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Klass99:
Quit explaining yourself to people who want to be deliberately dunce. Your original post is simple and easy enough to understand.

If you see my mention to kobojunkie ehn. I didn't know pretending to be an idiot was that easy.

Kobojunkie:
I do understand what you are saying. But, you didn't wait for consent before impregnating her. Then you went back to waiting for consent afterward. If my child was in a similar situation, I wouldn't hold it against her if she decided moving on was best.

I think it is best you accept what has happened and look for a way to move on instead.

This night as you are typing this to beat you to death dey hungry me. You are just calling my child my child like a retard. If it were to be your child didn't you comprehend the story well to know its you dragging the marriage and still blaming the guy claiming your child moved on. Are you that dumb or you just pretending to be. You wouldn't hold it against her if the child decided to move on you say when it's the child that's supposed to hold it against you for stalling her life. You thinking is just confusing and annoying at the same time.

An Egun boy just told me its a lie. He even said they use garri but fish no no.

Rizzputin:
It's generally a bad idea to tell or imply to a girl that you'll always make her happy and never want to see her cry

In fact, anytime I see a story on nairaland or twitter that starts off with "I always wanted to make her happy" I know before I finish reading that it ended badly for the guy

To some of you, what I'm about to reveal might serve as a quick reminder. To others it might be something new or a new/deeper perspective to something you've already known.

Here's the general idea: Don't be scared to make your girl angry or cry in a relationship

Doesn't matter if she is just a fling or a serious GF or a FWB, if you are getting women frustrated, that's a great sign.

That simply means that her attraction for you is still high, because frustration is an indicator that she cares.

Before I continue, let me clarify. The kind of anger you want is:

● "I want more time with you please pay attention to me"

Or

● "Damn he isn't acting like I was expecting. Fùck"

What you don't want is to be a source of depression for her.

So if that frustation is popping out sparingly and in small doses, you are doing it right.

But if she is constantly nagging about it, either you are overdoing it or she's a drama diva (you should run far away. I'll write a thread on this category of girls)

These days, I have zero issues getting girls annoyed. In fact, once I hear a girl say "you're so annoying" or "I hate you so much"....

I know deep down we're going to fùck soon. Sometimes I present opportunities to deny them something so they act angry

One time I was vibing with a girl and she asked me to get something for her and I weasled out of it


She then hit me with "are you not my friend... I'll cry o" with cute puppy dog eyes. But such things would move my JSS 3 self NOT the hook up material man I am today. She was angry of course. But that didn't matter because later that night she was hungrily sucking my dìck

Simps and the average guy try desperately not to offend girls. It's tough concept for them to wrap their head around that you can get a girl angry or annoyed and still pound her

They fail to understand the concept of "any emotion is good emotion". And "no emotion is bad & anti seductive"

Now, some of you understand this. But maybe you're wondering why trying so hard to please a girl will make her dump you faster than

Funny, how have also had this experience. But in my own case she's just a feminist that wants to sound woke. But I just give my opinion on issues like gender role or the case of how I can't love my wife more than my siblings not to talk of my mum. She gets angry and insults all bullshit but still comes later when I'm alone playing sexual with me like sitting on my legs, comfortably talking about sex but I don't even react back, I just laugh it off cos it confused me then. In fact when we talk in general the next day 90% sure we will still fight. But me just go with her when she fight I fight back, when she plays with me I play back. But reading this now just makes it make sense.

Rizzputin:
I like this your story. Because it reminded me of what I said few days about being a hook up material

Showing desire but not desperation.

The mistakes you made were several. Not just one. But of course, you can still fúck her since you didn't chase her or act needy( I also hope you didn't react angrily too). If you eventually decide that putting your díck inside her is your next plan, then read on (Especially the ending)

Before we begin, I want to make two things abundantly clear: 1, she's a bad and naughty girl. She's definitely fùvking more than one guy. 2, She has no boyfriend. If she does, she's not serious about him at all.


Now, let's dive in... I'll quote part of your post (in italics) then reply to each on

● "There’s a girl I flirted with for sometime in on WhatsApp. It’s very funny cause with the way I flirted with her she seem to know if she comes to my place I’m gonna make a move.

This girl pestered me to come my place after posting her for 3 months I finally agreed to let her come."

I've noticed this new trend among guys. When guys begin game newly or have a few But not remarkable success, they try SO HARD not to look like a simp.

A common thing you guys do is to wait or delay. Some guys have even advocated not inviting a girl over until she asks. Lol.

Such nonsense. The past year I've had a bunch of girls I've slept with say "I've never done it this fast with anyone" "you're turning me into something I'm not" "I have never experienced this so fast" "I didn't know what entered into my head to do that with you"

At first, I thought it's the usual thing girls say. Now, I'm realising a lot of guys are moving wayyyy too slow. 3 months of posting her? This doesn't help your seduction in any way. You don't look more high value in her eyes by posting a visit

She'll just think maybe you don't like her or you're busy.

