₦airaland Forum

Klass99:
It is not for me - that is what I think of that lifestyle.

What people don't understand about this baby daddy trend and lifestyle is that, you still end up paying bills as if you were in a married relationship. So, why not just marry each other and make it right in God's sight? As in, choose a path God can bless.

A nairalander shared his personal story last year. From his narrative I didn't see the difference between paying bills in a legal marriage and paying bills relating to his baby mama/child.

He was paying the house rent, school fees, sending a monthly allowance for both mother and child, had bought her a car too (if I remember correctly) and I thought to myself, this is no different from what a married man would do for his wife and kids.

According to him, he had always planned on marrying her but marriage hadn't happened, so the baby mama lifestyle began and continued. His intentions may explain why he was doing all that he was, but the fact is - it is still the same lifestyle we are discussing nah.

The only difference would be the fact that the adults involved are not married and they may not be responsible for assisting in-laws. But, even the latter is almost inevitable once a child is involved.

Will you not gift something to the grandmother or grandfather, who occasionally chips in to help with your child? Or the aunty or uncle who is kind enough to watch them when the parents can't or whom may occasionally treat your child to nice things?

Not surprised that it's coming from a woman.
Back to the topic, op I would advice u to make a friend with that your neighbour. He is enjoying this life to the fullest, compare him with any other man or men around u with wives, u will see that the difference is clear.
just ask him how he did it and how he's being managing the whole stuff. Personally this is the best way to have peace of mind.
forget about any preaching from women, marriage only favours them.

larrybabanla:
See their mpkuru mmiri heads, they disturb a lot, especially at alakija bus stop at night

Exactly meth head, before opening the thread, I know it must be western boys, wey lazy like no morrow

DrFunmisticGlow:
your resort to blaming and gaslighting when you run out of excuses, just like ADAM did.

I have never had anything to prove to any female gender neither will I have something to prove.
It's only online I give female gender attention.offline I'm just me and my homies

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DrFunmisticGlow:
At least we don't deceive ourselves the way you men do. You guys think you are God's gift to women since sliced bread.

Who's talking about deceit here? God did not marry nor whad any girl friend, his only son did not marry nor any girl friend, then their rivalry being the Satan did not marry nor any girl friend and they are or were all fine and did their things well.
The world would have being a better place if not women that brought the calamity and all thanks to the chief SIMPSON ADAM

DrFunmisticGlow:
it's not just once they're cool, it's once they see that girls are not longer getting interested in their games, once girls start running away because their bio raises too many red flags. Once their fertility drops and erectile dysfunction starts to set in. Once they start having hypertension, diabetes and heart disease.

They will be ready to settle once their are near their best before date. They start acting with sense since they are on discount.

Aunty preacher, see how u analyzed everything as if its only men that suffer the listed ailments. Women are prone to those ailments more than men. So say another thing jare

Havilaah1:
Well done oga Emmanuel, so because i choose not to have multiple guys at the same time makes me old abi.
Mind you I'm not even close to what you mentioned

Sorry aunty Havilaah1 if my comment really offended u, but it is what it is.

Bankyshinani:
Yes you are right

Ogbeni, nothing sweet pass peace of mind ohhhh, never u jeopardise your joy, happiness and peace to any thing, including wife.
Best u can do is to use your spare time and find any side hustle to add, since u are the manager

frozen70:
It's obvious you do t just like relating with people and you don't see why you have to, but let me put somethings right to you

As a matter of fact, that you and your guy loves yourselves is not enough reason to carry on, family or no family

As it is now, your guy could get another lady that is head over heals I've his family and the family may advise him to drop you that you don't relate the wah this babe does. No matter your bond, he will follow his family, do you know why ?

Non of his family members can fight for you because you don't relate with them so they don't connect with you

If for example you have issues with your guy in this marriage, they will never stand with you because you didn't come close to them for them to understand you

Lastly they have concluded that you are not friendly and it's possible you will teach your children same way and those children may grow up not relating with their cousin's simply because you don't interact with their parents

Make sure your read the above post again and again and use it to guide yourself

Family is everything and no sensible one jokes their's

Comment from a very sensible woman

pickatyoubackup:
Na mumu advice be this. It ur opinion but still foolish.
You don't have relationship with a family y r stepping into, if things go south, how u wan take handle am. Things can't be rosy all the time. And family is always there for a reason.

Don't mind All these indomie generation. They thought that marriage is all about husband and wife,

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

my niggar is back again and again

bigpicture001:
Babe I can say from my inner most experience: he is not seeing anyone else, but is drunk of entitlement... Such happens wen someone becms too sure for u.. just watch him.. if he continues unabated.. giv him space..

If it still doesn't work, den still be there but change language like start to talk about a guy disturbing for marriage... Make it real. If he sees competition, he will sit up..

