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ednut1:
This is not true. Age is not required for you to get a job in most countries as long as you are not looking old ans impaired . Many Nigerians in usa, Canada, uk, UAE are working with Nigerian degrees including me. So this myth of they don’t recognize Nigerian degree is a lie. BSC from Lasu with 3 years experience from KPMG, access bank, Nestle will get job in usa or Canada faster than a Nigerian that did msc in usa or Canada but has no tangible work experience. You can go to LinkedIn and verify . Nigerian nurse and Doctor in Uk are they not using Degrees from Nigeria I know people who enter tech and nursing in their late 30s and 40s and are cashing out today in same abroad.

Preach!!!

Thank you for this😄
Age is not rated overseas the way people rate it in naija. Nobody even asks for your age on your CV or resume.

If you know the age I relocated sef…. 😂🤣

babakb:
I'm married with two kids 🤣🤣🤣

I'm open to any viable option for now ohhh..

If you want to leave before the end of this year, UK via student route is your best option. Go with your spouse to help out and leave your kids with family in naija until you find your feet. You can also move from UK to US, Canada or Australia with time.

I don’t know much about Finland though and I don’t know if they give spousal visas to students.

babakb:
I guess this post is directed towards me

I'm 39 but I won't give up on JAPA, I won't go with a visit visa either, that's suicide

I will carefully study the immigration programs of UK, Canada and Shengen countries, there will surely be a pathway for me after studying Masters degree in any of this countries.

Are you single or married?

You don’t have to answer. I asked to let you know that if you’re single, going via visiting to some of these countries may not be suicide as you stated😄

Even if you’re married, as long as you’re financially capable, there are options to explore whilst on visiting visa.

No ideal age abeg! Na when you wake up be your morning 😄

YOLO!!!

You should be more focused on sorting out your finances. The reason they’re into you is because they think you still have a job, don’t be deceived!

E be like say the men wey dey on top this table plenty

Dearlove2me:
Yesterday was the very first time I really insulted him. It was very annoying but I later regretted it though.

This is how domestic violence starts o. At this rate, you better move out to your family home or to a friend’s place or better still get your own place to avoid stories that touches.

Gambling as an addiction requires psychiatric treatment / therapy. It is not something you or the person can just wish away. The person has to be willing to seek care.

Why are you waiting for people to help you decide what to do?

Is it not the one wearing the shoes that knows where it pinches?

God will not do for you what you can do for yourself.

There’s 🔥 on the mountain…
Run Run Run 🎼 🎵 🎶

Awoof dey run belle… There’s no free lunch anywhere.

On the topic, I would advise you separate from your wife for the meantime to avoid stories that touch. I don’t understand why a wife would burn her husband’s clothes to get money out of him while saying this is just the beginning. Abi both of you are sworn enemies pretending to be lovers?

If she desperately needs to go see her mother why can’t she seek for other ways to raise the money even if it means borrowing and when her salary comes she settles the debt. Also whenever you have you can also chip in.

Please this is not what marriage should be like o. Do not encourage or hide this toxicity. Make sure you report this incidence to both sides of the family especially her people. Let them know what their daughter has been up to.

NotAMan:
God is not a man.

Oh I see. It is well

With this your username sef how we wan take believe your tory? U be bot?

BrighterThanDay:
The truth is my husband is a good man. He chose me, I chose him, and we are happy together. Aside from the current financial issues and law problems we don't have any other problem.
He stood up for me countless times against his sister and asked her to leave me alone. But whenever he does this, the sister gets so mad and says I've come to scatter their family and she begins to report to elders, who now turn on my husband and ask him to draw his sister close as the father of the house after the demise of his father. If he doesn't oblige, he'll be totally isolated from the family, even if his mother is sick or God forbid dies, he won't be informed, nobody picks up his calls or when they answer they sound so cold. The worse part was when my daughter was born, aside my family, none of them congratulated him. This is what they use to get to him and it hurts him so bad, and he ends up blaming me. I hate seeing him in this mood and I'll always encourage him to go back to them. I'm sincerely tired of this vicious cycle, I don't know how long I can continue living like this. This his sister is married, but she doesn't want any of her brothers to be.

Don’t mind her, na jealousy dey worry am.

