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Xiadnat:
Hell ya.......

tho, i can't say this is an issue for me. It's been a minute, but when I was active in the dating game, I have luckily dated men who craved it (or chop chop toto) if you will. But then again, most of these men are caucasian. So, I suppose to each its kind.

I have often being the one screaming "enough already". .

But ya....since coming to NL, I have learnt (among other really awful things) that nigerian men don't particularly like this for some reason. No idea why. Seeing Vjay is waaaay cleaner than the mouth.

Nigerian men should really loosen up. If you are worried about "it" being dirty, have her clean up before. Gosh. Is it STD? You can catch any STD with regular coita.l act, so what's the difference? HIV is HIV via oral or coitu.s. You can catch STD sucking the man appendage too.

Anyway, y'all should learn from the porn industry. If I do you, honey, you gotta do me. They don't call it a 'job' for nothing.

Luv, chopping your too ain't the problem. I can, even if you have yeast or STD do it all night long. the problem is after chopping this your tonto dike u jilt me for another man that wount even wanna smell it, what is my gain chopping the strong Toto?

Same goes with Cotonue and Cameroon babes. They don't form, no hard to get, if they don't love you the don't love you. If a girl decides to keep her virginity, she keeps it and break it when she plans to. Nigerian babes, ha, na wahala be that. Is not that they are more beautiful than this other countries ooo. God help us.

Sabrwahaqqo:
#team audio first bro

thanks bro

Let me start by greeting you all. Good morning romancelander of nairaland nation.
This question should be in the music section of this nation but due o the high number of people frequenting this place for advice, advert, to find luv and some claiming to be love doctors, I have decided to put it up here. Bkx I know that even people from other section also visit here.
pls your advice and help is urgently needed. may God help you as you will me now.

I just did my first single last month and my producer asked me to release the vidoering first b4 the audio. The song is a good one as my friends and family members are concern, and I know you all will love it too. The problem now is, one of my female friend and mentor asked me to release the audio first b4 the video. Her reason is that the song will pass its message and peak up my fans anticipation for the video. She advised me not to be in a hurry. Now am confused and don't know who to listen to, my producer or my mentor.
pls my brother's and sisters, I need your help urgently so I can know what to do.

Nice innovation sha[/quote]did I hear u say innovation or did u mean to say renovation?

Bob Marley.
no need shaking the head or phone, just dim your eyes to blur your vision then u will be there

op u ar on point. same music, same bit, same lyrics just with a slightly different tune.

Drinkwater:
you'll do the recording with the producer in Abuja the you'll contact Suka and send em the file you'll agree terms with them they'll work on it and send it back to you without even getting to facially meet suka sounds,,,,,, thats if you don't want your prod to do the mixing. Suka is on twitter their contact is there

that sounds good. but my fear is my music. not to be stolen. bkx the way my suppose producer talked today, am afraid he may steal my music. what do u think I do?

Drinkwater:
Mekoyo is good. Get Suka sounds to do the Mixing and Mastering without leaving Abj

what do u mean without leaving Abuja?

Pls my fellow nairalander, my music is complete and ready to be song. But am looking for a good producer base in Abuja that will make a nice job out of it. not the one that will spoil the whole stuff. Can someone help me with a good producer. plsss,

Kasimaramma2:
young man,it is not by mouth alone,love is shown in actions.Dont you know the same way she would tell you she loves you more than the rest is the same way she would tell the two guys seperately she loves them more than the rest?
If you dont have a gf,would you die?i have seen guys that never had a gf till 30,n the one they had,they married.move on...lots of love

Thanks.

sseunth:
oga...go become the best musician first

Thanks

publicenemy:
You are lonely and you are putting too much pressure on her. You are the problem not her. She told you she has two other boyfriends yet you decided to date her,so when she don't pick ur calls don't get mad,she probably is with one of her boyfriends and you are expecting too much from her, I understand its becos you have been lonely for too long and that's also why you think you are in love with her. You are not....

Just take things easy bro... Focus on other things that make you happy or get another girl and don't let her find out....

We automatically became luvers, not that I asked her out. Besides she wanted me more before we started. telling me she doesn't like them. She too is expecting much from me.

misssclassy:
[color=#000050]Well, let me just tell you the honest truth. I think the girl loves you but she has financial needs that need to be met. That's why she is having affairs with other guys.

She just can't help it. You can't cater for her financial needs.
And she feels she has to look for alternatives.

Well, since you love and it appears she loves you, try to get yourself a source of income, so you can provide for her needs.
If you do this, I believe she would come around.

But something bothers me about this girl, it seems she is so desperate for money , if not why would she even be dating you and dating three guys at the same time.
Someone like this is likely to cheat on you in the future with someone who is wealthy.

