God bless all responsible men who TRUELY loves their wives.

tearoses:
OP I advise that you do either one of these 2 things

1. Leave the car at the mechanics. Tell your brother that you cannot afford to repair the car
2. Repair the car, sell it straight away and buy a car that he cant use for Uber. Tell him you cant afford to maintain a Uber quality car

You only need to use this small car until you get married next year, after which you can buy what you want.

Its unlikely he will come to you a married woman and ask you to hand over your new car for Uber then.

Next do not and I repeat do not rent an apartment with the aim he will come and live with you and your husband

The best you can do for him is to pay for your current apartment until it expires after which its between him and your landlord. So let him know now so he can start making plans.

Sometimes we unwittingly enable people not to grow up and be irresponsible.
When you stop bailing him out, then he will have to grow up and take responsibility for his life
At 29 he is not a baby.

taryour:
SPEECHLESS. what I have in mind to tell you is harsh so make I just sit down dey look before them nairalander label me wicked.


but babe you try oo wahalai. I really commend you. God is your strength. that your elder brother ehen....

joseph1832:
OP permit me to say that's your uncle, some men wouldn't even blink about it, I mean they will say if she can hold her peace for 3 months, they see no reason why she can't hold her peace forever.

Your aunt was married to a man who reason and listens, otherwise, he wouldn't have stopped cheating.

Some cheating husbands see it as their god given right and talent to cheat on their wives, whether she is aware or not aware of it isn't their business.

I tell any girl who wants to get married to have it at the back of their mind that the man they're marrying may likely cheat on them, however, how they handle it goes a long way. The fear of God doesn't have anything to do with it, self control, yes.

9inches:
My oh my! Lord have mercy. Believe me, this girl was planted for this woman by her enemiiisss o I am trying so hard to see the coincidence in the whole setup.

Her mother in the village should be extremely careful while living with that girl. Orphanage home should have been better.

greatgod2012:
@op
you're supposed to have asked her before coming here. What did she say it's the problem. Leave NL now and go and ask your wife what the problem is, ask her why she treats you the way she does. Communicate, listen to her and reassure her. Your first point of contact when having marital problem is your spouse, not social forum. Nobody can know why your wife treats you as such, until you ask.

Please do have a heart to heart talk with her. You might find some answers and be willing to work it out with her.
The success of every marriage comes from both party involve.

Also, I will advice you like a page on Facebook called AMARA VAN LARE. You will be glad you did.


GO AND COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR WIFE.

postmann:
I commend your intentions trying to motivate women to be hardworking, but why abuse that poor woman's privacy putting up her pic on Africa's biggest forum without her consent? You even knew she might object so you did it without her knowing.

Whatever spurred your otherwise good intention has been tainted by the evil of insensitivity and lack of respect for her
You better blur her face with a software or go back and tell her what you did and get her permission.

PinkBarbie:
I saw this on Facebook

So I heard this fine lady bagged a doctorate degree and knelt to publicly thank her husband for his support and some people are running a commentary in condemnation.
Most of the comments I read are from fellow women, married, single, abused, happy....
I shake my head!
Oh I really do.
Most of the people taking her to the cleaners are the same ones who will kneel for their bosses at work or even their benefactors.
They are the ones who will go down on their knees for sycophancy purposes.
People, especially our fellow ladies probably do not know what it means to have a supportive husband, so I will excuse them.
They probably don't know what it feels like when your husband pushes, prods and takes you to your zenith, so I will excuse them.
They probably don't know what it feels like when your husband is not intimidated by your success in life, so I will excuse them.
Do they know what it feels like when a husband choses to invest in his wife instead of buying a new car or a new house?
Okay, let us peep into the flip door.
Many women have potentials but can not maximise them because their husbands have caged them.
Many cannot go to school or further their education. Many more cannot even take up an employment. Many live in fear
So many are abused. A few have been killed.
Hhhmmmmmm!
You won't just understand the adoration and indescribable feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment the woman in the picture must have felt. She probably didn't even know when or how she did this, it must have been a reflex reaction to a well - deserving man.
I have a friend who is always speaking good about her man. She praises him to the high heavens, tells me how supportive he is, how he is a father indeed and how he is such a shinning example, he makes her happy and fulfilled :so many good reports. Now, I don't get to hear this often. I hear the flip side more. Last year in the UK, they came to visit me. I held his hands and didn't know (please note the fact that I said I didn't know) when I knelt to thank him. I prayed for him and introduced him to my hosts.
One of the comments I read said something like '' she should have just pecked (What's that abeg?) him or given him a kiss. . " and my reaction is" What's our business really in the way a woman chooses to appreciate a deserving man? ".
See, ehn, we too dey form. We too dey form abeg. Haba!
These same ladies forming 'britico' on social media kneel to greet other men. Anyways, my conclusion is drawn. If your man is trully deserving, if you are trully the Daughter of your mother, you will appreciate your man if he deserves to. You may not kneel, you may not kiss him, you may not hug him, but you will appreciate him, even if you have to do that publicly!
Like I always say, if your mam is not getting your respect and other men are, then something is fundamentally wrong, not necessarily with you, but maybe, with your relationship.
Leave this woman alone abeg!!!
She's got beauty. She's got brains (PhD no be beans o) and she's got a good character to tops!
#nuffsaid

shaiba:
I'm happy for you, taking a step in the right direction.

Relationships of any kind is to help each other's weakness.

She may have some underlying pains that tends to trigger this anger, like you said she lost both parents and was abandoned by her brothers and sisters due to change of religion. What type of religion would separate a family? Has she tried to re-unit with them? They are the ones that will still give her out in marriage according to custom. What step has she/u taken to resolve this?

She has not enjoyed parental love or that kind of family love? This she found in you. She is lost and frustrated at the same time. You need to talk more about everything and anything. let her know you are ready to listen and not try to solve all her problems. You are now her father and mother.

As Christians, your foundation should be in the word of God. There are great prophets of God that lost out in God's Blessings because of anger.
Two can only walk together if they agree...

You should both go for counseling

See a therapist if need be.

Think, talk, pray and talk again.

I pray God to help you both in taking the right decision.

gassdon:
She is initiating her into the marine world

Tomorrow she will start to complain about her daughter behaviours

nickxtra:
I doubt if any mother can beat my mum to her honesty and sincerity. Since I have grown up into man and by the grace of Almighty God, capable of fending for my self, my family, my mum and by extension other immediate family members, my mother has not stopped amazing me. Though, I have placed her on a monthly stipend, just as I am receiving salary here, I deduct my tithe and my mum's stipend is the next thing I set aside, without prejudice to that of my marital home care(my wife and kids), the last time I sent her money was in December, for the end of year/new year celebrations and since then, I have not sent a kobo to her, not because I did not want to, but because of the new year/January financial situation. I got my January pay today, set aside my tithe and decided to call my mum to ask her whose account number I will pay her stipend to, amazingly mum told me that she HAS ENOUGH MONEY with her and that I should not send any money. Interestingly, she said she has been worried how I and my family would be coping now because of the economic situation in the country, particularly for us living in Abuja. I told her not to worry that it is all well with me and my family here, but she insisted that she will not collect it. I have to tell that if she does not collect the money, it suggests that she is angry with me, but she said no, that she thinks about our welfare first. You know what, I have told her that I will send the money, and she can do charity with it if she does not want. My office Assistant has gone to pay the money to her. In fact, am proud of my sweet mother and it is my prayers that all mums and our wives out there become more sincere to you all. Amen.

seunfape:
all Delta ladies are like man.

Tallesty1:
You don't value your life bro