₦airaland Forum

harmless011:
120km/hr is not over speeding, on a normal road I don't do less than 140km/hr and I don't feel like I'm on top speed. If u can't control a vehicle comfortable at 120km/hr then your driving license should be revoked.

Smh.. this is how we talk with emotions and make little sense. This comment should not have been made as it might mislead some people.

chesterlee:
Only an Afonja!

Una nor dey tire for this nonsense? Ha!
Too much time and energy for irrelevant things.

somehow:
Homeboiy:
Check their names

158 from IBO

79 from DELTA

and 21 from other states

qoute me make trailer jam u

Mr. Man you even sell shipping services and yet participate in these childish exchanges online. What impression do you want people to have of you when they check your signature and read your posts? SMH on this grand scale foo*lishness all over the place

emandman:
While not supporting the treatment metted to him, but the question is are we sure of what he DID?

Even if he committed murder the point is - why almost kill a man who is down already? Even if he's the most wanted criminal we can all see that he's subdued! Just cuff him and lead him away if he's constituting a nuisance! That is how it is done everywhere sane humans live.
A lot is wrong with the people of this country.. we need help ASAP! This is an eyesore and it is barbaric.

zainabicy:
Op, this 1000 naira insurance , wey we dey do for Vio office ?

Is it any good ?

It's typed and all, your name printed on it an all...

N1000 Insurance? That's certainly fake.. popularly known as "police pass". No genuine Insurance Company will sell an original policy for 1k. Even original third party insurance cover goes for N5000 at the moment.

You'll realize how fake it is when it's time for claims. These fake policies are sold by criminals lurking around VIO offices and I often wonder why they are not apprehended if not that... your guess is as good as mine*

I suggest you only renew your vehicle license and road worthiness in those offices and proceed to buy your insurance from the main insurance companies, their agents, your trusted agents or make use of free insurance quote services online.

UNIQUEISRAEL:
Increase fuel price, and God will continually strengthens me to buy...

No one can kill me for this trivial matters.

..and guess that's all that matter

What about the many others who can no longer afford to buy? Or is it just about YOU?

My people sef..

Location is Lagos.. Thanks.

A fast growing Digital Insurance Agency urgently requires the service of administrative assistants. Successful candidates will have to work from home (with a laptop and a working phone).

Job Requirements:

1. Very good command of English Language.
2. Between the ages of 18 and 26 is preferable.

** This is most suitable for students on IT and graduates on NYSC.


Job Description:

1. Receive Leads on phone/laptop and help customers to close insurance sales.
2. Receive phone calls from customers/insurance searchers who desperately need insurance.
3. Follow up on customers who request to be called at a later date.
4. Connect customers/insurance shoppers with insurance providers and ensure that all sales transactions are concluded and logged as and when due.

Note: You do not need to market anyone as our leads comprise of insurance shoppers who have indicated interest directly via one of our digital web properties.

Apart from your salary, the company will recharge your phone every month with call credit (fixed per month), but you will need to possess a laptop and a smart phone.


Kindly send all applications/cover letters to [now expired.. Thanks]. Closing date is 8th October 2016.

Modified:
This opening is now closed.. Applications received are being worked on and successful candidates will be contacted. Thank you.

GossipHeart:
What works for him will not work for you.
There is what is called destiny

I'm the laziest person on earth, but when i was a kid i knew i would be a millionaire, i use to tell my friends then that even if i sleep for 60 years straight without working that im destined to be rich, i eventually became a millionaire at the age of 22 without working for no one for a single day, that's destiny

If hard work guarantees success barrow pushers, brick layers, bus drivers would be billionaires because those guys grinds and works harder than everyone in this world

The fact that people actually liked this post means there's a lot wrong with my people. This is an example of what NOT to post let alone 'like'. SMH!

Donkenzy47:
Thank you very much much, but from some informations i got online, godaddy has one of the worst hosting reviews online. they seem to only be good in domain name registrafion.

Hey man, well for me time shall tell.. I decided to move my sites to Godaddy hosting because of the reviews I got from other big users including my company's developer. I think online reviews can sometimes be deceptive as affiliates try to hype their offers berate others to make money.

Only time shall tell whether or not I made the right choice - though it's been great so far in the last couple of weeks. Breaking free from bluehost's frequent downtimes was a huge relief for me.

I've been with bluehost since 2009 (vps hosting) but had to abandon them recently for godaddy due to several recent process hang and other uptime issues.

I also have about 6 websites hosted at whogohost and so far the performance has been above average for the past 2+ years. If I were you I'd stay away from bluehost for now unless you want to do shared hosting.

Tvegas:
What a wicked world we live in. If the lady could do that then she could have poisoned him in the future. let him see the cup as half full. He should clear his name in the law courts and move on.

Sure thing! The gist is getting stale sef..

One of the "best" pieces I've seen here in a long time.. thank you!

