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ScotFree:
I was one of those that adviced you on your other thread where you asked if she was a LovePeddler. Now, i'm going to tell you what is going on.

The girl is a smart girl, somehow she found out the reason you have been ignoring her might be related to her instagram DM. She must have realised you know what's up, and she quickly cooked up a story for you about the whole thing being a playful, instagram love ish. And you swallowed the story, hook, line, sinker, boat and fisherman. I think she just likes what she gets from you (only you can tell us what you give her...must be lots of money or gifts ). But i know she isn't interested in you in the way you want it (i don't want to use the word 'sexually'). She either has a steady guy, she's keeping it for. It's not that she doesn't want to be touched or because she is a virgin. If she were, she wouldn't go the lengths she goes with you. She just isn't attracted to you. Now, i am not an advocate of premarital sex, neither am i a pastor with stupid sheeples....so i'll ask you to reach deep into your self and ask yourself what you want from her. If it's sex, and she isn't giving it. Then walk. If it's a relationship that isn't about sex alone, then see if you can work something out with her and build it. I want you to live a life without heartache and constant worries, that's why i took out time to write this.

Now, what i don't want is to see another post from you about this girl . Because, i will find you, and we will flog you in public for disturbing the peace and causing public nuisance with this girls story all the time. You can go now

Lolz.. Okay sir.
Thanks

Okay guys, thanks for your advice and contributions in my previous thread, it gave me a barrage of options on what to do, however, I picked to be silent, so I ignored all her calls, I even traveled back home.
When I came back to school, she saw me, she even did d hairstyle that I told her to do(fringe ponytail), she did not want to do it before sha.she called my name, I said hey, and walked away
Anyways, after I came bk,I ignored her for some time, but I had to be a man and I started talking to her. During the course of our discussion, she actually brought up the Instagram DM stuff(apparently, she doesn't know that I know).. She was like she wanted to prove that some men are scum, so she flirted with the guy and he fell for it obviously(d guy is her friend's bf, and on Instagram, they gat this cute couple goals ish going on, always commenting on each other's pics).. Anyways, she unfollowed the guy and they don't talk now. She did ask me, why I ignored her, but I couldn't tell her sha...
My reason for opening this thread, mehn, she lock up that part o. I've not got any action for like 2 weeks now. We kiss, and stuff buh once I try to go there, she just closes, but when I stop, she will start being super flirty again and start twerking for me. It's complicated sha, because the last time we did it, she cried after it and sent me this veryyyy long text that she feels bad after doing it, I should please stop bla bla bla. That's why I'm scared sef. But she will be on my bed and be doing sexy dance and be kissing me anyhow, but still doesnt want it.
Just ds night, I tried again and she was like, nothing for me until/unless I marry her(wtf). I now replied that I'm going to call other girls this night, she then chuckled and said you are not serious.
What do I do biko??.. Should I be ds supportive bf(we re not dating, haven't defined it yet).. Or be rude and show her that I have other options,
Abeg no bashing pls. Thanks.. U might have to read d previous thread(very short though) to understand this one.

Mubbyleey:
Don't be surprised when he still cheat on you...... To me, nothing defines cheating in one particular way.... Just know this, man is created weak.

Speak for yourself bro, u re d only one created weak biko..

xxxtedyxxx:
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Bro, I gat some relationship problems.. And I need ur help..
Can I send u a msg on WhatsApp??

Daeylar:
Is it bad for a ghost to wear wristwatch? , LMAO
Lol, nice piece,
I want one for men. , Nobody should ask me to make one

Then don't ask for what you can't provide yourself..
TBH, girls are generally dumber sha..

Dude.. Very funny bro.. I felt this piece and I can relate.
When you tell her that brexit would have no effect on Nigeria, it may reduce the value of pounds which is a positive for us in forex, and she is like "what is brexit? "..
When you are watching amanpour on CNN and she changes the channel to E! t.v to watch "rich kids of Beverly hills"..
When everyone she follows on IG is either a makeup artist or slay queen or fashionista or bellanaija, and she likes posts without even knowing the meaning..
... Father Lord, I can't carry on like this biko..
Someone that doesn't even know the speaker house of reps or senate president..
What have I done to deserve this girl

Philosophia:
Thank you so much.

My brother, I will be candid with you. My biggest problem is that I love this lady with my beign. She is the only girlfriend I have ever had. 3years. I have often visualized our life together. We talked about family, kids, everything.

I am an introvert, who hardly gets close to people. I am a guy that usually doesn't give a Bleep unless I want to. But this stuff hit me. It hit me where it hurts. As I type this tears are springing from my eyes. I'm trying to stop but it hurts.

My whole life just seems useless. I don't know exactly what to do. I feel lost.

I know how u feel bro... I've been there bro. Trust me, u will survive

So,there is this girl that I was friends with benefit(fwb) with and things got serious, and anyways, now we ain't dating but we re kinda exclusive. She hangs our with me alot.
Now to the main purpose, she logged into her Instagram acct with my phone and did some ish, when she was done, I just decided to look around there, went to her DM. I saw her chat with a guy, she was really flirting with him, she even gave the guy her room number and the guy said he would be visiting..
I'm just really pissed at her right now, she doesn't know that I know. But I don't know how to deal with this matter. I need ur advice.
No, I'm not forgiving her and no, I don't want to continue and pretend like nothing happened. How do I deal with this maturely??.. Advices pls. Thanks
Davidthegeek, magikalz, harddon

dyadeleye:
You guys ain't dating bruh...she's seeking for someone more serious..her own man and leave your weak ass in the cold.
Bruh, she didn't do anything wrong nah....your game is weak..this suppose to be the other way round
Admit it..you are in love already!

