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Yeah, it really hurts. When almost all guys say the same thing including those who don't have money that ladies are after money just like you said.

Harbosede02:
Cutehector........ Iffa slap u ehnehn u can't judge based on wat u've experienced....... Guys keep thinking girls are only after ur money o,even the ones dah doesn't av money are also saying girls after their money..nonsense!!


Girls,letz stp making guys av this crazy mentality dah we can be bought with money....it hurts!!

Out of 100 guys, 99% will say, if a guy does not have money, just go look for a lady who lives in maybe Epe or Okoko, for those who know Lagos or other states like Jigawa, Benue and the likes.
Forgetting that there are women who work very hard to be successful, asking a guy for money does not mean the girl is after money, its possible she really needs it at that time. Generalising it, aint cool.

Cutehector:
Come , I will continue to say this over again




Lots of women are after a man"s money! There is no denying dat fact!

Because u see a guy who is very well to do, u turn him into ur financial lord and personal savior...


Imajine one lady told me "she wanted to try her luck on me wen she askd me for a loan"



So dat means, her even wantin a frndship from me was just on a "trying of luck basis"

No, i'm not.

MrCork:
...are u lightskin?

Hi Jamallusty,

You should go to Nairaland homepage and click on the forum related to the topic you want to write about, on the home page of the forum of your choice, you would see 'create new topic', click on it, type what you want, insert photos if you like, and submit. That's it!

Hope it helps...

jamallusty:
Please help me out I need to start posting topics online and I donnt knw how to go about it

The level of insecurity amongst most men is on the increase especially with some Nigerian men, which explains why they assume a woman is after money and puts it first before other things follow, just because she works so hard to be successful.

Does this mindset apply to all men or just the lazy ones?


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Wow. That's cool then... I will watch it here, not in Nigeria at the moment... Thanks for the info ...

tunetokheyno:
lol its true!!! check silverbird cinemas.. they are doin a premiere tomorrow and i saw on the news that heinekien brought out about 64 million pounds for spectre premieres worldwide!

chigoizie7:
Lol.



1. For u to even lie to yourself when u know the truth is enough to drive men away from u.(U know what I mean by "lie" to yourself).


2. @ early 30,its likely that men u were dating are between 35-40 or even above. Haven said this, such men are mature enough(wise/strong mind) to settle down.


3. They knew u had such job,posh car and classy apartment b4 they went into relationship with you, but could not stay to grow old with you, which means there is something wrong somewhere and that is. Certainly not about your career, but about your personality and how u see life in general.


4. I will quote u, "u were in a relationship with someone in your university days,but stopped when u tot it was affecting your academic life". U stopped doing something that makes u happy so that u can "achieve" your aims. Is it not being hypocritical on your part when u also said that u can not get a smaller car? If actually getting married is a priority? Just as your academic life back in skul, why not give a low life a chance?



5 if u could answer most of my questions truthfully, then, u will see that, it was not actually your career that is driving them away, but your person.




6. In the absence of all my assertions ^^^^, I will bring this stereotype to play. Women love "power more than anything in the world, forget "money", money is just a lather to climb up to power. From the way u have described yourself, u have more than enough,so, in extension, u also have the power, the question now is, "will u misuse it? YES you will, consciously or not, we all know women, they talk a lot,most times, it is just to win a quarrel which is inevitable in all marriages. Is the man willing to let his ego down? NO.




The summary of what I am saying is that.

1.It is never your career that is driving men away.


2.Men are scared of being reminded who the boss is when they eventually marry you,so they are avoiding you like a plague.


3. U are not the only lady that will be dating men they are richer than and eventually marry most of their poor bf. But, u didn't give your male companions that chance to know u better, I mean, how long does it take to know someone? The impression u gave the 1st two week will make them want to know u better or not to(stay to know u or waste a time trying to know u).

