Kobojunkie: If a husband starts talking to a woman outside of his marriage, is it equally up to his wife to uproot the plant before it gains a stand? Will the wife also need to take it on herself to uproot every other plant around her husband?
I believe this question is open to all for insightful responses. Let's chill and wait.
NEWBIN: There is a man my wife has been talking to The last time I checked, he messaged my wife with the heart ❤️ emoji. When my wife raised concerned about the use of the heart emoji the man replied that it was because he loved her. My wife indicated that she didn't want that emoji. Meanwhile she keeps chatting him and calls him regularly. Recently she told him that I had travelled. Can I trust my wife? What's your advice
What is the purpose of the man in her life when she has you.
Na like so e dey start. The longer their relationship, the more vulnerable your wife becomes and just one day, she will loose guard and he will knack her stupidly.
At this point, he is gradually testing his boundaries and expanding them in her consciousness. Very soon, that love emoji will mean something to her. Women love attention and he is giving it to her in quantum!!
Not long, he will start asking to see her in person and not just chatting on phone. A harmless meeting after he gains her trust will over time turn to a fantasy of intercourse!!
Jozilinn: 150k in these era is nothing my cousin sister's kids are paying almost 60k per term for school fees and you have 7 kids. Are they going to school? Instead of sex try think of another thing if that you and your wife didn't make it obvious say una get konji the landlord wouldn't have intervened.
ALL OF YOU ARE QUITE RIGHT IN THE ADVICE FOR A BETTER LIFE. BUT WHAT YOU FAIL TO SEE IS THE HAPPINESS, LOVE AND ROMANCE BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE. BY THE WAY, ARE YOU ALL SUGGESTING HE SHOULD NEVER AGAIN PLAY WITH HIS WIFE OR TALK TO HER IN ROMANTIC WAYS AND MORE SO NEVER AGAIN TOUCH HIS WIFE?
MY SUGGESTION IS THAT GET YOUR WIFE TO DO FAMILY PLANNING TO AVOID ANY MORE CHILD BIRTH. AND LOOK UP NEW WAYS FOR ADDITIONAL INCOME TO MAKE YOUR LIVING CONDITIONS BETTER SINCE YOU ARE NOW IN THE CITY. YOU ARE DOING WELL ALREADY ON WELFARE BUT YOU NEED TO UPGRADE TO A LARGE APARTMENT. .... my two cents
Oluwatobiloba07: Please I didn't see where to apply on the portal, thanks
As you rushed in... You rushed out. No patience to read. This is not a fast money scheme. Always bear the pain to read at least. That's why you went to school.
iSense247: If your wife is no longer responsive to sex, it's crucial to understand the potential causes and address them constructively. Possible factors include physical health issues, relationship dynamics, or mental health challenges, and open communication and potentially professional help may be necessary.
Understanding the Potential Causes:
Physical Health: Medical conditions, hormonal imbalances, or certain medications can all impact libido and responsiveness.
Relationship Dynamics: Lack of intimacy, communication problems, or unresolved conflicts can lead to sexual disinterest.
Mental Health: Depression, anxiety, or other mental health challenges can also affect sexual desire.
Lifestyle Factors: Stress, lack of sleep, and poor nutrition can all contribute to lower sex drive.
Steps to Address the Issue: 1. Open Communication: Have an honest and open conversation with your wife about her feelings and concerns. Listen to her perspective and try to understand her perspective.
2. Seek Medical Advice: If you suspect a physical health issue, encourage your wife to see a doctor for a thorough checkup.
3. Explore Relationship Issues: Consider whether relationship dynamics are contributing to the problem. Couples counseling can be a valuable tool for addressing communication and intimacy challenges.
4. Address Mental Health: If mental health issues are suspected, encourage your wife to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor.
5. Lifestyle Changes: Consider lifestyle adjustments like regular exercise, stress management techniques, and a healthy diet, as these can positively impact sexual health.
Important Considerations: It's not necessarily about "fixing" her: Understanding her perspective and finding ways to meet your needs while respecting her boundaries is key.
Consider professional help: A sex therapist or couples counselor can provide guidance and support in navigating this situation.
Be patient and supportive: Change can take time, and it's important to be patient and supportive throughout the process.
Oga.... English doesn't solve everything. Sometimes act much and talk lesser or not at all. This is a wife and not girl friend. His best speeches worn her heart already to be his wife. His action now is to confirm her decision that it was not a mistake or out of confusion.
AntiTerrorist: My wife's libido has decreased, and she's become less responsive to intimacy. Despite my efforts, she doesn't seem to be aroused or enjoy sex like she used to. While she hasn't denied me sex, I'm concerned about her satisfaction and don't want to be selfish. I'm wondering if there's an underlying issue or if there's something I can do to support her.
Get creative.
