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Be friends with her.. And start chyking other girls. Let her see you talking to other girls.. It always works.
Just keep her in the friendzone and look for a "girlfriend".

Okay, guys I followed your advice here to go where I'm celebrated and not tolerated. And I left the girl that I was having issues with.
However, I met this new girl, we've known for some time now, she is my junior colleague, also a med student. She js very reserved and always indoors. We met at the library. And we ve been chatting. She told me that she admires my reading skills and that I should help her to be a geek, like me.
The ish is that I like her, she is my type. But I don't want to get friend zoned or elder brother zoned. So how do I go about it?. I have a feeling that I can take advantage from this admiring ish. Pls advice would be greatly appreciated.
Harddon
Xavierblue
Magikalz
Davidthegeek

...hey, I need your help. I was in a relationship with a girl, it started out as fwb(friends with benefits) initially. Then we just started dating. In the long run, she started pulling out and hardly hang out with me. So I confronted her on that matter. She was always talking to one guy like that. I told her To stop talking to him. And along the line, I said some things to her. She was pissed. I apologized though, and she was still angry and even left me there. Since then, we don't talk to each other again. How do I get my balls back pls. I know I bleeped up.. Cos now I think she has lost d respect for me. I used to be the alpha.. Now I don't even know anymore. I need my balls back. Any advice would be gladly appreciated.
Davidthegeek
Magikalz
Xavierblue
Harddon

HushTee:
Five years have passed since I graduated from university as a first-degree holder. I wasn’t lost. I remember this phase of my life vividly, transitioning from a full-time student to a man of myself – to someone who had to trust his guts. I had concrete plans, people to look up to, and amazing ideas. It has become easy to reflect on what I could have done differently, but how about I reflect on things I’m glad I knew before graduating.

There are times I wish someone would have pulled me by the ear and told me some genuine truths back then, I’m however glad that I learnt some things on my own. Now, with invaluable hindsight and exactly five years of experience under my belt, here are a few things I’m glad I knew before graduating from the university.

Grades Aren’t Everything
I had a terrible first year in the university and would’ve probably done better if I had put a lil bit more pressure on myself to be the best in every exam. This would have been a perfect attitude for great grades, but even after first year, I didn’t put any pressure on myself. Of cos, I started desiring amazing grades (I got some), but I unconsciously did more of stepping up my self-discovery game, and came to the realization that examinations is more of a test of retentive ability, than a test of creative ability. Then, I upgraded mode, stopped the crammings (which I was terrible at), and started the knowings and understandings (which I was really good at). Truthfully, I still could’ve done better if I had put in more effort into cramming, but that was it, I graduated knowing and understanding a lot more of what I’d need in my next phase in life

I’m not saying you shouldn’t put in every effort like till-day-breaks (popularly called TDB) or morning-till-night (popularly called MTN), but remember not to beat yourself up over an imperfect CGPA. What matters is that you put in effort to knowing and understanding the life application of all that you’re studying.

Try not to fail (Jack Ma said it), but remember, your GPA doesn’t in any way dictate the levels of success you’ll achieve.

You Don’t Need To Have It All Figured Out
One question I dread is “What’s next?”. It came a lot after during my National Youth Service year, and truthfully, I had a ready-made answer (going for my masters) which I never lied about. I never told anyone the complete truth though, because I wasn’t sure if they were plans that’ll go my way, and I wasn’t exactly interested in the being discouraged before I even ventured into them.

If you don’t have a clear idea like most recent grads, don’t you worry. It is in fact better to have a goal, and be open to flexibility. I was sure I’d get a lecturing job during my master’s degree days, but I didn’t. I wasn’t disappointed because I was, in my openness to flexibility, quick to figure out it was time to make something out of my other passions and skills. And the skills I acquired during my BSc. Degree came in handy in most situations. I’m still open to new opportunities, while I continue being a work in progress.

Relationships Are The Important For The Future
I’m not sure how I successfully surrounded myself with amazing people who would look out for me in any circumstance, but this helped develop my interpersonal skills, and made it easy for me to get help towards any cause, and for me to volunteer towards a cause. Five years after graduation, I don’t know how some of them still stand by me despite me not checking on them at times – it’s probably the same way I stand by the ones who rarely check on me. I’d like to think, from my experience, that making friends in the real world takes extra effort.

I am grateful for the relationships I built during my university days. Thank you guys for being my in-school family, for being there in the time of need, and for keeping in touch.

Goals Are Important, But Habit Are More Important
I remember how all those guys who used to motivate us back then kept hammering on “goal setting”, interestingly, they still do. I did set some goals, some realistic, some unrealistic, some achieved, some unachieved. I had not graduated when I realized why I didn’t achieve some of these goals. It wasn’t because I was slow or dumb, it’s because I didn’t get used to a specific way of life. Imagine you waking up to read every day at 1.30am, don’t you think it’ll have become something ingrained in your subconscious?

