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So after playing hard to get, what's next? ...
The guy will sleep with you and still dump you ...

Cause by the time he finally gets you, he's then asking himself "is this it?" "Is this all there is?" "Was this what I wasted my time for?" ...

What most ladies don't understand is that trash is trash regardless of how hard it took to get it ...

Playing hard to get doesn't increase your value in anyway , especially when you have been ran through multiple times ...

This is why ladies will keep complaining that men will dump them immediately after sleeping with them, that's cause they (women) have no actual value - only the illusion of it ...

Rather than play hard to get, work on increasing your value, so that when he finally gets you, he will work even harder to keep you because he knows that he has found a real gem ...

Sincerely ...
I don't care why a girl plays hard to get tbh ...
Once you don't reciprocate my vibes, I move on to the next girl, simple ...

The cooperate and business world is already hard in itself, I don't have time to add a fellow who just wants to be difficult ...

Cause at the end of the day, trash is still a trash, regardless of "how hard it is to get" ...

Sapasenator:
Bro, it's unfair to accuse Nigerian ladies alone, I will show you my chat with a pretty Ugandan lady and when she asked for my location, she Immediately started begging for dollars.
Telling me she had an interview at the passport office and needed some money while i suddenly became "my dear" with reference to me.

Me thinks it's just poverty situation generally and remember Nigeria society is patriarchal with the ladies not having same job opportunities as the men, let's not be hard on our ladies biko. They are our sisters after all.

Lies!!! ...

@OP

Once a girl I don't know so well starts begging for cash, I tell them a big NO! ...

No need for insults or hiding behind the curtain called "ghosting", just tell them no and move on ...

Once a girl buys a guy satchet water for a guy, next thing you'll hear is "I made you the man that you are today" ...

Common sub that's prolly not up to 5gb is what she's emphasizing on ...

If you check well, that guy has prolly spent FARRRR MORE on her than she did on him ...

Most women in general are du.mb, da.ft, entitled and lazy, especially in the 21st century ...

And the reason why this continues is because we tolerate it and make excuses for the shortcomings of women ...

Lemme try and break it down for y'all ...

The issue of paternity fraud is not necessarily about the child, but rather it's the outcome that led to the child and the time of discovery ...

Cause, many a men have married single mothers, in other words, many men have raised children that they didn't give birth to, so it's not the issue of the child ...


It's the fact that she cheated (something that men rarely forgive)...
Deceived the man for years...
Allowed the man waste his resources, care and attention on an investment that he prolly wouldn't have if he knew better ...

So it's the cheating, the deceit and the wasted resources (love and care etc), that's the issue here ...


Honestly, I wonder why a paternity fraud to date isn't a crime punishable by law ...

Well I dunno about others, if the law refuses to punish women who are perpetrators of this crime, then I sincerely pity the woman who would try this with me or any man near me ...

This is why I tell men, don't marry wh.ores ...
Find yourself a virgin girl for a wife ...

This is not to say that virgin girls are saints, but research has shown that the chances of a virgin girl cheating on you as compared to a wh.ore after marriage is miles apart ...

MrPRevailer:
Your tithe is for the church and it's priest/Levites/Pastors

God commands "bring all the tithe into my storehouse".

Don't be deceived by people telling you pastor is eating all the money.
If you think your pastor is eating all the tithe. Then it's either your Pastor is covetous and you need to change your church or you are just being paranoid and easily swayed by mischievous digital contents and/or negative news.

Tithe is not offering or alms.
Tithe is a monument belonging to God's house or temple.

"The poor you have always with you".
Your "tithe" is not accepted if you gave it to the poor.
That's doing something right with the wrong approach.

Fahvvy denisbid

(Sighs) ...
You're making too many assumptions about my write up sir ...

I don't even know where to start correcting you ...

First of...
That my tithe goes to feeding the poor doesn't mean it isn't paid to the church ...
((I honestly don't know where you got that from tbh))

Secondly...
Nowhere did I opine that pastors were eating my tithe ...
((Again, I don't know where you got that from - that I was "deceived" ))

I think you should Google the meaning of an "outreach" as used in this context, maybe you'll see the flop in your response to my write up ...

My tithe goes to feeding the poor ...
(There are outreaches dedicated to this)

And besides, if a very hungry elderly man pray for you after you've given him food, you'd understand that the depth of sincerity of the prayers of some so called Men of God is nowhere near that of the elderly who prolly needs it more ...

I dunno about you, but if my pastor is upset that my tithe was used to cater for the poor (orphans and elderly folks who prolly can't help themselves), then I think I'll prolly find a new pastor ...

It's a very valid reason ...

Caused last I checked, a wh.ore isn't fit to be a wife ...

Itooweak4una:

Honestly this is the worst advise i ever seen that's continuously dish here. You continue playing bf duties to a girl only for her to put you on a long thing. You assume yourself as a bf to her, only for her to you hit you with "who do you think you're?"

Not to talk of the unnecessary time and attention and some resources you'd have spent on her. Just because you did it with one girl doesn't mean all girls are like this. As an adult i believe in being straightforwardness and I also define my relationship with everyone i come in contact with. This one i no go overdo and start playing bf roles to girl that don't see me that only to turn around crying and creating a thread on how a girl manipulated me.

