There was a time in my life between the age of 18 and 20; I had plans and pictures of how my life will turn out when I become 30. Just like every other girl’s dream; I would meet my husband during my university days, and after graduation; would wish to be posted for National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) in the same state with my husband-to-be, possibly be retained at the primary place of assignment or get a good paying job afterwards (I used to think getting a good job in naija wasn’t a big deal). Then afterwards, get married, buy a house at a very good location in Abuja and Dubai, with three kids, all by the time I am 30.

You know, the age of 25 is kinda like a special age. It is an age where you stand on the edge of a new chapter of your life. At that time, out of a hundred percent, you have lived one-fourth of your life. Most people feel they are confirmed adults on their 25th birthday in the Nigerian setting.

Yea, 21 year birthdays’ are usually celebrated in a big way in the western world and also in Nigeria, ushering us into adulthood. In the western world, you see practical results. They are already adults and can move out of their parents’ house, if they so desire and the parents would not stop them as long as they can take care of themselves. But for people like us in Naija that have strict parental guidance and having respect for our parents, the acknowledgement of being an adult at 21 is only applicable in theory. Where do you want to pack your load to? Lol. If you like be very loaded, na you sabi.

For guys, it’s a bit easier to move out when you feel you can take care of yourself without depending on your parents financially. But for most ladies, if you like have all the money in the world at the age of 21, just dont make the mistake of telling your parents you want to move out and live on your own. That is when your parents will tell you your life history about how they gave birth to you, took care of you until now, how they have suffered during their early years just to make sure that they give you a better life and set a good path for you to follow, and because you have started making money that they have been making before you were born, you feel you have grown wings. Some parents might go further to ask afterwards; you have now grown wings to fly, abi?. What an elder sees while sitting, you my child will not see it even if you climb an iroko tree. Hahahahahaha!!!!.

Back to a few months before my 25th birthday, some of the things I had dreamed about and imagined while I was younger was not anywhere close. Quite alright, I had graduated from the university and had a good job shortly after NYSC but not with the pay check I envisioned.

Hmmm, reality dawned on me on my 25th birthday. I do not know if it is applicable to you, on my birthdays, I feel very quiet inside of me; sometimes I stay out of the world for a few hours, just me, myself and I after the whole party and drama. From the kind of family I come from, no night parties allowed, in or out. By 8pm, everything is done and over. There is ample time to think about my life and strategies for the coming year. I see my birthdays like the New Year, because that is when I make all my new resolutions and hope for the best in the coming year.

The heart breaks ehn, as in, no get part 2. All the husband fairy-tale, beautiful house, cars and having my own family became blurry and reality begins to dawn on me. In fact, this time, I was becoming uncertain of ever achieving everything I dreamed of. I began to live my life the way it comes and always trying to make sure I did the best I can to improve me in all aspects; financially, spiritually, physically, mentally,… I began to see myself as a real adult and then, I started making strategic and rational decisions about my life.

Fast forward to now, I am now happily married with a child but still without a house of my own (me and hubby obviously) and the salary figures a bit higher now, which is good, *smiles*. Though, you will agree with me that all the dreams I had when I was much younger did not materialize which is a bit disappointing, but I guess that is one aspect of life we all have to embrace. So to say that we do not sometimes or usually achieve the things we so much desire. Life has a way of restructuring our path.

I do believe wisdom comes with age. One of my deepest regrets is not asking my parents certain things about life when I had the chance to. The truth is, our parents might act in a way that we do not like or tells us things that hurts us, but it is for our own good. When you are a parent, you will realize that your parents were only trying to protect you and keep you away from harm as much as they can. And this may be the reason why they might withhold certain information from you, and this is to say, they want you to unravel, discover and experience life in your own way.

For the younger bees: Relax. Don’t try to figure out everything, because things do not always work out the way you want it to be. And that is not a bad thing!!! Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans, because it is so easy to get caught up in trying to plan the future, but there is no way to predict the future, you can only try.

Do not be in such a hurry to live life. Enjoy life as it comes and do not trade today for an unforeseeable future, because things will eventually play out well if you know what you want out of life and work towards it. Try to save as much as you can, I do not mean you should be stingy to yourself. Shop when you can, travel if you like to and make sure you live a happy life.

We are all humans, we have our ups and downs, no doubt, but the ability to pick ourselves up again and keep pushing forward is what matters.

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An intensive care unit was recently turned into wedding chapel for one couple anxious to get married before it was too late.

Caleb Hanby and Bethany Davidson were married at the Vanderbilt University Medical Center last week, just hours after Hanby was rushed to the hospital due to breathing problems, according to the hospital.

Hanby, 28, was diagnosed last year with a rare cancer called rhabdomyosarcoma that affected his skeletal muscle in the jaw.

The couple had already planned for a quick wedding after the terminal diagnosis, but at the hospital Hanby was deteoriating quickly and they still had weeks before their wedding date. As a result the couple decided they should marry that day before Hanby’s health got even worse, according to the hospital.