Like I said, I can't tell you to break up with her since it's obvious you but love each other.[/color]

Thanks. I av just got to luv and follow her not only with heart but also wit my head

Solowande:
do u intend to marry her? if yes, den u are in a long tin. y can't u just chop and clean mouth na while it last. from wat i read u guys are nt compartable, if dat is true den y do u want to bear? or maybe she is playin mind game with u. remember dat u started it

It is the mind game I have been thinking of. Marrying her? well, I can't say. What if she becomes the best option among others I will meet tomorrow? If God say it is her, then so be it.

Almost everybody luvs her. If u hear her talk alone, u will luv her bkx she very good a girl. Down to earth even with her beauty. What I understand is that the type of friends she keep is what is affecting her.

sanbells:
If u still love her, stay and try to understand her. Buh I don't get the part where she's got another boyfriend and u don't have a problem with dat. U feel she'll stay committed wen she's double dating? I think u should end dat. Let her choose wah she really wants. Buh if u can't deal with it and she's giving u hard times and u feel leaving her will make u happy then quit

that is all I ever want. to have a girl that will lov only me. But I can't force her bkx am not her parent no creator. God gave us free will to do anything but asked us to choose good over evil. If I start supplying her needs tomorrow and she continues like this, na she go regret am bkx I wunt say anything to her until when I will bring another to introduce to her as my fiancee. What if I force her and she starts doing it in secret? what's difference have I make?

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Classic case of a guy getting carried away after chopping some punana
Then he falls in love with a woman he has no business being in love with

Plss, am not the chop and clean mouth type. If I don't luv u, I don't luv u and nothing can make me, even if am drunk, to sleep with u.

misssclassy:
[color=#000050]First of all, I am still trying to wrap my head around the reason behind someone wanting to date a lady when he knows she is dating someone else, and in your case, it's two guys.

Your case is a two way thing.

*Either she really loves you and she is just dating those other guys for the money

*She doesn't love you and she is just using you. The problem now is how she is using you.
You already stated that you don't have money, so that aspect is ruled out.
Do you guys have sex together? Perhaps this is the reason she is still together with you. Maybe you give her great sex.
Or maybe she sees you as a friend, someone she can talk to.

Even with the two reasons I mentioned above, I don't still see why someone would claim that she loves someone and she would still be having affairs with other people.
It doesn't make any sense.

Now I want you to ask yourself this question. Do you want to be a third guy in a relationship? Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who is still sleeping around with and keeping other boyfriends?
If your answer to the question is No, then I don't see why you should still be in such relationship.

Call the girl and tell her to call off her other relationships if she really loves you and wants to be with you.
If she doesn't, leave her and find someone else. Shikena.

Before I forget, try to get yourself a job, try to establish a steady source of income. Work towards being financially stable. Ladies would respect you better that way.[/color]

missclassy, what can I do na? I av waited for 8yrs just for my dream woman but it seems that can't be. It is hard this days to see a girl without a boyfriend, what u do is get in and win her heart. I just learnt not to expect perfection out of a flesh. This is what is trending these days, so I can't go on waiting for that dream girl. We haven't make luv yet. Not even kissing. She said I do make her happy always maybe that's y. I know she loves me more than those two bkx she once told me that one will give her money and she ill give to me for what I told her I wish I had ,but y she is longer showing it since the day I retaliated is what I don't understand. She has other guys but don't want me to cheat on her. She even text me that if I forget her that she will kill me. I dont want to be in a relationship where my girl will be cheating on me, but I also know that she wunt do that if I have money. that is y am still with her. But after talking to her tomorrow and she didn't give me any good reson y she luv me, i will quit.

sseunth:
Op, what do u do for living

Tomorrow I might be the best musician Nigeria ever have

I never believe I could fall in love again after 8years of lonliness until I met her two months ago. We started like best friends and ended up as lovers. Why I love her is because I have nothing but she love me so much. Whenever I tell her that I love her she always respond that she love me more. She has two other guys she is also dating which she told me of. Not that she is a bad girl, she is trying to make a better choice.
Our problem started last sunday. I went to the shop to work on something that took me almost the whole day. I called her to come see me but she said she is not sure, but she later came, well dressed as if going somewhere. After the work, she saw me off and went her way. She told me she was going out with her friend and the boyfriend. While still on my way home, she called me like twice to know if I have gotten home. But when I got home I called her many times but she didn't pick. when she picked up she told me the music was too loud for her to hear the phone ringing. That was 8pm. But I wasnt hearing any song. After that call, I called her again till 11 b4 she finally picked the call. Her excuse was that her friend was having issue with the boyfriend and she was settleing them. I know she was lieing to me. So on Monday I didn't go to shop. i wanted to retaliate. I pretended I was with a girl and she call and I didn't pick. On Tuesday again, I went to the market and close early. When she asked me where I was going I lied I was going out to chill. She wanted to know who I was going out with and I replied that I was going alone. When I got home I called her and lied that one of my female customer was having birthday and asked me to come if not she wunt enjoy the birthday.
On Wednesday, she came late to the market and was looking like someone that has not taken her bath for days. I asked her y she is not weari her make-up and she said nothing. I became suspicious and went straight to her bag. Behold, I saw two cloths. it looked as if she was sleeping out the night. I was bittered. We quarelled that day. But love couldn't let me rest so I sent her a message so we could make up. She came very late on Thursday to the market. When I tried to reason with her she said she was retaliting. We made up. But since then or should I say since Sunday she has not been the girl I know so in the evening of friday she she didn't call me as promised or pick my call when I tried to call. I waited till 12 midnight and sent her a breakup text. In the text I told her that I know she doesn't luv me again that there is no problem. And I asked her that we can go back to our best friends status. On Saturday when she came to the market she wasn't herself. She was sad. toward afternoon she sent me a text that She still love me and that I promised her that I will always make her happy, that y now am I making her sad. We made up again. But my worry now is that she is still not the girl I came to luv. She doesn't call or text like before. It's just as if she doesn't luv me again.
Should I leave her? am feeling she is just keeping as a spare. Or should i stay? I am the type that don't easily luv bit when i do I do so with my whole heart. This her new behavior is affecting me negatively. Am thinking too much. I couldn't even go to church bkx of this. I hate something bothering me so am thinking of calling her to quit the relationship right now. But first, brothers and sisters I need your help this time. I luv this girl so much but I wunt go on like this if quitting will bring me happiness. Thanks in advance.