OP follow this advice ...
Be straightforward about what you want ...
If she doesn't accept, let her go!!! ...

And what's this talk about asking a girl out twice? Really?!!! ...

Honestly man, focus on building yourself for now, leave relationship alone ...

HELL NO!!!!! ....

I'd rather rear pigs, it's a much better investment ...

Sotland:
Nice one. In this case, I would ask not just his presence but that of his friends and business associates to grace my day...

I think you should allow the man to decide whether or not he wants to bring his friends along ...

If you must, then do it stylishly

I'm really honoured sir that you would care so much, as to want to play an integral part in my wedding. Sincerely, I am grateful...

We actually do have everything covered for the wedding, so just gracing with your presence will add color to my special day...




This is exactly what I would say to him...
I won't present him with any list...
I won't make any request...
I won't throw any gimmicks to get cash from him...

I'll just want him to come around and make sure to honor him very well if he comes...

"I don't date broke guys"
"If you don't have xyz amount of money in you account, please don't come near me"

"Broke men shouldn't even have erections"
"If you're not earning xyz amount of money, what are you doing in a relationship?"

"I'm allergic to broke guys"
"Are broke guys even real men?"

Do any of these sound familiar@OP? ...

Klass99:
Exactly! I didn't read pass this point. Are you listening to yourself right now? Can you even see the irony in your own words?

If men were faithful/stayed faithful without carrying polygamous by nature on their heads like gala, where will some women have the energy to be passing one man's child to another.

I stand by what I said, for as long as your gender keeps hoeing around in the name of we are polygamous by nature, expect that you may father children who are not yours.

You people want to hoe around but you expect that women will do whatever it takes to not saddle you with another man's child. Una never see something.

Now I see why ...

If that's the case, then I will spend heaven and earth on the woman and turn her to my punching bag in anticipation for my match against Anthony Joshua ...

Sheybi I still love her ba?

With the exception of Noah's comment, every other comment above is trash ...

You told her exactly why you wanted her, she agreed and she came ...

If she's chickening out at the last minute, then she should leave for someone else to come in and fulfil that need - simple! ...

The only issue I see here is you not kicking her outta your crib sooner! ...

Once she started her nonsense, you would've sent her parking - but alas! It's better late than never ...

ItisWell22:
A helpmeet 🙏🤲




Fair enough. 👏

Unfortunately, life isn’t fair. 😢

True! ...
Which is why women, virgin or not, will still be providers ...

If women want traditional men (men who are sole providers), then women too must be traditional ...

So the sets of folks who have the right to demand a traditional man are well charactered virgins who are great cooks and are willing to spread their legs for their husbands as demanded ...

Anything short of this, then she must bring out that cash and spend it on the family ...

One thing I know for certainty is that every nation deserves the leaders they get ...

Righteousness2:
You need understanding of life bro.
Money is paper that you place value.
Rhe value you give to that paper is what jt will be to you.
It is a problem solver but not the needful.
The greatest thing is tthis life is to have a Genuie relationship with JESUS CHRIST.

It does not Matter what you Have or what you Dont Have.
If you Dont Have JESUS CHRIST, you are nothing, You are Empty, and heading to hell.

No one is doubting the validity of your claims, however, you can't downplay the importance of cash ...

Even Abraham in scripture was richer than an entire nation, check out his lineage and see the wealth they possessed and don't forget, they all made heaven! ...

So you can have Jesus and still be wealthy, Jesus and money are not inversely proportional to each other ...

The term value is relative to perspective ...

I for one value kids and so I wouldn't make the mistake of being with a woman who has a reduced chance or who is incapable of having kids ...

And last I checked, the older she gets, the slimer her chances of giving me what I want ...

Thus, women above certain age range are utterly us.eless to me in this regard ...

No truer words were ever spoken ...

This (in addition to so many) has been the standard filtering females from my life and blimey, women who pass through this filter are indeed few ...

Them still dey beat your girlfriend for house And you say you're dating an adult? ...

If you're a female and you're not an orphan, a family member or relative or someone who has made sacrifices for me in times past or someone who is recommended to me by any of the above, I CAN NOT HELP YOU! ...

The only sets of people I assist are men (or females in any of the above category) ...

Helping a female of the 21st century is not worth it, y'all are entitled as f.uck ...

Let them go and work to raise money however they can - they're free to spread their legs if they wish ...

I agree with this, especially that number 9 ...

How her mother treats her dad will most likely be how she'll treat you ...

Keep your eyes open guys ...

Lemme ask you a question OP ...

Do you think she would've "cried and apologized" if you didn't figure things out and confronted her bout it? ...

Use your head OP ...

Hahaahha ...
Wuna no go kee person o

Let's be honest with ourselves, there is no "good" quality you find in a single mother than you can't find from a virgin girl, NONE ...

And most of the baggages found in single mothers are usually absent in virgin girls ...

So I ask you, why would leave a virgin girl with little or no baggage for a bag full of baggage? ...

I'm not saying single mothers are bad people, all I'm saying is that, why consider a single mother with lots of baggage over a virgin girl with little or no baggage? ...

This is exactly how your kids will open a thread in the future wishing the same thing if you don't work hard ...

Well said!

Only a completely finished man will even consider going back to a whor.e girl like that ...