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crackhouse:
I bet u this kind of person can do all that but that does not mean she have changed. Marry her and see her go back to the same lifestyle. The guy made a right decision. Marriage and friendship are two different things....

Then why deceive her all along? Excuses for all the lies?

Holywizard:
From her personal description...she's a wayward and a loose dog. Imagine piercings and tattoos. What if the guy is from a strong Christian background?

Then why date her? Has he been blind all along?Christian background filled with the Spirit of lies

DavSagacity:
This is the First time ever that a sensible advise will be coming from the miyetti allah group as a means to solve the incessant farmers/herdsmen crises.

Because it's now affecting them... Isnt this the exact solution to security issues that has been talked about all year long?

Sirjamo:
This is a public forum. I have the right to express my opinion and I owe no one explanation, including you!

Pls keep your dumb reasoning to yourself lest you get us all infected with zombie bites

Sirjamo:
I don't know what the fuss is all about, we where importing toothpicks and pencils during the PDP years, those people left this country in ruins and its going to be years before anyone can clean up the mess.

Pls stop sounding like a broken record. Do you think we are all that dumb?

johnmartus:
Is that not igbo guy? But how igbo guy was elected to political office in rivers state.

I think he is from Etche lga and they share boundary with ngor okpala in IMO state

extremelygolden:
Go about it in a playful manner. In the middle of a conversation when he says something that thrills you, just chip in a sentence like, O!Jay I love you more each passing day. You make me happy always by your perception about life. If you were around now I would have said, what have you given me to eat? I am just loving you too much these days. Then you quickly change the topic.

You will see that after some time he will call to confirm if what you said about loving him is true? That's when you will tell him Yes in a bold letter.

Best of luck, dear.

Ooh dear!!!! This is beautiful.. I just love it.

Op, pls go for this.

She shouldn't have an idea that you lol be taking her back to her parents. If she does, she might abscond before the due date. Trust her numerous bfs to take her to unknown destinations

JudgeOGBUNABALI:
Jeeeesuuu!
See small girl sef! Na only God know where all this dem ogbongidi dey enter for power.

It's not a matter of been small or big but desperation. Simply. Any of them came desperate

ecstasy357:
Her dream is not to be an educator. I love educators. According to her, she's just managing it for the main until a better offer comes.

She doesn't know what she wants to do for the long term. For now she wants to learn how to bake.

We are still talking though... I need her to just show me a little drive

You really have a good heart. As I said earlier keep watching her. She ll adjust but it depends on time. And how much time do you have to spare if you have got any ?

jackals:
The thing is You became angry over a small issue.. Don't you know you're supposed to be petting her...woman are fragile creature...At that time you were calling her, she might be going through a lot...I suggest you call her and work thungs out

Did you just say that what transpired was a small issue? My dear HELL NO. that is someone's future and he has decided to be SERIOUS ABOUT and WITH IT

MissRaine69:
If there is anything that would frustrate me is going out on a limb for someone and being let down. I have no patience for people who procrastinate, who are afraid to look at the bigger picture and focus on the here and now rather than the future as well.
4 weeks is not a relationship, it’s a situation pair yourself with someone who also wants the best for themselves as well as both of you.
It has to be onwards and upwards from here on in your case. Sometimes some people need a heavy dose of a reality check.

On point

ecstasy357:
She doesn't depend on me for her survival.

She wasn't supporting the person but rather...she doesn't know how the person will take it.

I'm guessing you've never been in the labour market. You don't know the joy that comes when you get invited for a job test. This is not the point.

The question is..am I wrong for ending it because I feel she doesn't have the drive to grow?

NO YOU WERE NT WRONG. BUT I LL ADVISE YOU KEEP MONITORING HER FROM A DISTANCE. GOOD ENOUGH BOTH OF YOU ARE STILL FRIENDS.. TRUST ME, SHE LL ADJUST AND THANK YOU LATER IN FUTURE FOR TAKING SUCH STEP IF TRUELY SHE IS HUMBLE.

I HAVE HAD SUCH EXPERIENCE

ecstasy357:
I reject d bolded portion.

Understanding said I shouldn't stay away from her but quench every thought of partnership

Abeg reject it. You did nothing wrong.. How do you expect one to remain in a relationship where his/her partner has got no drive, isn't challenging nor challenged?Thats just the beginning and end of deterioration and not even stagnancy

austyn0:
Sorry I had to book this space with a "Hmm". Something came up while I was reading..

So.... You called it quit for that reason and that was all she could respond with?? The lady in question is not serious, I am afraid.