The official website of the National Health Insurance Scheme (NHIS) in Nigeria http://www.nhis.gov.ng/ has been hacked as at this morning by the so called 'Turkish Cyber Army'..

Wondering why many of the official Nigerian Government owned and regulated sites are easy targets for hackers who seem to succeed many times. See picture below:

In case you haven't seen this.. It's gonna make you laugh for sure:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQHFsH2xMRE

Awww so touching! A four year old already knows there's a dangerous metal (gun) that everyone dreads.

She must have seen and witnessed a lot..

zeya:
He was hasty to resign but like you said, guess he too has already planned out everything and he was doing all in his power to salvage the situation. When one wants to save his/her relationship, the person goes extra mile to do so without even thinking straight. It'll be difficult for him now but with time he'll conquer and get over it. The lady wasn't really for marriage.

I sent you email, maybe we can chat or talk outside the forum.

Sure.. Sent a reply.

mutter:
Anyway why should someone quit his job before getting a visa!
INFACT before even going to the UK to see if he can imagine living there?

Also would like to know how your friend thinks he can contest a divorce.
She does into want again. That is the end of the story.

Yes the lady probably got pregnant for someone who abandoned her, that is common in the UK but children are a gift from God.

I don't think you should judge any of his actions then.. The risky and hasty actions he almost took then was in a bid to save his marriage, that I can understand. It's difficult to think straight at such times. Pray not to find yourself in such a position, but maybe only then can you understand.

As per contesting a divorce, the idea was not to force himself to stay but to counter all the allegations against him with proof so everyone can see who the real looser is. All the allegations of the complainant were 100% false! He was gonna let her go anyways but that will be after clearing his name somehow. At the moment he has decided to let go fully as it's not worth his energy.

As for a married woman getting pregnant for someone else in the UK.. You sound like it's a very normal thing and we should therefore not raise an eyebrow. I beg to differ.

##UPDATE AS AT FEBRUARY 2015##

My friend lost his mother earlier this year and as I write, the burial arrangement have been concluded.. The ever caring mother had been thinking a lot about his son, praying and reassuring him that everything will be fine again.. Little did we know that she was preparing to meet with her maker.

My friend met with me last weekend to give me some interesting updates. The pastor of the church where my friend was joined in holy matrimony with his wife suddenly called him that he needed to speak urgently with my friend and pleaded with him to find time and come see him. Upon meeting with the pastor he was given the shock of his life! His wife had been pregnant for someone else all along and had given birth to a baby sometime in November last year in the UK (meaning she got pregnant around February last year). How did the Pastor get to know? My friend's mother in-law came to the church moments back to see the pastor, crying and absolving herself of every guilt. According to her, her daughter in the UK was already depressed, crying that she had messed up her life.

Consequently, the Pastor apologized to my friend for believing his wife and her mother all along without considering his own side of the story. He begged him to return to his church and also pleaded with him not to drag the divorce case with the wife in court as it's not worth the stress at all. Finally, the pastor opened up to my friend on all the allegations laid in the past against him. My friend told me he was so dumbfounded that he immediately went on his kneels, placed a curse on himself if the allegations are true, and then proceeded to place a curse on his wife that she would never find true love again if the allegations are false.

I had to stop my passionate friend and persuaded him to concentrate on giving his late mother a befitting burial and forget about the woman as she's not worth his time and energy.. We had put one plus one together to finally see the reasons why his wife suddenly started misbehaving (late 2013), refused to return to the country, lied against her husband and started the divorce proceedings against him.

Things are indeed happening! I wouldn't have believed this if I hadn't witnessed most of it live..

Kimoni:
I got some issues with this post -

1. Why would the man resign when his visa application has not been granted? Who does that in this age? Even the embassy will tell you not to buy your ticket until your visa is approved.

2. Why would the girl, as smart as she is supposed to be, tell lies that carry no weight and can be easily verified? The one that baffles me most is saying you came to Nigeria to look for him but he had relocated. Isn't that easily verifiable from her passport??

Finding it hard to believe this story!

Dude, not everyone will come online and type a pretty long epistle for the sake of deceiving people. It's unfortunate I didn't come online to reply you on time and now your fellow 'doubters' have started leaving their signatures on this thread.

Now to answer your questions, when the guy resigned from his current work I asked him the same questions.. Why would anyone resign his job to seek out another option that wasn't even close to sure? he simply rubbed it off telling me him and his wife already have it all worked out! Well I guess I'm not supposed to probe at this supposed secret arrangement especially given his unusual confidence at the time. One thing I noticed however is that shortly after the Visa application failed (within 2 months) he was already on another job! I have a feeling he had another arrangement in place in case the visa application failed. He's pretty connected anyway.. I haven't really seen him out of job for a long time since I met him.

