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Stories like this are becoming far too common in recent times to ignore ...

Before now, I advice men to build their woman to the highest possible standard, but with stories like this, I think its time to reconsider ...

Men, whatever level her father didn't take her to, it's not your responsibility to take her there ...

Most modern women are not worth your sacrifice at all! ...

It's better you rare pigs, than to build the average modern woman ...

Anyone criticizing this man on this matter, really don't understand protocol ...

A phone rang very close to him, meaning it most likely rang from one of those seated by the altar - that alone is proof of indiscipline! ...

There are places you enter and it's expected that you either switch off your phone, put it on flight mode or on silent (vibration) - and the church is one of such places ...

When it rang the first time, he cautioned whoever it was ...

That fellow should have the sense enough to put the phone on silent or on vibration ...

But no, they just had to allow themselves be instruments in the hands of the devil ...

Indeed this administration has done the wonderful job of weaponizing poverty ...

Kudos to them ...

shortgun:
Your assumptions are wrong.
Personally, I know a 22,a 26 year old and a 32 year ladies who are virgins but have no suitors.
Yours truly also left them like others before me because they refused to give me access without an irrevocable commitment

I also know a 29 year old girl who is still a virgin ...

But then, whilst I agree with you that there are virgins of those age brackets, they fall in the minority ...

Majority of girls between the ages of 18 - 30 are not virgins ...

YouandiAllofus:
I may not fully be abreast with the severity of the misfortunes in your marriage right now. But going by the story you posted up there, I don't think that you have a problem in your marriage.

Actually, by not telling your wife before handing that financial assistance to your sister is enough to give your wife reasons to be concerned regardless whether you gave her money for clothing as well.
Your sincerity is put to question.
What you're trying to make her understand is that 1 + 1 is equal to 2 which is correct outside marriage but in marriage, 1 + 1 is equal to 1.
Aside emergency situations, every intentions and reactions are supposed to be shared at all times no matter how weighty or light they may be.
This is one way to build trust and shut the door to suspicions.

Do you really think this? ...

A woman who at every little issue threatens to leave the marriage, is not an issue? ...

A woman who paints the picture of doing you a favor by staying married to you, is not an issue? ...

A woman who consistently makes unfounded accusations without proof, is no issue? ...

A woman who constantly tells you, "I'm fresh and young and I can go outside anytime", in other words, "I can cheat on you whenever I please, because I can", is not an issue? ...

A woman whose ultimate way of dealing with a "misbehaving partner" is cheating rather than open and honest communication, is not an issue? ...

A woman who calls her husband names despite providing for her to the best of his abilities, is not an issue? ...

Wawu!!! ...

The OP certainly isn't perfect, but if all you see in his story, are only his shortcomings and not his wife's, then indeed, your sense of judgement is questionable ...

That he forgives her doesn't mean he should accept her back ...

Ozone007:
If you exchange 1.5 million Naira to pounds, you will get £696 which is quite poor compare to what he will be earning abroad. UK pays average of £10 pounds per hours and if he works 8 hours per day, that will be £1920 per month which is 4.1 million naira

Though, he will spend more on rent in Uk, tax, maintenance, transportation and miscellaneous, but standard of living is far more better in UK compare to Nigeria and don't also forget that naira has lost is purchasing power

1.5 million in Nigeria now is like 300k a year ago

With the way you're doing currency conversion upandan, it seems you don't know how things work abroad do you? ...

Lemme put it into perspective for you ...

Let's use your own calculations ...

Can 1920 pound/month in the UK give you the same standard of living (or better) as compared to 1.5 million/month in Nigeria? ...

The answer is NO!! ...

Let's say you send her abroad and she gets the permanent residence and then you join her, what's next? ...

You want to leave 1.5 mil/month to travel to a place where you're not even sure of $5/hour? ...

Or are you counting on your wife holding the fort till you find your feet abroad? ...

Colson:
lol, nonsense from an incel as usual.
what if it's the other way round? He cheated and she did a pay back?
Apparently, what they have is an open marriage. The clips of the wife were found along with the 400 clips of his, so it's obvious that they are a swìnger couple.

First of, calling me names doesn't in anyway validate your opinion, so I suggest you try a better approach ...

Secondly, when you've learnt to communicate like an adult, come back and just maybe we'll have a proper conversation, until then, run along and go do your homework ...

bukatyne:
Let's get it:

Let's assume you are right: a wife cheated on a husband and he goes on to sleep with 200+ women.

And somehow, the wife is the devil while the husband was the 'innocent' man pushed to cheat.

