Thank you Dominionng...

Dominionng:
Nice.

Thank you Olisa4all...

Olisa4all:
Impressive Stuff Esther

Thank you Irguru...

lrguru:
lovely

Thank you Ladyb...

Ladybfoods:
very interesting

As the year 2015 is coming to an end, I’m sure some of us have made resolutions we would like to fulfill. We have made plans for the year 2016, made peace with those we have wronged, hope to stop some bad habits, pay debts, serve God more, Save more money, lose weight, find a life partner, and so much more countless desires. Some of us make a list that and do not end up fulfilling one of them.



A new year resolution is just like a tradition for everyone, though some people do not believe in it but sometimes it just helps to guide you through and serves as a reminder. New Year’s Eve usually is a time to reflect on the changes we want or need to make. But one thing I know for sure is the fact that everyone wants to live a better, quality life as we grow older, entering a New year.

The last day of the year gives you that time to reflect in summary on what has happened throughout the year 2015, things you should have done differently, thank God for life changing moments, ideas you should have materialized, things you should have said, and lots and lots of other stuff.

But lets not forget the reason why we are existing amidst the plenteous plans we make that the most important thing in life is to show LOVE to one another as much and as best as we can, not just to our family members and friends, we should extend it to others as well.

Having a heart filled with Love and loving God selflessly is the key to living to a successful life. With a heart filled with love, you will have inner peace and wouldn’t want to hurt another human being intentionally. Touch lives in a positive way, with words, actions, and the likes are some of the things that make you successful.

Ask God for life-changing ideas, creativity, instincts, tuition, and all that leads you to living a life filled with determination and hunger for genuine success to be able to touch lives in different ways. Start with re-branding yourself…

We are entering a New Year, whether we like it or not; It is a fresh start… Do something Different in 2016!!!

Source: www.esther.com.ng

I guess they jumped that part.

zaragal:
the two guys above me tho...did u finish secondary school


did u read where she said she married the dude and left an abusive marriage??

and she is yet to remarry??,....how is she jst a baby mama

Thank you...

Lancier:
Nice write up.

She got pregnant after her traditional marriage...

iyke926:
Touching story But ladies should stop whorin to avoid being a single mother... baby momma.

She got pregnant after her traditional marriage. Kindly read the write-up.

austine4real:
What is the essence of this write up?



To encourage premarital sex?



Baby mamas?

Yeah....

harbeeordun31:
Courting for years doesn't make marriage u can meet ur partner within 3-4months nd everything will work perfectly.... courting for years ko courting for months ni RUBBISH

Before a pilot starts flying, the pilot have to do a pre-flight where the pilot checks the body of the aircraft, the engine oil, fuel level, and the propeller to make sure the previous pilot who flew the aircraft did not have a bird strike (i.e. suicidal birds flying into the engine prop, lol).

There are checks before a pilot starts the aircraft, checks after he/she starts, a radio call to make before the pilot moves the aircraft, checks while moving on the ground, run checks to make sure the engine has enough power, and so much more. There are lots of other checklist a pilot needs to follow to make sure everything is alright.

An aircraft is pressurized meaning no air can go out and no air can come in. Above 7000ft to 8000ft, the air conditioning system must be working well, if not passengers will begin to pass out gradually. The reason is because, there is a certain amount of pressure required for humans to be able to breath and that’s the level of pressure we have on ground.

Oxygen percentage is the same on ground and up there but the difference is in the pressure, the pressure up there is like less than half of what is available on ground, that is why there is not enough pressure to push air inside the body or enough to keep the organs in place. So, the organs tend to expand causing pains to people and possibly deaths depending on how long each person stays after decompression (that is, a reduction in air pressure).

