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Godmother:
Good for her. I hope she learns from her mistake (if it was a actually a mistake) and becomes of good conduct.



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Why You Should Never Send Your Nudes to Any Guy

My dear, it wasn't a mistake. This was exactly what she wanted. Just came online pretending with fake tears ...Ladies like this can go so cheap just to be noticed.. Celebrity my foot. Many are really suffering from low self esteem just like this one

STUPID...

tactius:
1.The Army is not recruiting them

2.They are going back into civilian life.

3.Most Boko Haram fighters are forced into it. There are the hardcore members of course.

4.In Liberia, the UN ran similar projects for liberian fighters in their civil war. Many of them were involved in brutal crimes. Where was the justice.

5.In former Rhodesia, now Zimbabwe, rebels against the white Government of Ian Smith were responsible for atrocities against whites and blacks, Some of them were caught and rehabilitated, and turned into fighters for the same government they were fighting.They were called tame terrorists...and some of them helped train the elite Selous Scouts...an integrated unit of the Rhodesian Army that was better than all their units toghether.

This isn't same as Boko haram. We are talking of RELIGIOUS REBELS and not just rebels fighting supposed injustice in their country

Denikayan:
Your head is paining you.

It's your own head dear. Pls resume check up

Denikayan:
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You have headache!

No dear....You do

BUHARI IS BOKO HARAM

Were Niger Delta ex-militants drafted into the Nigerian Army?

Awol1:
Of course.

In 20 to 30 years, those guys would be in charge of commanding positions in the army. They will be in charge of the armoury. They will execute jihad with state resources.

They've been reformed in the eyes of the gullible but I can tell you that these guys still very much hold tight to their ideology.

Buhari and his co-jihadists have discovered it won't be easy to execute brutal jihad on Nigeria due to our diversity and they've resorted to going systemic about it.

My pain is so many southerners are useful idiots to this administration and cheering them on.

Just imagine over 100 terrorists in the army. And this is like first batch o. More are still to come.

We need to wake up.

Hmmmmm....SO ON POINT

Yaba left patient. Lolzz

Donjazzy12:
Let me invite you in advance to the victory celebration of AAC!

Hope you are still wailing cos Wike has been declared winner

Glink2018:
U this evercurious" , are you chasing me upandan on nairaland?....
Wike's thug side Chic.. nothing do you.

Have you heard that Wike has been declared winner of the governorship election in Rivers State
Lolzzz

LilMissFavvy:
Churchill must have really abused this woman in the name of marriage. He must have dealt with her such that this level of hatred is in her heart. Despite all the wickedness from Churchill, I wish Tonto can be mature, and stop mentioning him. Is Churchill still single? Hahahhaah why has he not married Monroe, the prostitute that helped him ruin his marriage. Stupid man.

My dear you are very correct. But you know what, such pains know no maturity.. All I pray is that God and time heals the pains,wounds,deceit etc all harboured in her

sacluxisback:
she was seriously hurt in the last relationship

Thank you... Really really hurt. But she has to let go of all the pains and hurts

This Tontoh is really 'mouthed'..lolzzz

Meliaen:
By your logic, Churchill's silence exonerates him from blame?

I sometimes cannot believe how some people reason.

CHURCHILL MUST BE A SILENT KILLER

Jman06:
After abandoning the child for so long, he now went back to pretend like he cares.
Besides, if Churchill really cares, he knows the legal procedure to follow. But I know very well that he doesn't care! His intention towards Tonto was fraudulent from onset but that one was carried away by infatuation and bigotry to see through the façade.

Thank you my brother for seeing beyond the misconceptions

KevinDein:
All you are doing here is speculation. You literally have no single FACT to support your comments. And then you call the man a serpent because he did what exactly? Refusing to put up with Tonto's bullllshiit and calling it quits?

I sometimes can not believe how some people reason.

Oga just wait.. It won't be long from now, the TRUTH will be out.. But all I know and so sure of is that that CHURCHILL is so guilty...

FOWOSHERE01:
Aunty Tonto is still holding on to the past

Yea... Obviously she was badly hurt..Only God knows the truth..But I still believe that Churchill is very guilty but due to the rash nature of Tontoh, people won't notice. To me he is a serpent...

Sincerely now i believe she was so so WRONGED in that relationship/marriage that she hasn't gotten over the trauma. Yes she is wrong by going over board with her actions and reactions.. But all I ll say to her is 'Allow this same God you talk about all day heal you of all pains and hurts'

And she should also let go of all the pains and hurts in her..Though it might be hard but she has to let go. Only then will she find peace

Mutemenot:
They 're probably secondary or uni students. By the time they stop receiving money frm their parents then their sense 'll reformat....200k that can't even help Op upgrade his home as someone that wants to marry

. My elder brother,then a banker got married unprepared in 2006 to a lady that we knew wasn't doing anything tangible as at then. He left the banking sector for business after a year and business didn't work out as planned. His wife wasn't even ready to 'shake ' body

Hmmm all my monthly salaries and proceeds from deals as a banker as at then were all channeled to one issue and another. From C.S to hospital bills to diapers, baby food, clothing etc..Everyday day comes with different issues. My dear even as a female I 'weak' for myself. In fact that experience got me scared...I won't even tell my enemy to get into marriage unprepared. Or maybe OP, you know how to go begging, borrowing or 'faithing' it

If I must say, no man should go into marriage unprepared.. Not even in this BUHARI ERA.

