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Creamypussy:
Another Pharo that has no respect for the red sea.

You didn't even spell the Pharaoh well.
You know I was just this morning, thinking in line with what this op said. Though I treated girlfriend well before she relocated with her family, but I still wonder why she loves me so much as I still treat her well(I guess it's because she's still very young and likes me before we came together), reason why I was thinking is because a lady we entered the bus together was calling a guy and was like"it's not your fault, it is me that I called you yesterday and you didn't pick now I'm calling again this morning and you cut me off" she sound disrespected but I know it's just one phone call and she will crawl back to the guy without asking for as little as apology.

optm:
It's ok to put yourself first but not by ruining another person in the process.

I didn't talk about ruining another person, did I? What if he let's the chance of traveling pass him by and the girl later says she can't marry him because her Dad didn't yield? How will he gain back that opportunity.

pansophist:
No problem. Go ahead. Just put citations sha.

I surely will. Thank you so much

pansophist:
Things are more complicated than it seems. Lots of successful people distance themselves from others for many reasons.

1. Some people are their own village people. They won't improve themselves, are slaves to pleasures, and even if you give them 10M, 4M will go to betting, the rest chasing women etc.

2. Once bitten twice shy. You've helped ingrates and decided that never again.

3. Envy. You don't want to be punished for being a good person. Lots of people can't flush out envy from their system.

Success for them is to be better than you, not their yesterday. Defeating you is more important than improving themselves.

4. You've helped and helped but they turn you to a maga, and will keep inventing ways to keep being needy, because it's easier to get free help or cash than to repair oneself to be productive.

They are helping others and have helped a lot. You just are not one of beneficiaries or don't know any of them.

Of course there are genuine cases of folks refusing to help where the above doesn't apply, but to limit the reason and blame someone that did well for himself and owes you nothing is a bad attitude.

The idea that people are poor because no one wants to help them is false. You can't help who does not want to be helped.

You can be in a place of help and still be an idiot. And yes, lots of people are the architect of their own poverty.

All this thing na wise talk but as na you talk am e dey normal. Abeg I need assistance from you. I have asked for permission before but didn't do what I wanted to do but please I need an infinite permission to use your posts here on other platforms. You know you need to give back to community many unwise people need to be liberated so I need your permission to use your posts or ideas on here at anytime. Thank you in advance

Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

To kill you dey hungry me. Your own don pass slap.

ChizzyBuna:
I kept $100 my uncle give me inside a novel book.
When I travelled
I ended up forgetting the novel in my hostel.

On my way home, it dawn on me that $100 is inside that novel and it is on my bed in the hostel

I was so restless, what if someone who see the novel will pick it up to read and flip pages and mistakenly finds the $100.

For 1 week I was restless
Until I came back to hostel and lo and behold
The novel was sitting on my bed untouched
I opened the pages and found my $100

The crazy part is that many guys always enter my hostel to play pes game.
But somehow none of them touched that novel.

May God be praised!!!!

Thank God I no enter that your room. Me that can carry newspaper of 20 years to see if I can see any interesting or more knowledge from science to sports to entertainment even to all these people that are seeking opinions. Na novel I no go come carry even if na to check title and read chapter 1

optm:
ok he has used another person to better himself, why not stay with that person already? How come you are blind to the fact that he would be ruining another person's life in the process? He's trying to have his cake and eat it. What also makes you think this his girlfriend wouldn't be a victim just as his current wife later? How we tend to excuse wickedness and try to make it colorful in this generation is really interesting.
Character is what makes a man. If this lady should go ahead with him, she'll cry bitter tears in that relationship; It's only a matter of time.
Love isn't all that matter in a relationship.

The earlier you know it's about putting yourself first the better. Because people can leave you when you are down(even if they try not to) but you can never leave yourself (unless you want to quit the earth altogether by killing yourself)

Proserpina:
So men get time frame too..

Interesting

Yeah timeframe to be a man of value. Men timeframe is just different from a woman's own. A man time frame is to be wealthy why a ladies own is to be married.