That is why if there is a loss in cabin pressure, the oxygen mask deploys. Now explosive decompression is when a plane flying at its usual 35,000ft and an accident happens, probably a missile blows open a plane (like we see in movies), or the bulkhead aft pressure gives way, or there is a sudden loss of air, or air rushing into the plane through a hole, passengers and cabin crew will lose consciousness very quickly as a result of hypoxia which is a deficiency in the amount of oxygen reaching the tissues.

But if the pilot can handle the situation, he/she has to descend to a breathable altitude, probably 7000ft to enable passengers and cabin crew breath properly, but it might be late then because death at 35,000ft occurs rapidly.

I can see some of the reasons why some people hate flying… Lol. May God save us all…

Diversion: Then how do people survive in Planet, Mars? Do they wear oxygen masks all the time? Hmmm, that’s punishment, I guess. I recall about 100 people were selected early this year out of the 202,586 applicants to go live in Mars forever…

esthersblog-cockpit-aircraft

From this picture I took at the cockpit – There is the airspeed indicator to check and know the speed. The thing on the extreme left, that is the Artificial horizon, its coloured blue on top indicating the sky… If the triangle on it is in that section, then it means you are ascending. The lower part is brown in colour, indicating the Earth… If the triangle on that screen is there, it means you are descending.

On that same indicator panel just slightly to the right is where the present altitude shows too. The indicator that looks green with green lines is the PFD (Primary Flight Display), if I can remember correctly, Lol.

But from the picture, it is showing in the TCAS mode (Traffic Collision Avoidance System). It shows the probity of other aircrafts to the pilot and if that aircraft and any other one on a collision course have the TCAS 2 installed in them, they can by themselves resolve the best action to be taken when there is a risk of collision.

Source: http://esther.ng/interesting-facts-about-an-aircraft-cockpit-more/

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An EB reader shared her story to serve as a motivation to women/ladies who are still in abusive marriages/relationships. The earlier you report the case or leave such a marriage/relationship, the better for you…

Nine years ago, when I was in the university, I met this guy who was crazy about me. He asked me out for about six months before I finally agreed to date him because back then in the university I was scared of dating after one very serious heartbreak, and like they say, most university relationships always end there. I dated this guy for about a year, after which he proposed and marriage plans started immediately.

During the courtship, sometimes he would tell me that he was broke and needed some money and because of the way he treated me nicely and also assisted me when I was in need, I would give him some money from the profit I make from my business (buying and selling). We decided to rent a two-bedroom apartment since we were already planning our traditional marriage. He paid the rent for two years while I bought most of the furniture, electronics and kitchen wares in the house as a supportive wife-to-be. I was in my third year when we got married, after a few months I got pregnant for my priceless jewel who is 6 years old now.

Four months into the pregnancy, my ex-husband lost his job and became very hostile. He would beat me most times and comes back home drunk, like it was my fault that he lost his job. I thought I would lose my baby, one of the days he pounced on me, I lost consciousness. I had to drop out from the university because I could not cope with the stress at home, my pregnancy and school work at the same time. I managed to stay put until I gave birth. I moved to his parent’s house in Makurdi immediately after I gave birth, to at least get proper care for my baby and also eat good food to be able to breastfeed my child properly. While I was at his parent’s house, he sold everything in the house we rented, I still don’t know how he managed to get the remaining rent money back and then he moved to his parent’s house where I was. That was when he told me about the house and said we would be living in his parent’s house until further notice.

At least, this time around he couldn’t hit me the way he used to when we were living alone. Instead, he became a womanizer. He would cheat with girls who lived close to his parent’s house and even in my presence, he would sometimes bring them to the house when his parents were not around. At night, he would forcefully have sex with me and that was how I got pregnant when my baby was five months old. May God continue to have mercy on me, I had to abort the child because I couldn’t stand the pain of having a second child when I can’t even take care of the one at hand.

His parents saw everything and just talk but no action was done to better the situation. His mother called me one night and advised me to leave the house and go back to my parent’s because she has seen that their son is not ready to change and they cannot keep taking care of me and my baby financially. To cut the long story short, I moved out and went back to my parent’s house, and asked for their forgiveness for keeping quiet all these while after I narrated everything to them. May God continue to bless our parents for their love and support even after we wrong them.