Mutemenot:
It's better to get into difficulties while in marriage than to start with it. It's bad to intentionally get yourself into trouble. I know a guy who jumped into it, I warned him earlier but he disagreed . When it was time to pay bride prize he asked me for help I ignored him . He managed to do some n left others . The wife just put to birth through surgery . There was Mooney to pay, I had to cough out 40k to support. He borrowed the rest which of which i know he may not be able to pay off this year .. I won't advise any man to go into marriage unprepared .

Thank you my brother. All these people in support of this OPs marriage at this time in Nigeria DO NOT LOVE him.

Op you can as well get their contacts, proceed with the marriage plans and in times of need do not hesitate to get in touch with them for support

Good luck

DZTech:
make I give u alert:
oyinbo sef don dey leave diapers o!
ask Google,

Lolzzz

Cocoyamdcomedia:
Dear nairalanders,
I have just 200k in my account and my parents are already forcing me to get married. I told them to let me concentrate on my business first , they refused and saying No time. Please I need your advice on this matter.
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Lolzzzz... Comedian

ityP:
Well, science tells us kids born by women 30 years and older have a very high chance of being challenged... Plus, considering the fact that menopause is just about 15 years from 30, it explains why some may consider age 30 to be a little late for a woman to get married. Then too, u are probably one of very few women who wasn't thinking of marriage at age 30... Even women in advanced countries, where age isn't really a thing, would be searching for a marriage mate on or before 30...

Sorry at that age , marriage wasnt my piriority ONE BIT.

Whoever wants it to be her issue,SO BE IT .
If it's also an ACHIEVEMENT for her, SO BE IT

SamOyovwi:
And age nor dey your side. Women select too much until they get old start regretting because nobody will interested again.

Leave her to select as much as she wants to.. Naaa her life.. Me sef i still dey select at my 'old' age. Abeg make unaa free person..

Well naaa for thise wey e dey bother cos i care less

koyyes:
Op, I wonder how you can be talking about your wife's age and the hypocritical pedophilia standards when you can clearly see she is still bearing kids even till now. And mind you, research has shown that kids born at that age are usually the smartest.
You expect her to be grateful she has a d1ck to call her own even when the d1ck can't give her anything but $perm.

She probably has faced reality a long time ago and has decided that the only thing that can give her long lasting joy are her career achievements and kids.

Maybe there are things you say and do that irritates her and she doesn't want to be emotionally invested in you.

You met her and you liked what you saw. A females who doesn't need a dime from you and is not clingy. What more does a negro want?You can't have it all. Just manage her like that.

I hope you don't cheat? Else, you don't expect a woman like your wife to be as you want her to be because you can't change certain females by acting that way. You will only worsen things.

If you like, take the reverse psychology advice of some dundi united here that are telling you to make her jealous by frolicking with girls. Remember that those hungry girls have feelings too. They want someone that will give them money and rent/buy a house for them. You cannot use and dump them. They are smarter now. You will eventually become their baby daddy. Be prepared to divide your home, pay more school fees and live worse than 2face all in the name of 'she doesn't upload my pics online'.

Hope you wont mind a peck from me. I still d9nt understand how people would term a 30 year old lasy as old. Sorry at that age , marriage wasnt evn close to my list

Bonebreaker:
i read ur story and it was quite interesting. U mentioned she was about 30 when u got married could it be that she married u because she felt that she was getting old and had no choice so she just decided to tie the knot with u??

How can a 30 year old lady be termed 'old'? I really fear for our mentality here in Nigeria

johnmartus:
I will take you serious when you quit smoking weeds.

No dear...pls take him serious NOW cos what he said is just the TRUTH

Sanchez01:
He is correct. Restructuring might likely force states to merge as most are not self sufficient. The North won't find it easy just as some parts of the South East. The position of Lagos stretches positively to some other South West states. Osun might not survive the move, just as Ebonyi.

A state like Enugu where nearly 70% are civil servants won't even smile when it is stamped.

Restructuring comes at a huge price. As a matter of fact, it is excellent on paper and somewhat ugly when practiced, mostly on dependent states that have little or no resources/ideas.

Every state should be proactive and start working on how to improve GENUINE means of generating and improving their revenue .

NobleView:
Op I don't usually comment but I read your topic and I felt most people are missing the point. I believe your wife has an INFJ personality which are the rarest in the world.
People like that are usually very private but emphatic and you win them over by being sincere and genuine. The more gifts or physical ways to try and win them over the more repulsive they find you. They need to be understood in a low and deep way. INFJs usually end up having very deep warm relationships once they believe you are sincere.

Please read this it is very important https://www.16personalities.com/infj-personality
Please read up to the romantic relationships chapter/page.

There are so many vast generalisations on nairaland. I may be wrong but after reading your 3 posts including the one about treating your mother this is what I find likely.

I hope things work out.

GOD BLESS YOU REAL GOOD..

Op didn't study his wife properly before getting married to her. She is much more matured for his level.. Simple

Elder0001:
Do you live in a cave?

My dear,. Help me ask

Pkingman:
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this. They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

Oga if all you have written so far about your wife is true, then there is nothing wrong with her. She is just too MATURE FOR YOU. Her independent lifestyle is the reason for her attitude towards gifts. Truth be told, your wife had no issue with her biological clock. So cares less about that. If in doubt, ask her friends and family members.

Op, you didn't study her properly before getting married to her. What freaks you doesn't freak her.

YOUR WIFE IS MORE MATURE THAN YOU KNOW AND MUCH MORE THAN YOU ARE