₦airaland Forum

damiso:
I might just even buy my first 'Ribena red' shoe and bag.

Mindfulness:
Well, first of all, I am having fun here and elsewhere. My first and top priority in life is to have, fun, fun, fun and more fun and NL is fun for me too like everything else I do, I do nothing without fun so I am not ranting.

Secondly, I am constantly changing because this is what I was born to do in the second place, after having fun fun fun and more fun. I was born to evolve and develop.

Thirdly, there is a lot of change taking place on and offline, also because people speak up. I am surprised you do not see the usefulness of public discourse, one of the pillars of every democracy and free society.

Fourthly, dear Ewuro, if you do not like such topics, you can ignore them but the way I see it, everybody is enjoying the debates on gender equality in one way or another. Maybe some people get upset, I definitely don't - but be it as it may - people find them interesting enough to keep such threads going for quite a long time so please stay with us, it would be nice, but don't tell people what they should discuss and what they shouldn't.

I am sure that many people have learned a thing or two and in a quiet moment had a re-think because of such threads. I have learned a lot in life from people who disagreed with me and I intend to continue learning because fun, progress AND debating is what I love.


Have a blessed new week.

damiso:
Invite us for the owambe o

veave:
Madam.... you calling me a slow poke.... I see you really want trouble. I'm in a very good mood this season. God has been extra good to me... I give today for you and any other person as dash

Mindfulness:
The core issue is people's mentality and the examples in the OP are just a few of this mentality's manifestations.

cococandy:
@bold, is a wrong inference.

That this man came out to say this doesn't mean he has self esteem or marital issues. Or was brought up badly.

That's an unfair way of shushing people who speak their opinions up. We should At least counter his points. Say he's lying if we think so.
Saying his observations are a lie even if he's not lying is better than attacking his personality.

Must anyone who talks about something be doing it from personal experience? And even if they were? What difference does it make? It only makes it more valid if anything.

Yes of course I agree society is no longer an excuse anymore. That's one piece of advice I think people need to leave this thread with. Do what you want (as long as it's not a crime) regardless of how others see it.

Still man is a social being and public opinion cannot be shunned by all since everyone doesn't have the same capabilities and strengths.

What's the better solution to saying 'ignore' as if it's that easy for everyone than actually disabusing people's minds of some of the archaic beliefs that lead to such discriminations in the first place.

As far as this thread is concerned now, everyone is saying don't listen to 'society' I.e those around you. But when folks get in trouble we ask them to consult a third party, An older one, a church leader, public forums etc who also happen to be part of this faceless society that we somehow think is dispensable at will. It far easier said than done.

I for one have the strong will to do that but I noticed that I've always been seen as different, stubborn even. So I know not everyone can be like that.

taryour:
yes he does sis. saw him at an occasion I organised. Good evening sis. how family and work.

veave:
I understand what you saying ma. However, I'd not agree to get married and wait. I see children everywhere and I just want to grab one like it's mine... can't wait to start a family honestly. I hear it's not easy but na my mates dey dia. Make I join them make we do the experience together...

Mindfulness:
So your problem is what the "global influenced populace" will believe?

Mindfulness:
I believe in change. I believe in progress. I believe that we were ALL born to evolve. Animals, people, nations and the globe. It has always been like this and it always will be. The Internet is a beautiful medium to accelerate the process, which we are always the slowest at.

Wishing you a beautiful Sunday.

cococandy:
bPls how do people tackle a problem without talking about it?
All these posts aimed at shushing the OP doesn't make sense to me in that way.
We talk online about child abuse, we talk about jungle justice etc and anything we feel isn't happening the way it should.
I don't see that as whining.
No problem is ever addressed by shutting up about it.
I don't get the logic.

SAMBARRY:
Shey etunbere laro Sunday yi. Shey e nishe gidi shey? Abi Kilokan e pelu marital status Patricia abi Dammy. Abi o mo bi wonshey mind buisness e.oniranu oshi.


Next jare

Timbuktou:
Please, provide a source to this data. Thanks.

Fhemmmy:
I will suggest people give us the ingredient and how to make this foods too now . . . . .

Mindfulness:
Showing off.
There are white people who are rich but don't show it. It is hard to find such people among Nigerians.



Why do you think rappers look like this? Why are they showing off money, cars and women they paid for in almost all of their videos?

https://cdn.pigeonsandplanes.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/Rich-Ass-Rappers.jpg


Why doesn't Bill Gates behave like this? Why didn't Steve Jobs behave like this?



I also think that there are more white ladies who do not place as much value on fashion in the sense of "dress to impress" as Nigerian ladies even when they can afford high quality fashion.


I am not being judgmental here sweetheart, just descriptive.

Truckpusher:
Perfectly right , until a society evolved on it's own it would always be subjected to external influence that promotes anything that serves as a means to an end.
Women are still materialistic all over the world and not just Nigerian women , they simply exist with different orientation on how to go about it.

Mindfulness:
I totally get your point.

You come from an affluent country, they come from a poor country. This is why they consider these things so important and so special and this is why it is so foreign to you and why you do not place so much importance on such things.

The same phenomenon can also be observed on the national level in the US. Rappers show off their wealth more than any other group of people. Why? They come from a place of poverty.

babygirlfl:
Hehehe. I don't share. and I am not going to be done with it soon.

armyofone:
Please wash and send them over when you are done.

Ewuro4, add rope necklace, thanks in advance.




Op,
She works hard for the money, work hard for it honey, so you better treat her right.

babygirlfl:
Madam pls I want some of that your matching shoe and bag. Thanks in advance.

NigerianBelle:
First, I don't have a problem with being "decked" and certainly do not begrudge anyone the material items she may wish to buy/wear. I'm talking about the value put on such items to the point that they seem to factor in the way a woman is valued by her peers and that they manage to make this such a major conversation piece.

As far as Western media, please. These are not reflections of real life. [s] That would be like me calling out Nollywood movies to back an argument [/s].

FriedPlantain:
Depends on how you intend submitting your application. If you plan on using the post office or courier service, I would advise you type the letter, anything different, then handwritten application will do just fine.


My opinion though.