Every goal I met before graduation (even till date) were ones I formed a habit towards. Forming a habit towards them gave me a sense of belief, and led me to having a specific set of behavior and my desired outcome. Your goals become a reality if you change your habits.

Find Your Niche And Work It
Oh, I was doing a lot of things back then in school (or so I think). Actually, I was passionate about some of these things, like being in the playing the keyboard, singing in the choir, and being in the departmental press, faculty press, and union of campus journalist. Bizzarely, I was doing some other things I wasn’t passionate about, which of cos I didn’t last on (I’d rather not mention them).

You’re probably not talented like Travis Greene, Christiano Ronaldo, Fela Kuti or Tara Durotoye, don’t be worried. You’re still in the self-discovery process. Consciously or unconsciously know yourself - What do you do well? When do you work at your best? What do people honestly appreciate in you? These things helped my happiness in school, and still sustains it.

Taking A Break Can Sometimes Be A Good Thing
I rarely took breaks, I still rarely do, in fact, I sometimes wish I have 25/8 rather than 24/7, but every time I did, mhen, my comeback was always awesome, refreshing, and powerful. As we keep growing older, commitments and responsibilities get on the rise, but it is important not to lose sight of ourselves.

Taking a breather might be what is needed to recharge and get our priorities right. Taking a break doesn’t mean quitting, so take that break dear.

Businessmen Are Way Richer Than Lecturers
Everyone who gets a really good paying job or starts a business after university definitely went through a lecturer, or at least was lectured. I’m going to become a lecturer soon (Amen), but I’ve always known that as a lecturer, I won’t be in the top hundred thousand rich people in the world. Whaaaaaaat! Where would I even get the wealth? Except I’m involved in a business, or win grants, or maybe become a professor.

This seemingly shocking truth has brought me to the understanding that I have to combine my academics with entrepreneurship if I want to be richer than an average lecturer.

The Best Time To Start Something Is Now
Pre-university, I had this flare for reading many unrelated things and coming up with lines that brings them all together. It was precursor enough for me to get into school and develop my passion for writing. I saw university as the best time to pursue passions alongside schoolwork. Some of my friends said they were gonna do one business or the other. The ones who stood by their words are way up the ladder today. I developed my writing skills, and enjoyed myself doing lots of different writings every week. My only regret is that I didn’t start my freelance writing business back then.

Some students have less time to pursue other interests, but it’ll be of great benefit to get yourself into something, whether profit or nonprofit making. If you have to do anything, you’re in the best position to start - business, side hustle, anything, just start now, take the risks, test some ideas. If you’re successful, don’t be surprised the extent it can take you. And, of cos, you’d have a job/business waiting for you when you graduate.

Post-grad life changes quickly, but it can be fun if you’ve figured out some things while in school. If you haven’t graduated, embrace the lessons, if you have, welcome its applications. It hasn’t being exactly easy, but I’ve looked back several times and uttered lines of gratitude to God for making me enjoy the process. There are however some things I wish I knew, and I’ll share them in coming days. But for now, over to you.

Your turn! What were you glad to have learnt before graduating college? Share them with me in the comments!

I'm a medical student. I wanna have something doing besides ma books. But there is no time, I'm always either reading or lectures or practicals or postings.
The truth is I have passion for surgery. That's what I've always loved. I wanna be an orthopedic surgeon.
I want to be good at something else, and have something doing besides book.I tried learning d guitar, but lack of practice and time scuppered it. I also write well, but most of my poems or writings are sadistic in nature(that's what my friends say tho).
So, how do I prepare for the future please??

HARDDON:
Thought this was just ffb?
Or are you in love with her, she knows it and she decided to play a SENDLESS card on you to get you jealous?

Why dont you turn the tables arround and start hanging out with another hotter lady and rob it on her face?

invite any of your female course mate home and start spending time together while you ignore her entirely?

Okay, thanks. Would try that

theGigolo:
Can't you see he has a crush, abi u don't read between the lines? Biko help a bro out.

Lolz, nope bro.. No crushing biko.

MissWrite:
That's okay, sweetie, you can mention me.

Okay.. Cool

MissWrite:
, I'm glad you found it helpful. we just talked about all the stuff that would have warranted the pm, and now you ask? I'd rather you didn't. I wish you all the best with your girl, hun.

Well, I might need ur advice again, thats why I asked, unless u are comfortable with me mentioning u.
Plus I'm also into literature and poetry... I'm a huge fan of Shakespeare, I fond his lifestyle intriguing though..,

MissWrite:
Awww...cute. Okay then, good for you two. Well, communication is an art and it can become a mess when emotions are flying high. I'm not presuming to know how it transpired between you, but if (for instance) you want to table your concerns about the other guy, you may tell her how it makes you feel when she hangs out in her room with this dude. It's normal and justified for you to get jealous. But if you try to get controlling about the issue by suggesting she stop seeing him, her walls will go up. It's counterproductive. And with apologies you have to be equally tactful: timing and measure. If you've tried and she wasn't ready to hear it, give her some room to cool off. The longer you wait, though, the more elaborate you have to make your apology. Just get creative.

