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Oasis003:


....me sef no know o.

Is like you're becoming a naughty boy?

Please o, don't become a hardened felon like us here with multiple counts and e-jail terms.

Spy360:
It is despicable of you to isolate a few words in my post thereby misinforming readers only to tag me a child. I never expected such from a revered fellow like you.

I don't know about despicable, but I found the comment distasteful fr. I had to chill and read through sef because I was about to ask if we now have another kid, in addition to me, in the thread to make us a company.

I never would have imagined it was you he was referring to.

At least, I am finally catching up with some of the lingos in this thread. Took so long.


I now perfectly understand what it means to turn Amala.

Oasis003:


....one of the Cabals holding Nigeria blockus so tightly.

How did you get banned?! 🤣🤣🤣

Wow. This is a first for me o.

What bearing will that ever have on my life, as a Nigerian?

What, exactly, is the issue here?

Persephone1:
Abi... Lessons is supposed to save for his wife and daughters. Imagine what a grown man is writing epistles on.

And you, welcome back. Try not to go back

Likeee.


Thank youuuu 💕💕. Though, I'm not really back like that. But I may consider staying a little bit longer now that you asked 😊.

NL just doesn't seem as engaging as it was to me. How have you been? And the restless stalkers/trolls?

Has Helinues seen this?

Awwwwwwnnnnn.

You're married, bro. And with a kid, if I recall.


Why don't you leave single ladies alone already?

folake4u:
My love, whataguan?

I am fine, baby. How have you been? 🥺

Hard-earned money? I can't remember. But my most priced possession, that I bought with my pocket money when I was young, was a dictionary. I think the 8th edition of the Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary, and it came with a directional tape/CD on its use.

Goddddd, I was soooo overjoyed and I felt like a responsible adult. 😭😭😭😭😭


Add to that the fact that I love to 'read' words from the dictionary as if it was an editorial piece. And it made my reading novels easier too. I could readily look up words I come across that I didn't know.

Life has happened to some extent sha. I am not that dedicated (to scholastic activities) anymore, lmao. 😄

folake4u:
Come on now, he's never been caught fuçking responsible women.

Folakeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ride a bicycle - ❌
Swim - ❌
Drive - ❌
Fry plantain without eating - ❌
Play a sport - ✅ (Only a few simple ones lol)
Can prepare swallow - ❌ (😔)
Can prepare soup ✅❌ ( Sometimes, it turns out well, by the mercy of God; other times, it's "Lord, have mercy" )
Can go a month without soda - ❌ (Never attempted it, but I can try it sha, and do it successfully)
Can go a month without alcohol - ❌ (Never even had alcohol)
Can go a week without taking garri - ✅ (I have been delivered, praise be to be Lord! 😁)

Ibime:
I just dey look you and Sod09 dey laugh. That FA President was on shaky grounds after supporting the manager to oppress those players.

So, this is the context of the outrage, apparently. In addition to his behaviour being inappropriate, and some are saying, "let women kuku goan and be doing their thing by themselves?"

Smh.

OasisX:


....welcome back dear.

Seriously, I want to know. You think kissing women without their consent is an acceptable behaviour? And it is totally justifiable because you are excited?

Theflint1:
Trendy does not necessarily mean popular. A particular position can be fringe/unpopular, but trendy.

I thought that as well. But I'm inclined to think the context the word was used in refers to popularity.

donjazzet:
That statement sums it up very well. They don't know what position to take.

"Gay people are shoving their lifestyle down our throats". For people that are literally treated as criminals? Every other day, if you don't see news of gay men being being arrested, you'll see them being beaten and stripped naked and forced to parade in the public. Like straight people actually pose more danger to homosexuals than otherwise.


And I find it ironic the way they shit on America because of its liberal ideologies and say countries like Japan, China are going to take over as world powers because wokeness is destroying America. So, if they know that world power shifts like that, why then do they attribute the destruction of the world to American civilization? 😂

Conservative-leaning people are so funny, because today they would swear woke people are taking over the world and converting people; at other times they'll tell you that woke ideas are unpopular and are frowned upon all over the world as per cultural and more reasons. Like stick to one. Like these people literally taunt 'liberal' people for the shame, mockery, ostracism, bigotry and prejudice they face. Like, 'you choose to go against the community as a whole, so soak up the punishment you're getting.'


How are the same set of "deviant" people responsible for upturning the world now?

BlueRayDick:
Even me sef, the video shock me . I think it’s just best they let women handle the playing , coaching, officiating , and even presentation of awards going forward.

As opposed to...people (men) behaving appropriately?

