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MONEY247:
Rule no 1 don't enter a CAR...
when going public transport I avoid cars like a plague...
I rather trek....

Rule no 2...never put all your money in one bank account or device.... Always spread it...

Rule 3...always pray to God for safety

My uncle told me this recently and thought he was being paranoid. Though it's all these cars going to the island though.

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

Life is like that, what faces one backs the other. Me I'm here always attracting girls I'm like 8-14 years older than but I prefer mine Sha. I attract very old women too, but I guess it's pure love because they don't go sexual on me, they just always want me to date there up to age daughters who happens to not see me in that way. The older women own is understandable though because I'm this cool, calm handsome guy but who doesn't have money so they feel I will treat their daughters well but I don't have what these girls want yet which is money.

Kobojunkie:
That's actually a very bad way to press a pimple. But I see you are also an attached being, yourself, also looking for signs in the wrong places. 🥱🥱🥱

I heard that too, but maybe due to the fact I drink a lot of water, I do have a clear skin and rarely have pimples and it's at most 2 that's why people (funny enough all are females, though some are blood family) always press it whenever one pops up. And no I'm not attached, I just love returning energies especially positive ones. And she has done so many things that says she want me so I gave to want her back and I most confess the love grew. Why did you think it's a bad way to press a pimple?

Kobojunkie:
She is one out of many, and you don't expect her to hold that against you in case you happen to be her one and only, as most attached means do? 🥱🥱🥱

Please don't get me wrong Kobo, I don't mean she is one out of many that I'm dating, No. I meant she's at the forefront of all the ladies I've managed to be acquainted with or just observing from afar. You know in our world now it's very rare to find a really good relationship worthy lady, as bad economy has pushed most of our ladies into hook-up and the better off ones I mean financially just want to follow the bad trend. I don't go about spreading my seeds. And I don't want to enter a relationship that will stress me. But was so wrong about being attached. Are you saying she may just be attached to me and not love me?

Uptheante:
Allow them to fight, then date the winner

Then what will they say they are fighting for? It's just one being jealous of the closeness between I and the other which is even platonic.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are right that I meant uncomfortable rather than comfortable. 🥱🥱

2. That it is likely attachment does not necessarily mean that you kidnapped or cajoled her. Only that if or when her brain finally develops to the point that she is able to tell it apart from love and begins to act appropriately, you shouldn't hold it against her. 🥱🥱🥱

I'm not holding it against her, I just don't want her holding it against me in future. In fact she's at the forefront when it comes to ladies I hope to build my family with.

Jman06:
Which one is attachment and which one is love again abeg? Will you be comfortable around and even attached to someone if you don't love them? What is your own definition of love that made you think the younger girl cannot have it for the older man she's dating? The age gap between myself and my fiancee is so huge yet whenever I'm with her, I feel loved in every sense of the word. She dotes over me like a mother would on her child.

You wouldn't believe how this girl treats me. Though it might sound like nothing but the day she helped me press a pimple on my face and used her finger to wipe the pus, even my sister use my fingers to do that anytime she press it for me. That simple gesture just made me realize there are somethings she will be willing to do for me to some extent.

Jman06:
Which one is attachment and which one is love again abeg? Will you be comfortable around and even attached to someone if you don't love them? What is your own definition of love that made you think the younger girl cannot have it for the older man she's dating? The age gap between myself and my fiancee is so huge yet whenever I'm with her, I feel loved in every sense of the word. She dotes over me like a mother would on her child.

Exactly why I asked if she meant to say uncomfortable. I don't see anything wrong with her being attached to me as I do everything in my power for her to know and feel loved.

Kobojunkie:
That she had to hide that fact from you for so long means she herself was, for that entire period, comfortable around you. That is not love but attachment... what many are afraid that most girls who engage older men confuse for love. 🥱🥱

Did you mean uncomfortable, because comfortable is a good thing, isn't it? True I thought of this attachment then, and I try as much as I could to know if that was it by asking her if she wouldn't be coming to slam me with lawsuits in the future about how I deceive(I can't remember the words they use now) her with a naivety. But she told no that whatever she's doing now, it's her decision and she's ready to face the consequences of it. Trust me I reflects on our relationship a lot just to make sure I'm not grooming her or doing anything that will hurt her emotionally or mentally.

