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ideology:
Babe no vex o o, pele sorry if I sounded rude, my vexation is actually on the said man.

1. For giving her ultimatum
2. For making it look like marrying her is doing her a favor.
3 all he could think of was HIS DRUG STORE
4. not considering her middle ground and compromising.

Meanwhile she has siblings under her care, I hope the man won't complain that she's taking drugs store investments to cater for her siblings and mum.

My dear lets be realistic, the reason history repeats itself is because we don't learn.
Do you want her to end up worse like your friends??

Its unfortunate all your emphasis is on marriage.
In as much as I feel like getting married like right now, we should not push people to make decisions that they are not comfortable with.

Marriage is not an achievement like we are making it seem, it's just a stepping stone if you are with the right person else you will crash out.

If the lady wants to settle down, she should not be locked up and her potentials drowned just in the name of marriage.

Let her do something creative, fashion designing; a clothing line etc. Be a star …and shine …
Good morning

Have a blissful day ahead

PS: i don't want to be reading on nl how women are being maltreated and reduced to nothing in the society when all could have been nibbed in the bud from the beginning

Good morning from here.

All these kisses you're sharin.... but ill take it. Apologies accepted
You're the one dragging this argument further, I unfollowed the thread since my second post. This has nothing to do with spousal abuse you're insinuating. We still agree to disagree on this issue and I stand by my opinion/stance.

P.S If I hear? Marriage is an achievement my dear. Stepping stone wetin? Just forget it. Ciao.

Poshe7:
d difference isnt much

Very well then, I wish you well moving forward.

rudebouy:
Der are big sized oranges na. Grape fruit is okay as well. It just has to be something wholesome, not like lime or udara.

Sometimes I wonda wot d media finds attractive in chics like angelina jolie, madona, etc. I mean dis are boobless women so long as am concerned. Well, one man's tozo is anoda man's bonga fish.

I guess you're right about big size oranges, Grapefruit is fairly moderate and handful too, you can grab them with your hands without falling off btw your fingers ( hoping you have big hands, haha) not too big not to small , just right C cup.

The aforementioned celebrities are hot in their own unique way..... Whites aren't boob crazy like our Afro men I tire for una. NA God I take beg una, don't marry a boobless woman oh.

Orange is small na. Abi you mean grapefruit? Everything na bomboy go suck am dry

I wish my benefit is transferable .... You need like 200 sessions of intense shrinking. As in

Who's this dude sef , he's on NL you said, Abi I'm on a wrong thread ni?

What did he weigh at birth? ... Just out of curiosity

BABE3:
Nigerians can be sooooo judgmental. If you don't think the way they think, there must be something wrong with you.

Those people calling OP names are obviously living in a little bubble. They see world from their point of view and their POV alone.

How's OP selfish? Is he going to marry someone that wants kids then force them not to have kids? No. He specifically said he wants someone without the desire to have kids.

We can as well say women that go for Tall, dark and handsome dudes are selfish.


Deeptesting, don't mind them. I am sure there are women who don't want kids in this day and age. I actually know a few. Not every woman is obsessed with motherhood or kids.
Hopefully, you meet her. And if you don't, you can settle for a single parent.

OP is like a hot gay dude to single and searching ladies. So don't blame them. I understand where they're coming from.

Deeptesting, widen your search to other nationalities , your request is a piece of cake.

Cherlene:
Good evening

This subject captured my observation.
Afterall, I am a single mother.

I would not INEVITABLY say it is BURDENSOME for single-mothers to encounter an acceptable keen male, whom is interested in a MATRIMONY relationship.

Regards,
Cherlene.

You're welcome Char'

Wendy80, you're not breaking a home. That home is already inferno-ed.

Like someone advised a woman married to a 50year old agbaya, your friend needs to get her finances in order just in case they do joint account. Last time I remembered on baba oyo's thread, obudu is a not very cheap place. The dude is spending money and out of control. Who no like better thing?

This is a clean cut fact you witnessed before your eyes and not an hearsay. Call up your friend and tell her what's up. That's what I will do for my friend and expect same too.

Gosh this is ridiculously shameful.

What is the title again?

Help me or something

This Social media thingy is really having negative impact on people's real lives , so NLers will make your decisions for you

Mon lo miotide

freecocoa:
This isn't a topic worthy of discussion, a bunch of jobless mad women acting up is no fault of feminism.

No kidding

ideology:
1. Seriously, is that all you could get from my write up.

