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Marriage26:
It's against my faith bro. God had been arranging my life for me since, and this is one of God's institutions , I have to follow his rule..

This marriage/wedding is long overdue. My dear you know your dad and as implied he is quite unreasonable. My advise is this: PLS GO AHEAD WITH YOUR WEDDING AFTER SERIOUS PRAYERS.

Your dad is just holding you down for no reason. If he has got any reason for objecting, he should let you know. But if he has got none, then I dont see any reason why you shldnt go ahead with it

Kweensavvy:
Na wa this your case is really deep poo. You NEVER should have involved yourself. Now the poor girl will get hurt all over again. Why did she even decide to date you of all guys!!!!!

She wldn't have dated him. Even if she wanted the relationship ,why keep it SECRET? for me the issue here is the SECRET nature of that relationship. Nothing more. The rest are all secondary and no issue at all

Wilson125:
hmm.. thanks a lot.. i know this friendship is gonna crash.. i mean everything will crash, relationship too.. cus i am actually hating maself n the girl right now..

I blame you for listening to the girl when you pleaded that you kept your relationship as a secret. You wldnt have done that. I know why I also said it ll take a miracle for you not to lose both the friendship and relationship. And reality is already at your doorstep. You might likely start detesting the girl. Deep down your heart, you now blame her for your predicament

MissRaine69:
Vagina.

Lolzzz..Crazy you

Wilson125:
i’ll ready to end the relationship but how do i tell ma friend is the problem..

My dear I m so sorry, but it ll take a miracle for you to retain either and both the friendship or relationship.

As per the friendship, it ll take 'extreme' maturity from your friend for that friendship to be retained

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Heartbreak looming. In d end you will lose one. May be ur friendship or relationship.

NO. HE LL LOSE BOTH

[quote author=NwanyiAwkaetiti post=77734794]Heartbreak looming. In d end you will lose one. May be ur friendship or relationship.[/quopte]



NO. HE LL LOSE BOTH

planetx:
She settled for a caucasian because that is the only person who want's her old ass behind.

Pls stop being bitter or else heart attack awaits you

StarUp:
If I were her husband, I would just divorce her. Now I know the reason why her husband is cheating on her - she lacks wisdom: must she put it online? Can't she ask elders for advice on how to go about regaining back her home instead of that foolishness? ... When you see a man cheating on his wife, just know she is a dumbass...no wonder the man went for a sharp-brained physiotherapist as against a wisdomless wife.

Babe, this is not just it...Not at all

Oga, concentrate on yourself and learñ to love yourself. You don't need her not even now.

ejibaba:
That's great... Remember it with joy and gladness...The deliverance is a thing of joy and celebration...What God has done for you are beyond the pain.

Oga joy and gladness inside where?

Distintion:
U messed up my life so bad, up till now am still trying to fix it, may God forgive you for lying to me that u loved me, i cared, fed, clothed and gave u shelter when you needed it most not knowing you were using me all the while.. Only to cheat and breakup with me when things got better for you.. I cry whenever i remember how stupid i was for loving and trusting you soo much, but then i leave you to karma..

This is rather too sad.. It's alright to cry.

Lovelyn451:
She left it there for too long naw...

Not an excuse

ImaIma1:
As i said, i am only responsible for what i say. However you choose to understand or interpret it is your kettle of fish.

Class and materialism indeed

But you should know that the under tone of your comment isn't difficult to comprehend

Tricycles4sel:
Abeg what's the legal age for sex?

Nonsense and hypocrisy of girls, madam was busy enjoying the knacking and previlages that comes with it, if not for the abortion you for tell us?

Feminist and victim card oya attack!

I quite agree with you.. Those girls ought to be ashamed of themselves.. They enjoyed every moment but couldn't stand the consequences of their action.

ImaIma1:
Are you still aching from the post from gaspardd?

Because you obviously carry things in mind. Take it easy sha.

My comment on this post is straight forward. I am only responsible for my comment and not for how to choose to interpret it.

Aching you said? ooh dear, I ll advise we don't visit that You got it all wrong. But learn this, ALWAYS COME OUT STRAIGHT

ImaIma1:
All i see in your comment is a preconceived notion, ignorance and lack of understanding or an unwillingness to understand.

Whatever the case, learn to disagree and comment objectively and with maturity instead of childish outbursts.

Learn to always come out straight..

Modarun:
Most times these so called long term girlfriends are not as loyal as they pretend to be. But konji being a bastard, poor boy has no choice, cos i mf he chase her away, no more feeding and pocket money and free pvssy from his girl, so bros will act loyal. the very moment he hits money, he then runs off.

Lolzzzx... Isn't this a comedy?

Stillthebest:
Before you condemn this write up. Try and be poor before and then become rich. Then you can determine. Money changes tastes. Most rich men today don't have their first wives and their retained wives. Though, the ball is played differently by different people. A lot of things make you want to retain or let go. Some less iq women stay in a marriage just because they think there is no place to go. Life could diverse

You see the issue 'try and be poor before and then become rich'.. This is why 'I CAN NEVER THROW AWAY THE EFFECTS OF BACKGROUND IN THE LIFE OF ANYONE.

so sorry to say this but my dear may God HELP AND DELIVER your MENTALITY

. Sincerely this is the reason why I say all things being equal the worse set of guys to date is the 'broke' ones. If not for the sake of true love, I wouldn't advise any lady to go close to them

JONNYSPUTE:
You are right just that most people especially women tend to allow emotions be cloud their senses of reasoning when it comes to relationships

My dear as for me I open my eyes, ear, head, brain, heart and every other one needed for the relationship to work. But most important of them all is my HEAD.