Give her special treats for sometime without touching her. When you eventually touch her... Suck her down to ground zero. She will appreciate and be glad she married you. Works every time - she is woman!
phorget: You better thank your mom, now everybody will stop disturbing you for any assistance since they are all aware of your struggling position. Leverage on this and build yourself up.
Not all situations are entirely hopeless. I like this style bro. Indeed, he should use this time to build himself up and then be able not to make noise again even as things look sweet for him. It's a perfect cover.
Andrecole: I don't even know the appropriate caption for this post. I'm really dismayed at what is happening in my family. First, my paternal grandfather died many years ago when my dad was only just 10yrs(according to Him). After my grandpa died, my grandma(father's mum) remarried. This time she got married to my grandpa's cousin. According to the customs and traditions of the land, when a man dies, the deceased brother is allowed to marry his late brother's wife and possess the children as well. This prevents the widow from going outside the family lineage to remarry. My father grew up with his stepfather who doubled as his uncle as well. Now my father died a few years ago, and my mum remarried. Presently, I'm scared this may happen to me cos it's beginning to look like a viscous cycle. I'm really worried. Secondly, my father's land which is my possession(by inheritance as the firstborn) has been seized by my uncle. An older stepbrother to my late father. My dad built on the land many years ago, but before he died, the building had collapsed. A few years after his burial, this step-uncle went and built on it without the permission of me or my siblings. At the time he Built on the land, I was only 20yrs of age and now that I have grown, I became very angry and reported the matter to the elders in council. I told them to find another land for me to build my own house since I can't bring down their own building. In my village they don't sell land. They just give, and u appreciate the giver with a token. It is forbidden to sell land. Sincerely I don't know what to do again cos this man doesn't have any land to give me and he's a very fetish and diabolical person. He is a core idol worshipper who loves charms a lot. In fact, He kills. I'm trying to apply wisdom in dealing with him. I barely go to the village because I don't have a house of my own or one built by my late father. How can I be sleeping in other relatives houses? I'm coming of age and gradually becoming a man. I feel really cheated. I see it as an act akin to cowardice if I chicken of this struggle without putting up a fight.
Firstly, does your step father have any children with your Mum and how many of you did your mum have for your father. Now I am asking of just male children. 2ndly, join the kindred meeting or village meeting or community meeting. Start from der to advance your influence underground.
If you must fight, you need the voices of certain people to back you up. Also, if your tradition says that a relative has to marry a brother's widow so she doesn't go outside, technically, your mother didn't draw the property boundaries when she married your stepfather. Hence, he has right over you like a Guidian according to the law of the land. As an uncle, he does not but as a step father, he does.
However,through the meetings, I mentioned above, you can get a land from a member to build your house or regain your inheritance in a gradual overthrow process of 5yrs. But be sure that you don't die.
At present... You are not married to him and you should have keep quiet about your progress. The problem is that your talking to much got you into this fix. If he didn't know this much about your progress, he would have abandoned you a long time.
The people above me have said the truth but women don't like the truth. You will still listen to his lies and return here to cry when the chips are down!!
Senator Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan (PDP, Kogi Central) has accused Senate President Godswill Akpabio of sexual harassment.
The lawmaker who has dominated the headlines over her spat with the senate president made the claim on ARISE TV, on Friday.
News360 Nigeria reports. had reported how the Kogi Senator had a heated argument with Akpabio after discovering that her seat was changed without her consent.
She was subsequently referred to the Committee on Ethics, Privileges, and Public Petitions, for disciplinary review.
Chaired by Senator Neda Imaseun (LP, Edo South), the committee was given two weeks to report back on its findings.
This followed a voice vote after lawmakers revisited the controversy surrounding the issue, with lawmakers underpinning the need to uphold parliamentary rules and decorum.
Akpoti-Uduaghan had filed a N100.3 billion fundamental human rights suit against Akpabio.
In her interview on Friday, the lawmaker said she had evidence against Akpabio, stating that her husband is also a witness.
She said she had printed screenshots of conversations between her and Akpabio, challenging the Department of State Services (DSS) to extract details of their conversation “because he was always calling me on WhatsApp.”
“My issue with Akpabio started on 8th of December, 2023 when myself and my husband visited Akwa Ibom for Senator Akpabio’s birthday. Akpabio was showing me around his house and was holding my hands with my husband following behind us when he said, he wants me to come and be spending special moments in his house. My husband heard him and later told me not to travel abroad alone or be with the Senate President alone.”
“My case is a case of a student being punished by a lecturer for refusing to sleep with him.”
Akpabio is yet to react to this allegation which is currently trending online.
Your husband heard it and laughed it off. That's a FAT lie!!.
With your low key status and even small level of affluence/influence.... No man can say that in the presence of your husband and not to talk of holding your hand and showing you around his house and the room that you will spend special moments in, as if una be love birds!!.
Even the presence of your husband will make him be upright and use his choice of words carefully.