[quote author=Feranchek post=34932847]Barca 1 - 1 Madrid

Buh if he goes alone... Barca 2- 1 Madrid

If she vex cos you sef kiss ya gialfriend.... Barca 1 - 3 Madrid

If he still like the babe and e dey pain am sey the babe husband fine! ..... Barca 2 - 3 Madrid



Add yours guy.... let's see how the El Classico will go that Saturday [/quote

why u de waste your talent for nairaland guy? Y not work in FIFA. u will make it there.

Ogechi. She made me know the meaning of true love and this has not given me chance to love other girls bkx I don't think there is a love greater than hers except that of Jesus.
Distance separated us. No way to contact. Ogechi, I will keep on loving u no matter who I may be with, no matter wherever I may go.

If u asked this question like 3 months ago, I would say no. But I just realised that love is like a Vail that conceals every shortcoming.

I have been warning a female friend of mine about this. She will drop things right on my uncle whatever and pretend she did it unintentionaly, and I will warn her. she will hit me on my chest, exactly on my breast and I will warn. She will hit my Thomas and I will warn. I don warn tire. even threatened to retaliate anytime she does so again. then one day, she hit my chest and without hesitation, I hit back. She didn't talk to me like 3days. When we finally spoke, I taps her that I have been warning her but she didn't want to listen. She apologized. Since then, my holy places has known rest.

Lordave:
What if she told you she sleeps with me or anyone else around when you are away?





You can't do anything about that, you should even be happy she found a way of controlling her libido other than getting screwed by some random guys.


Part ways with her at your own peril!

How are u even sure she is not been screwed by other guys sometimes.

Your papa. sorry, am in America. your dad.

U ar fucking funny nigger. What I expect u to do is to go there with yuor girl kx that bitch will make u feel jealous when the pastor will say ' u may kiss your bride' u will have your girl to kiss.

Basildvalour:
Some do but really, its not our tradition. It is a tradition thing common to a specific kind of people and adopted by others and that is why it is called DUTCH though few people try to do it.


We believe the guy, according to our tradition should clear the bill. HE IS THE MAN they'll say.

Yeah! blv the man clears the bill is not our tradition. but they will copy every other thing without blving its not our tradition. Men wake up. let us also copy things that will favour men.

Even me. I tot u were the muguest mugu until we both met the mightiest.

Thanks to you all who have help in one way or the other.
Special thanks to Mrschima and Ronald4lif, u guys did a great job of advice. After reading, she chooses to separate slowly without causing hurt. For those thinking am the girl in question, pls stop being Thomas. And for those who always joke with everything, don't worry. one day you will need advice like her then others will joke with it too. Luv u all. God bless nairaland, God bless its members, God bless Nigeria.

Thanks to you all who have help in one way or the other.
Special thanks to Mrschima and Ronald4lif, u guys did a great job of advice. After reading, she chooses to separate slowly without causing hurt. For those thinking am the girl in question, pls stop being Thomas. And for those who always joke with everything, don't worry. one day you will need advice like her then others will joke with it too. Luv u all. God bless nairaland.

[quote author=j0rdannkyle post=34830818]Trust me the biggest d*cks don't always guarantee mind blowing, toe curling, sex. (ever heard of the phrase "big for nothing" ).... Communication is key in every relationship. If she's invested in the relationship, She should sit him down and let him know... So he finds ways to deal with it ASAP.
If On the other hand she's not feeling the relationship( u didn't say if she loved him). Then... She should let him down easy. And yeah... He's gonna be heart broken, but he'll be even much so, If she gives into her unsatisfied urges, and cheats or something(how else is she gonna get the quality sex she apparently can't do without??)

Hope this helps... [/q

She said she loves him though.