I thank God that the only marriage ceremony we did was the traditional marriage, no court and white wedding. There was no need to go to court to file for divorce or any of the drama surrounding separation.

My ex-husband called my father after two months that he wanted to see my family and beg for forgiveness. My father did not see or hear from him again after that one call. And that was when my father refused to accept him and then I made up my mind to get back on my feet. My father managed to raise some money for me to start a business and that was how I started picking up gradually, I moved to Lagos with my baby, stayed with my uncle before I was able to rent an apartment of my own. I worked very hard and I mean it, I walk into banks, offices, schools to advertise what I sell, it wasn’t an easy journey but it was worth it.

Now I have a boutique, orders are rolling in, I also sell in retail, and wholesale for those who want to resell. I bought a small car and I’m also studying part-time in Unilag at least to have my Bachelor’s degree. My baby is also in school and making mummy proud with his smartness and good grades.

Early this year, I don’t know how he got my phone number or maybe he still has it, he called me after blocking him on Facebook because of his messages. I was sure he saw photos my child and how well we’ve been doing and maybe wants to come back, I have no idea and right now, I don’t care. But whatever the reason, I quickly looked for a lawyer to have my baby’s birth certificate with my father’s name, in the case he would want to come and claim my child after I’d struggled all these years alone to cater for my child. I have a man in my life now, who loves and adores me and my baby. But marriage is on hold now.

I decided to share my story because I read about a lot of stories of women who still live with their husbands despite being abused until it is too late and that’s when they want to leave all in the name of not being single or because of kids or what friends and family would say. There is no life after death, life is for the living. There is a whole lot to life out there, hard work, determination and prayer is very important.

Source: www.esther.ng

Kudos! It takes some ladies more than a year to get over their partners. Like you said, Life goes on...

Snowangel4:
I forgot him under 2 weeks .

He destroyed d beautiful relationship we had because of pride,foolishness and selfishness.


Life goes on o

Yea. Lol @What makes a goat a goat is in the goat.

mentorken05:
I think it kinda depends on the individuals involved...u can understand someone in just a minute,also I can take years to understand someone at the other hand..
What makes a goat a goat is in the goat

Lol. The exchange rate is even higher now. It's so sad though.

But what other options do we have apart from USA since the visa is sometimes an issue for Nigerians?

EroticAngelina:
uhhh.. to answer ur question. let's see

• USA is very developed in all areas

• They have a very good and stable economy compared to Nigeria(abi na Biafra?)

• They give quality education

• a dollar converted to naira is lyk... N230(so just imagine getting 5000$ as ur monthly salary )

• We have a wack president whose azz can't stay put

I'm done. so that's why

Yea, I get your point. We all love the American dream and also hope for a better Nigeria. But what if the US doesn't work out. The visa are very simple and also hard to get....

kilokeys:
The American Dream


The American Dream is a national ethos of the United States, the set of ideals (Democracy, Rights, Liberty, Opportunity, and Equality) in which freedom includes the opportunity for prosperity and success, and an upward social mobility for the family and children, achieved through hard work in a society with few barriers.



Whats the Nigerian dream?

Mtcheeew.. New York I dey come jare

When you go to the U.S Embassy in Nigeria, especially in Lagos, you will be amazed at the number of applicants you see there. Funny enough, it’s always like that every day because, other applicants who go there to apply on different occasions say the same thing about the crowd they see there.

At the Consular section and sometimes outside the building, you see people cry after being denied. Some applicants even go as far as begging the Consular officers inside to reconsider them after being rejected, like their whole life depends on it. Sometimes with genuine reasons and complete supporting documents to back it up, some applicants are still denied. Nigeria is among the countries with the highest number of U.S visa rejections.