As for the second question, the girl obviously hurriedly prepared the divorce letter in connivance with his mother without thinking it through properly. I would have doubted the guy if I didn't see the letter myself. This was why I asked him to counter the allegations of this babe in court and follow it through to conclusion since he has all the required evidence to nail her totally! One thing though, the divorce letter was dated June xx 2014 while the guy received it in November 2014. It's possible that the original game plan was to make it appear as if the letter was sent long ago but the hubby had refused to acknowledge receipt or respond. Whichever lawyer the babe and her mother used to prepare that document was probably interested in getting paid and not in helping them put together a powerful argument. I haven't seen the guy in a few weeks now (he traveled outta Lagos) but of course when we see again I'm sure there will be a whole new update on the matter.

@ All, Thanks for all your responses.. I'm kinda busy and will not be able to follow this thread bumper to bumper as expected. I will however try as much as possible to respond and update y'all as much as I can.

The story I'm about to share here is first hand and real.. Happened to one of my closest pals of 7 years. I'll try as much as possible to make this brief by taking off all the unnecessary details. Please read on..

We all became good friends during our service year back in 2007. Ours was an imaginary clique of big boys and babes (of course in our minds ). The subject of my story met a girl back in camp whom he loved a lot. We all had mad fun back in camp but the story changed when he met this particular one. He chased vigorously after her and when both of them were posted to the same place of primary assignment, they both fell in love and became inseparable. They would do everything and go to everywhere together. In fact they practically became live-in lovers throughout the service year . I had my reservations on the first day I met this babe though, for some reason my spirit just did not approve of her and I discussed this with some of my friends. Well since I wasn't the one involved with her then it's none of my business really. I decided to give my friend the needed 100% support .

Four years down the line after NYSC both of them were still live in lovers here in Lagos. Both of them worked in big companies and were doing fine. As fate would have it some of the old NYSC clique still lived close to each other even here in Lagos. Sometimes this intending couple would visit me and the babe would proceed to the kitchen to fix us some good home made lunch while I discuss work and business with my friend.

One beautiful afternoon we were all together 'gisting' when they broke the good news that they were getting married and I would be their best man. I had to accept theirs even though I had decided not to do the best man thingy anymore. I was very happy for them as I've been expecting the good news. Less than 6 months later they had completed all the traditional marriage rites, together with church and court wedding. This was the beginning of a new chapter in their lives, but a bad one so to say. The wife had always wanted to do her masters degree programme in the UK and both of them had agreed that she would travel a few months after the wedding for her masters. He would visit her as often as he can while they would start a family proper after she returns fully from Jand.

That was the last time he would ever set his eyes on her..

Just 8 Months after she left they started having problems.. The wife was telling the husband to resign his work in Lagos and join her in the UK. The guy thought it that was a joke but she was dead serious. Guy was devastated after she refused to change her mind. This guy then decided to resign and apply for Visa if that would win his wife over. Unfortunately his visa application was denied and there was nothing he could do. We all felt for him. The bigger blow came weeks after when the so called wife instructed the husband to move on with his life as she has decided to go for another Masters upon completing the current one. And that's not all, after the 2 masters degree program she would then go for her doctorate degree. This guy nearly died upon knowing that his wife and best friend of 5 years+ might have played him big time!! She changed her phone number, deleted her FB profile and completely stopped receiving calls from anyone who is not in support of her selfish plans .

Just last month the guy received a divorce letter from his Wife, sent through her mother and below were her reasons for divorcing him:

Reason 1: Irreparable breakdown of communication. According to her they have not communicated since 2012.
This is a blatant lie . The guy had made photocopies of their email correspondence during the first 8 months when the going was good.

Reason 2: There were allegations of Extortion. The Wife had complained in the divorce letter that the guy coerced her into working in the UK so she can be sending him money.
To counter this claim the guy was able to retrieve all the tellers that would serve as proof of all the cash this guy has been sending to this babe. I saw the tellers myself and was shocked to say the least !

Reason 3: Change of matrimonial Home Address. According to the wife, she returned to Nigeria to find that the husband had relocated without letting her know about his new whereabouts. She had to return to the UK after this shocking discovery.
Another lie as the guy has not relocated for the past 4 years he's been working in Lagos .

The guy has been discussing with his Lawyer on whether to let her go without a fight or to counter her claims in court and prolong the whole proceedings. Whatever happens, he has decided to let her go and she's not worth having as a wife (he just realized this). Take note of the following extras:

A. The girl's mum had been a huge cause for concern to this guy from the very beginning. According to him, the girl's mum is both selfish and very demanding. He had to overlook this after the so called wife cajoled him to ignore her mother since he wasn't getting married to her.

B. Talking about physical appearance, the guy is five times finer than the wife. Frankly speaking .

C. The girl's special clique of friends (from her primary school days) is composed of about 6 beautiful Ladies, all over 30 years of age and none of them is married. The last time I spoke to one of the girls who happens to be an old friend, she told me she supported her friend's decision to divorce if that's what she wants .


