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Yeah, I get it. But enjoying being single doesn't mean that you shouldn't pave way for that special someone to come into your life. If he comes, fine, and if he doesn't, still cool, life goes on...

KashyBaby:
I never complained tat I'm still single as d matter of fact I enjoyed the fruit of being single..there's always a saying "it's better to be SINGLE than to be with a wrong person"...

Lol.

marshalcarter:
If you cnt find mr right...wen u see mr left...you take him and put him in the left


#marshalCarter#

Thank you...

IndianaJay:
Like.

You will hear a lot of ladies complain about not finding the right person, how they dated so many guys and still haven’t found the One… It might not be their fault though but have they sat down to know why it happened that way. There are some aspects of life that as we grow older, we should not ignore.

Finding the right person for you, you also have to make yourself right for that person. You want a man with a contrite heart, a man who forgives and sees it as a way of life, a man who fears God and knows that we are answerable to him, a man who wants to make Heaven, a man who completes you, a man who is compatible, a man who loves family, a man who shares almost same dreams and goals with you, a man who sees the best in you and helps you work on your imperfections, a man who has your best interests at heart – helping you grow to become a better person with ease and doesn’t see it as a job, a man who gives your life a meaning, a man who would love you unconditionally, a man who cannot live without you, a man who makes you a better wife and mother, and so on… The list is always endless.

You want all these great qualities in your man, but have you taken out time to look at yourself. I know prayers is the master key to every situation in life, but do you see yourself as being good enough for the kind of man you want in your life. That is, if you also possess some or all of those qualities you desire in him. You pray day and night and even fast, not knowing there are still some aspect of your life that needs to be worked on.

Some people are lucky and they do find that someone, but do you want to take chances when it comes to choosing a life partner. I don’t think so.

Try to work on and build yourself in a way that is pleasing to God and also to men. Try to get rid of those negative energy like; heartbreaks, disappointments, failures and the likes… because they are all part of life which helps to shape us in becoming a better person. In fact, it makes you appreciate life the more if you are wise enough to understand it. Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, but the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Most times we get back what we give out. “They that sow the wind shall reap the whirlwind”.

There are good men out there who have built themselves to be a better person or “husband material”. But also, do not forget that these same men want someone who complements them.

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Isn't that to the extreme?

mohdimplez:
seeks for dissolution of the marriage!

Yeah.
I really do not know too because living the rest of one's life like this, hmmm. Its not going to be easy.

kayo80:
Whoa! This is a tough one. Not only is he not good in bed, his thing is also small. A lot of girls have described their experience with small dicks to me, and I always feel like laughing. I mean, this girls that look like they don't care about size suddenly turn comedians when describing the size of their ex's dick. I try not to laugh cos if I didn't have a long thing, the girls would be making fun of me too, so I just hold back my laughter.


Really what's the solution to small dicks? I don't know... all these things that claim to help a man get a big thing are mostly fake.

Thank you Hannysmilez.
Yea, that's true but sometimes we have to try too so we dont let what is ours slip away.
We wish her a married life.

Hannysmilez:
Your blog is cool. My friend always says,
"Whatever comes,let it come. Whatever stays,let it stay. Whatever goes,let it go."
Wishing the lady a happy married life. Cheers!

Yeah... You should.

tpiander:
moral of the story: when you decide to date a guy, always drop the name of your ex boyfriend first and find out if they know each other.

or am I reading you wrong?

Yeah...

IndianaJay:
Thank you for this post....It's refreshing to see such positive experiences from people, it goes a long way in motivating and uplifting others.

I wish you the best.

Very true...

Diddyydiva:
Not all are lucky tho . am happy for her.

Its not so easy for her, i guess.

Mprex:
what other opinion is that lady seeking for


tell her to run for her life before its too late for her.

An EB reader sent this email…

"I’ve always heard that not all engagements leads to marriage and even if you get engaged, make sure it doesn’t take too long before getting married. I am becoming worried and confused.

About six months ago, I got engaged to my boyfriend. He has been acting funny since then, but I always overlooked it because we have been dating for a while now and also because we are engaged to be married. I was so sure that for my boyfriend to take that bold step in front of family and friends, then he was really serious about spending the rest of his life with me, which really meant a whole lot to me.

A few days back, a friend of mine who is also dating one of his friends told me something that I am yet to believe. Her boyfriend told her that my “supposed fiancé” told him that “The engagement is just a way to put a tag on me and to keep having s** with me while my parents are aware”. I was dumbfounded after she told me and I later told her that I will do something about it.

I didn’t say anything about it to my fiancé immediately I was told, not until last night. I somehow believed my friend because my fiancée has not been the same person I knew before we got engaged. He shows some surpising characters now, as if he owns me and feels I cannot leave the relationship all in the name of engagement.

