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Dotherightthing:
Dullards have come again o

1. Minimum wage is NOT NGN70,000. After allowances added, it comes to NGN110,000

2. Many Nigerians earn far more than minimum wage(bankers, telcom workers, oil company workers etc etc).

U are d only dullard I see here. The term said "minimum wage". So , it's not about "many people" but d lowest monthly wage for d lowest category of workers should be NMW of 70k. But u know what, about 1million workers out there earn less till now.

So, your socalled lawyers, doctors etc earning way higher are nothing compared to those earning less than 70k

OneCandleAway:
Everything has association in Nigeria.

... Except private school teachers

THE REALISTIC MINIMUM WAGE IN Nigeria is N20k which is about 14 dollars, for a whole month. 14 dollars is what a low earner earn abroad working for just one hour.

We call it "Gbègbèrè in Ijesha dialect

Good day great investors. I'm an upcoming income earner.

Pls help me with recommendations for online -banks or riskless platforms I can save regularly or fixed my savings with.

Pls, I'll like to know various offers or packages of each platforms & how to go about it

I don't have account with any yet. That's no Opay, Fairmoney, Palm pay, or Kuda account yet

Mistake dt of Nigeria in reality is $23.00. More than 100,000 Nigerians earn below 50k.

Even in d rural area, somewhere in d West here, a cup has risen from N250 to N300. The story is not propaganda, but very real

vital123:
You can try it on different phones, if it all shows "insert sim" you will need to do a simswap as your sim might be damaged.

At MTN center of 9mobile center?

I just inserted my sim now, it is saying " insert sim" after many attempts. What do I do?

Pls, it's been about 4 years I last used my 9mobile sim. Pls, can I still reconnect it & still work perfectly?

He has a good point but not entirely right. I inferred in the submission dt as a parent, don't spend your entire life and old age in d name of raising children. As u show love & perform your responsibilities over them, all plan your old age along.


For instance, there are some retirees still paying huge loans they took while in service.

If it's public schools your income can afford for them that'll allow you plan your old age along, don't hesitate. Not earning 250k & have three children in private varsities dt will make you indebted & vulnerable to your children when you retire

Suppressing & Selling d future of d country in debts using same to shed their blood. It's not far fetched that a good % of these debts is used to finance all these bloods*cking t*rrorists all over d country

Suppressing & Selling d future of d country in debts using same to shed their blood. It's not far fetched that a good % of these debts is used to finance all these bloodsucking terrorists all over d country

AllBlack:
Na exactly for this part wey I stop to read.
O boy dem don use your cranium dey drink Maltina.

Who knows, she's out to seek fresh happiness. Who will hear dt at d onset, & not run away?

Esthered:
Love conquers all.
Go and do your background check about her marriage and if it wasn't her fault and you love her, why not?

Guy weh I no know? No way I could check anything for background. Except God expressly tell me to continue, I'm getting over it gradually. In fact, there have been some subtle red flags, ordinarily dt shld not coms from dt a woman of her age range, seeking real commitment, but I was just ignoring them, as I feel it's high time I stopped waiting for a blameless perfect woman or I remain single boy boy forever.

Truth be told, I'm socially awkward to av a rich pool of single ladies to choose from. That's y it appears as if I'm jazzed or over simpping dey worry me. 😀

goran3310:
Having four children is a serious undertaking if you're starting in your 40s.
You have to keep in mind that it's your responsibility to guide them through life — to raise them into real people.

By the time your oldest child turns 25, the youngest might be 18 or 19, and you’ll already be around 65.
Maybe it's wiser to consider having just two children — you started late.

As for her... that's even more uncertain.
If you're serious about her, then start working on having children literally from this very day.

Children grow up very slowly, while we age very quickly.
That’s a real issue.
And as for her divorce — that's just a technical matter you’ll resolve along the way.

If you now start looking for another, younger woman, you're going to lose even more time.
You have to take that into account as well.

