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I don't wanna age.

Madam Saucepan, great points ... Like someone already pointed out to you, You are never a SAHM , you worked your azz off while raising your kids.

Staying home and doing nothing is what majority are averted to. We are home makers alright but that shouldn't limit us from achieving our goals like Ralphlauren stated.

Those are the kind of Amazon I want to be seen in their midst.

I doff my hat for you and God bless your home.

crackhaus:
Are you a Cameroonian parent?

No , proudly Nigerian

I honestly don't have a problem letting go of a kid as long as he's a man of integrity and with great potentials.

lofty900:
for her to believe that he's coming to see her parents means she's planning to go back to the guy, maybe it's her destiny to die of foolishness

Who knows? Foolish indeed.

Omo eni oba joni abayo

Nigerian parents change oh

Hehe TV01 that little oga is not joking oh, he means business see his strong papa eyes.

Abeg leave him he'll come around in his own time. All the shifted attention is not easy to take in even for the agbayas we have over here are not smiling.

God bless your home and grant your heart desires. IJN.

damiso:
No this was more my family and friends. Did not mind my family asking but some of my friends was in a sort of condescending way that make I no lie used to annoy the heck out of me. If I am not asking you for money for pampers/brazillian hair wetin be your own naa or the ones that use to say 'haaa your hubby is trying in this UK paying all the bills'grr MYOB .I even told one who said 'Haa thank God you are back at work you are too smart to be a stay at home mum' *rolls eyes* 'so you mean all stay at home mums are dumb abi besides if you did not know I wanted to stay home at that time' Count that period as my career break or time off( as we kuku don't have a year out in Naija unis this omo gal has been working non stop from since when i finished University ejoor .

I'm guilty of that too. I tell them you know "I will not MMOB until you get something going for you". the tough love we are sharin.

Was at the spelling bee with madam weeks ago and met a lady at the concession , we introduced ourselves over coffee and discussed kids, she's from Middle East and she told me how she stayed home for 5years with her kid, and worked from home same time. This engineer raised their 20% of their mortgage down payment from her savings. I was wowed.

TV01:
- a condition I have a cunning plan to make permanent ! I love it when I get home and am recieved with a kiss and my son is happy and eager to see me. The whole house is warm and welcoming, it makes the whole day worthwhile.

...keeping home is not idle; household operations + lunching + gym + etc...allow now, at least until the kids are both school age . Just need to find the money

Princess is fine jare! Thank you for asking...


TV

Awww TV that princess is adorable. God I want to smooch her and kiss that soft cheeks.

You're right about a warm welcoming home and its doable. She just need to employ more flexible schedule compared to what she had or even work from home.. I myself recently made some schedule changes. I know it's gonna cost me and but its all worth it. We organized our days off so Now the kids see much of me and oga's food is always piping hot ( that reminds me , I think he tossed his food warmer )

Dont forget your #1 NL fan when you hit that Lotto jackpot, plenty money go come. 6k/sqf ranch house where Junior can freely ride his horses without traffic, his sister on her pink pony 24/7. Madam Pushing pram on London bridge with friends , spend the entire winter in Rome/Italy with fam and all that rosy stuff. I just heard a resounding Amen.

Dill

kilode100:
She gather breast o.
Happy sucking.

For breathlessness,stay away from sugar.

Kilode have some respect , that woman is married.

SAMBARRY:
Great god the omo pupa.omo to shan

See waramean?

Who cares if she's a pathological liar. Omo to Shan.

greatgod2012:
and what if she's omo pupa
I'm one o, be careful.
We omo pupas aint tempting o ........lol

You are oh you fit make men commit.

Men have been lusting after omo pupa since our granny era.

Made Man Vs Man with Potential

Trading body features for wealth ( how ridiculous)

We are raising another breed now and Hopefully, All these long throat mentality will be scraped off in ten years... Then the strong willed, independent and smart new generation will emerge.

Hopefully

greatgod2012:
@op, i really sympathise with you because you posted the same thing about this very your wife in 2013, which means she has not changed yet. Well, I don't really know what i can say except that you keep praying for her.

But honestly, she must have been like that before marriage, and what makes me more confused is you going ahead to marry her despite knowing the kind of woman she is.

I wish you well.

Maybe she's omo pupa.

golddust6000
Why are you exposing yourself? You owe no one explanation in regards to your motive whatsoever. Your conscience will take care of that.

What exactly do you want from NLers besides mockery please? Pls tell me.