OasisX:
....to hell with una yeye consent. How many times have you kissed, hugged or done something else to ladies without consent and vice versa?

Oh....excuse dear, I want to peck you, may I?! Fuckin nonsense.

Interesting.

So you kiss women like that whenever you're excited?

purples25:
My little sketch on a Real City called Nairaland ...lol.

This is interesting .

pocohantas:
I was confused. I had to check the topic again. These blokes are in a constant dick measuring contest with women. I don't know how we got to this generation of men that have to remind us they are men. God abeg o.

One of hand, we have these set. On the other, we have the ones telling us that they [men] are women.


The current wave of identity crises the blokes are going through is unprecedented in history.

Oh. So the problem is not with you lusting (as a married man), but it's that you're not lusting after ME?

So did I lie? 😂

Did I also specify myself? You literally did not add shit to what I said.


English bu nsogbu o. Real one.

Why will you be romantic, when you spend all your waking moments and energy as from 5 A.M., being toxic, fighting and lusting after young girls online 🤭.

Fake stories will be the d.e.ath of Nairaland.

Tufia!

Ladyhippolyta88:
My dear
The matter shock me oo. I prefer TERF's to speak for us against transwomen and not men like Matt Walsh
Men don't love women overnight neither are they our allies in anything particularly not against transwomen who are a minute percentage of abusers compared to straight or heterosexual men.

Thank you.

I just remembered that point.


If women are not at the forefront of the fight against transgenderism, who are the TERFs then? Are men being slurred as TERFs? It is gender-specific, and there's no equivalent of that label for men. It is the radical feminists that are called that right from time.


So nobody should give any glory and praise to anybody, or say women are not doing anything o.

Because those women will not be cyberbullied and fired from their jobs and have their families put in danger only for men to strut in and claim shit.

'Till this day, I don't know a man who has lost his job for speaking out against the trans ideology, but I've lost count of the women who have.


I've literally been called a TERF a number of times and was kicked out of one feminist group on Facebook for critiquing the trans movement. 🤣

cococandy:
I’ve lived in quite a few states in America. West coast to east coast and everyone lives in their lane. I’m not seeing the devil’s playground that’s being publicized on the internet to rile up these exact feelings you’re expressing in these posts.

Maybe their propaganda is working too well?

To be very honest, I am now "scared" of America, especially with the upsurge in mass shootings and in my head, I'm like, "why's anybody still living there? Why are people still traveling to the USA??"

And then I considered that exactly the same way I've associated mass shooting to the US is the way people over there would have associated Boko Haram to Nigeria.

Because, just think about it.

How do you think Americans see Nigeria with all the ISIS-related bombings, kidnappings, police brutality and jungle justice/lynching over blasphemous claims?

Meanwhile, I feel "safe" over here and my life is normal. I have only ever encountered terroristic killings in the news, that you'll feel Borno is almost in another country.

Infact sef, we in the South and West have otherized the North so much so that we never think those people are living normal lives like the rest of us.

Davido's psycho (and alleged) baby momma said the Nigerian culture sacrifice babies the other day, and everyone went gun-blazing at her. I was irate, too, of course.

But seeing some comments on here now calling the US 'a devil's playground' and all sort of names made me pause and thought, "how is that different from what Anita said?" Like really, how do you think people from other places see Nigerians? But we're justified in our own rights and we believe that no foreigner who says we live in huts and ride camels is sensible.

We are stereotyping each other based on fringe events and extremities. We are doing the same things to each other lol.


P.S.: I use "we" and "you" as generic terms here.

This is what happens when men with crazy fetishes finally have the means to portray their fetishes in public. This movement has only garnered strength because many men have joined it.

I call it misogyny 2.0.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Men are not fighting for you, they are angry that there are men who want to be women, a class they consider inferior to them and hence and insult to their manliness and toxicity.
The so-called men "fighting" for you will not lift a finger when women are harrassed, violated or abused and oppressed but you think men who are hiding their bigotry attacking other men for not thinking like them in toxic masculinity are allies fighting for women.
LMAO

Why do you have so much oyel in your head? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Because the same men who will not stop or save a woman from being r-ped (shout out to the very few who do), now wants to defend womanhood?

As per? Overnight lovers of femininity?

Same men that will gaslight any woman who comes out to share her story of abuse now love women so much to want to speak for us?

Abegi.

descarado:
And u see its mostly males that's fighting this war for us while we are promoting it.

I was reading this as a guest, but I had to log in to make this comment.

This is literally revisionism right here, and it shouldn't stand.