“I knew it needed to happen that day,” said Davidson, 26, on the Vanderbilt University Medical Center website. “I couldn’t live without the opportunity to be married to my soul mate.”

“It made me feel complete,” The groom said on the Vanderbilt University Medical Center website.

Hanby died due to complications from his cancer on Thursday, 1 October, 2015, just over a week after saying his vows.

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Yeah, I feel you. I dont even know what i will do myself.

Folaatisade:
Most of the people saying i will forgive are actually telling lies, especially the men. You know damn well in your heart that you will do the opposite now so stop frontin.

Technology will put us into trouble one day. There is a US based website where you can find out who your partner has been calling or texting.

There is no need to sneak behind your partner’s back to check his phone calls/messages or wake up in the middle of the night to check his phone. The application is for those who do not leave their partner’s phone alone. It can also be used by anyone to find some information about another person. It’s not just for partners in a relationship.

Nigerian numbers cannot be searched from the application, don’t bother rushing to the website to start searching for your boyfriend/girlfriend’s number. Maybe our Nigerian high-tech guys will create one for us very soon. Lol.

They also claim it is 100% confidential, the other party will never find out when you check their phone numbers from the application.

Though some people said, it has helped them to save lives, which is good. But I’m sure most of the users will search for their partners activities to catch them red-handed if they are cheating on them.

The website is ‘phone.instantcheckmate.com’

What would you do if this is applicable to Nigerian phone numbers?

Kindly drop your comments…

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I totally agree. @They decide what to do with that training.

dominique:


Oga you can only do so much in nurturing and training them. They decide what to do with that training. Believe it or not peers and media have more influence on kids than their parents. You can't shut them out from the world, you can only pray that that they are able to distinguish between the right and wrong influence as they grow older.

Look at the Menendez brothers case. Their parents were very wealthy. Their father was very strict and their mother was loving which created some form of balance in their upbringing. Their father doesn't want them to be spoilt so he rationed their allowances and made them take summer jobs. One day they got tired of living on their daddy's meagre allowance. They wanted their inheritance and to start living the big life but they can't do that while their parents were still alive. Long story short, they murdered their parents in cold blood (Google Eric and Lyle Menendez). Donald Trump raised his children the exact way and they turned out fine.

@topic, I'll forgive them but I'll do a through mental evaluation on them coupled with rounds of therapy.

Nigeria’s Population is presently about 185million. The United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) revealed that 65million Nigerians are still illiterates, which is about 35percent of the total population. This means that 65 million people in Nigeria do not have the ability to identify, understand, interpret, create, communicate and compute, using printed and written materials associated with varying contexts. In simple terms, they do not have the ability to read and write.

In effort to eradicate illiteracy, the government should try as much as possible to take the necessary steps to eradicate poverty, create mediums where people should be given awareness as to why education is important. Funds should also be provided by the government to build more schools in remote areas of the country. Individuals can also assist in eradicating illiteracy in the country by giving scholarships or organise educational funds given to the appropriate medium. Illiteracy is a disease that needs to be eradicated in Nigeria.

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Well Said,,,

sihom:


You would have failed as a parent, if (God forbid) your children want to kill you!! Stop that crazy talk right there.

As a parent you can only do so much for your children REMEMBER children are human beings with a will of their own regardless of how well or right you raise them.

In other words, they have the power of choice like everyone else and they will choose to either do right or wrong. You are familiar with the Cain & Abel story aren't you?

Do you think Adam & Eve didn't raise both boys well? My folks raised me well and in the right path like the bible says, I knew the 10 commandments at an early age but when I decided to have sex none of that mattered.

I knew at the back of my mind that sex out of wedlock was wrong and I didn't forget my parents teachings I just chose to do what I wanted regardless of all the right things I knew.

Am I making any sense at all to you? I hope so because I hate it when parents get blamed for the foolishness of their children especially when those children are young adults and know better but choose to not do better.

Even our Creator gives us the free will to choose between Him & the devil, that free will flows to all areas & aspects of our lives so don't get it twisted. Those two idiotic boys knew what they were doing

Things some parents go through

Miami11:
I watched this on Tv in awe

Very privileged, kids, big fancy house, well groomed yard, picture perfect family

Then they attacked their family

I bet you would forgive them because you gave birth to them

And demand they seek psychiatry help, and drug rehab, then they have to live very far because you can never trust them again.

All Progressives Congress (APC) shared on twitter the amount of money being spent for 1 October, Independence day celebration in the past five years. The difference between the past four years and this year will shock you, I can’t even picture what the government use the money for, during this period.

If this is really true, then Change has indeed come to our nation.

“Independence Anniversary Expenditure for the past 5years:

2011 – N13 billion

2012 – N15 billion

2013 – N14 billion

2014 – N22 billion

2015 – N70 MILLION”

The difference is clear. Lol.

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Lol. Abi o...

untainted:
The only relationship they will have with us is our will.
A little portion of our estate goes to them whether they truly repent or they succeed in a second attempt at killing us.
While alive, to your tent o Israel!