Please forget the topic, I wrote that for not knowing what to write.

So there's this lady (A) that just started squatting with us, her elder sister is my younger sister friend more like street aunty. Due to work they started squatting but the street aunty goes home at Ikorodu more regularly than this lady and my sister that is friend with this street aunty has traveled and even have her own apartment now. So sometimes, it's just I and this lady that we are not related by blood, though I never had or even have any intention of having sex with her. Though we sleep on same bed and sometimes even cuddle(just once though) or sleep closely that we literally cross legs. So there's also this lady(B) that came to take care of her niece and nephews as her sister who is the mother of these children just died. So it all started with one of our neighbors (let's call her mum c because she's older than both ladies) that like to gossip, after greeting me one day by saying I'm enjoying o. I asked her why she said that but she didn't say anything but somehow my instinct told me she's talking about lady A as prior to that day was the first time only the 2 of us will sleep as before then either my other sister is around or lady A sister is around, so I felt that's what she was talking about. Then later lady A came to tell me lady B was fighting her and she doesn't know what wrong she did to her because she just went to throw waste paper outside now and as lady B saw that it was her she just hissed. I knew she was implying that lady B was jealous of her because she lady B was close to me. But I didn't say anything I only changed the topic only for lady A to tell me yesterday that she doesn't know why lady B hates her, maybe because lady B likes fattprince (she mentioned my name in third person) and I and fattprince use to talk and she's just jealous. It was funny Sha, but that's how fvcked up every thing is, but normal na I changed the topic again because we don't know for a fact though it's highly possible that's why she's acting towards A like that.

I dated a girl I was 14 years older than once. I mean though she wasn't direct but the green light was bright and who am I to lose the opportunity of a young, fresh, pretty, naive but matured girl. Moreover my weakness when it comes to relationship are 1. When the lady really like me and isn't afraid of showing it. 2. When the lady is calm and 3. Which is the least is when she's pretty. Back to the matter, gossiping neighbors were saying in Igbo that I've changed a lot that how come me that I'm calm and nice could be dating a small girl, they didn't know she understands Igbo. She wanted to tell me then but didn't, she just told me 4 years later that, that's was they said that she's too young and she didn't want to tell me because it will make me sad and might change my mind and she doesn't want to lose me.

SpreshMan:
I think you just hit the exact angle of my thought.

I’m thinking if minimum wage is 12.79 per hour and I got to work maximum of 20’hours per week that is 250 per week and 1000 per month as it is on paper. Can I pay a balance 8000 pounds from this or do people have a way of working more hours without the system knowing.
And 2 the fact that the path to residency is not so clear.
A lot of people are traveling which means they are probably manuevrjng the stuff but I can’t gamble to find out

Besides your point, I just wanted to point out that maximum per week is 40 hours except you mean part time.

pansophist:
Japa to another country not the UK.

It is almost impossible to switch from temporary study visa to something permanent. Your ability to work severely restricted, and the uk economy is not the best.

It is also not in the Schengen zone or the eu, so you’re stuck in that little overcrowded island with lots of immigrants like you looking for greener pastures.

The system understands why you’re there and makes it difficult for you and your type as the years go by, while making sure it milk out any cash you have left.

Yes you will look fresh, your pictures will be fine. But you’ll probably be broke, stressed, single and emotionally drained.

Go to other Schengen countries, it’s better. You can travel all through Europe and explore opportunities, with multiple chances to become a permanent resident.

My uncle travelled to UK with his family last year February. I don't know but I'm not as excited if it was US he traveled to. I've heard about UK being harder to make money than US when I was in sec sch which was more than 17 years ago. And most of my make in sec sch school then are all in UK, I mean I know at least 12 that are there or visiting there. So I don't know but he's trying though, he has sent us money and especially to his mother even when nobody is pressuring him as they all feel he just arrived there. But I understand it's not easy over there so I'm surprised by the gesture too. I just pray he becomes stable as they packed everything with no mind of coming back soon
And I really appreciate him because he contacts us so frequently even more than families in Nigeria.

