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"Soldier ant". I was very troublesome

Eerrrrmmm! I actually appreciate who I am now and I don't regret anything done in d past because my past made my present.

I'd choose my best friend over a boyfriend; but there's always a thin line between a boyfriend and a best friend.

What is the meaning of irresponsible again?

Women that can't cook --- irresponsible
Women that can't satisfy men in bed --- irresponsible
Women that ask for cash from their spouse -- irresponsible
Women that wear trousers --- irresponsible
Women that can't eat --- irresponsible too ?
Everything abt women --- irresponsible

Haba!! Wetin women do una sef?

snowprince07: lol lady u bad oo.

well u Are right at ur second paragraph tho they say luv is blind it might b deff too that's y he didn't here or understand her saying his mother shud die

Fear catch me oh. This blind and deaf love sef.

Okay! After reading this epistle, what can I say?
I'm boring and I'm interesting.

kolinz: op leave that thing joor, like poles attract.
All my sabi babes marry even earlier....

Exactly!!!

arobafingi: she said something about mother s overprotective to their sons. But I don't know why that should come in between us

Every mother is protective of their kids, male or female. Ask her if she would want her mum dead because her brother wants to get married.

Kill yourself or kill your mama.

So, a girl told u to your face that she wishes ur mother death and you are still asking for what to do? Chaii.
No matter what ur mother has done to her, that's a cruel thing to say.
Abeg, forget that girl.

Sophyrocks: So you know its true and you want to further endanger the life of a woman by telling her to pretend she never saw anything without giving her practical steps and telling the painful truth.

Now, i think you can see for yourself that ignorance does not pay. You can see that such men reason most of the time with their d1cks. I hope you are not among those senseless women that believe giving their husbands condoms will ensure that you are protected deceiving youself that they will use them? You will have to be a stup1d and gullible woman to do that.

Are u saying its right to keep tracks of your husband just because you want to ensure he isn't cheating on you? Or just to prevent stds? You don't have to be insultive to prove your points. We are all learning.

Sophyrocks: So how come married women end up infected with all these stds still? Those infected women are ghosts? how come they still visit the hispitals to treat these infections? why do we hear stories of married men been infected but they refuse to let their wives know and they eventually get their wives infected? Dnt you hear stories of women getting HIV from their husbands? Or you just prefer to be pretend you dnt know all these because it pays to be ignorant?

Its true that married women get infected with STDs by their husbands and its also true that married men get infected by their wives.

Sophyrocks: So it is better to pretend that she doesnt know or the husband never cheated so that what? so that A baby mama or 2nd wife, HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, hepatitis and other disgusting infections can come knocking at her marriage ba? Ignorance is now better than all the dangers to the marriage?

A cheating husband is aware of HIV, gonorrhea, syphilis and other STDs. He wouldn't want to have them; he will protect himself as well as his wife. Their brain is not in their Dick.

Like Op rightly said, only strong men can cope with feisty ladies.
They are intimidating and if you don't take your time to study them, you will judge them wrongly.
They are also very loving especially to their spouse.

priscaoge: Is marriage Biblical

Marriage is biblical. (paying of bride price) Jesus turned water into wine in a wedding ceremony.
But church wedding isn't biblical.

"you may kiss ur bride" isn't biblical.

100Cents: Only a heartless man will continue hurting his wife that way. It is also a big disgrace for the man to continue in such act when family and church members have been informed of his misbehaviour.

I assure u, the family members will support the man because its a norm in Africa to have more than one wife especially if the family is a non literate family. My best friend married an illiterate business man but Today she's out of the marriage with a baby girl. At first, they will be very loyal but after u get belle, u are on ur own. Some men are heartless.

100Cents: So straight to the point.

But do you say she should not find out if her husband is cheating ?

If she finds out, what can she do abt it? Its going to cause her heart aches and the husband may apologize and continue in a more discreet affair. If her husband doesn't respect her he wud bring the mistress into their home and she will do nothing but to either pack out or cope.

Chaii, this ur opinion is really candid[/quote]

Phema: You are 30, jobless, still collect "chop money" from parents and you want to get married? Not even cos of any other thing but loneliness? You haven't even done your NYSC yet.

Is your sole aim of coming into this world to come and get married? No other ambition?