Thanks alot. Ur advice has been helpful
Would u mind if I pm u??.

MissWrite:
Like Benita said, your relationship was based on sex. If a girl is in a fwb relationship with you, she has settled on a certain dynamic and may not be expecting that you would take each other seriously. So, if you're feeling her, simply step up to her and tell her you want to get more serious with her. That way, if the thing with dreads isn't serious she can make her mind up about you two, knowing that it's something real.

But if all you're looking for is extended benefits, that ship might have sailed.

No, I told u, we re now dating. She told me"I love you, I really do", although it was after one of d sex period and then she said it again, early this week. We were just alone and she just called my name and said it. And from there, we just started being serious and all that..
Now, she is talking to this dread guy,
I was just with her few mins ago, and she is angry with me, I told her "Bleep off" this afternoon. She pissed me off.
And now, I went to see her, to apologize and she told me to leave her alone. She was really angry or sumfn. I told her, that Im partly angry at her cos she was always wth that dreads guy. She said nothing. And she even left d room for me

MissWrite:
If you think your sapiosexual fwb won't engage an airhead in something as purely physical as sex, would she now find him appealing for something as intellectual as talking? . And when a girl offers extraneous info like "I even know his ex", watch it. I'm not saying you should be worried, but if you're really interested in this girl, don't just wait around on the sidelines. Define what you want and make things happen.

Okay, buh how do I not wait around on d sidelines??

Benita27:
It's all about the sex. Check the history of your relationship with her 'cause I think you're living in self denial. It's overt from your narrative. Two people who constantly bleep would definitely throw the "L" word around to keep getting what they want.

So u re saying.. With me and her, its just about the sex??, so if I get back on the wagon, everything gets back to normal again?

Adaumunocha:
Go hug your school gate next.

If u know u had nothing reasonable to say, u coulda just kept quiet. Happy Sunday to you

Mariinee:
You wee learn. Sapiosexual indeed.

Learn what exactly??.. Ma

Benita27:
Op, the only relationship I think you're in was based on sex. The second the sex wasn't forthcoming, she moved to another dude who was ready to give her the fùcks she needed.

Lolz, but we did it like Monday or so.. And its not sex sha. Yea, sex started it, but along d line. It wasn't about d sex anymore. Cos, she wanted Me to define it and she wanted more,so along d line. D love word started flying around.
So, its not bout sex. I'm just worried about ds new conversation with the guy, and I don't want to look insecure by telling her to stop talking to him or sumfn

So, I'm back again. I was in this fwb(friends with benefit) relationship with a girl who is my junior colleague and also lodge mate. After couple of misunderstandings, and what I can't even explain, we started dating. Truth is, Yea I love her. And she loves me too, she has shown that and also said that. Although, we don't really say it much. We always hang out after school since we re in d same lodge.
But recently, she had this girl that is squatting with her(she normally stays alone), so this girl has made it kinda hard for us to ever do the do(we can't do it in my room,I have a roomie).
So, recently, we hardly hang out or talk again. We normally talk during d evenings, when I'm back from lectures. But, somehow she has been withdrawn. She hangs with one guy like dt, that normally comes to visit one of ma neighbors. So they talk and all dt. Sometimes, till 10 at night before the guy goes..
This started since like Thursday or so. I saw em yesterday and they were talking sha, the door was not locked, so I knew they weren't doing anything. But I still called her and asked her, and she was like nothing is going on, they re just talking and that she even knows his ex.
The guy is cute sha, and recently when he sees me, he normally calls me and wants to shake me or something. But, my babe is sapiosexual, thats kinda why we re good. We re both attracted to intelligence. But this guy is an airhead sort of, with dreads, all this guys with Snapchat ish.
I just think maybe its a phase, and it will pass when they finally run out of things to talk of. But I'm still worried sha, because I'm not the jealous type, but this is testing me.
What do I do next??
Xavier blue
Magikalz
Davidthegeek
Harddon

