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gunners160:
menh, i am speechless. However, I wont advice you continue what you are doing. The best thing to do is to tell her that you want her to move out of the house because a lot of people have being raising eyebrows and your pastor is against such relationship. Tell her your parents are also not in support of you staying with a woman you are not married to; this will give you room to save up and at thesame time build on yourself. After she leaves,dont break up with her but keep r on the side line (while you enjoy any benefits she has to offer ). Look for a better lady to date while still dating her. After some time just introduce the lady to her and drop the bomb on her......

@ the bolded: In other words, he should become his girlfriend - a cheat!

How can someone buy the same gift for her husband and her two brothers and call it anniversary gift? Is she married to the three of them? Me I no understand o…

Confused
If the guy was broke, will she be confused?😂 It is your female cousin’s greed that is confusing her, not the guy.

It seems your wife has unresolved personal issues; it may be mental health related though. Is she working? Is she fulfilled career wise? She may be dissatisfied about an aspect of her life and taking it out on those around her.

lol 😂

marakpa:
Romance wont allow new post from new user. Ok so she works in a care home here in the UK, and she takes food from home to work when she does full day, so yesterday she didnt take any food, so when she got back her was like u didnt take any food bae, how did u go about it, she said sometimes she eats mashed potatoe made at work and some few junks, though because shes been complaining about adding weight, didnt want her to feel bad,so i said maybe thats why u have been complaining that you have been adding weight cos of the JUNKS, so i tried to rhyme my words by saying, i dont think its the JUNK thats adding your buttt weight, its from the JUNK from my TRUNK, while pointing to my penile position, next thing wey she go talk, is that one TRUNK. I was like yea na trunk wey dun give u two pikin.

Hahaha… E be like say na you first find trouble 😂

Op rest! Nobody will give a man sole custody of female children when their mother is still alive and well.

So you want make your papa Dey jump bus for old age when you can afford it?

Gerrard59:
I am glad this topic came up because you have always lampooned men for "cheating", but have never explained why a woman would use sex as a weapon against her husband. If she even agreed to ora.l sex, I can say she don try. But why is everything the fault of the man even when sex - tied to his hormones and prevention of prostate cancer - is now weaponised? How come the man is ALWAYS at fault in your opinion?

If OP has a pot belly or does not perform fore.play, that is his fault, but supposedly he is fit, trim and performs fore.play, how is it his fault? I am genuinely curious, why the Harvard and Oxford writeup for a man whose wife has weaponised sex to the point he has to beg for it?

I’m not the one you asked the questions, but let me attempt to give some reasons to this which I think may give some context to this issue.

Most African men are not romantic, they do not know how to connect with their wives emotionally and that’s an issue in most marriages. For women, having s*x is connected to their emotions. It’s not just a need. So, the husbands need to stir up their wives emotions positively, to be getting it regularly but most wouldn’t do this. What some men invest on their side chicks, they haven’t invested a fraction in their wives. Thats why there is this common saying out there “ a happy wife equals a happy life”. If a woman is not genuinely happy in the home, she most likely will be frustrating the man in the bedroom because that is how she feels she can be heard and her needs met.

Onegai:
Stricker321

As for the physical aspect of sex I'll say this: Naija men are crude farmers, everything is a hoe to then. They literally "smash" and fall asleep in 2 mins.

Sex should be like driving a Toyota camry: you start the car, warm it a bit, then move to 20km/hr then 50km/hr before you enter express with 100km/hr. Slow to medium even strokes, gentlemen, not using the force of Sango, Amadioha and Thor to brutalise person's privates.

You got this, boys 🤟🏽

I think the bolded is the real koko of the matter. Their wives are tired of their crude ways, both in the bedroom and outside the bedroom😂😂😂

Ahhh… what did I just read ? Please collect ALL sharp sharp and let her go. Don’t let her go away with anything. Do not reward bad behaviors. She needs to learn and do better next time she is in any relationship.

Interesting comments depicting two different perspectives. It will be good to know which one the poster will go with and the outcome years down the line.

BlindAngel:
Money dey my hand that time, after everything I was left with 130k. And on the morning of the marriage I went and hurried to get extra drinks, because they drank lots of drinks I bought for reception on the day of the traditional marriage. Back to the fact, I was left work just 9k after buying the drinks. If u see frustration and regret after the marriage?? Thank God say I later bounced back.

The family don see you as their “MAGA” aka cash cow. Na you go use your hand deliver yourself. Why you think say them go release you? You don see where yahoo boys release their clients willingly?

My advice is this : No do pass yourself!!!

For example, if you have 20k to give in a month. Tell her you have 15k to give, because you know most likely she will call later that same month to still ask for money. When she now calls again you give the remaining 5k. You can delay a bit before sending the 5k so that you don’t overstretch yourself.