Also, it seems like you did heavy flirting. I like that. As I always, it's far better to err on the side of too much desire than very little desire (weakness)

However, I would have kept the flirting light rather than heavy. Then invite her over the first week and bang her.


● "After coming she was asking me some kinda Mumu questions and all. Maybe sizing me up and all."

Ah yes. Of course She'll throw those questions. You weren't expecting them abi.

Well you've gotten her curious. All those your heavy flirting and not inviting her over for 3 months spiked her curiosity in you. She wanted to get closer to you. But you mistook her curiosity for interest in fùcking you. That's why you probably presumed that since she's coming over, she knows what's going to happen about you making moves.

Well, she did. She wanted you to make those moves. And believe me, she was hoping you'd fúck her.

But here's what was going on internally with her: As you built up her curiosity for you in 3 months, it was also enough time for her to get confused. She was probably unsure of the whole thing. Yes, at the back of her mind she thought something could happen (she probably shaved before coming) but she wasn't sure about the whole thing

Confusion is anti-seductive. That's why you waiting that long is a terrible idea. Some girls won't get confused and just remain at curiosity. But most will get confused.

That's why you were hit with "mumu questions" Those were not mumu questions. They were shít test questions.

Because she's both curious and confused about you at the same time, she has to be sure sleeping with you is the right choice. So she has to test you.

And I can already tell from you calling it "mumu questions" and saying she "sized you up" you failed those tests. My guess iss that you felt irritated by the questions.

But they were all shít tests she was hoping you'd blaze through. Also, as a reminder when a girl tests you with questions rather than statements in that scenario, she's more than likely you to fúck you. She's showing her submissiveness and trying not to offend you so you don't back off



● "Anyway at some point l made a move on her for intimacy she rejected and I did again and she rejected. So we had a conversation and she was saying ehnnn, I know she has a boyfriend and all that. That she isn’t down for FWB and that this is her first time coming here so it’s too early."

After making your first big mistake which is failing her test, you could have steered the conversation in a way that will make you pass the tests.

Rather, you proceeded to dig your pit even further.

Your value has already dropped after you failed that test. So you making a move till turn her off and she'll reject you. Because you're making a move from a low value position

Rather you should have built your value up through specific hook up material conversations and topics.

After she rejects you twice... she now has to make the rejection make sense. Of course, with women when a girl makes a move on you or wants to fùck you OR wants to reject you, she will deploy womanese. Womanese is just a word for indirect/subtle display of interest or disinterest with coded meanings.

"I have a boyfriend" is the most common womanese when a girl rejects you so as not to damage your ego

You see, a woman's world feels generally unsafe to her. Angry guys in her dms. Thirsty men who might want to hurt or rapè her. That's why rejection from her is done in a way to massage your ego. You can call it manipulation but such is the game.

"I have a boyfriend" after rejecting your move has nothing to do with her bf or even whether she has or not. Trust me, she has a FWB she's currently fùcking or she is on the hunt for one (and she was hoping it would be you)

Now, she gave you an opening into her game... either because she's amateurish or she really liked you.

This is where she did it: "it's my first time coming and it's too early"

This is womanese.

This is the translation: "I wouldn't mind fùcking you on the first time but you're NOT making me feel comfortable"

This could either mean she doesn't feel safe with you or your value is too low. In your case... it's both.

Once you hear something relating to that next time, take a step back in a calm way... change the topic into something that will build your value and make her feel more comfortable and safe with you.

Girls will never reveal their game to you like that if they don't want to fùck you. Remember that.


● "That I should follow the proper channel first, she will go home and then think. So that she can know if she is coming to my place “she is going to her guys place and anything can happen” bla bla bla."

This should already tell you everything you know. At this point not only has she opened her game for you to see, she has casted it completely

She was probably thinking "since this werey doesn't want to get the point that I want to fúck him, Let me just cast my game maybe he'll understand"

She's telling you that you should ask her out to be her bf so she can fùck you. Right after telling you she has a bf. LMAO

This girl wanted your dìck. And she let you know with the famous womanese of : "anything can happen"

In one of my threads on my profile I talked about how girls don't like anything planned

"It just happened" and "anything can happen" are ways girls use to justify their actions. Trust me they wanted it to happen. But they have to make it look like "it just happened"

Why?

This is the translation of "anything can happen". She's saying: "Lajid, I want to fùck you but you asking me out will make me feel less like a slut. Because after all I'm fùcking my bf and not someone random so I won't feel like a slut"

So what's she's saying is that she wanted to fùck you right there BUT YOU have to do something that won't make her feel like a slùt.