Melagros:
I dey tell you! Churches in Port Harcourt are too many, and I heard that Lagos and Ogun State have the highest number of Church par capita in Nigeria. I don't know how true it is

Okay, let me tell you about the churches on my street that is about 800 meters or less. These no are of churches, 2 (not sure if it's still functioning) 6, then 1,15, 17, 23, 25, 27(turned back to a residential) and like 2 that's in avenues that will lead to other streets. Then the street off my street, that's the major street that leads to mine, there are like 7 churches with 2 that stopped functioning and 2 of the ones still functioning are redeemed churches that are like 200 meters from each other. If I should calculate the churches in an circumference of less than 2 km there's a total of I will just say 8 that I remember now it's still more 21. I don't want to calculate the ones that are from my bus stop to my street because I will not be able to. That's total of 22 churches in an area of at most 1.5 km. There are still churches I cut out due to the fact I can't be sure because it's inner and I don't go there often. So tell me if you still believe PH has more churches? This one I'm saying is a street there are some roads like the one op is talking about that are almost dedicated to churches too.

pansophist:
If the government works, these industries (churches) will die a natural death.

I see it with Nigerian abroad a lot. They become less religious when they begin to work, improve their life and realise that their destiny is in their hands.

I'm tired, though I have one small job because I work for my uncle so when there's no work I'm still paid stipends so that gives me a lot of time and these my religious neighbors want me to use all that time in church. I've always believe my destiny is in my hands but I just don't know how to tell them no, I'm thinking of running away self. I do tell them no sometimes but they still come back another time because one program is thrice in a week the other is once though and Sundays making it 2 times so they want me to go to church 5 days in a week and the funny thing is both are using style to tell me their own program is the real truth and the other is half truth while I know they all are half truths.

Puffinjoe:
Where do they live

They live in Sango Toll Gate for now

Puffinjoe:
I live around Lagos ibadan Expressway and lots of company opportunities are here if you'd like.

Do you mean factory works. I have 2 ladies that don't mind as long as the pay is good. How can you help?

SpencerForbes:
Since your mind is already made up, nobody here will try to put "asunder." Go for what you want; after all, that’s what being a man is about. Just be 100% sure she isn't seeing the ex or any "boyfriend" on the side, because that can be dangerous. You’ve been with her for two years—you should have studied her well enough by now. You definitely know the situation better than any of us here.

She isn't I'm sure of that, because she left the guy in Edo when she came to Lagos. The guy is waiting for her because she told me she and her sister are here to work to save money to bury their mum that died since January of 2024 and go back to Edo to meet the guy. She told me to transport their mum sef to her village to bury as at last year they asked the driver that will drive them was about #400k. And they are working for a salary of #50k each. And in between they are still sending money home to their two younger siblings for upkeep, school fees and house rent( she told me they pay house rent every month in the village they live in Edo). And between all these she still gives me her time and attention. The last time she came I was very intimate aside penetrating sex cos she was on period, and she still hasn't asked me for a dime. But with all these I'm not forcing anything because what will be will be. And whatever happens I move on.

I watched a reel today where a guy was like it's a fact that girls are attracted to material things and status, that if they see anyone better than you they will jump ship and the guy was so sure and sincere and said it's a fact that everyone knows.

I now remember all the comments in here on the post I made and understood why you guys commented like that. And I see why, especially where I said she loves me too. Yeah, I said she loves me doesn't mean I am sure she's not going to leave me someday, or can't try to harm or break my heart (though I'm not sure she can, not because she can't but because I'm not going to give room for that). Why I brought this matter here was basically because she slept with the guy before coming to Lagos, and we spoke after that day. I said though I'm not doing all this so she can come back to me but I'm doing this because I still wanted her back, difference there is that if she doesn't want to come back I will still help by informing her if I see a better job for her. She said she knows that she understands, I now told her you know but you still slept with the guy she now said she knows that's where she bleeped up and she's very sorry. My mind wanted to tell me she's only sorry because she got caught but I reasoned it again that she didn't get caught, she told me herself when I asked. So like I said earlier that day, believe me when I say I've analysed over 20 relationship (this number includes my siblings' and relatives') and I'm 80% sure she's least evil I can get not with the hook up culture rampart about now.

gracias124:
majority of redpillers are wankerers and bambiala miscreants

That's what you want to believe just so you can simp in peace, nobody here is asking you not to cause in the grand scheme of things you are just like a speck of dust.