From your explanation, you aspire building a great family with a wonderful woman and she doesn't appear like someone willing to go through the stress. There is also a possibility she has been contemplating on the breakup even before your move, probably because she felt you are too demanding, a nuisance and as well, stingy. I don't wanna add the possibility of her eyeing another dude already..

I feel you made a good decision by calling it off man, a man has gotta be a man in cases like this, make the difficult decision that has to do with your future.

Good analysis

anochuko01:
This OP would be a proud human being.
out of all the issues at hand, it was your deflated ego that pained you...

I think you are wrong. I understand his point perfectly well. He simply knows what he wants and she is not keeping up to that pace. My dear there's no time to slack..
All I believe is that he should have been patient to explained his thoughts to her at least and then watch her reaction.
But Op abet no dull yourself. She can't be complaining of money when and if she had an opportunity to change her situation.

SHE SHOULD GROW UP

coolzeal:
I still don't get it.. why is there so much pressure from the society on people to get married? For instance, the expectations on females are significantly overwhelming and they become more desperate in their 30's leading to unguided choices. Lets forget this fairytale a bit and enjoy what life has got to offer. Live your life and don't make it too complicated. Marriage is overrated.

thank you my brother. They have used unnecessary pressure of marriage to frustrate women that do not know themselves. Well I trust myself.. I enjoy every moment of my life. But I make sure I don't live a complicated life

BruncleZuma:
So, he's being bribed...?

Yes my dear. Obviously no case against him

Godmother:
Good for her. I hope she learns from her mistake (if it was a actually a mistake) and becomes of good conduct.



Here's
Why You Should Never Send Your Nudes to Any Guy

My dear, it wasn't a mistake. This was exactly what she wanted. Just came online pretending with fake tears ...Ladies like this can go so cheap just to be noticed.. Celebrity my foot. Many are really suffering from low self esteem just like this one

STUPID...

tactius:
1.The Army is not recruiting them

2.They are going back into civilian life.

3.Most Boko Haram fighters are forced into it. There are the hardcore members of course.

4.In Liberia, the UN ran similar projects for liberian fighters in their civil war. Many of them were involved in brutal crimes. Where was the justice.

5.In former Rhodesia, now Zimbabwe, rebels against the white Government of Ian Smith were responsible for atrocities against whites and blacks, Some of them were caught and rehabilitated, and turned into fighters for the same government they were fighting.They were called tame terrorists...and some of them helped train the elite Selous Scouts...an integrated unit of the Rhodesian Army that was better than all their units toghether.

This isn't same as Boko haram. We are talking of RELIGIOUS REBELS and not just rebels fighting supposed injustice in their country

Denikayan:
Your head is paining you.

It's your own head dear. Pls resume check up

Denikayan:
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You have headache!

No dear....You do

BUHARI IS BOKO HARAM

Were Niger Delta ex-militants drafted into the Nigerian Army?

Awol1:
Of course.

In 20 to 30 years, those guys would be in charge of commanding positions in the army. They will be in charge of the armoury. They will execute jihad with state resources.

They've been reformed in the eyes of the gullible but I can tell you that these guys still very much hold tight to their ideology.

Buhari and his co-jihadists have discovered it won't be easy to execute brutal jihad on Nigeria due to our diversity and they've resorted to going systemic about it.

My pain is so many southerners are useful idiots to this administration and cheering them on.

Just imagine over 100 terrorists in the army. And this is like first batch o. More are still to come.

We need to wake up.

Hmmmmm....SO ON POINT

Yaba left patient. Lolzz

Donjazzy12:
Let me invite you in advance to the victory celebration of AAC!

Hope you are still wailing cos Wike has been declared winner

Glink2018:
U this evercurious" , are you chasing me upandan on nairaland?....
Wike's thug side Chic.. nothing do you.

Have you heard that Wike has been declared winner of the governorship election in Rivers State
Lolzzz

LilMissFavvy:
Churchill must have really abused this woman in the name of marriage. He must have dealt with her such that this level of hatred is in her heart. Despite all the wickedness from Churchill, I wish Tonto can be mature, and stop mentioning him. Is Churchill still single? Hahahhaah why has he not married Monroe, the prostitute that helped him ruin his marriage. Stupid man.

My dear you are very correct. But you know what, such pains know no maturity.. All I pray is that God and time heals the pains,wounds,deceit etc all harboured in her

sacluxisback:
she was seriously hurt in the last relationship

Thank you... Really really hurt. But she has to let go of all the pains and hurts

This Tontoh is really 'mouthed'..lolzzz