Ay Caramba

MarvellousGod:
Lol. .. To get a thief you have to act like a thief

I guess so , Hehe what's with the face? Hehe

MarvellousGod:
Nawa ooo, Na only prayers fit solve am oooo...
Or you can start your own lying spree. Lie even when the truth is obvious . .tell her that since she wants a home full of lies, you can help her do that.... When she's tired of asking you please tell me the truth bla bla, nobody will tell her to retrace her steps...
You can suggest a marriage counselling class for both of you, don't tell her it's cos of her lying attitude but discuss with the marriage counsellor to stress the need of being truthful to your spouse prior to that..
All the best bro.. God's your strength cos I can imagine the emotional stress you're going through. ..

I guess we can't do without lying hehe

You funny die

golddust6000:
I know how to deal with her, she even text me few minute ago, try to beg me to come back, but i wont go, because i know that my hands are clean. She just framed things up to nail me down, but i am smart enough to hold all document with me, she can't do nothing.

Okay oh. Good luck with that. Your kid is very cute. Don't mess her life up please. She needs you.

And be careful who you talk to. Even Nigerians.

No solution besides counselling and you already employed that and no yeilded result.

Your eyes were consciously wide open when you chose her from the crowd of other women.

Carry your cross.

Apologize , drop the ego and carry your cross.

If you're cheating on her, you better move out so you can continue to see your kid, before she file for restraining order & nail your azz to hell, witnessed Nigerian men that aren't given visitation rights as a result of this.

You can't be smart with them. They know all the right corners to cut and take you off the picture.

Be wise.

P.S.. I won't be surprised to hear that same Nigerians are the culprit behind her suspicions. Smh

naijababe:
The thought of my hubby in a daddy group had in hysterics Daddy group bawo?

Hehe I enrolled "our daddy" too ( our last) and waited in the parkade thru the whole program enjoying my 'break' slurping skinny peppermint mocha and mini donuts. You should see him when he came out with the baby on his back

naijababe:
Which six months, I loved every single day. Who has time for waka-about? I slept, read, watched naija movies..............I found 'Things fall apart and Arelu on Youtube and must have watched both movies like 20x

Jesus omo you try oh.

damiso:
Me and you both Most days sha don't let me lie cos some days with a over active toddler can be more emotionally and physically draining than going to work. It also did not help when people kept asking me 'When are you going back to work'

I always ask visibly frustrated moms that esp when they start to sweat profusely while the baby wails

Ain't carrying no toddler around nowhere

damiso:
You know the drill I can bet like 80% were oyinbo. I used to get bored at all those mother and toddler groups esp where there was already a 'clique'.Ther contributions to the sales of Costa and Starbucks is almost as much as the working proffessionals

Eeehhh Dami yes they're all oyinbo, they can eat ehn, I just nod my head and pray for 12noon to knack already. We used the metro/ public transit too. *faints*

There was daddy group too( like a break for moms) , dont ask me how that went

naijababe:
My first ML was only 2 months long, I had only just gotten my dream job in a cutthroat company, there was no room to entertain my sentiments however strong. My second was 1yr long and I enjoyed every bit of being a lazy 'alabodo' wife o

Mostly enjoyed the first 6months and that was it.

Naijababe... Tell me something. Felt like midlife crisis at 27. The acne, white/black heads, engorged chest, so so so on

Aghhh

TV01:
No please - all that should "matter to US" is that she and hers are happy with their choices/situation.

Spoken as the proud husband of a SAHM who spends a lot of time lunching with her friends and causing commotion in the town centre with her SAHM' gang !


TV

Oh please...Your wife is on mat leave. How's that princess doing?

Again, Nobody cares bout their (SAHM) choices, as long as she's not IDLE and have something to fall back on like Naijababe said. Just DO something.

I was home too for each child and literally almost rip my all braids out.
The overpriced jogging stroller, YWCA new mommy group(all we did was gossip) , swimming lesson for tots, eat at the food court with new moms like a gorilla(excuse to pack fat) ... Been there done than , worn the T-shirt.

They all went to daycare at 10months when I realized the braids in back of my head are all gone.

Ciao.

Cutehector:
loooooool. For ur mind ryt

Cutehector:
do u mean whr I will go or whr he will go?

Both we are not sure since you want to kill yourself to crossover to his side for the info.

I'm rotfl as I type.. Asked hubby same, said he will grab his head and give CPR


Men ... Yall aggressive when it comes to money matter

Brandnew2:
what I know is, I respect women more when I see their man buy their side. It means a lot to me.

^^

Agreed.