And the husbands worth marrying aren't abysmally low?

This teaches everyone that two can play the game. Whosoever started it doesn't matter in this case: they are birds of same feather.

If either party cheated, they could do a 'quiet' separation if they did not want the scandal to rock their family.

First of, the husband slept with over 400 women, so don't try to downplay the number of women that ruined their homes because they decided to spread their legs like bama on bread ...

Secondly, no where in any of my post have I described that man as "innocent" or painted the woman as a the "devil" - so I wonder how you came to this conclusion with my previous write ups ...

And besides, whether or not you believe it, a cheating man and a cheating woman are two very different things - if you're in doubt of this, then you prolly dont know the kind of society you live in ...

It's not ideal, yes! But it's the reality! ...

Thirdly, 1 man cheated vs 400 + women who cheated, let's put that into perspective ...

Assuming they're 1k people, 500 men and 500 women, it means that, the number of cheating men with evidence is just 1 in 500, that is 0.2% - meaning we have 99.8% faithful men ...

And the number of cheating women is 400+ in 500, that is 80+% - meaning we have less than 20% faithful women ...

Which is lower? ...

I agree with you on the "quiet" separation, but if that had happened, we wouldn't see first hand the reality of the average 21st century woman ...

I remember in my conversation with 1Sharon, I said, maybe this woman cheated on her husband and what he was doing was pay back ...

And ofcourse, she laughed it off, but here we are ...

It's obvious that the woman isn't as innocent as she and the other women on nairaland painted her to be ...

It's clear now that she's a cheat and her action is prolly what spurred the man in this direction ...

Indeed, the women in 21st century that are worth keeping are abysmally low ...

(Sighs) God help us ...

There's no relationship between a person's profession and whether or not they make a good partner ...

Do what billionaires do ...

Male boss any time any day, twice on monday ...

Most females have been known over time to abuse power, I'm not taking chances ...

If you doubt this, then ask yourself:

Which gender abuses the house help more? ...

Which gender once they handle the bills for a couple of weeks, will Lord it over their partner? ...

Which gender is more brutal in the military, male or female? ...

Which gender refuses to take accountability for their actions? Can one who refuses to take accountability be a good leader? ...

I could go on and on, but I'll stop here ...

Are there good female leaders who has made significant impact in their fields? Yes!! But they're very very very very few ...

So yes, my money is on the male, period! ...

Yes! ...

You're married, with child and yet have no qualms exposing your body to the world, tufiakwa!!! ...

Whilst I don't support physical abuse of any kind, I believe that there should be consequences for fo.olishness perpetuated by women ...

Married women cheat because they want to, simple! ...

All these ones you're writing is just story ...

Most modern women have no shame, they go around acting like dogs on heat! ...

Do guys still approach girls in 2024? ...

Missroyalluv:
Actions done by two people? You men will always defend yourself

That an action is done by two people doesn't mean the consequences will be shared EQUALLY by both parties ...

Lemme paint y'all a picture...
When it's a case of unwanted pregnancy, who suffers the consequences more? The woman...

If she's in school, she may have to pause for some time to attend to the baby...

She's the one who bears the risk that may result as a result of pregnancy...

She's the one who bears the shame and stigma that may result from it...

If she's a single mother, her chances of getting a man diminishes as compared to the man...

Seeing that a woman suffers more of the consequences, isn't it wise for her to be more cautious? ....

Women use your head!!! You have a brain for God's sake! ...

Try dey close your legs and not allow just any man sleep with you, cause at the end of the day, I together with society will blame you ...

It's not fair, yes. But that's how it is ...

1Sharon:
Yes. Since there is no evidence as you initially asserted, we can just speculate.

There is evidence he cheated 400 different times with different women but again, maybe those women cheated with just him?

Wat if he infected his wife with an STD? She should still stay because men and women cheating aren't the same?

Isn't this the same "speculation" that you're accusing me of? ...

Aha! The legendary "what if" ...

Since we're in the business of speculations, lemme indulge you a little ...

What if his wife cheated on him first and this is payback? ...

What if his wife is the one who has the STD? ...

What if his wife doesn't please him in bed and s.ex with his wife is just boring? ...

What if his wife has a medical condition that makes her not enjoy se.x and thus frustrates him? ...

I could go on if you'd like ...

Point is, there's too many "what if's" and we can't tell with absolutely certainty ...

The only evidence that we have is that 1 man cheated on his wife and 400 women cheated on their husbands ...