Nairalanders, apologies for the lengthy epistle and thanks for reading. What is your take on this matter?


##UPDATE AS AT FEBRUARY 2015##

My friend lost his mother earlier this year and as I write, the burial arrangements have been concluded.. The ever caring mother had been thinking a lot about his son, praying and reassuring him that everything will be fine again.. Little did we know that she was preparing to meet with her maker .

My friend met with me last weekend to give me some interesting updates. The pastor of the church where my friend was joined in holy matrimony with his wife suddenly called him that he needed to speak urgently with my friend and pleaded with him to find time and come see him. Upon meeting with the pastor he was given the shock of his life! His wife had been pregnant for someone else all along and had given birth to a baby sometime in November last year in the UK (meaning she got pregnant around February last year). How did the Pastor get to know? My friend's mother in-law came to the church moments back to see the pastor, crying and absolving herself of every guilt. According to her, her daughter in the UK was already depressed, crying that she had messed up her life .

Consequently, the Pastor apologized to my friend for believing his wife and her mother all along without considering his own side of the story. He begged him to return to his church and also pleaded with him not to drag the divorce case with the wife in court as it's not worth the stress at all. Finally, the pastor opened up to my friend on all the allegations laid in the past against him. My friend told me he was so dumbfounded that he immediately went on his kneels, placed a curse on himself if the allegations are true, and then proceeded to place a curse on his wife that she would never find true love again if the allegations are false.

I had to stop my passionate friend and persuaded him to concentrate on giving his late mother a befitting burial and forget about the woman as she's not worth his time and energy.. We had put one plus one together to finally see the reasons why his wife suddenly started misbehaving (late 2013), refused to return to the country, lied against her husband and started the divorce proceedings against him .

Things are indeed happening! I wouldn't have believed this if I hadn't witnessed most of it live..

Very sad.. felt like I was watching 'banged up abroad' on National geographic channel.

The left hand sleeve in pic 2 is folded half way, unlike pic 1.
The blue shoe on the first pic has a higher sole.
Rihanna is wearing a necklace in pic 1 and none in pic 2.

Booty butt chic: Haa.so sad...op it is well....I rememba I had a friend back dem whose parents were both AS ...and deir first two children,she and her broda weren't SS at all.......dey are so healthy....d parents just stopped at dat point o,no more babies cos d first two were like miracles 2 dem already

Hmm... You know that is not a risk many are willing to take these days. Funny enough the risk of having an SS is just 25% but many would rather not try at all. There are also a couple of medical related remedies here and there for people in my shoes, but for the kind of society we live in...

Kemzie victor: I can imagine how u felt. When a man is ready to settle down and has done everything right n everything starts crumbling all of a sudden.it can b so frustrating n depressing.

What I'll say is:1) if medically it ain't gonna work due to d AS thing,den call it quits. 2)if u both go ahead n wed,heard a cure for sickle cell has been found n I believe in less than 5 to 10 years,it should b in Nigeria. 3 )May God help you in either decision u make above

Thanks Victor, that was a soothing response and I appreciate your comment. Heard there's a cure for it and I'm still gathering information on that development.

Still weighing all my options..

alutacontinua: As per the AS part, u guys have a few options:
Adopt a child
As soon as you get pregnant, get tests done, if it's in d negative, you terminate it! Hopefully, you might get two dt would be fine!

If I were to meet a guy who I love sooooooooooo much, I might not mibd the first option! However, whatever you do, don't bring a child to suffer in this present world!


As per the violence part, don't blame it on your frustrations, violence is violence! It's in you, deal with it! Well, except you can tell me that if you get too frustrated, you'll lat tour hands on your mother and come back to apologize! If the answer to that is 'NO', jut take your blames and deal with your anger issues! Don't blame it on any frustration, she didn't make you 'AS', if you needed to beat someone, you should have slapped yourself!

I sincerely and really hope she doesn't come back, if she were to be my sister, she's never coming back! If you killed her while holding her neck, would you also blame it on frustration?

Yeah I get you.. I definitely need a break as I can now see a problem I didn't know I had somehow. I am much more interested in making up with her than anything else. We can't be best friends for 7 months and suddenly become enemies overnight! She was wonderful and she deserves a whole lot more, so I'd go to any length to make her happy again at the very least. Any decision she takes afterwards will be very fair whether or not she decides to come back..

Chubhie: I totally understand you feel right now bro. Adversity have a way of introducing a man to himself. The sun will always shine regardless of what we do go through in life cos this too shall pass give it to time. Sending you lights and love.

Thanks again bro.. I appreciate your understanding and contribution.

oshyno: Soo bro I suggest u make peace with her 4 laying ur hand on her, then take a walk. A vac or anything to make u 4get her. God wont 4give u for bring a child in the world to make him/her suffer.