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The parents of these two boys forgave their sons for trying to kill them. I'm speechless...

Two boys in Atlanta, Cameron Ervin, 17, and his 22-year-old brother, Christopher tried to kill their parents.

They drugged their parents food, and while the sons taught the parents were asleep, they beat their mother, stabbed their father and hit him on the head with a short gun. The boys also tried to burn their family house to cover up the crime.

The mother was able to call 911 and were rescued by the police.

The brothers are charged with two counts of felony aggravated assault and first-degree arson. Both will be tried as adults and could face as many as 60 years in prison if they are convicted.

The parents say, they forgive their sons, because, it was just one bad moment and totally out of character for them as they have never been violent before.

The parents of these two boys forgave their sons for trying to kill them. I'm speechless...

Two boys in Atlanta, Cameron Ervin, 17, and his 22-year-old brother, Christopher tried to kill their parents.

They drugged their parents food, and while the sons taught the parents were asleep, they beat their mother, stabbed their father and hit him on the head with a short gun. The boys also tried to burn their family house to cover up the crime.

The mother was able to call 911 and were rescued by the police.

The brothers are charged with two counts of felony aggravated assault and first-degree arson. Both will be tried as adults and could face as many as 60 years in prison if they are convicted.

The parents say, they forgive their sons, because, it was just one bad moment and totally out of character for them as they have never been violent before.

It’s so funny some ladies still say, if their partner doesn’t hit them, then he doesn’t love them.

I recall a lady talking about how her partner hits her whenever they have a misunderstanding, and blames his actions on being ‘Hot Tempered’. She later went on to say, their relationship becomes even stronger after they settle and she really likes it that way. To her, she prefers him being physically violent with her because it strengthens her relationship rather than having someone who bottles up everything and explodes one day, only leading to a break-up.

Sometimes, but on rare occasions, women beat their men when they lose their temper as well.

Which of the options below would you prefer?

· A man who curses, screams and throws things at you but does not hit you or lay a finger on you.
· A man who hits you and realizes his/her mistakes and genuinely apologizes immediately after hitting you.
· A man who will just walk away from the scene and stay away from you for days/weeks before thinking of settling the issue.

The question is not meant for ladies only.


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Thank you ,,,

I did not include cooking the meals yourself cos that is too much work for a bride-to-be.

But buying the things needed to cook the food (ingredients, meat and the likes), with assistance from friends or family and give it to the people/caterers in charge of cooking.

yougosee:
Really nice tips.
But man, that cooking by yourself hun hun hun!!

Lol. I am not sure this will work for most of my Nigerian sisters but it sure will for some... We all want the glamour, endless shopping and all that comes with everything special for that day. *Its a one day thing, you have to put in all your best and all your money*. That's what we always tell ourselves. Well, yea, I couldn't agree less. But for those of us who do not have the very high or unlimited budget and need to have that day special and memorable. Here are a few tips but first of all, you have to plan and write a list of the things you want to do and buy on or before that day...

Be ready to do almost everything yourself which will make your wedding customized and classy to your own taste and i say 'almost' cos you are not alone. And you will be surprised how creative you are cos you would not want your 'once in a life time' ceremony to be a mess.

Choose a venue that is an almost free location, what matters is how well you decorate the place, i know you would love to take beautiful pictures that you would want to look at over and over again for the rest of your lives.

I trust our women, the ones that are well brought up in the kitchen by their mothers or fathers (very rare to find) who knows how to cook and the things needed, can go to the market, buy the ingredients and food stuff yourself with a friend/family member who can help out which I think will save cost. Give them to a caterer (mama put was suggested) to prepare the dishes to avoid looking stressed on that special day. You can find a caterer who can cook, bake, prepare cocktails and all there is to eat and drink that day at an affordable price. An all in one package is usually cheaper than a single package with different people.

Shine bright like a diamond ring wearer. There are lots of gold, silver, bronze, platinum coated and the likes kind of accessories that are very affordable that does not fade out quickly. Before it fades out completely, there will be funds available for the one you have always dreamed of. After all, Marriage is a blessing, have faith. Somebody say Amen!

Thank God for internet, you can download music freely without paying for it if you are connected to make your own playlist. You can also get a less expensive upcoming DJ who would be happy to show his skills for the next wedding contract he will get from performing in yours.

You can either have a tailor sow your custom made wedding or rent an already made wedding gown. Both options are cost effective. The choice is yours...

Aseobi! Aseobi!! Aseobi!!! It is not a must that you have to go to the market to get the materials and then putting yourself in debt or spending from what you should have used to do something else cos the truth is in 99.9% of aseobi matters, not everyone will pay for all the aseobi you sold before the wedding day. Infact, you might even have to drag some of them when you should be enjoying your honeymoon solely with your hubby after the wedding because you want to pay off some debts you've accrued. If you have your colours, you can simply tell your invited guests the colour of your wedding and that is it or mayb include it on your invitation card/sms/broadcast. Some people might have clothes with those colours or go buy one if they so desire. It saves you the stress of having to drag igbese (debt) that may later turn out to make you loose your relationship with the people refusing to pay on time, some not because they do not want to pay, maybe they do not have the funds for that at that time but because they want to make you happy since it's your day, they have to collect it.