2. The folks you know that flew abroad, are they housewives or selling drug store.

3. If they were already married, that would be a different case, which I believe will count for your examples.
4. You and your friends were already married before you left your jobs or relocated right!!!

1. I'm not sorry but I read few paragraphs but (got the idea) and closed the window. ( got to work)

2. They are even far worse than owning a drugstore, back to school and nothing came out of it eventually( most of them) .

3. Being married or not doesn't make any difference in this scenario, and that is where most of yous got it twisted, if she comes back in five months after the wedding to complain about her husband's sudden quest the first generic question will be : "Was that the plan btw them during courtship?" . the fact still remained both women ( married/not) are sacrificing for their immediate FAMILY.

4. NO.( that's all I'm gonna say to that question)... Besides , I'm not here to tell the story of my life to none of yall. What I & my friends did was irrelevant to this case. And stop shouting, it's rude.

Is that good enough for ya?

jennybright:
My dear what do you expect from him, truth? For where! He said that the condom has being there since years now that he brought it out from his other car and that it's even expired. One thing for sure I won't die before my time, no woman will steal my husband because he choose me from the multitude of girls. I did not snatch him from any girl. God instituted our marriage is not by a mistake, whatever have beginning have an end. God never say goodbye to me. He is still on that majestic throne.
I love you all for your kind and sincere advice it really helped me a lot if not I would have made a mistake being a stubborn person I am. You showed me that despite faceless forum we are still one family. Thank you all. Always remember us in your daily prayer. God is still saying something.
cc.. Toonoisy ,Lyndaroyce, Tayour, Greatgod2012, Madame, Bebe2, Naijababe, Damiso, Efemenaxy, Edwife , coogar, TV01, Peakabeu(?) , Bellong, ewuro4.

That's for sure You wont die before your time, he denied it so leave it alone to avoid being called a troublemaker. It's not worth it.

That's the spirit girl.

All of you that quoted my post I only have one response: OK

The point still remained that she neither loved nor trusted the guy , end of.

And it's good to learn that abroad visa is the only ticket to certainty. What do I know, I'm a learner.

OluwaChinenyenwa:
Nope.. He is Yoruba

My dear, friend had a similar case and let me tell you that she took it upon herself to search for her paternal grandparents in Nigeria. Her father wasn't even aware of his folks demise, this young lady met her grand aunts and her cousins. Even though they aren't that buoyant, they didn't ask for anything and still blessed her Union and that was it.

Do this if you can but if it's too much and mama is adamant on her quest, then ask your maternal grandparents.

As a parent , I want to know my kid spouses' roots as well so I don't think she's asking for too much.

I wish you best of luck. You need it.

Closetoheart:
I wish you would just walk away...with your description of ur fiancee. Trust me, she ll dictate ur grandchild's name, where to have d naming, when to cut his or her hair, how to prepare food and what to prepare in ur own house, the kind of clothes u should wear for ur kids, d church u would worship in, how to spend ur holidays etc.

Na wa for you oh .

Give simple advice, you're already talking about a strangers future, poisoning her mind toward her future MIL.

OP is your fiancé Igbo?

pickabeau1:
for those who don't want to see and are harassing uncle for wanting his money back

Uncle wan marry another oreke

captcochrane:
Its better i don't find out, if i do or she tells me, that is the end of the show

Yimu

edwife:

You ehn

No be true I tok? You know I don't mince my words. And what is your own take on this issue?

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Fem29, what do you mean by uncertainty?? You're very funny. many women leave their lives for uncertainty, marriage itself is uncertainty.. She's in a serious relationship leading to marriage proper. So are you saying he should put a ring on it before telling her to quit her job which is deciet and far worse? So you'd rather let her marry first and deal with life curveballs then?? A man will change his mind after 5 children so what do you do then, Walk?

please let's be realistic here, life is not bed of roses and you know it. Besides,we aren't certain of the reasons for his quest. And he's not leaving her high and dry, he made her a business proposition ( pharmacy) , that's what a reasonable man does, it's left to a wise woman to present her case and meet in the middle.
Many professional women left their rosy single lives for uncertainty in obodo oyinbo and continue to do it, many are boarding flights at MMA as I type, many single ladies on this thread will jump at it. Even in Nigeria, posh ladies relocate their careers for family. We read that Everytime here. I've done it, my friends have done it. I'm not gonna judge them for that. Marriage is for family simple. If you're not ready then its not for you.( I didn't mean you )

It's obvious she is not ready for that next level in her life. But the ' Bravo, you did a good job' charade is what I'm not buying on this thread hence my statement. It's fake and insincere.