Right on point! Making peace with her is my ultimate goal atm..

Hey Chubhie, feels good to know there's someone who has gone through what I'm going through right now. Taking a vac is certainly a viable option. Thanks.

@ sarbest001, thanks a lot for that advice.

She was my best friend, my succor, she was my life! This beautiful relationship of about 7 months had flourished so beautifully, we faced and conquered all odds, we waxed so strong together that I wondered why I just got to know her about a year ago (started dating 7 months ago). Everyday when I get to work we would talk for about one hour before I step into the office and we'd talk for about two hours before retiring to bed everyday. Please don't ask me what we get to talk about everyday for that long because even I often wonder how we got so glued to each other that we hardly wanted to end our calls each time. The age gap between us was just perfect and every other detail blended so perfectly that I was so sure she was the one I've been waiting for all my life. Gradually, I discarded all competition and decided to give this one my all. The reason is very obvious - the connection was simply incredible! She is God fearing, very homely, meek and has an interesting personality. She had her flaws too but who on earth doesn't?

Just two months ago I decided to take things a little further, secretly planned an engagement activity a day to her birthday with a renowned florist and a few of my friends. It was so lovely she almost fainted as I inserted my gold ring into her finger and popped the question.. The answer was a resounding Yes Yes Yes!!! The rest was merriment as we popped champagne and made toasts to a wonderful future ahead of us. Right there and then we began making plans concerning our introduction, traditional marriage ceremony and ultimately, white wedding. She was aghast with joy as she spread the news around to all her friends and instantly updated her Face Book status to "Engaged". Congratulatory messages were pouring from all corners while she took her time to respond to everyone of them.. She was so happy and so was I. My circle of friends were so proud of me for taking the bold step as they called me one after the other telling me how they cherished my boldness and wanted to be like me.

The joy and ecstasy throughout this period knew no bounds as I made important efforts to begin marriage proceedings. We finally agreed to Easter next year for white wedding. I went to meet with her father last month to get the traditional "list" of items to be procured for the introduction and traditional marriage ceremony. I was instantly 'approved' by her good looking and very gentle father who encouraged me and promised to support us in any way he could. Afterwards, I proceeded to meet with her pastor who after a brief interview approved of our relationship and only requested that we conduct a medical test (HIV, Hepatitis and Genotype) at the church hospital and present the results to him so he can forward same to their branch in Lagos where we intend to wed. We proceeded almost after the interview to the said hospital where we carried out the tests...and this was where our problems started!!!

How could I have been as 'AS' all these while and I didn't know?! My birth file has 'AA' on it, all the genotype tests I ever conducted during childhood and school days all turned out to be 'AA'. How come it has suddenly changed? Do people's genotype change? Did the hospitals back in the days make mistakes even the school hospital as well? What was going on? I queried rhetorically. My fiancee's genotype was 'AS' and she had told me this from the beginning while I on the other hand was so sure of my 'AA' genotype status that I didn't even bother to talk about it again. After this shocker I proceeded immediately to Lagos as I had reasons to doubt the result. I conducted 3 labs tests in total (in Lagos too) and the result came out the same. I was devastated!! So devastated I wept like a baby even in the presence of my friend who accompanied me and a few people around me noticed I was wailing uncontrollably. It was a memory I hope will erase with time as the mere thought of it makes me want to cry again. My fiancee already started weeping from the time the first test was conducted. She wept through it all so badly that I couldn't really recognize her the last time I saw her - She had lost so much weight that I was even scared of telling her!

From that moment, pressure increased on her part and frustration grew from mine. I grew so bitter I didn't know how to get help. We kept in touch, believing in God and Miracles (she inspires me too) while I also asked a few Medical practitioners to tell me what medicine has for people like us in 2013. All the answers were either against our faith or very expensive. In the midst of all these she stuck to me and I told her everything will be fine. Both my parents and hers felt so much for us that they promised to stand by whatever decision we decide to take. Although I got a few advices asking me to let her go, letting her out of my sight was simply not in my agenda - I strongly believed these tribulations was a matter of time and we would pull through somehow.

Then on Friday (6th Dec) she came visiting so we can discuss more on the way forward. What she didn't realize was that the frustration in me was growing so bad that it was affecting my sanity. I needed help but I didn't know how to get it - I always kept a cool face but knew I was boiling with depression inside. We hung out on the same day she came, watched a movie on return and retired to bed. The next day we had a huge misunderstanding. The quarrel was so bad I slapped her thrice and held her neck for a while. Within those few seconds of madness I uttered very insulting words and even demanded for my ring! At that point I looked at myself and knew I had lost it! In the last 15 years of active dating I never laid my hand on any woman - how could I have done this to the only woman I was supposed to love and care for? The only one who got to wear my ring?! It didn't make sense to me. I tried to maintain a straight face even while I begged her intensely but that wouldn't change her stance. Reported myself to my mum (whom she knows well), and told a married friend what I had done. He rushed over to the apartment and tried to talk with her. The events of that day and the next did not help matters, she got so cold towards me and wouldn't stop crying. Her mum is already late and I felt so bad for doing this to a poor girl who gave me her heart when I should have been acting out my undying love towards her. I am not really good with handling an already bad situation and many times I simply seek help on how to go about it. She grew even colder towards me and while still pleading for mercy, I would use words that she still found to be unpleasant. Finally at 2:30pm (Sunday) she packed her things and left my house to an unknown destination . I didn't seem to get anything right throughout this time of pleading - it appeared I made things even worse.