I know it hurts, but are there no other countries to be considered for greener pastures United States used to hold that title but not anymore. One would really have to work very hard as a foreigner to be successful in U.S.

According to a report I read from Vanguard, The U.S. mission in Nigeria says no fewer than 220,000 applied for non-immigrant visas in 2014 and from Oct 1 2014 till May 2015, they have already received 138,578 applications. These consular officers will definitely not approve visas for all applicants.

Until our country Nigeria improves, we will not be respected in another man’s country.

Kindly drop your suggestions, advice and any helpful information about other countries for Nigerians who think success or a better life can only be achieved in U.S.

Source: www.esther.com.ng

Life could be interesting...

Mhizkel:
Absolutely NO!
It is not how far, but how well.
Ever wondered why misunderstanding still comes up between couples who have been married for years? Fact is, humans are unpredictable and are also bound to make mistakes. Handling the issue with maturity and understanding is all that matters. Presently, a friend is married to the man she courted for just 3weeks. Meanwhile, same man was in a previous courtship of 10years which didn't end up as marriage. This only takes the Grace of God and the partners involved. Duration of courtship matters not.

Yeah, there seems to be no definite answer.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
yes and No.If two people are compatible , even if they date for 2 hours, it'll still work out.

I was talking to someone a few days back, and she said meeting someone for the first time and getting married within 3 to 6 months is a short time, and such marriages do not last because they do not know themselves well enough, and also said courtship should be from 1 year to 3 years before marriage. I couldn’t agree more/less at the same time, because I think it depends on the people involved and the relationship they share. You can meet someone, and you know, it just clicks…

I know of a lady who got married five weeks after meeting her husband, and they have been happily married for four years, there are others who have been together for longer periods and the marriage didn’t last. From a few people asked, majority of them said between 6 to 12 months and if taking the relationship to the next level is not having a direction after 12 months, then questions should start popping up.

One thing I am sure of is, you really can’t know someone completely no matter how much time you spend together, you can only tell to a large extent about the person. As we grow older, we tend to see life differently and that is because we change throughout our lives; either in our perception about life based on experiences, our way of thinking, focus, direction, lifestyle, family, kids, money, and the likes of it.

I have been asked a few times, how long should one court before deciding to get married, my answer always is, I do not have a time frame, you would know when you are ready.

If time is one of the most important factors to know your partner completely before deciding when to get married. When do you think is the best time period to date/court?

Source: www.esther.ng

Hmmmm.... I couldn't even give a perfect solution to this situation because there are a lot of restraining factors surrounding it. The job in not in the oil and sector and even though the industry is not as it used to be... In Nigeria, even if your skills are marketable, the jobs are very few and most pay peanuts... People hold on to the ones they already have, pending when they can get another better offer.

bukatyne:


I agree

@Esthersblog:

1. Also, is the state viable? If the job goes south or an emergency happens e.g. MTN, can she get another one sharply? Is her field marketable?

2. Is the job in a stable industry? Oil and Gas now is

3. Is the husband's skills marketable? Can he get another one quick?

This is very true. I totally agree, the expenses gets doubled and distance strains relationships/marriage with time, even without noticing it.

tearoses:
Depends on what is the starting salary that is being tripled
3 times 40K is 120K
3 times 150 is 450K
Remember that you have to run 2 homes which in its own can be expensive
2 lots of rent, Nepa bills, transport cost etc
You also have to factor in transport costs to visit each other

Then on top of all of that you have to think about the stresses of living apart
I personally dont like couples living apart
Some of the benefits and expectations of marriage is companionship, affection, touch, lovemaking, bonding etc
LDR make this difficult.

Lol

Cutehector:
Sista abeg carry ur two legs run go work the new workan if u dnt want it, abeg recommend me to dem dat I am ur broda.

Very detailed rational breakdown. This should really help... Thanks...

nenyibabs:
Hmm. It can work o, but requires a lot of work. Money is not everything. U have to calculate the overall cost, be very objective when measuring the pros and cons. And you guys should do it together.