Her suggestion was you asking her out. But there are many other conversations, topics and moves you could have done right there that would have done the job without asking her out. And she was hoping you did it


● "Even mentioned say her mama no like the guy cause he no get money and "

This is just her giving herself an excuse to cheat.

They always do that. The first one told me it's too early and it's her first time, I told her it doesn't matter first or tenth time, but she said no. Okay make me move outside you held me back inside and just stared at me. I no even talk anything I just lay her down and did the job. Second girl was telling me we have just known for 3 weeks I didn't even know I thought it was at least 2 months until I remembered it was just halfway into the 2 months program we went for and she came the second week but like the first girl I told her it doesn't matter so far we are sure we liked each other. She even talk about me showing off about conquering her when the program resume. I just waved it off because I understood she was trying to protect her reputation and I'm not interested in destroying it. The third girl hhmm that one problem was if I was going to be discrete about the thing afterwards. I actually pretended to be offended by that because it implied me being immature. And I was honest with her that even if I'm going to tell anybody it will be my brother and that's because if he asks since he already suspect us I can't lie to him. And she was cool with that. But the third girl wasn't about shit testing she's just sure about the love she has for me but not sure about mine for her that's why she could tell me that. Cos when I asked her out her first question was if I didn't have any girlfriend or never seen a prettier girl before she came around.

franugo:
I'm sure you play bets, does it show YES or NO when you play over or under a certain goal range?

So you do see Yes/No on 1X2 market too?

AL1ENWARE:
Na you no sabi English aswear. Those saying it's a Loss are conflating the selection with AND operator.

OR functions with one of two outcomes.
AND functions with both outcomes.

E reach SportyBet turn dem come change OR to AND by using the word "BOTH" to redefine their NO.

You come dey tell me to go learn English.

No mind them. But you too na thief(kidding though) normal normal, the odds no suppose reach like that on other betting site that or is called chance mix why and is combo. Or odds no they big cos the probability is higher than and. But the game won sha. The sportybet agent are just confused.

08106932248 add me please.

People don't know and definitely appreciate how I have grow to become silent or more appropriately calm. They don't know how much effort I've put into building myself into this calm gentle guy. They rather see me as a dunce or a weakling but I really don't care as it's actually worth it. I some see myself as a sane person with a very sound mind when I'm calm in the midst of chaotic people trying to prove right or shift the blame to me. Immediately you are talking to me I'm already reflecting and dissecting your words and I take my blame and put you to your place if it's going to affect me. Nowadays people talk too much without saying anything it's really get me annoyed but I still wouldn't talk if I'm not going to be affected. FTC

Jewessgratitud3:
You won't understand.

Have you outrightly cancel marriage of co-parenting or whatever. Let's talk outside of here.

Fahvvy:
With the exception of Noah's comment, every other comment above is trash ...

You told her exactly why you wanted her, she agreed and she came ...

If she's chickening out at the last minute, then she should leave for someone else to come in and fulfil that need - simple! ...

The only issue I see here is you not kicking her outta your crib sooner! ...

Once she started her nonsense, you would've sent her parking - but alas! It's better late than never ...

Is stupid the trending thing now? Cos I don't get how it's the Op's fault. Come to my house please I will like to cuddle you came I gave you food you didn't say anything then oo, it's when you are supposed to do what you came to do you change mind. Who's at fault then? The Op will spoil everything if he apologises to that girl. The girl will turn him to Mugu 001.

Elegantspiker:
Send me a mail

Sent you one too. Please

correctguy101:
Oh I saw it.

And I hold that the body too can be elevated across dimensions. Hence my difficulty accepting a 5th dimensional race will be comfy possessing a weak 3rd dimensional body (as a race o)
Just like carbon with different arrangements has levels ... And who's to say only carbon-based life is possible across Existence?

As it should be, I guess we understand the dimensions and what it entails differently...

Well from the little I've heard, even if you attain enlightenment and you can go 5th dimensional realm you can't take your body, can you? Example of an enlightened minds are all these monks, 3 different movies I watch in front of death like this they will be calm and totally unafraid before being shot dead. Okay those are movies, what about the picture of a monk on nairaland by the explorer years ago that protested religious crises by burning himself to death without feeling pains or flinching very calm till he died. Those are men who knows it's only the body that is going. They are themselves are eternal and are going to a better place.

correctguy101:
Since you claim the pre-reset occupants of this planet were spiritually advanced, how then could a mere fourth dimensional entity override them in every way to the extent of annihilation?

This ancestor thinks you're wrong on the bolded.

Existence could. truly have birthed races and beings who abhor vawulence and it's wahala still, there's no way wood can cut diamond. You see the difference?

Everything has levels, hierarchy or something like that.