Please learn from my story... an edifice that took a year to build can be destroyed totally in just 5 minutes! In Warren Buffet's words - "It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you'll do things differently." Never in my entire adult life have I ever thought of or come close to hitting a lady. If you tell me I had that tendency I would argue with you because I detest men who do same. But this experience has just taught me that we can't afford to be languid.. Doing the right thing means making conscious efforts to do them and having back out plans whenever we are tempted to do otherwise. Another option is to stay away from loved ones when we are not okay mentally or psychologically. You could seek help during such periods from counselors and professionals who can walk you through it all. Sometimes you just can't be careful enough.. Do the needful while there's still time.

At the moment I can only cry and pray to God for assistance and intervention. I know my chances with her are pretty slim but I have no idea what tomorrow would bring.

Thanks for reading my story and hopefully you learnt something from it.


Cheers.

This is quite an interesting read.. Please digest and air your views on this write up!

"Just for fun I recently asked Erin, “Now that the kids are in summer school, don’t you think it’s about time you went out and got yourself a job? I hate seeing you wallow in unemployment for so long.”

She smiled and said, “Wow. I have been unemployed a really long time. That’s weird… I like it!”

Neither of us have had jobs since the ’90s (my only job was in 1992), so we’ve been self-employed for quite a while. In our household it’s a running joke for one of us to say to the other, “Maybe you should get a job, derelict!”

It’s like the scene in The Three Stooges where Moe tells Curly to get a job, and Curly backs away, saying, “No, please… not that! Anything but that!”

It’s funny that when people reach a certain age, such as after graduating college, they assume it’s time to go out and get a job. But like many things the masses do, just because everyone does it doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. In fact, if you’re reasonably intelligent, getting a job is one of the worst things you can do to support yourself. There are far better ways to make a living than selling yourself into indentured servitude.

Here are some reasons you should do everything in your power to avoid getting a job:

1. Income for dummies.

Getting a job and trading your time for money may seem like a good idea. There’s only one problem with it. It’s stupid! It’s the stupidest way you can possibly generate income! This is truly income for dummies.

Why is getting a job so dumb? Because you only get paid when you’re working. Don’t you see a problem with that, or have you been so thoroughly brainwashed into thinking it’s reasonable and intelligent to only earn income when you’re working? Have you never considered that it might be better to be paid even when you’re not working? Who taught you that you could only earn income while working? Some other brainwashed employee perhaps?

Don’t you think your life would be much easier if you got paid while you were eating, sleeping, and playing with the kids too? Why not get paid 24/7? Get paid whether you work or not. Don’t your plants grow even when you aren’t tending to them? Why not your bank account?

Who cares how many hours you work? Only a handful of people on this entire planet care how much time you spend at the office. Most of us won’t even notice whether you work 6 hours a week or 60. But if you have something of value to provide that matters to us, a number of us will be happy to pull out our wallets and pay you for it. We don’t care about your time — we only care enough to pay for the value we receive. Do you really care how long it took me to write this article? Would you pay me twice as much if it took me 6 hours vs. only 3?

Non-dummies often start out on the traditional income for dummies path. So don’t feel bad if you’re just now realizing you’ve been suckered. Non-dummies eventually realize that trading time for money is indeed extremely dumb and that there must be a better way. And of course there is a better way. The key is to de-couple your value from your time.

Smart people build systems that generate income 24/7, especially passive income. This can include starting a business, building a web site, becoming an investor, or generating royalty income from creative work. The system delivers the ongoing value to people and generates income from it, and once it’s in motion, it runs continuously whether you tend to it or not. From that moment on, the bulk of your time can be invested in increasing your income (by refining your system or spawning new ones) instead of merely maintaining your income.

This web site is an example of such a system. At the time of this writing, it generates about $9000 a month in income for me (update: $40,000 a month as of 10/31/06), and it isn’t my only income stream either. I write each article just once (fixed time investment), and people can extract value from them year after year. The web server delivers the value, and other systems (most of which I didn’t even build and don’t even understand) collect income and deposit it automatically into my bank account. It’s not perfectly passive, but I love writing and would do it for free anyway. But of course it cost me a lot of money to launch this business, right? Um, yeah, $9 is an awful lot these days (to register the domain name). Everything after that was profit.