1. What plans do you have for regular visits, either on his side or yours? Apart from the fact that you guys need time together as a new couple, if you guys plan to go into baby-making soon, the distance can make things tricky. U guys need to work out how regularly visits will occur, and who goes where.

2. Find out exactly what work entails. Is it the kind of job where you get confirmed within one year? Is there a possibility of working out a transfer to your base after a while? That's a plus. On the other hand, will u be stressed on the job? Working late? Find out. Cos nothing breeds suspicion faster than u coming home by 8pm and crashing out due to exhaustion, and hubby tries and tries unsuccessfully to reach you via phone. U get the picture?

3. Just know that if you move, most of the work of keeping your relationship alive will be on your head. It's the truth. Basically, you are managing 2 households. And it can get lonely especially if you have no prior experience of living alone or you don't have any support system in the new town. How do u guys hope to manage that situation. It can also be hectic, esp once kids start coming. Doing school run, hospital visits, etc in addition to work can be stressful, and you can end up even resenting hubby for not being there. It's irrational, but it does happen.

So, all in all, a lot to think about. Goodluck on your decision.

Yeah, I agree with you. Family should come first...

PresVA:
I can only stay in a long distance marriage if my husband is in another country(which will probably be temporary). .. we can't be in the same country and live separately. ..one person has to move..

Job will always come but true love (assuming your husband is) is hard to come by....

It's a matter of choice! Your family or your job! For me, family first.... one person has to move, we must live together! !

Yea, but it is not that easy. You know how hard it is to get a job, most men also have ego. He might not want to stay at home while his wife goes to work pending when he gets a job.

thorpido:
If you say the job comes with a fat pay-cheque and your hubby's job doesn't pay much,I'll say he should resign and move with you.
It can work if both of you work for each other anyway.
I don't like young couples living apart.

You said it all. Thanks...

KelvinKelt:
Well, it's not that healthy. Nevertheless, the key word here is 'the fear of God'. If both of u are governed by the fear of God, there's really nth to worry about. If ur husband stays abroad & u are here the key word will guide him right. The next point is maturity, effective communication, mutual trust, understanding, sincerity, honesty, respect, above all deep luv & affection. I wish u a happy marriage.

An EB reader sent this... Your honest opinion counts…

My husband and I have practically been together for 6 years, we started dating in the university. We got married about a year ago. I currently have a job that does not pay that much, my husband also works but doesn’t earn that much as well. We live a comfortable life and always pray to achieve more.

I applied for a job before I got married, was called for an interview some months later and was told they will get back to me. I had to put it behind me after I did not hear from them for a while.

I recently received a call from the company that I have been granted the job offer and was told to start in two months’ time. I couldn’t say No because I was so excited, the salary triples what I earn presently but the sad part is, I have to resume in a different state far from where I currently reside.

I know this is a big opportunity for me and my husband and at the same time, I do not want to live separately from him.

Even if my husband says I should go for it to make me happy and then we would work something out.

Do you think it’s healthy for our marriage?

source: www.esther.com.ng

I received an email recently from the lady who shared this story. This world is really a small place.

She said, "While going through my phone checking dps as usual, my sister-in-law's dp made me laugh so hard.
It gave me more reasons to keep thanking God for my life and that of my husband and the fact that I told my husband about the guys I have dated.
Guess what I saw... An ex holding his son, his wife just gave birth. I have never heard or seen any connection whatsoever between my sister-in-law and my ex, no family ties, they are not from the same state, they live in different locations, I couldn't think of anything. I just locked up, you know how some sister-in-laws can react to things like this, and then I showed my husband. He just started laughing."

Esthersblog:
I received this email form an EB reader who would like to share to fellow EB readers.