SpencerForbes:
I’m beginning to see the full picture now. If you feel she’s the one for you, then so be it. But as an OG yourself, my only advice is: Be careful.

Usually, people don't like to advise someone who is already 'in love,' but before you take the next step, I have one recommendation for you. Look for Ubunja’s Miseducation: 'Chosen'. It’s a very short read but it will go a long way.

I hope he hasn’t taken the link down yet. Read it, and from there you can truly determine if this lady suits your life or not. If she does, no problem. Just remember that relationship is a gamble; it won’t work all the time. Never try to force it, otherwise, you'll just end up simping.

I will, even this girl I'm always vetting her by allowing her talk while I listen. And sometimes we may be talking about one thing that it will lead to her telling me what she has told me before and it usually checks out. And naturally I'm a calm guy so apart from this girl even my family anything people say to me I'm always analysing in my mind. I love with my head not with my heart and I can cut anybody off at anytime (except my siblings and some of my relatives) so I don't invest too much in a relationship that can lead to sinking cost fallacy.

BTW I still thank everyone because after the comments, I went back to analyse the relationship well and look at where I'm lacking. And to be totally honest thinking about what could be her goal if she's manipulating financially is nil because over the period we were together past and recently that we are in contact again she has never asked me for money. And the only thing she has asked me was the job and I only have her the agent number and she's always be grateful. Infact she is always saying it that if not for me she can't be here though I don't see it as a big deal she still insist that she's always grateful.

SpencerForbes:
You brought this same matter here two years ago. I vividly remember the collective advice was to run, but you chose to stay. I remember one particular moniker even egging you on to keep "chopping" the girl (I’ll dig up that moniker later). You ignored simple counsel and now, 24 months later, you’re back at square one with the same person.

Just because you tasted the honey pot for the first time, you’ve labeled it "love." Common sense should have told you otherwise.

Any man who has even a 10% understanding of Redpill principles knows exactly how your story ends. It’s like a 30-year-old man being asked what 2 + 2 is—you don't need a calculator, you just know. But here you are, still counting your fingers like a primary school pupil.

If you keep going down this road, we’ll probably see your wedding invite next year, only for you to come back a few months later with one long 'my wife is cheating' or 'she doesn't love me' story.

Redpill isn't some rigid law; it’s just a guide. You need to actually sit down, study, and internalize these things. Reading alone won't save you this time—you need a real one-on-one talk with someone who can actually knock some sense into you. If not, you’re just going to fall into the same trap again.

Okay, I'll quote my reply under this post. Why I chose to do that is that, number 1 I can't fully type the context of the situation or relationship between me and this girl for full understanding.
2. I want to correct where you wrote that I brought an issue here about this same girl here 2 years ago. I was wondering what issue since I never had an issue with this girl especially with her(the only issue we had is with third parties because they feel I'm either too old for her or she's too young for me) but I remember now that the issue you were talking about is with another girl I just reverted to just acquittance with.
3. That being that, I'm looking at this issue from a situation where finding a girl with minimal emotional garbage, young, submissive and not entitled is very rare, it's about choosing the lesser evil. I just believe she's the least evil I've encountered when we talk about what I've listed here. Mind you I'm not talking about marriage at least not yet.
4. Though this might seem like the issue is about me getting pussy whipped but it's not, of course for the over 2 years that she was gone, I dated other girls and I observed their behaviors (even my brother's relationship) through the red pill lense and see all the manipulation of this gender and I can rightly conclude she's the least evil I can get now. I still follow the red pill tenet of choosing only the girls who chose me. In fact if you give be green light and even flirt with me and we start talking when I drive towards sex and you start putting up issue about not ready yet or sex isn't love yada yada, I cut the chase immediately. Because in my mind you can't love me without lusting after me, and more importantly I decide who I love, and I love who I feel from my judgement is worth it.
5. And finally for now, as I always say and even tell this particular girl, Que sera sera, what will be will be. Even if she's just playing me or if it's me trying to play her at the end of the day, What will be will be.

