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akinsal:
Hmmmmmmm... My People. Let us not decieve ourselves Long distance relationship isnt it @ all...........................

It depends on the kind of person u are in with if its a student den u stand d risk having terrible experiences.
It demands the commitment of two persons who are genuinely in love with each other.

I think i practised something like that i started my first relationship with a LDR that lasted close to a Yr and mayb because it was my first nd serious one and i but in my best to make it work despite d fact that i knew ladies dis dayz cant b trusted. I NEVER double dated for once just becos i felt ''Kamar'' exist. It started well sort off but @ a point it seemed d other party started showing some funny attitudes and behaviour. However i tried to using calls as a means to ensure i feel the gap afterall i wernt even the one who went on a distance away from her however it seemed i was a torn in the neck. I even went up to the extent of sending recharge cards so as to let her also do the calling but it didnt work out. And when i ask she will say no credit but @ a point i used a friend number to flash her line and i was amazed she cald back to know who was calling. dat alone made me go into shock for dayz. But i dont have a problem with someone who tells me they dont have call credit cos if the person really worth it i will willingly send the card as many times as possible.

I also tried to spice it up by introducing questions during our chat but to the other person it was like an interogative relationship coupled with d fact that she easily picks offences and would really appreciate i dont call. Attimes she will b online but will not decide to say even a "Hello" @ a point i decided not to chat her nor call for about 5 days and dis lady didnt borther asking by the time i came back and i complained i was amazed she told me she never noticed i wasnt online.

Each time she was around she wouldnt even give any time for us to see and discuss certain issues face to face. she either give excuses of sickness and all what not.


I do tell her this LDR demands steady communication from both parties all the time but she neva bulged.


@ d end when i started complaining so she will know my likes and dislikes and d next thing she said was i abuse her emotionally.

It was then i started analysing my life that if i decide to endure dis what if in future it starts all over or even worst than this? ppl will tell me shey u see am b4 u buy market. bsides i wont like to b with a secretive person cos such person is capable of poisoning someone altho im also an introvert but i can b comfortable being an extrovert when within my comfort zone.

Thank God it was a "No Sex not even a perk or kiss" relationship


In all i may not know her side of the story. neither do i blame her for it cos she may have her own side of the story but i av learnt so many lessons from it.

I still strongly believe there is something she is hidding from me she doesnt want me to know. perharps dats d reason for her actions.


So my Ppl im not discouraging anyone who wants to practise it cos what doesnt work for someone may actually work for other persons
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My story is a lot like urs

AbuMaryam1:
May ur days be long.