I am cool growing old as my coming children are growing up. I will make provisions for them now for my retiring ages . So I nurse no fear about being 70 and my last born is still in the primary school


Yes, u nailed it about starting all over again, especially for someone like me , who's so socially awkward & somehow physically and romantically repelling to ladies, especially for committed relationship.. As a matter of fact, this is my very first concrete committed relationship. Imagine starting all over again

Who knows when next I'll get another one!

Qatar2022:
This has nothing to do with question he ask

The questions are relevant. She's almost 38. That age raises question about her fertility, especially if I favor having as many children as 4. So, dt age, except God's involved, will struggle for 2 sef!

Then, my financial status is a determinant, to some extent too. If I'm bouyant enough, I can haughtily initiate & pay for d divorce.

She physically passed her prime judging her age. But who knows God's plans for every human? I think everyone is entitled to being happy, especially if she's not really d architect of her misfortune. I only assume this based on d cock and bull story she and her mom tell me o

Esthered:
What if the man accuses her of bigamy as she isn't divorced.

My fear even if she has all I need in a woman

marlow1962:
Sorry, but to me I have few pints here.
1= there is no marriage in Nigeria (be it white wedding or court wedding) that he (the groom) won't pay bride price. If the man didn't pay a dime for her bride price, that means the lady was giving out fr free. Even if the man paid everything, until that bride price is returned, the woman is still married to him, white wedding or no white wedding, court wedding or no court wedding.


2= to me I feel the lady is not telling you the complete story, she's desperate again.

3= a desperate woman already pestering you to come see her people, ho ho ho brother be wise

4= her mum is good only because her daughter is out and rejected by her previous marriage. She's using all godly form to make it look like a saint . Once her daughter is in into a new home, then you will see what others saw.

5= have you conducted spiritual, physical, emotional, mentality, financial, educational, family background etc of that said lady? E get why

Bro if the weight is too much, bail yourself out now it not late.

It's normal for both mum and she to be desperate now. She's 38, & first child of a widow, meanwhile her mum's still waiting for her first grand child in her 60s.

Then, not all women who have bad marriages are bad. Some are just unlucky.

I actually wanted to know what others saw but no access to d man nor anyone close to d marriage.

No much check. But all they want with all this baggage, is just come introduce myself & do d needful

koladata:
Since they don't see anything need for a proper divorce. Then tell them you don't want a proper marriage yet. You guys should live separately while you are verbally married but without any formal marriage or even family gathering.

Firstly, ask yourself what matters the most to you in marriage between 1. Sex 2. Children 3. Companionship.


Sex, children, companionship, partnership, etc. But overall, with this her pending issue
Obviously you won't enjoy the first one because whenever a woman tells you her ex didn't have sex with her frequently in her last relationship, believe me it is because she's not good on bed and women can hide that shit. When I mean being good on bed, it doesn't mean the sex style, mostly it has to do with their libido and Virgina dryness. You will definitely experience what her ex-husband experienced.

Also, if having children is very important to you , then I will advise that you take this divorce thing to your own advantage which is by insisting on pregnancy before any formality. You guys should continue living separately while attempting to get pregnant. And once she's pregnant insist that the pregnancy must pass the second trimester before any formality or before she can formally move in as husband and wife.

If sex and children are not your problem and all you want is companionship. Then Go ahead with marrying her without any proper divorce paper, you guys can start the divorce paperwork while you are living together. It will also be better you start the paperwork before she moves in, just start the process or file for it at least , because apparently she will be too reluctant to make the move once she get comfortable in your house. And there might still be somethings they are not telling you, It's not so expensive to do divorce if the separation was mutual.

If all the odds did not favor you, leave the relationship asap, don't marry someone out of pity , if you have any doubt in your mind don't do it. There are too many single ladies out there , she will only cry for few months and move on, but if you proceed and there's an issue during your journey , you will cry forever.