Guy wey never see money start to give you some attitude and you look away.. Hmmm..very dangerous..Maybe the babe too never handle better money for her life to know that some attitude are signs of ungratefulness waiting to explode.

ImaIma1:
Try to understand the point and don't be ready to pounce. Both parties need to keep developing themselves.

Compatibility is important in marriage, it bridges gaps. And as i said in another post, it doesn't mean that the couple won't be married forever, it would just help enhance the marriage better.

Plz stop hiding under the guise of compatibility Your issue is CLASS AND MATERIALISM

trapQ:
Stop supporting nonsense. So that person wasn't disgraceful when you were spending their money and only became disgraceful when you became rich?

No mind that one. Materialism and class is that ones problem

Jephyard:
From what the OP wrote up there is total thrash. If you want to know a man true character gives him power. So if the op blows tomorrow he will leave his loving uneducated/educated wife to one that meet his taste. No love, no loyalty. Wawu, pure greed, he want a sophisticated wife that will add more to him. He always want to take, take and not give. My advice for the OP is change your circle including your church you are heading to a wrong path. No man will leave a loyal girl because he has upgrade, and if he does they almost end up regretting their actions. I have friends and even one currently still regretting his actions for leaving his loyal girlfriend (just girlfriend o, not wife yet) to a more classy one. He is still begging her till today.

Thanks for being truthful and as I said earlier, I still friends(married men) regretting their actions till date... Let them keep looking for classy, olojukokoro guys.. I don't pity them. Same way I fling them across the fence when I sense signs of ungratefulness..

JONNYSPUTE:
It's very unfortunate that some men look for excuses to discard women who suffered with them when they had nothing but will not hesitate to call a woman who did the exact thing to a man an in grate and a gold digger.

In that broke and needy state of that man, one can still see signs of ungratefulness if vigilant. I have been in situations like this and trust I don't hesitate to back out

bolafez:
Yeah. The average happening rate is high. That makes it right.

Not at all cos what's wrong is wrong.

Herdsmen:
Stingy woman..I believe she know you well..if she ask for help you go play her well..
You think say you smart baa..

Now your 600k na till her son finish university..she go pay..

Who even knows tomorrow..her son fit buy you n your destiny tomorrow.. Dey dia dey form abroad..

Mumu learn your lesson case close and move ahead..

Kama is a bitch if you wan overeact...

The only person wey life sure for...na the death..

Listen to yourself,WICKED SOUL.
must she help? Naaa she bring am come this world.? Naaaaa people like you hate wealthy people as if naaaa dem invite poverty to be landlord for unaaa lineage.

MADAM OR OGA, GET HER ARRESTED IMMEDIATELY AND FORGET ALL THAT SENTIMENTAL BULLSH..T FROM YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. IF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS CANT PAYUP FOR HER, THEY SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM THE ISSUE.

Naaaa you even go dey tell dem. If naaa me, she must have been arrested long before other family members get to hear of it. Nonsense

Martinez39:
If you feel disgraced about your spouse whom you claim to love then you are not the right person for your spouse since people's validation are more important to you than your spouse. Sincerely, this is a vain and childish thing to say. You must not act like everyone.

No mind dem. So suddenly the person that has stood by them all through their life has become a disgrace. Imagine the CHILDISH TALK. Materialism and class has destroyed a lot. Always wanting to be like others. FAKE FAKE LIFE.

people like that are those that can deny even their parents in the mist of their friends. After all I have seen a lot of them while in school

bolafez:
you point is too theoretical to be relied on.
the Op said nothing but absolute truth. It's happening and would continue happening.

And that it keeps happening doesn't make it right? Does it?

WomanOfRace:
You are right. I dated someone for 3 good years; we went through a lot together...then suddenly he saw a light and he told me he needs someone that will be very sound and with skills, probably not HND certificate( I laughed). Finally, I believe our parts are different because I am among the most intelligent women with vision on earth. With what is in my head , mind and the support I need... my man and I will be unstoppable. Not everyone knows the value of a raw gold and in the wrong hand, will be taken for granted. A woman is a liability only to a man who couldn't identify her strength, her value and only want to mold her to his own definition of success. It is all excuse , and most men end up making the mistake of dating their wife and ending up with girlfriend.

To such a man, the end shall tell, don't concluded yet the light shines only for you.

Better to end up with a good woman with vision and ways to build empire with you, than with a woman with so many grammar ,certificate and will be comfortable just working 5-6 job everyday for the rest of her life with you. Highest a duplex. Don't throw away raw gold in place of bronze.

My dear that's why I have no sympathy for anyone of them that come complaining about their wives. I have alot of them that made same mistake and still regret their actions till date. You get mad when you hear the flimsy reasons for actions. Hence my response has always been ' always hold on to whatever attracted you to her and if you can't find it any longer, look for another '

jezuzboi:
Read the article more carefully, slower than you did before, and you will see the answer to this your question.

My dear, he read well and understood it perfectly

ANGELMARVE:
See bro, Nobody is useless in life.
Even if the woman failed to meet the standard, you can help her make the standard.

If someone is not educated, then the person should develop on his or her talent or have a handwork.

So did the successful man got to the top on his own?
Did people not help him got to the top?

what if people refused to help him when he was poor because he is low class?
would he be at the top today?

This generation has destroyed the concept of love with too many principles of westernization and people are too money, class and material conscious.

When you truly love a woman, it don't matter if she is this or that, You stick with her to the end.

Thank you

oyatz:
You have a valid argument but you know the real differences between GIRLFRIENDS and WIVES?

Then why can't the girlfriend be made a wife?