These days social media has made it very easy for people to connect with one another if you have access to the internet. Inviting the people you so desire can be done cheaply by sending bulk sms, sending messages to your friends on facebook or any other platform that you are familiar with. You can make a few cards to give to your special guests and elderly family friends cos I trust Nigerians, we love respect a lot. #talking about the elder ones#

Hair and Make-up, Hmmm... There are saloons everywhere. There is always one friend who can make, style hair and make-up. I am not saying you should use your friends to get free services but definitely you won't be paying that much for such if you have a good friend who knows how to do them. You can also be your own make-up artist, there are so many ladies who make up themselves perfectly you would think, they went for a make-up session.

Technology has evolved beyond our imaginations. There are smart phones and cameras that does it all and are at very affordable prices. All you need to do is get someone, there is always that friend who is very good at taking pictures, they can show their skills on that day. There are also very affordable photographers and videographers that can cover your wedding.

If you have good friends and family members, you can delegate some tasks to them.

You have to take your time, plan and search well, always ask questions and you will get that dream wedding of yours that won't blow your budget. Always remember, that very special day is all about You and your Partner...

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Was asked these questions, and it was something I thought to share.

Lets take it like this, Men Cheat for various reasons:

Because they feel they can and get away with it .
They might not be happy in their relationships and Marriages so they seek solace elsewhere.
Men would always cheat because it's in their DNA to have more Sexual activities.
When men cheat, sometimes they do just for sex and not emotional attachments: Women who cheat do for emotional attachment.
Men Cheat just for excuses like; to test other waters, to learn new tricks which they find in porn movies or mayb tricks taught by the women they have cheated with.
Men Cheat cos they love to explore other options. One woman isn't enough for them, they can't imagine doing the same woman over and over again...

Let's take a look at How to know if your Man is Cheating:

When your husband or partner is in the shower and his phone rings, he runs through the glass of the shower to answer it or grab the phone....Girl that's a Sign..

If he sleeps with his cellphone doctored to a style.. damn that's a sign..
If he changes in his attitude towards u or care less about you and your needs especially intimate needs that's a HUGE sign..
If he moans at everything and anything you do. If he sees everything wrong in all u do, GIRL he is doing another woman and has taken his attention towards that direction.

When you notice new moves and grand new tricks when intimate with him, that's an important sign you can't miss . You see men ain't that good with keeping up appearances even when they feel they are good at it. They have to go practice these things, they can't just bring it home to their wives or gf witout practice.

Men give themselves away unintentional, women don't need to look for answers for a cheating man because they lay it out for you on the table witout knowing.
One favorite line of a cheating man to his wife or patner is "baby I love you, am tired and stressed out from work that's why our sex life is bad. Oh baby! you don't try to accommodate me, even when you know how tensed things are at the moment with family, finance and all.

The best part of men is, when they firgue out their women is getting attention from other men they begin to act all defensive.. Every cheating scores a 100% in been defensive all the time, no matter when caught in the act.
The thing is Men would always cheat, no matter how loving you are to them and no matter the sacrifice you make for them. It's a special DNA of men,, okay let me be fair. Men that are disciplined won't cheat on you, they would respect their women and love and communicate with them as much as they can.

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Why do women Cheat That's a huge one but to be honest everyone the reason some women cheat is;
1.They are very loose women.
2. They seek attention,love and intimacy from their partners which they ain't getting.
3. Women would only cheat if their emotions are involved. Unlike the men who cheat just to have "Sex"...

Women are very simple to understand if they are listened to, I'm not saying women are perfect, Naaah, but before a woman cheats on her partner or husband or bf she must have complained a million times of things she needs and dosen't get from you, the partner.

Women are easy but difficult.. all they need is Simple: Affection, love, Communication and trust me, they are all yours bowing at anything and everything you need. Women have little brains, LOLZZZ, unlike the men. They only want to be secure and know you got them in all things. They like to be pampered.
I know some men who would say; Oh please! I don't have the time to pamper a woman. I have better things to do. Tell me why were you created before the women? Why did God put a woman under a man? Some men may say " to bear children, cook and clean and worship them men. But the answer is, NO. Women were created to keep the men company.

Hell, yea, these days we have got so advanced that women also work and do all the things men do, but HEY they need love and affection and when that isn't offered to them and someone else offers that "you don't blame them if they look that way init? Just like it's the men's DNA to cheat cos they have to... the women deserve attention,love and care...

Common guys, rather than jump around with other women buying gifts and singing ur love songs to their ears. Why not spend all that time loving and showing how much u care to; ur Wife,GF or Partner?? Women require just less. Why not give them that and be a happy man all ur life, cos trust me a good woman whom u show love and affection and protect her, would go to the end of the end for you, except as I said earlier a loose woman. Have a good day everyone..

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It is not that easy though, especially the acceptance part but eventually, the person will have to come to terms with it and move on or continue to wallow in pain.