Sure it takes some upfront time and effort to design and implement your own income-generating systems. But you don’t have to reinvent the wheel — feel free to use existing systems like ad networks and affiliate programs. Once you get going, you won’t have to work so many hours to support yourself. Wouldn’t it be nice to be out having dinner with your spouse, knowing that while you’re eating, you’re earning money? If you want to keep working long hours because you enjoy it, go right ahead. If you want to sit around doing nothing, feel free. As long as your system continues delivering value to others, you’ll keep getting paid whether you’re working or not.

Your local bookstore is filled with books containing workable systems others have already designed, tested, and debugged. Nobody is born knowing how to start a business or generate investment income, but you can easily learn it. How long it takes you to figure it out is irrelevant because the time is going to pass anyway. You might as well emerge at some future point as the owner of income-generating systems as opposed to a lifelong wage slave. This isn’t all or nothing. If your system only generates a few hundred dollars a month, that’s a significant step in the right direction.

2. Limited experience.

You might think it’s important to get a job to gain experience. But that’s like saying you should play golf to get experience playing golf. You gain experience from living, regardless of whether you have a job or not. A job only gives you experience at that job, but you gain ”experience” doing just about anything, so that’s no real benefit at all. Sit around doing nothing for a couple years, and you can call yourself an experienced meditator, philosopher, or politician.

The problem with getting experience from a job is that you usually just repeat the same limited experience over and over. You learn a lot in the beginning and then stagnate. This forces you to miss other experiences that would be much more valuable. And if your limited skill set ever becomes obsolete, then your experience won’t be worth squat. In fact, ask yourself what the experience you’re gaining right now will be worth in 20-30 years. Will your job even exist then?

Consider this. Which experience would you rather gain? The knowledge of how to do a specific job really well — one that you can only monetize by trading your time for money – or the knowledge of how to enjoy financial abundance for the rest of your life without ever needing a job again? Now I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have the latter experience. That seems a lot more useful in the real world, wouldn’t you say?

3. Lifelong domestication.

Getting a job is like enrolling in a human domestication program. You learn how to be a good pet.

Look around you. Really look. What do you see? Are these the surroundings of a free human being? Or are you living in a cage for unconscious animals? Have you fallen in love with the color beige?

How’s your obedience training coming along? Does your master reward your good behavior? Do you get disciplined if you fail to obey your master’s commands?

Is there any spark of free will left inside you? Or has your conditioning made you a pet for life?

Humans are not meant to be raised in cages. You poor thing…

4. Too many mouths to feed.

Employee income is the most heavily taxed there is. In the USA you can expect that about half your salary will go to taxes. The tax system is designed to disguise how much you’re really giving up because some of those taxes are paid by your employer, and some are deducted from your paycheck. But you can bet that from your employer’s perspective, all of those taxes are considered part of your pay, as well as any other compensation you receive such as benefits. Even the rent for the office space you consume is considered, so you must generate that much more value to cover it. You might feel supported by your corporate environment, but keep in mind that you’re the one paying for it.

Another chunk of your income goes to owners and investors. That’s a lot of mouths to feed.

It isn’t hard to understand why employees pay the most in taxes relative to their income. After all, who has more control over the tax system? Business owners and investors or employees?

You only get paid a fraction of the real value you generate. Your real salary may be more than triple what you’re paid, but most of that money you’ll never see. It goes straight into other people’s pockets.

What a generous person you are!

5. Way too risky.

Many employees believe getting a job is the safest and most secure way to support themselves.

Morons.

Social conditioning is amazing. It’s so good it can even make people believe the exact opposite of the truth.

Does putting yourself in a position where someone else can turn off all your income just by saying two words (“You’re fired”) sound like a safe and secure situation to you? Does having only one income stream honestly sound more secure than having 10?

The idea that a job is the most secure way to generate income is just silly. You can’t have security if you don’t have control, and employees have the least control of anyone. If you’re an employee, then your real job title should be professional gambler.

6. Having an evil bovine master.

When you run into an idiot in the entrepreneurial world, you can turn around and head the other way. When you run into an idiot in the corporate world, you have to turn around and say, “Sorry, boss.”

Did you know that the word boss comes from the Dutch word baas, which historically means master? Another meaning of the word boss is “a cow or bovine.” And in many video games, the boss is the evil dude that you have to kill at the end of a level.

So if your boss is really your evil bovine master, then what does that make you? Nothing but a turd in the herd.

Who’s your daddy?

7. Begging for money.

When you want to increase your income, do you have to sit up and beg your master for more money? Does it feel good to be thrown some extra Scooby Snacks now and then?

Or are you free to decide how much you get paid without needing anyone’s permission but your own?

If you have a business and one customer says “no” to you, you simply say “next.”