People don't value things without fighting for it

MIND U, U ARE NOT TALKING TO A GIRL OF 20YEARS HERE. This is a lady in her late 30s

Davash222:
You expected him to choose a GIRLFRIEND over his family?
Girlfriend he might be sharing with Dem Boys

Don't mind the niggar jare, family any day anytime.
which nonsense girl friend

Bankyshinani:
90k +overtime=130k

Lebanese company kwa?
Bia this is very very dicey, bcs working for lebanese Chinese and Indians companies requires a lot, mental and physical strength.
Check the security of the two jobs

ChiefSosa:
Trust me, this thread may not even get to 3 pages, because these attacks are now normal. It's even hard to feel sorry for Northerners.

Which sorry, better save your sorry for people that worth it, North does not deserve any pity bcs this is what they all brought upon themselves.
this news just dey sweet my belle, next time they would never support evil and blood tasty man as a president.

The head Economic Team of the lifeless one is who again?
We have SAN as a VP yet their is no freedom of speech and expression
His kinsmen are seeking refuge in Benin Republic.

U didn't state your salary at their other company,
U were sacked for something u knew nothing about and now they are calling u back. U gat to man up,

Today sit at home, tomorrow holiday. See better cruising for East ndi one Nigeria go wa. Kill themselves over this matter

This is a welcome development, we need more of this all over the North.
I throway salute to all ISWAP FREEDOM FIGHTERS FOR THY REWARDS IN HEAVEN WITH 72 VIRGINS.
RESPECT TO ALL ISWAP FIGHTERS, MAY BULLETS NEVER FINISH IN YOUR GUNS AND ARMS.
KEEPING SECURING THE NORTH TILL ETERNITY.

Foodqueen:
No, I don't think so.

Every family have their ish from time to time and settles without any outsider knowing.

There are some things she may just want to joke about but she can't cos her sis-in- luv might get read meanings to it.

She misses her space.

We are talking about selfish and self centered human being here.
From everything she wrote, it was all about the sister inlaw, I know her type

mrblessed:
Ah, your sister-in-law is the replica of the devil himself. Mr. Malami needs to take a crash course from you on how to professionally defame a person that going to the court of law won't be necessary. How can a person appear completely useless, just because you are obsessed with throwing her out of your house? I am cocksure if she were your sister, you wouldn't be so crass and indifferent in painting her bad.

It's same people, same story. You know the talk about how to easily hang a dog, just give it a bad name. Sadly for you, your husband has seen beyond your infantile territorial wrangling, and should be commended for ignoring you.

I never knew that we still have men with guts like u. I salute u sir, women are damn selfish and op is too selfish and self centered

Foodqueen:
Op, for her to have lived with you for two years with all these characters means that u have tolerated her enough and indeed you are a good person.

She's really comfortable in her space, that's why she isn't planning to move.

Marriage na wa!!

Op just painted everything in a way that will favour her. From her statement, read the line very well, "that the husband family now knows what's going on bcs of the said sister inlaw" this shows that op has attitude

I doubt it, just 1% of them, their is no reflection of meditation in their diaries.

SmartPolician:
Crude oil will still be useful in the next 30 years. The only challenge is that the demand for it will drop significantly. Remember, crude oil can be refined into many different substances that are used to run engines and those substituents don't have substitutes yet.

U are right nnam, but with the advancement of solar/inverter, electric cars etc, do u think that the demand for oil most especially PMS (fuel) would still be in high demand?

Ja rule still looks cool with his age.
dmx (RIP), Ja rule, Jay z, eve of destruction and lol cool j the badass of rough riders

IMAliyu2:
I'd say the problem with traditional medicine is that it's shrouded in mystery and secrecy.
We as Africans need to demystify it, and create a method of finding which treatments are effective and separate it from the harmful and non-effective ones.

U are absolutely correct baba

Op expect all these vagina people to consul u

kowalsky:
Lol. This is how you guys will go around committing murder and beating your chest about it.

Better do what you were taught in physiotherapy school and leave diabetes management to trained doctors

I'm not trying to wave out orthodox medication, I was only trying to tell people about the efficacy of our traditional medicines.

Slymking:
Oga stop deceiving your own self na, u for just kuku say in the next 24hrs na,

So all the vehicles and all that using petrol and also plane,gas, diesel would be thrown inside ur pocket abi?

I always wander how you people just imagine things and lie about it, even oyinbo still dey do petrol cars and even if them do electronic cars no fuel them go still take service am?


If truly oil is going then it definitely not anytime soon stop your fake misappropriate news out of imagination

I'm not trying to be a carrier of bad news, but it is what it is.
maybe u have not being following business,. Let me ask u this simple question and I really need an honest answer,. Why was petrol sold below 28 dollars during the era 9f covid?

Grandmeister:
We're talking about snake bites here not diabetes! Even oyibo people still advise us to always take fruits and vegetables so what are you saying? It is ironic that a country situated in the snake belt of the world still depends on antivenoms from outside the continent! That's fvcking crazy! That means a bite from a puff adder for examplee is a death sentence.

Only digress a bit to phantom his point sir. From his comment, he emphasised a situation where their is no medical help, that we can use our local way