Even if u are faking being good to them, they will love to stick longer to know if u are for real or fake. But if u are bad from the on set(personality being zero) they will not wait to see if u will change,because we can't change anyone .so, they just bolt


4. Our opinions might differ so, my assertions might add no water to your sense of reasoning.

You have said it all...

Yeah. Lol.

tunetokheyno:
This is beautiful,ladies where una dey! come learn better thing oh.

Lol

marshalcarter:
I earn 20k per month....marry me

Kindly share the advice. You never know...
Sometimes, we hide from the truth but hearing it from someone might give us reason to sit down and go back to the drawing board, and that's for those who have ears.

chigoizie7:
If from your heart of hearts,u believed that a man who loves u will still stay and marry u, then why is it giving u a sleepless night? U know the problem with majority of us? We will see something that is a treat to us/existence ( sometimes, it should not even be a treat,but society made it so) and it is affecting us negatively, but then we just choose to look the other way, we choose to tell ourselves what we want to hear and not the actual truth. I would have given u one or two piece of advice, but since u are very convinced that the man who truly loves you will stay no matter what, then all I will say is "GOOD LUCK" in your wait.

Its very wrong to pretend to be someone else...

ladyF:
Pretend because of man? Tufiakwa. The problem is the kind of men you are meeting.

Yea, very true...

Jollyjoy:
Op it depend on how you present yourself,btw your attitude speaks louder,make yourself humble and men wouldnt be your problem but come to think of it,,

what is the occupation of those guysconsidering your age i believe the toasters shld be in mid thirties if nt forties so there is a high possiblity that those guys are settled are ready for marriage...


Your achievement is not what is actually scaring them but the way you present yourself

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An EB reader needs our advice… Find her story below…

I am sure most ladies can relate to this, during my university days, my mum and aunties told me that after I graduate from the university and get a good job, guys will begin to run after me for marriage. There is always this mindset that when a lady starts dating in school, she gets distracted from her studies and passing her exams with very good grades.

Well as for me, I dated someone back then in school, but had it in my mind to end the relationship if it affected me in any way. Which eventually ended due to lack of concentration, at this point I decided I was going to graduate with good grades and proceed with my master’s degree after NYSC before considering marriage. Well, I ended up achieving a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree at the age of 24, got a very good paying job few months later, rented a comfortable apartment and got me a posh car.

Now, I am in my early 30s, and it is very difficult finding a man to settle down with as most guys I meet feel threatened by my achievements, once they get to hear the name of the company I work for and the position I occupy, they take to their heels without them getting to know me better.

Interestingly, I meet different guys, not like I don’t. But the problem is my achievements, as most men that shows interest in marrying me are either wealthy older men or already married with kids. This is not the life I want to live, I want someone to grow old with, I do care how much he earns because I am not ignorant of the job situation in Nigeria.

Sometimes I feel shouldn’t mention anything about my job and maybe buy a smaller car. But I have worked so hard to get me where I am today, I am so proud of my achievements. Do I have to go as far as pretending to be what I am not, all because I want a life partner. A man who loves me, should love me for me and not feel threatened by my success.

Please advice, I am in a tight situation.

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Yeah, me too. The guy is good... You can ask tunetokheyno about the free beer. I have no idea about it...

Gboyeboy:
I really wish to see Daniel Craig in atleast 2 more James Bond movies after Spectre. His performance in Skyfall was awesome making it my best Bond movie till I see Spectre sha... I heard someone say ''free beer''?

Lol. Abi o... I can't count the number of times i ve seen the trailer... I have pics from the premiere and the official trailer on my blog tho... Daniel Craig nailed it...
I am a cinema goer, love watching movies on big screens but do not drink beer .

tunetokheyno:
Esthersblog we gather dey oh, e don do me reach the point where i waan watch the premiere gaan.. i jus dey wait for price.. plus heiniken is sponsoring so freee beer at the cinemas!!!!!!!


are you a cinema goer or na fone go do am?