From this alone, I can infer that there are more cheats amongst women than there are amongst men - in simple sentence, women cheat more! ...

1Sharon:
One man cheated on his wife 400 different times

Who knows, maybe those women cheated with just him?

I know if the genders were reversed and it was a female official w/ a sextape of 400 married men, you lot would still still say something.

Enjoy your takes.

You're right, 1 man is the cheat here as against 400 women - isn't it clear which gender cheats more? ...

Secondly, the bolded is an assumption, I could also infer that the women have cheated before, I mean, if they can cheat with this one, who's to say they haven't done so before? ...

Yeah you're right, if the genders were reversed, I would cry for the heads of those women ...

You know why? Cause a man cheating and a woman cheating is not the same thing! ...

Just like a man's money and a woman's money isn't the same thing ...

I mean, y'all ladies don't have an issue with the later, but then cry foul when it's the former, lol ...

Make each gender carry their cross in peace ...

This world will become a better place when women start taking accountability for their actions ...

I see a lot of women say, "it takes two to tango and bla bla bla", but the reality of the matter is that, women are 99% to be blamed for matters like this ...

Lemme paint y'all a picture ...

First of, asides the issue of r.ape, women are solely responsible for who they allow to sleep with them ...

If a man wants to have s.ex and the woman says no, s.ex can never happen, unless ofcourse it's a case of r.ape ...

So y'all women need to be careful of who you allow to sleep with you, for God's sake, you have a fully functional brain - USE IT!!!! ...

Secondly, even after she has had s.ex, there are very many things a woman can do to ensure she doesn't get pregnant ...

Starting from an after pill to abortion, yet y'all don't take advantage of any of these options and come out to cry foul when the consequences comes knocking ...

Thirdly..
When a man and a woman has s.ex and the girl gets pregnant. If the man wants to keep the child and the woman doesn't, you'll hear women say things like, "it's my body, it's my choice" ...

They suddenly forget that, "it takes two to tango" and take full "responsibility" regardless of the man's feelings ...

But when it's the other way round, she wants to keep it and the man doesn't, she no longer stands on, "my body my choice", now she cares that he's not involved, lmao, you cant have it both ways ...


See eh, argue all you want, the one who will forever be responsible for s.exual related matters are women, not men ...

Just like men will forever be responsible for financial related matters in relationships, not women ...

I know it's not fair, but that's just how the world works, let each gender carry their cross in peace ...

Sighs ...

Everyday, weak men find fo.oliah ways to not hold women accountable ...

I wonder when this will end ...

Only fo.olish men take back a cheating woman ...

Talk more of a woman whose s.ex tape is everywhere on the internet ...

Next time you hear women say "all men are cheats", remind them that 1 man cheated on his wife as against 400 + women who cheated on their husbands with evidence! ...

Women are chief manipulators!!!! ...

The gender who can commit a crime, refuse to take accountability but rather choose to blame everyone else except themselves ...

A gender that conversed with the serpent and caused the downfall of humanity there by bringing suffering to the world ...

I just wish that modern men will see most modern women for exactly what they are - opportunistic cheats without a sense of accountability ...

I honestly pity men who still see women as saint that can do no wrong - y'all are the real MVP's ...

Paternity fraud has never been higher in the history of histories as it has been in recent times ...

Leaked s.ex videos of married women and mothers has never been more frequent in the history of histories as it has been in recent times ...

Single mothers has never been higher in the history of histories as it as been in recent times ...

Divorce rates, which as you know is majorly initiated by women, has never been higher in the history of histories as it has been in recent times ...

And yet, y'all still see women as saints and refuse to hold them accountable? ...

Keep playing my fans ...

Just when I think I can't find anything dum.ber on the internet, I come across this (sighs) ...

That woman is a failure as a wife and a mother ...

First, you refused to satisfy your husband and then you allowed another woman, your own daughter to meet the needs of your husband ...

How blind can you be not to notice this?!! ...

Under the same roof!!?! And you call yourself a "home maker"?! ...

Madam you should be the one in prison for gross neglect of your duties ...

Tinubu and sensitivity to Nigerian cries are like water and oil, they can't mix! ...

If you don't know this till now, you're most likely living under a rock ...

I pity men of this generation who can't afford one refuse to do a DNA test on their kids immediately they're born ...

I tell men all the time, you can't guarantee that your wife won't cheat on you, but you can guarantee that the child you take care of will be yours ...

The problem of Nigeria is that region of the nation ...

Separate that region from the rest of Nigeria and we'll rise to greater heights ...