When I finally confronted him, he just laughed over it but did not give me a Yes or No answer.

I am confused."


Your honest opinion counts…

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You deserve to be happy always... Try to pick up gradually, keep your mind occupied with positive activities and you would be fine eventually.

yilly:
woooow.... U are really an inspiration to me right now. U jst motivated me at these moment dat my life is falling apart n am alrdy thnking i do not deserve to b happy. Thank u n Congrats. Am happy for u.

Yeah. Good to know she was happy at the end.

Diddyydiva:
Disadvantages of having sex in a relationship. congrats all the same

Yeah...

modelmike7:
Interesting..............

Yeah, I totally agree with you. Going to three different venues same day all in the name of wedding, I can only imagine the stress.

qhutetomsel:
something like this happened during my parents wedding where both families wanted the wedding to take place in their different churches. They ended up doing the wedding in their different churches on the same day.. but personally I think the decision of the bride's family should be honoured.

Yeah. It seems catholics have very strong rules. I know of some ladies who had their white weddings in the guy's church because he is catholic and they are not, not like that is what they wanted.

Richy4:
It has never been an issue in my state. it is an unwritten law that when it comes to church wedding, the venue will always be in the groom's church.

except on a situation where the groom doesn't attend church. But if the girl was a catholic member, and the man wasn't, some parent sometimes will insist that she should not marry the man (initial gra gra as we call it. but they will later chill as the gifts start rolling in) because the wedding will be taking place in the groom's church.

Especially those girls that got parent that are knight of saint this or that

Easier said than done for some couples. You know, families are also involved. I'm sure left to some couples, they just want to pay the bride price and forget every other thing.

nnamdibig:
The only marriage in the bible is traditional marriage so I don't see any problem in location of white wedding. It's just a case of both couples deciding where it's very convenient for them. A friend invited a pastor to the reception hall. After a very short service, they went out & came in for reception at the same venue. Very simple and cool.

Yeah, she is also reading the comments here from other people's experience. Thank you.

jamesbridget13:
k. She better apply wisdom o

Hi trapQ, not everyone you call friend is truly your friend. Its just for fun, that's why it is under this section. Thanks for the advice.

trapQ:
why are you still friends with the second guy.. you need new friends.

It's a good friend of mine who is about to wed, and this has been an issue for over three weeks now.

jamesbridget13:
parent sabi worry. #sweettalking them is d key. Just give dem d advantages of having it where u wish. U ll see them reason along side. Are u ATW?

Bucket list is a number of experiences or achievements that a person hopes to have or accomplish during their lifetime.

The first list is from a guy who said he has done most of the escapades he had always wanted but have only a few left. Lol.

Visit New York and prolly take a picture close to the Statue of Liberty

Skydiving in Dubai

Visit Bora Bora and Seychelles

Hopefully get a PHD

Watch my favourite English team play live once

Become a commissioner in my State

Get married to my best friend and have five kids, Four daughters and a son

Make out in front of the beach

Eat food prepared with weed

Have sex in a moving car

Date an older lady

Make Heaven.



Another bucket list. This guy has no chill at all… Lol.

Visit Fela Anikulapo Kuti’s Shrine

Have a party

Have sex with an ex, a day before her wedding

Sleep with that sexy hot wife of my neighbour

Sneak into the ladies and make sure I see and do things

Dress like a lady and chill in a sorority house. (sorority house – a society for female students in a university or college, typically for social purposes)

Visit Jamaica and smoke all the pots I can reach

Date two best friends at the same time and have s** with them

Visit Vegas and gamble like it is the last week of world gambling

Meet someone in Vegas, get married and return back home without her. “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas”

Chill with Angel Michael in Heaven.



They both want to make heaven, Lol…


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Lol. Sometimes some parents make a big issue out of it. Thanks.

jamesbridget13:
Hmmmmmm. I dont see why d venue shld cause any problem. Its only a matter of understanding each other. In my case i n my husband planned to have it done in his church but my dad kicked against it. I had to let him knw dat if it must be in our church dat it must also be in d town my hubby lives which happens to be our lga n where i work. My dad accepted n he arranged with d pst n we had it done. Kogi state n rivers state is quite a distance ooo. My dad had to do as we wanted o. My hubby even liked it because his church procedures no be come chop o. Lol
Pls about to wed peeps, dont let venue cause a thing. Just iron it out with understanding.

Lol.

GP2015:
That's why I hate relationships

Yeah.

LifeIsGuhd:
It's so hard

Thank you.

pet4ril:
It's commonly done in the woman's church but if the man really wants it in his church maybe because of his friends especially if they are living in the city, it's a matter of understanding. Talk it out with the bride then they have the traditional in the village and go to where they are residing to do the church wedding

I also heard that about the catholic church.

fav444:
Not in the Catholic Church o, the rule will either make u go in or go out. No room for wed and after go to ur husband church. if u must wed there u must remain a member. if u can't follow this rule na u sabi

Yeah...