These are the kind of men that will abscond when they hear their wife gave birth to triplets.

O'boy, park well and re-prioritise!

lecturerdabo: U ought to ve communicted more with him in a calm manner when he accused u of nagging

2 U embarked on a journey to destroy ur home when u started spying on ur hubby with his clueless apprentice

3 NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT, FORGIVE HIM AND WORK ON UR HOME!

In case u ar not aware, this issue might break the strange woman's home and if u are not there to protect ur home, u might be the complete looser!!

You ar pregnant and ur huby might not feel comfortable having sex with you-ignorant of how to go about it

2 company he keeps is another factor

3 sometimes we african men believe d idea that doing house chores makes us "woman wrapper" therefore minimize ur dependence on him for house chores.

ALL THE ABOVE REASONS AND MANY MORE AR NT GUD ENOUGH REASON TO DESACRATE OUR MARRIAGE VOWS!

Thank you

Hazzana: Sooooo Ms Eso....u re the kinda lady who would slave herself like a circus monkey even when preggo...i seee! As long as the OP didnt scatter the house herself..her cheating husband should help in cleaning it. I bet he would have even helped his mistress to grind pepper in her house.

Madam, I'm not saying what d man did was right but she didn't have to track d man down.
If u are looking for a man that will help u with chores on a daily basis especially after he comes back from work, then you are on a very long thing. Some men can help but when they are in a good mood.

axhead: . You sound very judgemental and I don't think you have actually addressed the problem.plus you obviously have a lot to learn about marriage...just my opinion

How do I address the problem? The Op said she can't forgive her husband. Its either a divorce case or she forgives him. I don't have to experience marriage before I know basic dos and don'ts. How many men are free from extra marital affairs?

First of all, it was wrong for u to send that little boy to spy on ur husband. It wud av been better u didn't know abt the extra marital affair. Ignorance wud av paid u more.

Secondly, don't expect ur man to help u with chores always, even if u are 8 months pregnant, do ur best and keep ur home clean, do u help him provide money for the family because its obvious u are a full time house wife. ur dirtiness is part of what pushed him out.

Thirdly, how can u deal with the said home wrecker? Will u use juju? Will u fight her? You better concentrate on how to save ur home.

Lastly, why will a graduate marry an illiterate? It must be because of money not humility.

crazyawesome911: What if she still doesn't talk Τ̅Ơ me, and is still waiting for more money

U keep sending more money

TribalEAST: but now, women are dragging the trousers with men. I think that's one of the reasons why they get smelly vagina and yeast infection.

And Women who wear skirts and wrapper don't have yeast infection? Please read up the causes of yeast infection before u continue to think wearing trousers is the cause.

I go ask my papa if he like the ass.

Ask her for her account number and keep transferring her cash till she stops being angry. Lolz

tollytexy: HAPPY BIRTHDAY DANGOTE PASTOR.. oops.. sorry.. Happy Birthday Richest Pastor in AFRICA.. LLNP.. i wont stop complaining unless u start sharing 50% of your wealth to the orphans and helping the poor..

What do u think u know? Nd what makes u feel he doesn't help the poor and d orphans? Keep complaining but make sure u complain right.

I don't support her stupidity, but Op where do u want her to keep the baby or with whom shud she keep d baby? What if they steal d baby wherever she keeps it? Its obvious she's a street trader (no shade or shop). If she no sell pepper because of d rain and baby, the others kids including d baby nor go chop today. I don't blame her.

Na mad people dey borrow money for wedding

Toy

April07: Every Edo girl likes money

Lolz, abeg which girl no like money? Even u April07, u love money pass me.

Chaii, bad memories. I stopped bedwetting at age 16. I cud bed wet twice in one night, even when u wake me up thrice in one night to urinate, I must bed wet. because of this i was denied spending weekends and hols at my relatives houses. I always slept on d floor till I was 16 make I nor for spoil my mama mattress. Mum would flog me whenever she discovers I don piss again; even in d middle of d night.

I stopped eating dinner, I stopped drinking water, I was treated with different herbal concussion but the thing nor stop.
That thing is natural. I don't even know how it stopped.

Mutuwa: U look like a calabar girl

Mutuwa: U look like a calabar girl

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