Sex , children, companionship, partnership etc. But overall with this her pending issue about her previous marriage, in all these & more, I can only rate her 25%

Tolu2024:
The cost of a divorce in Nigeria can vary significantly, but generally ranges from NGN 1,000,000 to NGN 2,000,000 for a standard, uncontested divorce where both parties reside in Nigeria. If one party is located abroad and requires virtual court appearances, the cost can increase to $1,500 to $3,000 USD. Contested divorces, involving disputes over property or child custody, can cost significantly more, potentially reaching NGN 2,000,000 to NGN 3,000,000 or even higher, especially if a Senior Advocate of Nigeria is involved.

She even told me it's from N400k after she discussed with some specialists in d matter.

We both are in Nigeria & her husband fully consent she moves on. But my fear is there still some hidden things & what lies ahead is uncertain

Double0h7:
Then you pay for it since you want it so bad. Its not that complicated or expensive unless the her current husband contests it (refuses to divorce her). I have a feeling she isn't telling you the full truth. She already lied to you so how many more lies is she hiding?

Both of us are private school teachers. Even if I can afford it, I'm not ready to go dt way of paying. Even biblically, it's d man dt ought to initiate divorce, as Moses and Apostle Paul put it.

Double0h7:
She is not a divorcee though. There's nothing wrong marrying a woman who is divorced. You want to marry a woman who is married. She will have 2 husbands. If you ever want to grow financially, go abroad, or anything inheritance then this will pose a problem. That man can legally claim any homes and business she's attached to.

This isn't cos play. God does not allow a woman to have two husbands. The legalities and technicalities are a real thing!

You're 40 years old and you don't understand this?
I'm starting to think you created this thread for engagement sake and you ain’t serious at all.

Engagement? Check my account. I hardly engage at all. My account is about 12yrs old. I don't chase clout. The issue is I really I don't get to meet women romantically like dt & time is fast ticking. It's not really my fault, like dt

ambassadorgozie:
Is she d only single lady in the world? Lemme be honest with you. Leave that lady and find someone else. With all these stories, you may like mostly regret marrying her.

Forget about marrying her. Look elsewhere

It's a little hard as I av limited love experience. This will be my concrete first relationship shock!

Then, my fear is, what if d next I'll meet is potentially worse? Ogbanje, gen Z, pretenders, evil & irresponsible women full everywhere.

Solofresh2:
If she truly wants to be with you and start a clean life, she will do the right thing and get legally divorced.
Until then,don’t marry her!

She cannot afford it. A bloody private school teacher!

Dexy4yah:
If you love her then go head and marry her.
She’s in her late 30s…if I’m in her shoes i will be desperate too especially when i see the right man.
Some men are fun of blaming ladies for everything here….separation from her previous marriage doesn’t mean she is the bad person…some men are beast and not supposed to get married.
Many couples today got seperated without all this paper stuff or going to court and all that.
OP ride on…

She said d father in law, who's fetish & diabolical said shortly after d wedding, that she & his son are not spiritually compatible; that he'd kill both of them should they continue. She further said, d in-law called her mum to come and take her daughter b4 they harm her....

Double0h7:
Let me call Nlfpmod for you because this is grown folks conversation, and I'm not qualified to chime in. HOWEVER! If someone is already married you can not marry them. That's common sense. It's an illegal marriage and it won't be blessed by God.

@Nlfpmod

Meanwhile, Prophet Moses & Apostle Paul take a liberal position about divorce. To me, marrying a good divorcee may not be too bad , if all issues are properly thrashed.

For d legal front, after all , man already moved on with another woman. My girl is saying he approved she moves on too!

So, will their be consequences later, or possibility of d man coming back for her, as no proper dissolution in d first place?

@Dominique
@Sissy3.

Could you move it to front page for a large audience?

goran3310:
You're already 40 years old.
You didn’t mention how old she is.
You didn’t mention your financial status either.
Those are important details if you want a meaningful answer.

I mentioned it. She's approaching 38. I'm d one helping her in my own little way. She's a graduate and working though, but never enough being single and living alone

eniolorunfe:
Chaiii…why do people like to complicate their lives like this? Oga, is there no single lady without baggage for you to date and marry? After waiting this long to get married, you want to enter into a “situationship”.

She first used dt word on me saying I am showing my true color dt I was never serious with her