Cutehector:
Girls una hear? Whateva will be, will be... Dat ur datin ur boyfrnd doesn't mean u both will end up being married...

Yeah, a really big congrats.

elijah2u:
Like seriously ? Congrats

I received this email form an EB reader who would like to share to fellow EB readers.

"I started dating in 2001, I guess you know how it is when it comes to first love. He ends up becoming your first everything, we broke up two years later. Four months after we broke up, I started dating another guy who I found out about six months later that he was my ex’s cousin. Well, we broke up shortly afterwards.

I decided to go on a break and after which my cousin hooked me up with a guy who was studying abroad. After a few months, on Christmas day to be precise, we started dating online because he was sure of coming back to Nigeria after his studies. And I was also cool with it because we really liked each other and couldn’t wait to be together physically, I could say we were already falling in love online. The shocker after his return to Nigeria was, my boyfriend at that time was very close friends with my two ex-boyfriends. They were childhood friends right from when they were living in Lagos before they all moved to different locations in Nigeria, before he travelled out, but they still kept their friendship.

At this point I thought I was under a spell. I was living in Lagos at the time, which is the biggest city in Nigeria, I couldn’t believe my three boyfriends all knew each other. Trust guys now, because my exes had their cakes, my boyfriend decided to end the relationship because he could not bear the thoughts that his friends had slept with me. I was expecting it though, but it sure broke my heart. I cried, prayed and fasted for God to take away this curse.

Then I met this sweet guy after I was transferred to another city to work. His brothers did not like me, I have no idea why up till now, but who cares. I was doing all the wife duties to make sure I kept the relationship including all efforts made to make his brothers accept me but all to no avail, his brothers succeeded in breaking the relationship. That one gone.

I lost my job afterwards because the company closed down and I decided to go live with my aunty who resides in another state. I didn’t want to live in Lagos where my family was based because of the experiences I had in my previous relationships. I enrolled in a vocational training institute and started my own business shortly after I was through with it. I went for a wedding with a friend of mine one weekend and that when she introduced me to the sweetest guy. We kicked off immediately but was taking the relationship one step at a time. We travelled for a wedding to the state I resided before I moved in with my aunty and to my greatest surprise, his friend who was getting married was one of my ex’s brothers. I felt like entering under the ground.

One thing I always thank God for was the fact that I told my boyfriend every single thing about my relationship life except a few though, but I did not leave out the number of guys I dated and how it all ended. While I was with my boyfriend then, you know how some loud mouthed guys are, they started saying all sorts about me to my boyfriend, the stories that were true, and lies as well.

Do you know what he told them after they realized he wasn’t saying anything about it. He told them he already knows the whole story, that all was in the past and he wasn’t ready to give me up for anything in this world. My head swelled when he was coming towards me smiling and gave me a long kiss before he told me what he told them after they finished ranting. We finally got married a year later.

The message I am trying to pass across here is, do not let anyone or anything make you feel like all hope is lost in finding the right person. It might take a while but definitely, he will find you. This might not work for every lady but it definitely worked for me. Try to make sure you do not leave out the very important details about your past especially your dating life from your man, when you know the relationship is getting serious. You never know!!!"

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There are some items that might skip your mind or you might think they are not necessary to carry along with you when going to study abroad. When going to another country for the first time, there are some little things you wouldn’t have taken note of, or done some research about, thinking whatever you want might be accessible to you when you settle down. Some of the things on the list can also be applicable if you are travelling to another state within Nigeria to study as well.

1.Make sure you have at least three photocopies of all your documents, including your passport biodata page, just in case you have to some paper work same day you arrive or the next day to save time.

2.At least one of each of these; A4 sized Envelopes, small envelopes, folders, eraser, pencil, pen, scissors, scotch, calculator.

3.Make sure you have a map downloaded on your phone for directions and learn how to use a hard copy map, in case you do not have access to internet.

4.Universal adaptors with double and triple adapter plugs would be needed when you are not sure of the plug used in the country.

5.You should have some cash with you, because there are some local stores that do not accept foreign cards.

6.For the ladies; hair dryer, flat iron, shower cap, wig and weavon is also necessary.

7.Some snacks and food can come in handy like nuts, noodles (to start with) and ingredients like dry pepper. (Optional)

8.If you are used to taking some particular drugs for cold or pains, then you have to take some with you. It can be very difficult sometimes to find what you are looking for in foreign pharmacies.

9.Do not forget to add a mug and cutleries to your luggage.

10.Toiletries will be needed immediately you arrive at your destination.

Kindly drop your suggestions in the comment section.

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