So, I'm back again. I was in this fwb(friends with benefit) relationship with a girl who is my junior colleague and also lodge mate. After couple of misunderstandings, and what I can't even explain, we started dating. Truth is, Yea I love her. And she loves me too, she has shown that and also said that. Although, we don't really say it much. We always hang out after school since we re in d same lodge.
But recently, she had this girl that is squatting with her(she normally stays alone), so this girl has made it kinda hard for us to ever do the do(we can't do it in my room,I have a roomie).
So, recently, we hardly hang out or talk again. We normally talk during d evenings, when I'm back from lectures. But, somehow she has been withdrawn. She hangs with one guy like dt, that normally comes to visit one of ma neighbors. So they talk and all dt. Sometimes, till 10 at night before the guy goes..
This started since like Thursday or so. I saw em yesterday and they were talking sha, the door was not locked, so I knew they weren't doing anything. But I still called her and asked her, and she was like nothing is going on, they re just talking and that she even knows his ex.
The guy is cute sha, and recently when he sees me, he normally calls me and wants to shake me or something. But, my babe is sapiosexual, thats kinda why we re good. We re both attracted to intelligence. But this guy is an airhead sort of, with dreads, all this guys with Snapchat ish.
I just think maybe its a phase, and it will pass when they finally run out of things to talk of. But I'm still worried sha, because I'm not the jealous type, but this is testing me.
What do I do next??

These guys try sha, buh ma guy fine pass them. He is not a nairalander tho, just guest

suregalluv:
first time of reading this thread and it is really interesting and educating
hopefully i'll be a nursing student by next year are there many differences between both courses?

Alot of differences. Nursing students don't write mbbs and their anatomy lectures do not really go as deep as those of medicine.
There re so many differences dear, can't start listing, but the important thing is that they re both in medical line and they both save lives.

Enoma222:
thanks sir


but any time i want 2 talk about d relationship wen i call, she kind of dey avoid dat discussion and me too have my own proud to beg her because she is d one dat usually beg her

Don't bring up relationship stuffs na.. That's the point of giving her space.
No relationship talks..
Infact when or if u guys get back together, it won't be by you guys talking about ur relationship, it would be just natural

Bro, listen to me.
Calm down first and give her space. Don't too call her. Just give her space..
Maybe call her once in 4days and make d call as brief as possible. Just be "availably unavailable ".
She will come to her "senses" again and want d relationship, (that's if she truly loves u as u claim).. Her mum's warnings re still fresh on her mind and its scaring her. Give it small time.. She go return.
Oh and whenever u get a chance with her, be fun and jovial and don't spend much time too.. Na she go miss u

lovely22:
it sure does! thanks so much

You re welcome. Which university are you in though??

It depends on the lecturer in your school and the one that he likes using to teach..
Anatomy:Keith Moore
Last's anatomy
B. D chaurrusia
These 3 should be enough.
Physiology: Essential physiology by sembulingham
Guyton and Hall
Ganong's physiology
Ezeilo
Biochemistry :Harper 's.
Don't forget your atlas, you will need it in gross anatomy, buy frank H. Netter or grant's atlas

Embryology:sadler
Inderbir Singh
Histology : inderbir Singh
Neuroanatomy:inderbir Singh
Anibueze
Hope this helps...

mazizitonene:
lol......when I was in school, was seen as a ladies man. well, I was kinda...the ladies just loved me, and that made many people, the girls inclusive to see me as a big flirt...casanova...abi player....most of em would swear with their lives I've slept with all those girls......dem no know say no be like that....nothing come out....not even a serious date while I was in school...and I was in the medical field.....
Guess u are also handsome, funny and intelligent as well...just live your life....if u want to have a girlfriend its quite easy....my own problem for that side be say I no too dey get patience for women matter and dia wahala.....maybe as I dey go service nau I fit calm down grab one nwa baby

This is exactly my life. Everyone thinks I'm a flirt, I'm in medical school, C1(400lvl)..
I don't have a girlfriend, and girls just keep playing hard to get, cos they believe that I just want to dump em. I'm fucking single here, and no time to spend chasing girls. Its really getting to me

Oga, how far you and the babe, its been 3 years now

Sleeping at last-saturn Sleeping at last-sight Brandi Callie -the story Rachel yamagata-duet Christina perri-trust

darlenese:
I support , how can a student be carrying thick bear bear upandown , u nevr hammer u won form beared gang who bear bear help

U never hammer and u re wearing make up..
Aunty, keep qwayet there biko, its not our fault that your bf doesn't have beard..

Through dignity and 'hardlabor'

Teecomm:
I love this

Thanks bro. Appreciate

As a medical student, myself.let me just drop a few points for you.
Medicine is all about the zeal, drive and passion. Doesn't matter how intelligent u are or used to be, you must be willing to read and read and read, even when some of your scores, are not showing your hard work. Don't give up, keep pushing. Sometimes, I think medicine is one of those courses that you can honestly"fail" your way to the top.
Also your friends should be 90% medical students(serious ones ooo)..
Have a very dry social life. That way, less distractions. And if you must date, let it be a medical student. That way, she/he will "understand" you(med students will understand what I'm talking about)..
Also, don't joke with past questions. They will help you

I know how you feel bro, buh u have gat to let her go, she is not yours and... She is a h_o, sorry man. take heart