This gift doesn't come to all. He was powered to that degree. He paid a price for it, whether natural or unnatural. The difference is that everyone is not led in that direction and also not every one is willing to put in the sacrifice to get to that level of influence. The few who did are obvious before us today, but while they were being processed or incubated, no one knew their name.
Originalsly: What has he been doing to help the poor ... the aged... the downtrodden. .. the hopeless around him?
Faith without works is dead ..... and so is works without faith ..... as in Mother Theresa who worked with the downtrodden but had no faith in God
So he should come and report to you what he has done to seek your validation.
Even on your own, if you have done any of those works mentioned, you didn't make it public not reported to any one of us.
As your father sees what you do in secret, so he will bless you in secret.
If you must know, real success, explosion and expansion is not ordinary. There are spirits that power them. Either the spirits of nature, underworld or the spirits of the supernatural.
Ordinary men can't power real success, explosion or such magnitude of expansion.
You can mention Elon Musk and I also say - Something powers him too.
lovediehatelive: 9:30 AM, secondary school girls walking relaxed like they're strolling, gisting, pausing on the way, no sense of urgency.
They're very late but still not showing signs of hurrying up. Not once, not twice, almost every day.
I mean why going to school so late?
Yes, it's prevalent amongst public schools, government schools. But even private schools have joined in this madness.
Parents are not helping matters at all. You'll see a parent taking their children to school by 9 am, almost everyday.
17-20 years ago you can't try this sheet in government schools not to talk about private schools.
So just wondering, has the time for school changed?
The use of flogging and copral punishment has been stopped or reduced in this present age, hence the decline in discipline. I remember the old days. If 8am meet me for house, Omo!!... I don turn free labourer for school be that or flogging has an appointment with me that day.
Iamicekid: Nobody is a mountain of knowledge but what I learnt from this is, as u dey make am no go dey do me and my family alone, na ur kids go suffer am later if you are gone especially if you be Igbo, help set up ur bro and sis also and monitor there business till it reach a point u sef will know that they are okay on there own, se as that man get money reach and this him brother also get like 1billion worth business of his own, se him go get time to come and be fighting his bro kids for there property when himself never manage his own finish, that’s one key thing I learn from the Adeleke’s they making sure everyone is doing something and is a billionaire on there own
greed can never be satisfied. If the wife was alive, only God knows what they will put the woman through.
I love the response. This act of public self praise should be stopped. If we no talk no mean say we no see what happened in his 8 years regime of taking Nigeria 100 years back.
Bobloco: There are no free things anywhere, not even in Free Town
As a smart naija boy with enough steez, you will be surprised at the things that will come in free. Accommodation, job, feeding, etc. Just be a bundle of joy to a lonely Eve.
SmartPolician: This is probably why Orji Kalu was touring the states of the South East and meeting the governors. He was doing what nonsensical Nigerian politicians call wide consultations because he knew he was going to head the commission.
You cannot have a region full of technocrats and keep appointing the same old crooks and think you are serious about fixing the country. Tinubu and his group of lunatics are not serious about fixing this shit hole.
Baba nla old crooks!!. They just gave him a cow to milk as he seems fit.
Botragelad: This is the real face of Islam, and some people reckon we should all just keep shut and not slag it off or call them out. Now this is the same brutal practice in Islam that guy was always criticizing about before he got assassinated hours ago.
Any sane person would steer clear of anything that tells you to stop your own daughter just for not toeing the line with some random piece of paper. This should be classed as a mental health issue, and anyone who subscribes to this extremist malarkey should be locked up or better still given the death sentence, sharpish.
Get rid of this rubbish from your society before it becomes a headache!
Augustine2244: She should go and remarry. Her late husband's empire really crashed big time. Honestly that man was the world's greatest religious salesman ever in existence. Imagine a very small bottle of the so called "Anointed Water" sold for 5000 when he was still alive and religious fools who have been thoroughly zombified were rushing to buy. If he was operating by the Holy Spirit,why should anointing water be sold for such an outrageous amount? And in the church auditorium, worshippers were arranged and seated according to the richness of their dressing and appearance. Imagine! In a so called House of God, where everyone is supposed to be treated equally. Social caste discrimination in the church! 😂 Forget the facade of the numerous humanitarian donations and all that he did and publicised. The Bible explicitly stated that false prophets and teachers would arise and perform great signs and wonders and deceive many including God's Elect if possible. The same Bible says that freely you were given, freely shall you give. So why should the Anointing be merchandised and so to the extent of five thousand naira per tiny bottle? The Gift of God cannot be bought with Money. Why should you buy " miracle items" from any crook calling himself prophet, pastor or whatever? Religious fools have refused to have sense and study the Bible by themselves and that's why they keep falling prey to these charlatans. So much to say, but let me stop here for now.
And when did God make you his judge, that you found your voice after his death.
Even now, have you rebuked any of your so called characteristics factor who is alive. You only hide behind your phone and username to castigate people. You are not better off.
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