Remember wood and diamond? Redo your thought experiment abeg...

I guess you didn't see where he said the pre-reset didn't care about the body.

Olabode211:
omo na ur area be that oo.if you get yale bread #300 and beans 200 with pure water #100 it is okay.you don't need to satisfy this period na.

My combo for the past one month. I'm surprised how I haven't grown tired of the food unlike when I was in school. It's what I'm eating this morning sef

Oshokhai69:
See this hopeless yahoo boy

Please can I know who the fvck you are? I don't get why you are coming at me unprovoked when I've never seen or noticed your moniker before. Or is this some fake moniker of a coward?

imaxx:
Medical Doctor work is the best

I get Germany 100% sure site if you go fit translate

Please send me WhatsApp msg too. Number on siggy

MOG6670:
Yeah, I understand this.

But notes that these type of girls are just 3% of 10%
They are understandable and adaptable to any change. So that response can only work in a situation where by you meet such ladies

But majority of ladies ( men included) will feel inferior and replaceable after getting such response from there fiance

She's truly a rare gem and I love her too. There was a time we were talking and somehow drifted to talk about the girl I dated before her(we haven't broken the relationship off just distance between us) so she asked if I still love her. I didn't know how to answer, if I say yes she wouldn't believe I love her or if I say no she might start having notion that I will fall out of love if I find another girl. So what I did was to kiss her anytime she asks. She asked more than 15 times and I just continue kissing her. And she kissed back every damn time hoping I will give up and answer till she gave up. No, I didn't answer her and our love story still continued till they moved to a distant place.

guobe:
Will be gifting 10 people a sum of 1k each.
The money is not much but it can do one or two things for some people who may really be broke this period.
If you didn't benefit from the last gifting I did and you were in the thread and didn't see shishi from me,kindly indicate as this may just be your day.
If you don't really need the money please don't bother dropping account details.
Thanks and may God bless us all.

I will appreciate boss.
Don't pass me by today again oo please.

3058899916 first bank.

MOG6670:
You are almost 90% the problem of yourself.

Why?

Every human being want to feel loved and irreplaceable, not just respect.


In your case, you respect and adore people. But you usually make them feel replaceable

Whenever a lady ask you, if so so happen, what will you do? Your response should be, I'll never let that happen, you mine and you are unshareable ( that's if you are interested in her)

No I can't do that. I had a girl like that doesn't ask all this questions but whenever a dude is disturbing (a whole lot where then) and it comes up, I laugh and tease her (like telling her she's the hottest for street oo or she should make like 3 or 4 her side dude na since some were asking to be side dude anytime she tells them she's already with me) but one day she ask what if life happens she meet someone else she loves, I just told her"Que Sera Sera" whatever will be, will be. So anytime she wants to ask me some of these girl's foolish questions I just smile and she replies herself with "I know, Que Sera Sera, whatever will be will be". That even made her love me more. Because I told her real love isn't feeling, it's actions

08106932248

guobe:
Why are you being dishonest.I sent you 2k the last time. I will never ever send to this moniker again.

Can you send to me too please. I've never received a gift from you but I've received bonus of 5k for getting 3 straight draws right sha

First bank
3058899916
O. F Ahmed

Modify: so the last thread late so didn't bother to ask there. So I'm asking now.

I remember when my mum changed my school where I attended kindergarten to go start Nursery 1 ( though she said I was supposed to be in nursery 2 but because I didn't answer questions she asked them to put me in nursery 1) in another school. I just saw the boy that his mom convinced my mum to come that school. I waved at him, he didn't wave back and I just didn't care from there on. I remember when my book finishes and I will be asked to sleep. I will mock other students for writing just because I'm very sad inside for not writing to the point of crying sometimes. I remember also like a week from when I started school I was forgotten in school not until around 8 that they came to pick me(my mum close from business late and forgot to inform people at home to pick me up) I was with a girl too I can't remember if we were in the same class. And we left her there. The people that came to pick me were peeping, I don't know why, it was the girl that saw them from where we were playing with sand withno care in the world( the world could come to an end then and we wouldn't care innocent children) that the girl saw them from where they were peeping and announced their arrival to me. I didn't see the girl again after that day, we didn't even know each other's name as we didn't ask.

guobe:
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Boss see game wey I bet not even forecast oo.

Molde to beat club brugge .... 3.00 molde win 2-1
Leverkusen over 2.5 ..... 1.66 Leverkusen 2-2
Freiburg double chance over 1.5....2.03
Lille to win....2.17 lille win 3-0
Roma to beat Brighton .... 2.23 4-0
Quadsia over 2.5....1.57 quadsia win 7-0

Only Freiburg spoil am e beat West ham 1-0.
E pain me gaan. #200 to win #16700