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I have always had interest for modelling, I have always dreamt of being a super model all my life. I started modelling officially in 2014, I had this pageant that brought me into limelight which was a very good breakthrough for me, because I felt like, ‘this is what I have been waiting for’.

But while going for different castings, I met so many gays and it was terrible because, the good jobs that came my way, it was mostly all of them that where in charge.

I went for this big audition I passed, and the man in charged said I should kiss him or else I won’t get the job. I politely told him that I am not gay and can’t do what he asked for, and he said he likes me and he wants me and that if I can’t, I won’t get the job. And that was how the job passed me by.

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The thing is so annoying because, they all want everyone to be like them before they can help you, which is really not nice at all because they want to kill my dream since I can’t compromise and be gay.

A friend of mine also told me recently about his experience as he was approached by a married man who is gay during an audition, he said he told the man that he is not into such acts and also asked, ‘but sir, you are married’ and his reply was that, ‘his wife knows’.

I am so shocked that even with the penalty for being gay in Nigeria, it doesn’t stop them. The worst part is, they all know themselves.

My modelling career is at stake.

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Yeah. I agree.. I have seen almost all James Bond Movies, Sean Connery and Roger Moore were very good. But Daniel Craig will top the list soon... He is so good...

chukxie:
Sean Connery and Roger Moore were the best followed by Pierce Bronsnan. Timothy Dalton was somewhat considered a disappointment. Daniel Craig is doing a yeoman's job playing James Bond.

Yeah, i totally loved it. I also cannot wait to watch Spectre, The trailer is jaw-dropping.

osesology:
Interesting. I love sky fall, Daniel Craig really nailed it. It's sad that old iron lady had to die.

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Sean Connery, 1962 – 1967, 1971, 1983: Dr. No; From Russia With Love; Goldfinger; Thunderball; You Only Live Twice; Diamonds Are Forever (1971); Never Say Never Again (1983).


George Lazenby, 1969: On Her Majesty’s Secret Service.



Roger Moore, 1973 – 1985: Live and Let Die; The man With The Golden Gun; The Spy Who Loved Me; Moonraker; For Your Eyes Only; Octopussy; A View To Kill.



Timothy Dalton, 1987 – 1989: The living Daylights; Licence To Kill.



Pierce Brosnan, 1995 – 2002: Goldeneye; Tomorrow Never Dies; The World is Not Enough; Die Another Day.



Daniel Craig, 2005 – Present: Casino Royale; Quantum Of Solace; Skyfall; Spectre.

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Yea. [quote author=virginboy1 post=39319384][/quote]

Good to know then. Thanks...

MMotimo:
I'm my experience, yes they do, I speak of what I know to be tradition.
Members of my family have married from other tribes and the ceremonies I highlighted are still done in the brides' parents church, same way we have followed male members of the family to different lands to marry their wives where the wives parents choose.

Paper questionnaires are beginning to fade away as there are many tools and resources available to us for free using the internet. Almost everyone who uses the internet has at least one email address and also registered on different social media platforms like Facebook, twitter and the likes, which makes it very simple and easy to connect with a large number of people online.

This article is very helpful for students and individuals who have projects to write and/or also want to conduct a research that involves collection, analysis, interpretation and reporting of data by getting feedback from a small or large group of people to draw up conclusions based on the analysis.

You can check my earlier post on Dos and Don’ts on your first day at work.

Why not choose the option of doing it at the comfort of your home, which saves time and also reduce the stress of trying to reach out to people by handing out questionnaires in hard copies, collecting them and manually input and analyze the results.

Create your questionnaires online, send them out through emails, Facebook, and other social media platforms that allows you to conveniently attach and send a file. And as soon as it is filled and submitted, it automatically update the responses and show you the result of your analysis using graphical representation and also on a spreadsheet, which is obviously very easy to interpret.

One of the easy-to-use tools in creating and analyzing surveys for free is using Google Docs.