Infolenka:
You all should calm down with the dumb gay accusations.

The girl below is my primary spec.

But it doesn't mean I don't find athletic women attractive.

I can eat all types of food, but I still have my favorite food.

The girl below is my favorite food, doesn't mean I can't "eat" Jade Cargill if I have the chance.

What's the girls name, she looks like my ex class mate. Chidubem

Jeon:
Can't see it.

I have seen.
But Op, you better pass some people.
You ain't ugly.

He's not. Only that he looks younger than 26.

pansophist:
Being fit with a low body fat percentage. You should be able to see traces of your packs, and your stomach shouldn't protrude. Your facial definition should be visible, such as your cheekbone and jawline.

By intelligence, just have sense and be current. You should be able to express yourself, and use words appropriately. So one should know the subtle differences between synonyms for example, and can defend his belief.

Guess I'm intelligent. Cos sometimes when I hear a word I just go into drive and start thinking of all it's synonyms and the little difference and the most appropriate one and the ones which can still be allowed. Just that recently when I walk is how to get or earn money.

pansophist:
Being fit with a low body fat percentage. You should be able to see traces of your packs, and your stomach shouldn't protrude. Your facial definition should be visible, such as your cheekbone and jawline.

By intelligence, just have sense and be current. You should be able to express yourself, and use words appropriately. So one should know the subtle differences between synonyms for example, and can defend his belief.

Guess I'm intelligent. Cos sometimes when I hear a word I just go into drive and start thinking of all it's synonyms and the little difference and the most appropriate one and the ones which can still be allowed. Just that recently when I work is how to get or earn money.

Philosopher1979:
Young man you are harnessing sexual energy which us a basic crude but powerful energy of the universe, humanity and human relations. Its present in every human being. Thats all. I'm not good in the details anyway.

However, try and encourage youths to go into something that will develop them. Entrepreneurial skills, intellectual development etc. No be everything be sex. Woman etc. We all know sex is innate to everybody male or female. But then, there is more to life than having sex.
Teach young men more useful things. How to be succesful and respected in society. How to harness your talents etc

How about you open a thread on business section not here, and teach young men how to make money. I for one will really love to learn from you or anyone who has practical and legit tip on making money and being successful. But not on here, here is strictly for sex and women matter. Thank you

heartofcity12:
....

Well good for me that isn't planning on having them forever.

SisterAnn:
I'm very much correct, don't teach me nonsense. Focus on the Op fat boy.

I wonder if I'm teaching you nonsense or it's you who don't want to learn the right thing. You can bring up your argument with evidence too.

SisterAnn:
Your English even booms more than those smelling holes. A broke ass like you doesn't deserve a clean pussy. Lazy yoot.

It's don't. I know the yoot was intentional so would not correct that. You see, no one is perfect

TyroneP:
Step momma starved my younger brother and I for days. We had no option than to eat sand and the night before then, we were locked outside, we had to sleep while it was raining. I was 15, my brother was 12.

Bro how e dey go now. I doubt if step momma is still alive.

YoungBlackRico:
This


Still feels like a dream to me. 😢

I understand how you feel.

Condolences bro

YoungBlackRico:
There's nothing to life. Lost my mother yesterday morning too, my whole world crashed

My mum died last year November. Couldn't believe it, always thought she's almost immortal. She's the first and only person I will hear last breath. I'm still pained right now. She died the year I finished school hoping I will make it a year or two after service and spoil her. I just feel she's in a better place now though(reincarnation)

IAmHim1:
Don't use The word IF in this context next time

Rather use WHEN

IF shows that you are not sure ... leaving things to chance...maybe or maybe not

WHEN shows you are leaving things to time... working in background

Thanks for the correction. I shouldn't have used if an optimist for that matter. Yeah, I believe in time. As I always say times heals all things. It's always a matter of time.

Rukevwe999:
Bro, chill.
Why are acting as if you know you'll ever become a high valued man?
If ever you reach that height (lol), come back and repeat your question.