The reason why it has to end should be made known, very important.

Sabrwahaqqo:
The ' compass ' u used up there is not a fool proof way af doing it peacefully Esther!

You feel the other person will just give in like that esp. If that one is still so very much in to you?


That person might even get to feign 'acceptance' and poison u for being soo wicked if care is not taken.


My way af doing it is gradual emotional detachment and distance build-up . It will take time but it is quite effective. Actions speaks louder and better than words siz. She won't have your words to use against u later if u adopt my 'style'


I stand to be corrected tho

There are definite ways in which you can end a relationship without making it look awful. Unfortunately, endings are sometimes unavoidable but I’m not encouraging it to be done often. But when it is going to happen, try to save yourself and your partner the pains of going through with it in a way both parties will come to an agreement eventually.

It actually takes a lot of courage to do this especially when the person affected is someone you wouldn't want to hurt deliberately but there are reasons why you cannot continue with the relationship and the only option you have is to end it.

This will not work players cos those ones just zoom off and disappear whenever they like and give you the reply to your unanswered questions by not picking up your calls or reply your messages.
Some also might not see this necessary cos some people think that to stay away is better than spilling the news to their partners at that moment not knowing that such cases hurts the most. There is nothing as hurtful as having unanswered questions as to why you relationship did not work out and why the guy has decided to keep mute about it. Talking about why you should end a relationship with your partner matters a lot. It helps to make the affected move on quickly than when nothing is being said. It also helps to make the next relationship better as well.

Relationships should not be ended through phone calls, messages, in public places, or telling friends and family about it even before the person in question hears it. It should be done at the time when you know the person will be able to handle such information at that time.

A good way is to talk with your partner through it, talk about the good times you both share, things you love about him/her, the positive impact he/she has made in your life, how the relationship has been so far, the ups and downs, and the reason why you cannot go on with the relationship.

The truth is, it is always going to hurt no matter how polished it may sound or look and that is because in ending in a relationship, there is never a good time to discuss about it but ending it in the nicest way possible is what matters a lot. It will reduce the rate at which guys and ladies see themselves after a breakup cos when done in a nice and matured manner, it will hurt.
But it’s not the end, it will only help you heal faster and you will always find love again, not to keep living in pains.

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A picture is worth a thousand words but I think wedding photos are more than that; it consists of love, promises, memory, passion and joy. That's what makes them timeless and priceless at the same time.

Why not share that special day on www.esther.com.ng (Esther's blog) for FREE by sending photos and a short video capturing those special moments to contact@esther.com.ng with your details and a write up you would like to share.

http://www.esther.com.ng/2015/09/send-us-your-wedding-photos-and-video.html

A picture is worth a thousand words but I think wedding photos are more than that; it consists of love, promises, memory, passion and joy. That's what makes them timeless and priceless at the same time.

Why not share that special day on www.esther.com.ng (Esther's blog) for FREE by sending photos and a short video capturing those special moments to contact@esther.com.ng with your details and a write up you would like to share.

http://www.esther.com.ng/2015/09/send-us-your-wedding-photos-and-video.html

When you hear about France, all that comes your mind is, Paris, the expensive city and all the assumptions about the country is that everything in it is expensive. Yea, well, the truth about it is, the standard of living is on the high side compared to some other countries. Yea well *rollseyes*, do you expect less from a beautiful country of love? Do not forget, France is not all about Paris alone, there are lots of other beautiful cities in the country to explore.

Coming down the main topic here, studying in France in some of the top ranking universities in France are not as expensive as you may think and I mean spending thousands of euros especially when it comes to courses taught in English as France major spoken language is French. France is ranked among the top 20 countries in the world with good standard quality of education.

There are very good standard universities that offer same tuition to foreigners and as well as their nationals which means you don't have to pay additional fees and you can find courses taught in English but not that many diversity of programs. There are also some universities that have age restrictions when it comes to the fees you have to pay and it differs from one university to another. Above a certain age, you will have to pay a higher tuition. For me, I think the reason why is because most of their nationals graduate between a certain age range and if coming to study from a particular age above the supposed age, then you should have more and meaningful work experience and money than the younger ones. *justsaying*

If you are also below the age of 26, you will receive so many benefits and reductions in which the government includes foreign students. For example, in Toulouse if you are below the age of 26, you pay 10euros/month for public transportation including the buses, metro and tram. Above 26 years old, you pay about 50euros/month. Every city has its own rules and regulations governing the transportation system, some of them have no age restriction but one thing for sure is, students always pay a very minimal amount possible.

The government also subsidizes the rental cost for all students both nationals and foreigners by paying part of the rent. For example, if your rent is 400euros/month, you will end up paying 250 - 270euros/month. It is all dependent on the calculation being made by the agency (CAF) handling such matters.

You will get detailed information about universities and colleges in France ranging from the courses to the the tuition either in the graduate or undergraduate level and the language the course is taught in. Visit the website below for more information;

www.campusfrance.org
The website is in English and French, you can select your preferred language. If you have any further questions or do not know how to go about it. Kindly leave a comment and I will reply accordingly...