Get a job ASAP!!! You shouldn’t have resigned in the first place though. No dull o… a woman gats to be financially empowered 😎

tomi4life:
thanks bro, divorce is not an option for me for different reasons:


1. The bible is against divorce, I dont want to disobey God
2. What people will say, we come from a spiritual background my parents and her parents are pastors, alot of people look unto us role model.
3. My children, I dont want to deny my children access to good parenting, I am someone who believes the role of a father and a mother is very critical in raising a child, my dad taught me many of the values i have imbibed today such as confident, financial discipline, hard work etc. Mum taught me to be patient, tolerant and have to empathize this balance is important. I enjoyed this while growing up and dont think it would be fair to deny my children the benefits.

I think me, she doesnt respect me that the issue. if I sit her down to talk, she goes on a defensive mode and gives all me attitude. I have told her lately she needs to watch her temperament, even the way she yells at the maid, my children, our guard is strange. Very little thing she flaws up for no reason. Sometimes the way she respond to me when I ctry to give her feedback, I have to tell her why she is raising her voice, I only asking her a question.

I think your number 2 reason is actually your number 1 reason. If all you wrote is true, even if divorce is not an option, separation should be. It seems you don’t even respect / value yourself enough, so how do you expect someone else (your wife) to respect you?

Despite the age gap between you and your wife, you can’t take charge of your home/family and put things in order. You seem to prefer to live a lie than face the truth.

Don’t be discouraged. Everyone has his or her own time and season to show forth. In life we have the early and late bloomers. Focus on your journey and shift your focus to God not your brothers or any other human for that matter. God is the source of all things and humans are the channels hence your eyes must be on God alone.

Learn the lessons from your past and use them as building blocks for your future. No time for regrets you will be alright. However you may need to distance yourself a bit from your brothers to enable you focus. It is well!

Werey dey disguise … lol

If his intentions are genuine, what is there in going to court? It will even help him earn your trust.

Congratulations Jagaban!!!

Renewed hope issa goal 😎👍🏼

ATEAMS:
The older you get, the more you choose calm over chaos and distance over disrespect. Drama becomes intolerable to you and your peace becomes your ultimate priority. You start surrounding yourself with people who are good for your mental health, heart and soul.

Wow… this is me right now 😎✌️

Take your time… don’t rush!
You have your hands full already… four kids is not a joke. You don’t need any distractions.

You cannot please everyone in this life. Enjoy your new found peace and focus on making babies with your wife. With time everything go fall in place. You cannot force people to love/like themselves.

Sorry about your loss, God will give you double blessings for your trouble.

The truth is that most marriages don’t survive this kind of interferences except the couple relocates…

Lamanii22:
yea he does… but they live overseas….

Hmmm… there are many men that have their families abroad who are still in naija with all the “japa” syndrome currently going on.

Your sister needs to really confirm that he is divorced before she go turn second wife overnight.

You better block him for your own good and stop playing with 🔥

I wonder why both of you are complicating matters unnecessarily, to the extent of lying and playing mind games on top sending money to your parents. Since the 50/50 ain’t working, why can’t you let her know and you go ahead with what works?

What is the essence of working and making money if you can’t send money to your parents without feeling guilty about it in your own home?

Marriage is not bondage abeg!

Each person should do right by his or her parents…

Yes o 😎🤩🤡👊🏼✌️👏

Wicked somebody… Werey dey disguise

Two faced guy… Hypocrite leading others astray.
Thank God he was called out… Shame!!!

How many children does your sis want? If it’s one then she can consider exiting the marriage, but if she wants more, she can consider his request and strategize on how to get him to provide more since it’s not that the husband is broke. Involving elders in the family that will confront the husband and ask him what his plans are should help. I guess that’s why she informed you.

This story is incomplete. For a guy to forfeit marriage despite starting to spend towards it, you and your family don too drag am. He probably decided to choose “peace of mind” over every other thing.

Richy4:


Law firm he 'no hold', lecturer job, 'he no hold', even the marriage, 'he no hold’

This will be the worst thing to happen to the guy. I pray he makes the right decision. Both of them (the couple) obviously want different things.

People dey vex for this thread ooo…

you’re still calling him your best friend

How can someone that is looking for a child be aborting? Unbelievable