Just to add, her best quality for me is her age, she's still very young (not even 20 yet) though matured so I feel she's very malleable(I mean teachable). She just lost her mum last 2024, she and her siblings is all they got and she's the 2nd eldest so she's working over hard with her elder sister (who's 21) to take charge of their younger ones education and housing plus feeding. So that is also an issue too as she's leaning more into her masculinity and going into survival (fight or flight) mentality. I knew about this when she visited and while we were talking I asked her if she got a wish what will she wish for, she said plenty money and food then she added even if she have to work for the money she will as long as there's plenty money at the end.
Sorry for the long post. I'm not trying to excuse the babe, I'm just trying to capture the context as much as I can as as I will always say to her at the end of the day (life) Que sera, sera.

SpencerForbes:
The craziest part is that you’re actually a senior member of this thread. You’re supposed to be the one educating the young ones, yet look at the Bluepill trash you’re typing here. It’s a total disgrace to the brotherhood.

All the Redpills you’ve been swallowing since, it’s like you’ve been flushing them down the toilet. Or are you just cherry-picking the ones that favor your simping tendencies and leaving the rest? You’re moving like a total amateur. 😒

🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️🚶‍♂️

It's been long I came to take the pills and it's already telling on me. I was thinking about this after the event reason why I came here. I will act accordingly from henceforth. And go back to read the thread again. Thanks to you all

VERTEX01
Mikocake

This girl that I was with when she came to live with our neighbor which I am sure loves me then because she's always proving it. She has gone for years now probably 3 years, now we got in touch last year and begged me to help her with work here in Lagos as where she is only farm work is available, low pay for hard work. I tried and she came over to Lagos but it was straight to her work place. I told her I still want her though she told me she has been with another guy. She cited lost contact as her excuse and also that she wasn't sure I still wanted her. After one month she changed job and said she wanted to come and see me before starting her new work. I wanted to suggest that before but I didn't want to sound desperate or selfish, that I'm helping her because I want her so as she suggested I agreed with shows our minds are working in synch. She came over with her sister though her sister traveled to PH that same day to settle family issue. There mum died last year, I tried seducing her but she was on her period so I let it go only to find out later when she was going back to work the next day that she finished her period the day she came, I was pissed a little for her not to tell me but she said she didn't tell me because she doesn't want sex with me at least not yet. She said because she's with someone now and she's not yet sure I still love her since we weren't together for like 2+ years. When I asked her about sex life, she confessed to me that they had sex once and that was when she was coming to Lagos (she really doesn't fancy sex because she was dis flowered by rape, I didn't believe at first till we had our first sex then. She literally bit me so hard when I entered that the marl was on me for weeks). She told me she had to because the guy told her they should as that's the only way she could prove she loves him. That was how I convinced her then too, but now I don't know if I can still be with her or I should just let her go? I still love her though and I believe she loves me, I feel she needs the assurance before breaking up with the other guy. But I want to know if her having sex with another guy even though we weren't together then (we didn't break up though just distance and lost contact) is reason to remove my mind from her.

TheSourcerer:
Won't even Lie my bro , He's My Dad and he is just as you see . Good Morning my bro 🙏

Is he really your dad, dad? I remember you once said your dad was a police. Second question, are you reporting as an eye witness or as a journalist?

sweerychick:
which bird strike, do you know what a Bird strike is? Bird strike can't cause that damage abi the bird na missle?that's clearly improperly closed engine door or panel, the engine door or panel failed causing it to rip open in midflight, ground crew are the ones responsible for this. They were very lucky that metal fragments didn't tear through the fuselage or wings and causing more damage especially with the hydraulics, that would doom the flight completely.

Yes, it possibly could be a bird strike. At the speed st which the plane was going, the bird is tantamount to a small missile in terms of damage done to the plane.

guobe:
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Input you account details on your signature and you can edit it later.
Signify interested on the thread and I will transfer to 10 of my lucky followers.

If you are still doing the giveaway please I'm interested

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Palmpay
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