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What kind of title is this?

Husband of course!
He will appreciate his wife and child(ren) more after the experience.

Smh… where is the anger? I just can’t seem to understand these politicians. No anger, no rage, no sense of urgency, nothing!!!!

Abi they didn’t kidnap his sister and her twins niii? Na ask I dey ask o 🤔

Which kind evil people be this? They should leave children out of all this!

Givers!!! If you know you’re naturally a giver or your default personality is to be a giver, always check for reciprocity in any relationship you find yourself. One sided relationships cannot last, no be curse! There is no way the giver will not eventually be drained, especially when you are surrounded by takers or a taker as it seems in this case.

What happens most times is that because you have or you love to give, you’re likely to attract mostly takers and, because that is “you” , you wouldn’t mind but last last e dey cast!!!

From the little I have read, the man seems to be mostly a taker. You did papers/visa, you’re bringing in more money even paying bills including his at times etc etc.

You need to rethink this your decision especially if you don’t have kids yet, because I doubt if he will change; na to dey manage am o.

Givers form alliances with Givers!!! Be intentional about this, if you no wan cry last last. Leave takers alone to drain each other 😂🤣

Get a pressure cooker and add plenty onions when cooking.

Rosy, how market?

Chechelenche:
She's expecting another child now but I keep asking myself, how much longer can I take this?

Why didn’t you ask yourself this before getting her pregnant again? You people should stop all this rough play. Get your lives in order before bringing kids into this world. Stop bringing kids into chaos!!! Na beg we dey beg una! We’re tired of all these stories here and there.

If you know you cannot take it any longer. Travel, move away, separate, give each other space. We don’t want to hear stories that touch the heart o.

Marriage is not by force! In short, nothing is by force in this life! Prioritize your mental health. I dey vex!!! Too many unfortunate stories with couples lately. Make una dey take am easy ooo

I doubt if anyone here can answer your question because people have different experiences and expectations.

Why are you footing all the bills alone? No wonder he has time to be saying rubbish and nonsense to the kids. You better drag that man to family court or child welfare office (or whatever it is called) and let him know that until he starts fulfilling his own share of responsibilities, you will not allow him contact with the kids. Make everything formal, involve your state authorities. Dey play!!!

You better wise up!!! I won’t be surprised if it’s reverse psychology he is using - there’s probably a woman living with him now or he’s seeing a woman and he is deflecting. He’s busy spending his money on God knows what while you’re slaving away.

TheDepressed:
Her sickness was out of the blue, it didn't even last a week.
I'm 36 now my wife 25.
The major reason is I want my kids to grow up with mom and dad present. My kids are young and I'm scared they will forget about me esp my son, so I try to see them every now and then but I want more.

Your wife was 19/20 when you got married and you were 30/31 and you didn’t prepare for drama(s)? The age difference is a lot! 11 years?! More than a decade

As per your question, the ball is in your court. Your wife no send you.

Adult no get N600 in 2026
Come begin fight salesman

You should be telling your sister to go make her own money. There are so many opportunities out there for women in 2026 that we should not be hearing or reading stories like this.

Since the main issue here is financial. Discuss your concerns with your wife and let her know she has to start contributing to the family purse to ease the burden on you. You guys will be fine as long as you communicate and support each other. No more forming Mr Macho to avoid being resentful or bitter.

Whatever rocks their boat! Whoever isn’t okay with the arrangement can make do with alternatives eg. use of a washerman or woman, washing machines, dry cleaners etc.

There are more important things for couples to focus on - like making money to make life easier for them and their children.

Hmm… committed Christian and a leader in the church? Fornication no dey for your bible? You still come get fiancée…

E be like say Christian don get another meaning nowadays. You don’t even sound remorseful about your actions rather it’s the rent that you seem concerned about.

The answer you seek is in your write up. The only thing is that you’re finding it difficult to say NO.

Life/Reality no send you and if you don’t want to learn the hard way:

1. Don’t bite more than you can chew
2. Don’t go a mile for people that won’t go an inch for you.

4 chicken feet and 2 chicken heads?!
If this story is true, the woman is wicked. She no try at all.

Who send you to go and start paying school fees? This is what Yoruba people call “Afowofa”.
Why you go dey do pass yourself?
Why

Chaiiii! So una still dey date women wey no get their own money

grandiose4ever:
Wow!!!

Thank you so much man. I'm still digesting this information.

Good stuff. Na to increase my earnings by x4 be that o.

lol 😂🤣 if e easy to increase your earnings to x4, why you never do so since? Sha no go kii yasef. Many women are supporting their families but dem no dey loud am.

Na cash you go use run am lol.

Sha be careful, no go dey fight say you wan defend your wife outside, because stories dey of people wey do such and e no end well for them. Instead, caution your wife to dey behave well especially when relating with others so that you go get peace.

Does she work or has she ever done anything that is really stressful? I’m just wondering because if she has, she should know that sometimes when a person is tired, they can fall asleep without intending to. On a second thought, it’s something that happens to others around us - like someone falling asleep in a bus or car before getting to their destination so, what’s the fuss about?

@op, let her be (as she requested), she has some unrealistic expectations about relationships. If she values and appreciates you and your efforts, she won’t be breaking up over something as unreasonable as this.

Why didn’t you ask her for the money which she is owing you? That’s why she still has the effrontery to come and ask for more since you be Father Christmas. Na you suppose they pursue am sef not the other way round.

Of what benefit is that relationship to you sef?

I thought I was going to read that the writer and family have returned to Naija lol

Congratulations! More wins 🎉

Ozzyk:
I'm not stupid, I won't be saying this if she had pesterd me to wait....
She had retracted from all sorts of intimacy
No touch, no kissing no smooching no deep communication
When I bring issue of sex up she'll tell me she might not be ready until after 9 months

Chaiii… that woman no send you o!
You need to give her an ultimatum else she’ll think you’re cool with it.

breadtoaster:
My guy is not even talking about going back now o. he said there is one Nigeria lady he thinks is very good, that we should use her. because that guy's line didnt o really well. said the guy wont understand our culture.

I am open and we would be meeting her, we would have to pay another NGN 600,000 charged to my credit card again because we simply cant figure ourselves out by ourselves.

@the bolded:

You better stop wasting money that you apparently don’t have yet, because that man is not going to change unless he wants to. Stop trying too hard else there will be more resentment and anger in your future.

Have you heard women advising other women to focus on their children? It’s situations like this that give rise to such advice. In your case, since you don’t have kids yet - either you accept him or Leave, the choice is yours.

How did they all get your address in the first place? The solution is to start saying “No” and setting boundaries.

Wahala for people pleasers ooo…

Why did you marry your husband? With all you have listed, it’s either this is a fake story or an incomplete story? Are you trying to tell us you did not see any of these red flags before tying the knot? This man sounds like someone that can’t even be bothered to pretend while trying to get you to marry him so, why did you agree to marry him?

Woman dey show you that kind pepper and you still get mind carry am go UK with you.

Why are you rewarding bad behaviors? See as complain full everywhere yet you keep on rewarding her bad behaviors?

You earn six figures monthly and you’re in this kind of situationship? Issokay…

thomas2024:
I'll love to pay off the person and she will never have any legal claim to the "product" of the surrogacy.

I cringed reading the above. You think taking care of and raising a child/children is easy? You can’t live with a woman, but you think you can care for a baby without the mother? E go shock you.