Is radical feminism a joke to you (rhetorical question; don't answer)?

Ever since transgenderism became a wide-spread phenomenon in the West, it is women, RADFEMS, who have spoken against it, and are still doing so.

I used to be active in a lot of gender critical groups and you see women doing ACTUAL work of legislation and protests and grassroots mobilisation speaking up against transgenderism.

From Genevieve Gluck to Radfem Black to Julie Bindel to Nordic Model Now, to ReSisters United, to Women's Liberation Front (WoLF).

There's Maya Fortaster (who sued her employer*) and Keira Bell (who sued the NHS*) and Allison Bailey (who sued Stonewall) and hundreds of women out there in the world right now, who are fighting legal battles and setting up precedents for gender cases and the "what is a woman" question.

Meghan Murphy has been permanently banned from Twitter for her "transphobic" views. (Modified: Elon unbanned her last year November).

Even Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie put her neck in the line of fire to speak up for women.

And there's J.K. Rowling who literally put her legacy and integrity to test, not to talk of her multi-million-dollar career, just to defend women.

I followed so many gatherings and movements too, and one of them was #WomenWon'tWeesht (women will not be silenced).

There's Kathleen Stock, there's Abigail Dines, there's Jessica Taylor, and one lawmaker in NZ/Australia (I'm not sure) who've all faced public threats and slurs for simply saying nobody who says they are a woman is one.

While anyone can be gender-critical, the bulk of the work is on women's back. Silently doing the work, as they've been doing for all ages and getting laws changed. I was deeply involved in it online, so I know. So many death and rape threats and arrests these women came to share on Facebook and Twitter communities. Men are not doing shit except riding on the clout to cosplay knights-in-shining-armor.

You attributing the pushback against TRAs to men is just like how people praise and hail a man and give him a platform for something thousands of women have been saying for all ages, but nobody pays attention to. And the funniest thing is, those rabid TRAs never vilify or cancel men like Richard Dawkins and Matt Walsh the way they have done to the women who say the same thing.

So it is very very unfair for you to say "we" aren't doing anything.

Even Jess de Wahls, a textile artist, had a row with the Royal Academy of Arts over some "transphobic" comments she made. The TRAs wanted her art taken down, but the Academy later apologized to her (after they've pulled her art down). Her works went back on display.

I can give you numerous examples; it'll only take time and (as) I've long stopped following the issue and new developments (because as Ladyhippolyta said, and I add, it is a minute case, really). What you get from the mainstream media isn't the true picture of things. There are also groups like Get the L out of UK, LGB Alliance, Gays Against Groomers.

Also, on the contrary, it is "bros in bras", those males you refer to, the 'autogynephiliacs' and kink-loving fetishistic sissies, who are pushing the whole thing (I have nothing against transsexuals and dysphoric people, like Buck Angel, who really just want to live their lives). You can obviously see how "loud" and "in your face" the trans-rights activists have been. It's clearly male in nature.

You saying men are fighting for us is just like when men tell you that they are protectors of women against predator men, that is the same way they are trying to project themselves as the critics of men who identify as women. They are all MEN and it is a misogynistic problem, and as usual, as most women have done for ages, they are the nice and accommodating ones being gaslighted into accepting men as women. Including the liberal feminists. Perhaps you should look to them for the "we" that are promoting it.

It is not all of us (women). It is not the radfems or gender-critical feminists or radical-leaning feminists and we are a lot. Right from day one.

Oh, yeah. Special mention to Sugabelly of Twitter too. She's another vocal anti-trans Nigerian feminist.

Again, I follow some (Nigerian) feminists on Twitter and I know there is a rift between them along pro- and anti-trans matter (like there's been amongst feminists since time past). I think Vashti (Vash Offo) is gender-critical too. Why am I mentioning these people? They are popular on there, and are speaking up against the trans ideology, in contrast to your quoted claim. You may not know all these and that may have informed your opinion.

Maky Debbie is another GC feminist I know.

So ... there.


P.S.: I took my time to type this, and to come across as chill as possible, so if any part feels off somehow or rub you in some way, I really really do not mean to be offensive or rude. 💙💜

PS: I am not policing anybody o. I will be last person to recommend looking away when someone is being disrespectful or insulting to you, no matter your age. Roll in the mud if you have to. Dem no dey arrest person for am. Just pointing out some silly nutjobs' antics here.


And for the record, my back-and-forth always drag on because if one person says something to me and I responded, which should have stayed between the two of us, others will hop on the hate train (with Captain Gall at the fore) to be coming for me all at the same time.