8. An inbred social life.

Many people treat their jobs as their primary social outlet. They hang out with the same people working in the same field. Such incestuous relations are social dead ends. An exciting day includes deep conversations about the company’s switch from Sparkletts to Arrowhead, the delay of Microsoft’s latest operating system, and the unexpected delivery of more Bic pens. Consider what it would be like to go outside and talk to strangers. Ooooh… scary! Better stay inside where it’s safe.

If one of your co-slaves gets sold to another master, do you lose a friend? If you work in a male-dominated field, does that mean you never get to talk to women above the rank of receptionist? Why not decide for yourself whom to socialize with instead of letting your master decide for you? Believe it or not, there are locations on this planet where free people congregate. Just be wary of those jobless folk — they’re a crazy bunch!

9. Loss of freedom.

It takes a lot of effort to tame a human being into an employee. The first thing you have to do is break the human’s independent will. A good way to do this is to give them a weighty policy manual filled with nonsensical rules and regulations. This leads the new employee to become more obedient, fearing that s/he could be disciplined at any minute for something incomprehensible. Thus, the employee will likely conclude it’s safest to simply obey the master’s commands without question. Stir in some office politics for good measure, and we’ve got a freshly minted mind slave.

As part of their obedience training, employees must be taught how to dress, talk, move, and so on. We can’t very well have employees thinking for themselves, now can we? That would ruin everything.

God forbid you should put a plant on your desk when it’s against the company policy. Oh no, it’s the end of the world! Cindy has a plant on her desk! Summon the enforcers! Send Cindy back for another round of sterility training!

Free human beings think such rules and regulations are silly of course. The only policy they need is: “Be smart. Be nice. Do what you love. Have fun.”

10. Becoming a coward.

Have you noticed that employed people have an almost endless capacity to whine about problems at their companies? But they don’t really want solutions – they just want to vent and make excuses why it’s all someone else’s fault. It’s as if getting a job somehow drains all the free will out of people and turns them into spineless cowards. If you can’t call your boss a jerk now and then without fear of getting fired, you’re no longer free. You’ve become your master’s property.

When you work around cowards all day long, don’t you think it’s going to rub off on you? Of course it will. It’s only a matter of time before you sacrifice the noblest parts of your humanity on the altar of fear: first courage… then honesty… then honor and integrity… and finally your independent will. You sold your humanity for nothing but an illusion. And now your greatest fear is discovering the truth of what you’ve become.

I don’t care how badly you’ve been beaten down. It is never too late to regain your courage. Never!

Still want a job?

If you’re currently a well-conditioned, well-behaved employee, your most likely reaction to the above will be defensiveness. It’s all part of the conditioning. But consider that if the above didn’t have a grain of truth to it, you wouldn’t have an emotional reaction at all. This is only a reminder of what you already know. You can deny your cage all you want, but the cage is still there. Perhaps this all happened so gradually that you never noticed it until now… like a lobster enjoying a nice warm bath.

If any of this makes you mad, that’s a step in the right direction. Anger is a higher level of consciousness than apathy, so it’s a lot better than being numb all the time. Any emotion — even confusion — is better than apathy. If you work through your feelings instead of repressing them, you’ll soon emerge on the doorstep of courage. And when that happens, you’ll have the will to actually do something about your situation and start living like the powerful human being you were meant to be instead of the domesticated pet you’ve been trained to be.

Happily jobless

What’s the alternative to getting a job? The alternative is to remain happily jobless for life and to generate income through other means. Realize that you earn income by providing value — not time – so find a way to provide your best value to others, and charge a fair price for it. One of the simplest and most accessible ways is to start your own business. Whatever work you’d otherwise do via employment, find a way to provide that same value directly to those who will benefit most from it. It takes a bit more time to get going, but your freedom is easily worth the initial investment of time and energy. Then you can buy your own Scooby Snacks for a change.

And of course everything you learn along the way, you can share with others to generate even more value. So even your mistakes can be monetized.

One of the greatest fears you’ll confront is that you may not have any real value to offer others. Maybe being an employee and getting paid by the hour is the best you can do. Maybe you just aren’t worth that much. That line of thinking is all just part of your conditioning. It’s absolute nonsense. As you begin to dump such brainwashing, you’ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others and that people will gladly pay you for it. There’s only one thing that prevents you from seeing this truth — fear.

All you really need is the courage to be yourself. Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do. The only thing you need actually do is express your real self to the world. You’ve been told all sort of lies as to why you can’t do that. But you’ll never know true happiness and fulfillment until you summon the courage to do it anyway.

The next time someone says to you, “Get a job,” I suggest you reply as Curly did: ”No, please… not that! Anything but that!” Then poke him right in the eyes.

You already know deep down that getting a job isn’t what you want. So don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise. Learn to trust your inner wisdom, even if the whole world says you’re wrong and foolish for doing so. Years from now you’ll look back and realize it was one of the best decisions you ever made."

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