You can check my earlier post on how to pass a job interview.

Before using this free Google online tool to create and analyze your survey, you need to have a google account and if you don’t have one, you can open it here.

After you have logged into your google account, you click on ‘Drive’ as shown below;

Click ‘New’ as shown in the image below– a drop-down with differnt tools will show and click ‘Forms’.

You can also directly go to this link to create your queationnaire after you have already signed in with your google account.

This is what you will see below;

Before you start, make sure the heading of your project is simple and very easy to understand. Click on ‘Untitled Form’ to input your title. Write a nice and short introduction under ‘Form Description’ to tell the respondents what they should expect when filling out the questionnaire.

From the pic above, at the top left hand side of the form, you will see ‘Edit Questions’, the next tab is ‘Change Theme’. When you click on ‘Change Theme’, you will see different sample themes to choose from and also, you have the option to personalize/create your theme.

After choosing the theme, click on ‘Edit Questions’ which is at the top left hand side of the page to continue creating your questionnaire.

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You should also click on the small box close to ‘Required Question’ if it is a compulsory part of your survey. The respondent cannot submit the questionnaire if one of the required questions is not answered. It also helps in giving you an acurate result.

After if you have filled in your first question, click ‘Add Item’ to input the next question and when you are through with your questions, click ‘Done’.

You can always go back to edit your questions.

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You can take a look at the form by clicking ‘View Live Form’ which at the top left hand side of the form, it will show you a view of how the form looks like.

After you are done, click ‘Send Form’.

After clicking ‘Send Form’, a pop-up with the URL / Link to share with the respondents on different social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter and Google Plus and you will also see the option to input email addresses.

Kindly Note: Copy and save the URL / Link.

After this step, you will be asked to select from creating a ‘New Spreadsheet’, ‘New sheet in an existing spreadsheet’ or ‘Keep responses only in Forms’.

This is what it looks like when you create a new Spreadsheet. You can always view it when you open google drive.

If you also want to see the responses in a graphical form, on the page where you input your questions, you will responses and then click on it – choose ‘summary of responses’ and it will show you something like this;

From this result you can easily draw up the conclusion for your report.

Kindly drop your questions, suggestions and reccomendation in the comment section below.

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Lol.

Phema:
Damn! The men are going to hate this.

How dare you breathe without them?

Lol. I thought so too.

virginboy1:
For real? And I was thinking to marry a Yorubaland lady would be expensive due to the plenty Owambe'.

At all, its not easy. It just too much stress...

virginboy1:
My sister I tire ooo, to marry for naija no easy at all. Tribe,Religion,Location,Tradition,History, Language et al na part of its criteria.

Really The bride's family sponsors everything . That's a lot, i guess. I hope the yoruba grooms support their brides. ts also good to know to know the wedding is usually done in the bride's church.
What if she marries from another tribe?

MMotimo:
In my Yoruba family, paternal and maternal, the bride's family sponsors the introduction, wedding reception and engagement ceremonies.The wedding is done in the bride's parents' church. As far as I know, this is the norm in Yorubaland unless things have changed.

Exactly,,,

Yksoul:
SOMETIMES WE DONT NEED TO JUDGE BY EXPERIENC OF BREAK UP OR FAMILY BACKGROUND OR SEEINP COUPLES N6T GETTIN ALONG,JUST DO UR HOME WORK WELL,WORK ON URSELF AND GET THE RIGHT PERSON

Thank you... [quote author=BUTCHCASSIDY post=39273394][/quote]

No Insults Here Please!!!

Matured minds really do not have time for "trial and error". And then again, No one is sure at the beginning of a relationship if it will lead to marriage or not because most times, that is the end goal. That is why you have to know what you want and work towards it.

KashyBaby:
I got no time for the "trial & error" as every relationship undergo on this system..if u both work,then go on but no assurance til when and if don't work, then pick urself up & move on which I see that it's not worth at all.