I've already wished her well moving forward. Her life is how she makes it.

Encourage her for what? You won't catch my shadows doing such when the truth is staring me in the face.

I wan chop iyan. Ciao

princesssusan:
Freedom!Freedom!!Freedom!!! If not thoroughly utilized can bring one to doom.

Omo.. You have to be a cultured, home trained, tamed and courteous to NOT get carried away by all the downtown lights.

Some were lost and never found

Obodo oyinbo is a free land with ENDLESS opportunities. The only place to freely tell a maga to go to blazes.

Speechless

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Coon, soon, no


Babassu

Only in Nigeria. Kai!

RIP officer.

FriedPlantain:
she is an epitome of beauty, she is smart, she is smoking hot, she is Fidira!

I nominate Fidira for Miss nairaland.

www.nairaland.com/fidira
CC

cc:NLpageants

What are you doing?

I don't think it really about the money but the traditional implication attached to it.

When you're seperated, the onus is on the brides family to refund the bride price. to free both candidates.

I could be wrong tho.

thorpido:
Autopsy still works in Nigeria even though corruption messes up a lot of things.A colleague of mine witnessed the autopsy of the Arowolo lady that was murdered by her husband.

I bet it wasn't free of charge.

And I never meant autopsies aren't conducted in Nigeria atall, the question is what's the rate ? Many families would definately want to know but can they afford it coupled with funeral expenses??

Besides I would never trust them to perform a clinical Autopsy on my family in Nigeria. The one I witnessed was gory and an eyesore. And there's no tangible inferences in the end. Talk about adding salt to injury.

See this case studies:

Results: A total of 1679 dead bodies were received at the mortuary of the institution studied during the 4-year period. Autopsies were performed in 78 cases giving a request rate of 4.7%. Coroner's autopsy was commonly performed, and this accounted for 60 (76.9%) cases, while the remaining 18 (23.1%) were clinical autopsies. Autopsies were commonly performed on male bodies more than females (M: F = 2.6:1.0) with the majority having died at their second decade of life.

Trends in clinical autopsy [b] rate in a Nigerian tertiary hospital.
Oluwasola AO, et al. Afr J Med Med Sci. 2007.
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Abstract
The benefits of autopsy in medical practice are undisputed. In spite of these benefits, autopsy rates worldwide are on a precipitous decline. This study aims to determine trends in autopsy rate in a Nigerian tertiary institution from 1984-2003.A retrospective study of the autopsies conducted between 1984 and 2003. The post mortem registers of the department of Pathology University College Hospital Ibadan were reviewed for records of autopsy over the two decades. A total of 30,899 deaths and 3385 autopsy requests were registered during the period of study, giving average annual deaths of 1626 and average annual autopsies of 178 respectively. Autopsy rates at the hospital declined from an average of 19% in 1984 to 3.6% in 2003. The decline affected all clinical departments and both sexes. The highest autopsy rate of 19.9% was in 1986, while the lowest rate of 3% was recorded in the year 2000. There has been a remarkable decline in hospital autopsy rate in the University College Hospital Ibadan over the last 2 decades. The decline affected both adult and pediatric patients, both sexes and all principal medical units. There is need for active involvement of all stake holders including clinicians, pathologists and family members of deceased patients in strategic measures aimed at reversing this trend. An investigation into the factors responsible for this decline with the view to improving the autopsy services in the hospital is also required.

thorpido:
Yea,an autopsy can show what led to the death- was it poisoning,strangulation etc.In advanced countries they even take fingerprints which can help to show if there was a struggle or not.

Autopsy in Nigeria where Innocent people are scorned wrongfully?? You're reaching.

That husband is a goner !

This thread ehn?

It's a Simple Courtesy to say 'thank you' to service providers. Waitress, cable guy, handymen, Cops, etc

15% is a must for waitresses , I usually tip more if the service is superb!

*Check on me occasionally when my food is running late.
*Check on me to find out if my food tastes good.
*Top up my drinks
*Put a smile on your face

You'll earn yourself 25% for sure.

healthFirst:
It's allowed but translating the Oogun in English is what is not...and it's to preserve our heritage.

Okay sir.

naijababe:
. You are so full of beans.

Abi na, ile aye bintin.

O break sequence thread yi. Baba onishegun emi ko ni mo she o arabirin yi Lon so ede alawofufun lori okun yin sir.

I need to jabo from this thread asap. I'm struggling no be small.

Still waiting up for akata , mo fe jeun Mehn.

I bet that shoe is custom made. The strap is a bangle.

God dey.