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This is a true story from a friend of mine, I have seen the results myself, no be joke o... Anyways, I am sure some girls are already working out on that butt to make; most especially guys look at that behind countless times whenever they walk pass, for some to gain self confidence about their body and for some other reasons best known to them.

She did some research and also followed Khloe Kardashian workout activities and routines. All thanks to keeping up with the Kardashians reality TV show which made the family members a popular figure on social media and in most countries that are very exposed to the entertainment world. A lot of people still doubt the fact that Khloe's butt is real without any surgery done to enhance it but she got it through working out relentlessly. For those of us who follow her on all her social media platforms, should be able to testify about her rigorous workout activities. Khloe said on twitter a few months back; " I find it disgusting but maybe a compliment that I am being accused of getting lipo done. I work out 5 days a week. I bust my a**".

Now, back to my friend who is a wife and a mother of two, who started going to the gym and found out that she needed to add Cardio workouts and Squatting after doing a lot of research. Also, she has been a fervent follower of Khloe’s butt enlargement exercises and this helped her to speed up her progress to the point that her hubby was like Damn!!! Where did that a** came from? And I was like, Girl, I'm hitting the gym right away.
Now to my married sisters in the house, dont think having a hot butt is only meant for the single ladies and single ladies, don't think that being lepacious is all you need to get your dream man. Even our mothers these days are very conscious of their body. They are concerned of how fat, how trendy, how sexy and how much attention they are getting from their husbands. Oh, are you surprised? Don't be. Even grandmas want to still look hot and sexy. Lol. This is to say every woman out there wants to look good, attractive, admirable and get all possible attention from men. I know you agree with me that a firm, well rounded brazillian kinda butt will definitely give any woman all the attention she wants from men.

I know a lot of you would say, its not that easy. Yea, I know its not but its very achievable. All we need is that strong motivating factor to drive us and keep us in the process of achieveing the results we desire.
I chose to write to this, to address the few women out there who are interested in enhancing their butt through a natural process by exercising and dieting. And for those who think that surgery is the only means, below is a picture to prove to you that the natural process really do work.

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Prior to getting admitted to Tertiary institutions, we learned about differnt courses ranging from pure sciences to social sciences and arts and during that period we fall in love with some of the courses taught or have excellent grades which sometimes determine the program we are going to study at the higher level.

Tertiary institutions is sometimes a place where people choose to study what they want, some are based on the courses they loved when in high school/secondary school, some based on what their parents tells them to study, some look at the courses with which they think the monetary aspect afterwards will be beyond their imaginations, some take what they were given upon admission that is courses they originally did not want to study (very common in the Nigerian educational system), everyone have different reasons towards what they want they study without much thinking and insight of what they really want to do or become in the future because we all think we will be successful in whatever we do. Yea, well, that’s true and we definitely have to be positive and optimistic about our future but is that all there is to it.

Dont get me wrong though, it turns out great for some and some others get stuck along the way and realise that they are not meant to be where they were and then redirect themselves....

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Another thing is the University is not meant for everyone, there are others who are good with the technical stuff (technical schools), some are good with taking care of people and want to be nurses (nursing schools) and the likes of it. Just like this true story; A mother was worried about one of her kids who wasn't doing well in his secondary school but managed to graduate, his results wasn’t good enough to get admitted into the univerisity. Most of the universities rejected him and his other siblings are really doing very well in their various universities which gave the mum a cause to worry. She was eventually advised to take her son to a technical school because he loves to work with computers. Well, he finally got admitted into one and Lo, he became the best student in his class and also got offers to intern with some very good IT companies and IT departments in some non-tech companies.

You just need to figure out what you can do best and what suits you, Some people are very good with practicals and slow when it comes to the theoretical aspect. You know yourself, you know what you can do and what you are best at, why not work on your strong points and fall under the category that suits you rather than sitting back at home and blaming the university for not giving you admission....


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When you hear about France, all that comes your mind is, Paris, the expensive city and all the assumptions about the country is that everything in it is expensive. Yea, well, the truth about it is, the standard of living is on the high side compared to some other countries. Yea well *rollseyes*, do you expect less from a beautiful country of love? Do not forget, France is not all about Paris alone, there are lots of other beautiful cities in the country to explore.

Coming down the main topic here, studying in France in some of the top ranking universities in France are not as expensive as you may think and I mean spending thousands of euros especially when it comes to courses taught in English as France major spoken language is French. France is ranked among the top 20 countries in the world with good standard quality of education....

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A lot of students, mostly secondary school graduates and undergraduates want to study abroad most especially in developed countries that have universities or colleges with a strong international reputation and are respected worldwide. Most people who have studied abroad say it is their greatest educational experience as it is a good way gaining much more than when they studied in their home country. It is a combination of gaining a high-quality education, experiencing immersion in a new culture, gaining a global mindset and expanding future employment prospects. If this is really what you have decided you would love to embark on, then you are surely on the right path. Here are a few reasons why you should not miss out on this opportunity.