You need to know that people have the innate ability to sort themselves out, so don’t overstretch yourself trying to please others. Everybody go Dey alright las las.

Moshybear:
(5) Bsc: Psychology Imo state University (Second class upper)

Second class upper?! This caught my attention…. I pray God makes a way for you. It’s well

When you knew your wife was traveling for a course, did you suggest to her to bring the kids over to you and she refused? If not, where did you expect her to keep the kids?

When you knew your wife was traveling for a course, did you suggest to her to bring the kids over to you and she refused? If not, where did you expect her to keep the kids?

NL Association of Married Men neva ready to change 😂😂🤣🤣

jify:
I didn't cook today. I have been locked out for not providing his food. Two options, either I beg, and use my money to provide food or I go to my sister's place to sleep.

I guess I have to find the resolve to choose me. I have always felt being taken advantage of.

Which option did you finally choose?

Smh… upon all their education. I think the problem is that most people don’t love themselves enough.

Are you guys done having kids or your wife is done and you’re not aware? You need to be sure your wife has not decided to stop having kids, make you no go enter one chance.

Just curious, how much food do you expect a 7 month old baby to eat? At 7 months, your child should also be taking breast milk and cereals. So, how much food is left for him to take each day? The average weight for a 1 year old is 10kg and your 7month old is 8.3kg and here you are worrying. Please don’t force feed that child. I think you’re the one that has “issues” and not him.

NwaAmaikpe:




Women will forever remain a wonder.
Some things about them start to make sense and just when you are almost certain of your mastery, they get you totally confused again.

Isn't it ironic that if Janice Combs were 40 or 50 years younger, she'd be considered an evening newspaper, but here is an 84year old looking like a bestselling Encyclopedia.
Just like wine, women get better with age.

But not our Naija women.

Those ones will only take care of themselves to get a man, and once they've gotten one, all the effort ends. Fashion vanishes, they'd ditch fancy lingerie for wrappers and Adieu Papa tshirts.
Some won't bathe except when on their periods, others will perpetually wear wigs on unkempt hair and the very majority of them have bulgy shapeless tummy.

With the girdles, tights and all, it is faster for a mechanic to couple a new engine than for a man to undreśs a fully dressed Naija woman.

You can't eat six wraps of fufu with two bottles of orobo Pepsi and watch Zeeworld all day in bed then expect a waist trainer to do magic.

I don't blame them, I blame our men and it's just a shame that Nigerian men have no taste; anything goes for them and that's why Nigerian women can't be bothered.

There are some pregnant women I've seen and wondered if it was truly a man that impregnated them or it was artificial insemination.

God knows that I'd rather mastùrbate than cavort with a lady of low sex appeal.
If an 84year old still endeavors to look sex appealing, Hanty, what's your own excuse?

With that said, the one thing I know about women is that there's something in every woman that makes them special to at least one person, woman-centric me.

Wahala 😂😂🤣

Why didn’t you ask her? Why allow her return without finding out why she was acting that way? Why didn’t you let her know that she can’t return until she cheers up and is happy? Why didn’t you try to connect with her on an emotional level?

Anyways it’s not too late to ask her since you guys talk on phone. NLanders cannot answer all questions you know

By the way, I doubt if this story is true because 3 months pregnancy can never be termed as “heavy”. At that gestational age, the pregnancy doesn’t show. You people should stop trying to paint women “bad” abeg.

Most times it’s not those you help that help you back. Although, it’s good for others to reciprocate but most times, it’s a seed that grows and yields a harvest when you are not expecting it. That’s why one shouldn’t overstretch when helping others, so that it’s easier to let go of expectations.

Age is just a number. Now you understand why some people reduce their age. This is because most good things take time. It takes time to be more and do more. If you doubt what I’m saying look around you, starting from Mr President

So hold your head up high, as long as there is life, there is hope. You still got time to be all you desire. Also, if you can japa, it will aid your progress because Naija is not for the faint hearted. If you no fit japa, try change environment. E go better!

Accommodating others can be tricky. A lot of people have had negative experiences doing so, even from so called friends and families. Maybe your “friend” is just being careful.

Na so 😂😅

Relocate her ASAP! You can also inform your wife if she’s reasonable. This will keep you accountable.

Story!

Na money dem dey find abeg, no be man.
If them need man, man plenty for Naija.
Any lady wey dey UK wey need man, when your pepper don rest, go Naija, na you go dey pick and choose sef 😂

Is 4 years not too long to be doing boyfriend and girlfriend

Why is your family not involved in all this. You didn’t mention them in your write up. Get them involved ASAP if you haven’t done so. If your MIL has anything to say, she should be saying it to your family not you. Abi you sef no be someone’s child? Also, next time she calls to threaten you, try and record it as proof because she might deny it when confronted.