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Is there no agency in your state that she can involve to get the man to fulfill his obligations towards their children?

Are you sure she is falling for you or what you have? Because me I don’t understand how someone can be liking/falling for you and complaining about you @ same time.

Singles, number 1 criteria you should look for in your spouse is KINDNESS. If both of you are kind, many issues will be resolved amicably in marriage; in short many things will not be issues at all.

If e easy, run am.

canada123:
So was able to talk with my girl last night though didn’t go deep in the conversation but told her I saw an escort and all

Interestingly I thought that would be ground for breakup and I would start working on finding a girl here and all, but she said it’s not a deal breaker to her .

But still I’m very determined to stop this nonsense I’m engaged in and find my pathway to salvation and redemption.

Just suprised she didn’t see me seeing another girl as a deal breaker or grounds for breakup

Deal breaker ke?! Hahaha… dey play😂🤣… when most people in Nigeria are looking for a way to japa out of the country. When you will know if it’s a deal breaker for her is when she is married to you and residing in Canada. For now, I doubt if anything will be a deal breaker until she japa.

Therefore, the onus lies with you to decide what you really want and need and stick with your decision.

UjuJoan2:
This is the repercussions of the 50/50 bills you men have been fighting for. There is no romance without finance. Just as men are wired to cheat, women are wired to be turned on by money.

If you want romance in your marriage, be ready to provide 100%. You cannot expect her to share bills with you and then want to come and “play with her b00bs”, it won’t work. A providing man is a sexy man. Anytime she sees you she will want to jump your bones.

Argue with your ancestors!!

💯

canada123:
I know, I mean I literally saw myself personally through school and paid over 40k in fees . But lately I’m loosing focus cause of this act , it’s terrible and shameful . Just struggling badly

I think part of your problem is the negative terms or negativity you are attaching to the fact that you have a high libido. You first need to accept that s*x is a beautiful thing and accept that aspect of yourself. This is where therapy comes in. If you’re serious about therapy, go seek help from a professional therapist in Canada. They can’t be that hard to find.

It’s also obvious that long distance relationship is not working for you, so look for someone who is within your reach for a committed relationship. Make sure you both are sexually compatible, it’s a must!

You said you were leaving him about 5 years ago. What changed? How come you’re still with him?

Someone earning 30k monthly is lending money to someone earning 328k monthly

Impressive 👏
One can’t be eating ‘swallow’ regularly and be this fit😂

I doubt if your husband will ever leave that family house if he is still living there @50. Is he the first son or only son? He probably wants to inherit it. Not a problem, each mallam to his kettle.

However, with this knowledge, the onus lies on you to decide what you want and move forward based on your decision.

You better move on and thank your God. Your friend is supposed to know better but alas, he has refused to take correction. This is one of the reasons some people don’t keep friends.

Wahala…the love choke 😂🤣

There is no perfect husband (spouse) anywhere.

Op, be grateful for yours and try and start doing those things that you were doing that made him good to you when you first met. He was good to you before, he can still be good to you today. You just need to find out what changed and make adjustments.

How old is the child?

Why are you asking this question? You don’t want her to go back and she doesn’t want to either so what exactly is the issue. What you both should be focusing on now is financial empowerment, avoid all other distractions.

Misery loves company and that’s why when some people are suffering or they see someone else enjoying, they will be looking for a way to convince the person to join them using different excuses. Hence, it is important to always know what you want and stand by it irrespective of others opinions.

Oga your sister doesn’t want to go, let her be.

Is getting the visit visa guaranteed and do you have to pay him for that also? Anyways I would suggest you keep an open mind and have a plan B in case things don’t go as he says. Also do not be in a hurry to part with your cash, always verify first.

You can also explore the student route or the express entry route. Those are more straightforward pathways to japa to Canada.

Congratulations! Glad to see you made the bold move. May the land favor you and yours.

The enemy within…

lordnkem000:
Are you sure there are a lot? Because we don't hear their own stories, atleast to reassure people like myself who still find marriage attractive. TikTok, YouTube and co has reduced marriage to shambles. I don't believe it is because we breed weak men these days. We need couples with blissful marriages to speak up

lol… you need them to speak up so that people can “pour sand inside their garri” 🤣

Oloki:
I got the money. Thanks. Pls give me your number let me send 500 credit to you.

Glad you got it, you’re welcome. No need… Enjoy 😊

Someone else is doing giveaway. Those that missed out on this thread can check it out. You have to be quick though:

https://www.nairaland.com/8025132/america-best-country-part-2

Oloki:
Eyaaa... It is well.

Yes, it was the give away that closed

Someone else is doing giveaway on this thread, check it out, you have to be quick though :

https://www.nairaland.com/8025132/america-best-country-part-2

Look for tangible business. Is there a product you can be buying and reselling for a profit? Look into that and leave forex for now. You guys need to stabilize financially.

Hehehe… cunning man die, cunning man bury am

If you’re interested in making your path straight and doing the right thing going forward, return to Ghana and dissolve the union since you’re yet to get married in Canada. Not good bringing a child/children into this mess. Both of you are not sincere towards each other. If you want to travel out explore other means.

Why didn’t you and your husband/ the Estate community insist on seeing the statement of account?

Sope otilor 😂🤣

Smile4mee01:
Thanks.

I know it looks transactional however, I have dated women outside my race here that I could have gotten papers from however we just seem not to get along. I am also starting my nursing program soon which guarantees me papers.

I appreciate your input. Woman matter Dey Taya me sometimes.

If the bolded is true, where is your desperation coming from? You need to address that first, before settling down with just anyone for God knows what. Why put yourself in a precarious situation?

And some people will be asking why some women choose their careers. It’s to avert situations like this. Imagine investing 10 years in a solid career, things would have been way different.

@op, it’s well with you and your daughter.

Chaiii… see comments😂😂😂🤣

Even “exes” have good sides which the women may start to appreciate after getting married.