For personal growth and development. Learning is a way to cultivate your personal growth and educational attainment can help you. It improves analytical thinking, develops critical thoughts and improves your chances at furthering your career. Personal growth is about understanding yourself and helps you figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are and in most cases, you need to move out of your comfort zone to be able to realise that. You will become very independent which is not as easy as we think especially for the very young ones who rely mostly on others for their well being and then begin to take responsibilty for themselves which spurs your development as an individual.

It will surely look good on your resume (CV) and that is a very good way to get a decent job by enhancing your employment opportunities.

It gives you the opportunity to build an international network, be it social or professional. You get this by building relationships with your classmates and lecturers which sometimes doesn't end in classrooms, it extends further than the duration of your program. And sometimes might lead to cases that will add inestimable value to your career life internationally.

You will learn how to overcome language barriers (for those who go to countries that the major language is not the same as where they come from). You will also develop cross-cultural communication skills, problem-solving skills. And the ability to be more flexible, patient and able to manage change are skills that you gain when you find yourself in a totally different environment than what you are used to.

You will also have the opportunity to gain first-hand experience in an international organization as a result of internships, co-op programs, apprenticeship and other forms of practical experiences in an organization which is in most universities are part of the curriculum or an option you can decide to choose from.

It can teach you to appreciate differences and diversities about the general perception you have about people from different cultural background.

You might say, you dont need some of the experiences mentioned but the truth is as long as we continue to interact with people, there are some skills or techniques that you would have developed that will be applicable in some situations you will find yourself in, be it your work place, at home or various social gatherings. No knowledge gained or experience is a waste.

In as much as it is a good opportunity, please dont go into large debts thinking you will make all the money in the world after you are done studying and then pay back afterwards except you are in a situation whereby you can pay installmentally in the next 20 - 35 years. Just kidding though. It might work out for you within a short period of time or vice versa, you never know. Its always advisable you don’t get into such problems afterwards and be on the safe side.

There are lots of opportunities for students who wish to study abroad like; foreign institutions offering scholarships either fully or partially, some institutions have a flat rate tuition that is to say both local and foreign students pay the same tuition and that can be less expensive in most universities cos the locals usually pay a lesser fee than the international students, some offer student jobs and in some countries, you are allowed to work part time outside school and such income can cover a whole lot during your studies. There are so many opportunities you can get to ease the financial stress, you just have to do a lot of research when you have made your decision and you think you don’t have enough money to cover your expenses, cos the truth is, generally, it is not cheap.
The most important thing is the experience you get which is invaluable and priceless. There is a lot to learn from this journey if you do not see it as a just a vacation…

Share your experiences in the comment below if you are currently studying abroad or have studied abroad that will help students who wants to study abroad,,,


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Should your dress sense be a personal thing? Being comfortable, well-dressed, buying clothes that fits and having self confidence about your style, to me is what I think matters the most. Yea, and the way people see you too also matters. But it shouldn't be based on competition or trying to feel among your friends or putting yourself under peer pressure about how they would look at you and what they will say as well. Like some people would say; if someone tells you how cheap you look, you should ask them to buy you the expensive clothes. And trust me, when they hear that, they will give you that 'na you sabi, I be your boyfriend?' kinda look. Like the boyfriend is her bank account. Lol.

With all the fashion craze going all around social media, some ladies go around doing stuff that they wouldn't do normally but all in the name of trying to stay and keep remaining at the top, cos it is one thing to get there and another thing to maintain such status. They go through a whole lot unimaginable just to be able to afford that Hermes bag, Gucci shoes, Valentino dress, Mac make up kit (I don’t know if there are other brands more expensive than MAC or Blackup in Nigeria), and the almighty natural human hair weave, just to feel among and blend in. That is not all there is to life, if you cannot afford them, kindly buy the ones you can. There are also some ladies out there who can afford it but decide to spend their money on more important things by helping their families or spend more in building their future or other things that are more of a priority to them than having to spend so much on very expensive designer clothes. The paradox of keeping up appearances by accumulating debt is one that might be familiar to many as well and is directly linked to how our spending habits can negatively affect our ability to save and increase our wealth. So many ladies are willing to invest in fashion over financial products.

The truth is we are all defined by the way we appear or look. If you are able to afford all the expensive and high quality stuff without fuss, fine, but if you can’t, my sister, go for what you can afford and feel comfortable in it. Some girls talk about how cheap other girls look which I think it is not appropriate. Like they say all fingers are not equal. You have to cut your material according to your size.

Do u have the intention of wearing any cloth you buy all your life? 99% is No. The way you rock your clothes matters a lot even if it’s made from Aba (one of the made in Nigeria brands). Some clothes might be cheap and look it but the way you take care of them and wear them is what determines how the outcome is going to look like. It’s always good to try to mix them with good and quality outfits as well. Everyone should be able to define their style and rock their wears like each one is the most expensive you‘ve ever bought. If you cannot afford to buy luxurious clothing and accessories, don’t work yourself up. Buy what you can and you will be amazed at how you are going to turn out when dressed up. Dress to be remembered and not to be simply noticed. Dress well for the right occassion.