"I started dating in 2001, I guess you know how it is when it comes to first love. He ends up becoming your first everything, we broke up two years later. Four months after we broke up, I started dating another guy who I found out about six months later that he was my ex’s cousin. Well, we broke up shortly afterwards.

I decided to go on a break and after which my cousin hooked me up with a guy who was studying abroad. After a few months, on Christmas day to be precise, we started dating online because he was sure of coming back to Nigeria after his studies. And I was also cool with it because we really liked each other and couldn’t wait to be together physically, I could say we were already falling in love online. The shocker after his return to Nigeria was, my boyfriend at that time was very close friends with my two ex-boyfriends. They were childhood friends right from when they were living in Lagos before they all moved to different locations in Nigeria, before he travelled out, but they still kept their friendship.

At this point I thought I was under a spell. I was living in Lagos at the time, which is the biggest city in Nigeria, I couldn’t believe my three boyfriends all knew each other. Trust guys now, because my exes had their cakes, my boyfriend decided to end the relationship because he could not bear the thoughts that his friends had slept with me. I was expecting it though, but it sure broke my heart. I cried, prayed and fasted for God to take away this curse.

Then I met this sweet guy after I was transferred to another city to work. His brothers did not like me, I have no idea why up till now, but who cares. I was doing all the wife duties to make sure I kept the relationship including all efforts made to make his brothers accept me but all to no avail, his brothers succeeded in breaking the relationship. That one gone.

I lost my job afterwards because the company closed down and I decided to go live with my aunty who resides in another state. I didn’t want to live in Lagos where my family was based because of the experiences I had in my previous relationships. I enrolled in a vocational training institute and started my own business shortly after I was through with it. I went for a wedding with a friend of mine one weekend and that when she introduced me to the sweetest guy. We kicked off immediately but was taking the relationship one step at a time. We travelled for a wedding to the state I resided before I moved in with my aunty and to my greatest surprise, his friend who was getting married was one of my ex’s brothers. I felt like entering under the ground.

One thing I always thank God for was the fact that I told my boyfriend every single thing about my relationship life except a few though, but I did not leave out the number of guys I dated and how it all ended. While I was with my boyfriend then, you know how some loud mouthed guys are, they started saying all sorts about me to my boyfriend, the stories that were true, and lies as well.

Do you know what he told them after they realized he wasn’t saying anything about it. He told them he already knows the whole story, that all was in the past and he wasn’t ready to give me up for anything in this world. My head swelled when he was coming towards me smiling and gave me a long kiss before he told me what he told them after they finished ranting. We finally got married a year later.

The message I am trying to pass across here is, do not let anyone or anything make you feel like all hope is lost in finding the right person. It might take a while but definitely, he will find you. This might not work for every lady but it definitely worked for me. Try to make sure you do not leave out the very important details about your past especially your dating life from your man, when you know the relationship is getting serious. You never know!!!"

www.esther.com.ng

Yeah, I also agree with you on the fact that some of the ladies use these monies for hair and the likes, but you do not have to pissed off at females generally...
This is where the problem comes from, when a lady or guy does something wrong or act funny to the other party especially in a relationship, we tend to generalize it which affects the next relationship and our perception about either the males or females, and that is how it spreads, forgetting the fact that people are different.
There are a lot of hard working females out there....

Cutehector:
yes. Dats hw bad it is. Cuz ryt nw I am so pissed off at females.. Nonsense.. I was just so annoyed wen she told me "she just wanted to try her luck" on me...

Any lady dat needs money should work for it. So yall knw hw hard it is to get money in dis life... Afterall so many females r out thr hustlin becomin independent and not dumpin dr financial problems on men.. And if dey can't get d money at dat moment dey should chill for God's time and stop lookin for easy ways out.. Most of these monies dey be askin for is to do hair, fizx nails, rubbish... Its not dat d money dey ask for is for good thing...

Hmmm... but it seems true.

IamMrNoble:


Maybe it's because most Nigerian women feel men are only after their honey pot