I'm not acting like I know. I'm working towards being an high valued man. And IF I become one I'm learning right now not to make a bad decision by raising a dirty female to great status only to face back and pull me down just because she feels she's equal and if she can pull someone like me then she can surely pull someone better with what I've helped to raise her to be.

benzics:
It’s how people come online and project their lives on others for me 😂😂😂

Bro can't you see his talking from both sides of his cheek. One moment men are promiscuous the next we aren't getting enough sex. Most painful aspect is we are trying to hold them from being burnt but they are struggling to get burnt but will later turn around to blame us for not holding them enough.

Rukevwe999:
Bro, no waste your data on people with this mindset. They are guys who barely have sex or never had one at all. It pains them that women, especially the ones they desire,have sex with other men except them. They await that glorious moment in the future when they've become high valued men and these women have become wasted and regretting why they didn't choose men like them years ago. I'm not supporting sexual immorality but many of these guys are not after a virtuous woman or a stable marriage yet, they want sexual dominance. They'll gladly disvirgin any girl and lead her to hell if it's for free and soothes their ego and libido.

You just aren't only contradicting yourself at this point but also being delusional at best and stupid at worst. So are you now saying when that glorious moment come when we are high valued we should take back this women that are damaged and became wasted by other men they desired then that have left them? Or am I missing the point that you are just being sarcastic?

benzics:
Are we not saying the same thing? Is money plucked from trees? How many men have 2k to spare for sex?
Sex is still a rare commodity for a man, because he doesn’t get that easily, unless you’re of the opinion that money can be gotten easily for everyone.

Does a woman need to pay 2k to have sex? Even the ugliest women get sexual advances from good looking men, can you say the same for an ugly man?

Gold is highly valued because it’s rare, not because it’s shiny, a rare commodity that people love is a highly valued commodity.

Sex is to man what Gold is to humans(Gold is rare).
Sex is to woman what Sand is to humans(Sand is everywhere).

Come back when men can get sex as easy as women, till then, keep wallowing in your ignorance.

Bro, please take it easy on him. He has always thought himself to be wise. I think it's a female pretending to be male, cos it's seems simpish even to simps the way he defends and advocates for the female gender.

benzics:
I was chatting with some Female friends, and they were on about why men judge women’s sexual past, “don’t men have sex too?”.

They were speechless after I dropped an analogy 😂

You see, SEX IS NOT THE SAME FOR MEN AND WOMEN.

For men, a body count of 5 needs you to put in effort, Initiate conversations, lead the whole dynamic, have something going, look good, etc. On average, most young men aged 25 or less, have body counts less than 10, hell, there are men who are 25+ and still find it hard to get sex irrespective of how they look.

For women, a body count of 25 is just a matter of her saying “YES”. A woman can easily rake up 25 bodies in one day, men are sexually cheap.

Why do you want us to look at SEX the same way for both genders if not that you’re unintelligent?

A woman with a high body count is a loose woman according to men’s psyche, and men have shown times without number, that the sexual past of a woman matters to them.

On the other hand, a man with a high body count just simply means he has what many women find interesting, and times without number, women have shown that a man’s sexual past is irrelevant, he just has to be a high value man who can provide for and protect his own.

So why are people trying to suddenly make men comfortable wifing loose women? You can cry from now till the day you die, men will keep holding women accountable for their sexual history, your senseless discussions won’t change what has been embedded in men’s DNA.

Lastly, answer these questions yourself if you still don’t understand.

Will a handsome man walking up to 20 women and asking them for sex in less than a minute, be as successful as a beautiful woman walking up to 20 men and asking for sex?

Again, which gender has commercialized sex and which gender pays heavily for it?

You can see that the answers to the above questions are different, but somehow you still want us to look at sex the same for both genders, you can clearly see that you’re an idiot. 😂

When I thought my 3 body counts are way too low. Omo I don try too o, but as my development dey underway, very likely to reach 8-10 before the year ends. I would not say I didn't put any effort getting that but all the time I put effort I don't get any sex, the ones I got I put minimal effort I mean non sexual minimal effort got me the 3.