Boost your confidence girl!!! You are a true definition of beauty; you just have to bring it out from the inside.

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So, it seemed that it was cool, for everyone to be in a relationship but me. So I took matters into my own hands and …ended up with him. Him, who displayed the characteristics of a cheater, a liar, an abuser, and a thief. So why was I surprised when he broke into my heart? I called 911 but I was cardiac arrested for aiding and abetting ‘cause it was me who let him in. Claiming we were “just friends.” It was already decided for me by the first day that even if he wasn’t, I was going to make him “the one.” You know, I was tired of being alone and I simply made up in my mind that it was about that time so I decided to drag him along for the ride because I was always the bridesmaid and never the bride.

A virgin in the physical; but mentally, just a grown woman on the corner in heat who was tired of the wait. So I was going to make him “the one.” He had a form of Godliness, but not much… but hey! I can change him, so I’ll take him; I mean he’s close…. enough. Ready to sell my aorta for a quarter, not knowing the value of its use to me. Arteries so clogged with my will and blocked HIS will from flowing through me. So I thank Christ that his blood pressure gave this heart an attack that flat-lined my obscure vision, put me flat on my back.

Through my ignorance HE saw, through my sternum, He sawed and cracked open my chest to transplant so I was fitted in… a new heart and a new right spirit within so now, I fully understand; better yet I thoroughly comprehend how much I need to wait for you.
See, the bad thing is that I knew he wasn’t you from the beginning, ‘cause in the beginning was The Word and he didn’t even sound or shine like your Son. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks and all he could whisper was sweet empty nothings. Which meant nothing.

He couldn’t even pray when I needed him to, asking him to fast would be absurd! So, forget about being cleansed and washed with water through the word. But I know you… you’re already praying for me. Even though you haven’t met me, let me assure you I will wait for you. I will no longer date, socialize, or communicate with carbon copies of you to appease my boredom or to quench my thirsty desire for attention and short-lived compliments from “sorta-kinda’s.” You know, he’s sorta kinda right… but sorta kinda wrong.

His first name LUKE, his last name WARM. I won’t settle for false companionship, I won’t lay in the embrace of his arms attempting to find some closeness but never feeling so far apart ‘cause “I just want to be held.” ‘Cause all I gotta do is say NO! No more ‘almost’ sessions of almost coming close, passing winks and buying drinks and “I’m a.. I’m a.. I’m a flirt” Who flirts with the ideology of “Can you just tell me how much I can get away with and still be saved?” No more. I’ll stay in my bed, and write poems about how I will wait for you.
We won’t even come close, our fingers won’t even interlock, we won’t even exchange breaths ‘cause I have thoughts that I’ve ‘Saved As’ in a file that God only equips you to open. I will no longer get weighted down from so called friends and family talks about the concern for my biological clock, when I serve The Author of Time! Who is not subject to time, but I’m subject to Him.

He has the ability to Stop, Fast-forward, Pause or Rewind at any given time so if we could role play, you would be Abraham and I would be Sarah. Or you could be Isaac and I could be Rebecca, a servant’s answered prayer. I am bone of your bone, flesh of your flesh, made up of your rib, Adam… and once we meet, like electrons, I will be bound to your nucleus completely indivisible, atom. We even speak the same math: one plus one plus one equals three… which really equals one if you add Him. We were all created in HIS image, but you have the ability to reflect, project, and even detect the Son.

If I were to explain what you look like, you would have to look like a star, a son of the Son. I would gain energy simply from the light that you shine on me. I would need you in order to complete my photosynthesis. I await your revelation, but once again from the genesis I will wait for you. And I will know you because when you speak, I will be reminded by Solomon’s wisdom, your ability to lead will remind me of Moses. Your faith will remind me of Abraham, your confidence in God’s word will remind me of Daniel.
Your inspiration will remind me of Paul. Your heart for God will remind me of David. Your attention to detail will remind me of Noah. Your integrity will remind me of Joseph. And your ability to abandon your own will, will remind me of the disciples. But your ability to love selflessly and unconditionally will remind me of Christ. But I won’t need to identify you by any special Matthews or any special Marks ‘cause his words will be tatted all over your heart. And you will know me, and you will find me where the boldness of Esther meets the warm closeness of Ruth; where the hospitality of Lydia is aligned with the submission of Mary which is engulfed in the tears of a praying Hannah. I will be the one drenched in Proverbs 31, waiting for you.

But to my Father, my Father who has known me before I was birthed into this earth; only if You should see fit. I desire your will above mine, so even if You called me to a life of singleness, my heart is content with You, the One who … You are the greatest love story ever told, the greatest Love ever known. You are forever my Judge and I’m forever your witness… and I pray that I’m always found on a mission about my Father’s business. I will always be Yours, and I will always wait for You, Lord; more than the watchmen wait for the morning. More than the watchmen wait for the morning, I WILL WAIT.


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