Yea, I am in love.. But I'm not stupid.. How do I flip the switches or make my game "stronger"

delishpot:
OP, decide what you want first concerning your relationship with the said lady then we can carry on from there.

I wanted to date her.. I already made those future remarks, you know, those remarks were you put her in ur future endeavors.. But after seeing this, I just don't want again.. I'm done. So how do I get done with her

So,there is this girl that I was friends with benefit(fwb) with and things got serious, and anyways, now we ain't dating but we re kinda exclusive. She hangs our with me alot.
Now to the main purpose, she logged into her Instagram acct with my phone and did some ish, when she was done, I just decided to look around there, went to her DM. I saw her chat with a guy, she was really flirting with him, she even gave the guy her room number and the guy said he would be visiting..
I'm just really pissed at her right now, she doesn't know that I know. But I don't know how to deal with this matter. I need ur advice.
No, I'm not forgiving her and no, I don't want to continue and pretend like nothing happened. How do I deal with this maturely??.. Advices pls. Thanks

Evaberry:
at 3:02 am
jobless much

U dey dey awake by ds time nko... I guess u are on night duty at security post

Women..

Hey guys, so I gat this girl, we were into fwb then later on, things gat pretty serious and well the stage we are at now has no name(lolz). We are not dating but we can't sleep with other people, and we hang out alot and do alot of things together, but we ain't dating.. This brings me to my reason for writing this..
... Before we decided to get serious, she had a confession and told me that she slept with a guy, some days after we first had sex. I am d first person to go there. Her excuse was that her v.card(virginity) was everything to her, and after we did it, she felt I was a fvckboy and that I was never coming back,so it depressed her and made her feel small. That's why she did it with that guy. I also had my own lil escapades but none was serious for me, so after all our confessions, we decided to be exclusive.
...my problem is that she is always trying to make me jealous, and not in a kinda cute way, but in a very childish annoying way. It really really pisses me off. It doesn't make me jealous, but rather angry. She can be like.. "I'm going man-shopping".. Or she will be scrolling through pictures of guys on fbk and be like "I want this guy,how can I get his number", and she does this around me, and makes sure that I hear it. She doesn't even follow through with it sef... It's just annoying..
.. The next one is the stupid mind games she plays.. She'll be like"I understand it when guys cheat, it's not easy, there are so many fine girls, if I were a guy I'd cheat too," but this girl would be angry when a girl passes and calls me "honey, how re u? ".. She ll also get angry when I say a girl is fine or when a girl visits me, she'll be calling d girl bitchhhh(behind her back of course)... Also she'll be like "I don't like the idea of dates, just two people sitting down and talking to each other and eating, I can eat in my room"(ive never taken her out though)..
.. Look, when I tried to define us, she was like "dating would make it so boring and maybe hard, let's just continue with what we have"... And d next day after an argument she was like.. "Define us, what are we".. Gadddd, very frustrating girl. I just don't know how I fell for her.
Oh and also, she has this thing about who will say "I love you" first.. She once said it when we were "doing" it.. And I was like "huh? "..she just formed moaning and I left it.
From this I wrote here, you can maybe judge that she is a small girl.. (Yea, 19yrs).I'm 2 years older than her though..she is cool though otherwise, and doesn't ask for money, also very intelligent.
Magikalz.. Davidthegeek, harddon.. And others. Una advice is needed

thepussyhunter:
lets just say shes a little too wild and i wanna help you tame her
dont worry i wont hurt her.........just leave it to me
you could give me her number instead though

Amen.. If u wan "help" me.. Tell me what to do here

IAMSASHY:
both of you shud grow up and stop playing wt ur sexual organs

For someone who copied someone's moniker. U have a lot of nerve talking about "growing up".
Anyway, thanks for d advice. Don't play with your sexual organ as well.

thepussyhunter:
na wah o...........aunty why you quote everything na
anyways op if she stays in abuja kindly give her this number 0817610**** (check ur email for the remaining numbers)
thanks as you comply

Wetin u wan do Na??

phintohlar:
and i'll be like "can you tell me the full meaning of fwb please"?

Friends with benefits,
So, ma, can u now drop ur advice

Hey guys, so I gat this girl, we were into fwb then later on, things gat pretty serious and well the stage we are at now has no name(lolz). We are not dating but we can't sleep with other people, and we hang out alot and do alot of things together, but we ain't dating.. This brings me to my reason for writing this..
... Before we decided to get serious, she had a confession and told me that she slept with a guy, some days after we first had sex. I am d first person to go there. Her excuse was that her v.card(virginity) was everything to her, and after we did it, she felt I was a fvckboy and that I was never coming back,so it depressed her and made her feel small. That's why she did it with that guy. I also had my own lil escapades but none was serious for me, so after all our confessions, we decided to be exclusive.
...my problem is that she is always trying to make me jealous, and not in a kinda cute way, but in a very childish annoying way. It really really pisses me off. It doesn't make me jealous, but rather angry. She can be like.. "I'm going man-shopping".. Or she will be scrolling through pictures of guys on fbk and be like "I want this guy,how can I get his number", and she does this around me, and makes sure that I hear it. She doesn't even follow through with it sef... It's just annoying..
.. The next one is the stupid mind games she plays.. She'll be like"I understand it when guys cheat, it's not easy, there are so many fine girls, if I were a guy I'd cheat too," but this girl would be angry when a girl passes and calls me "honey, how re u? ".. She ll also get angry when I say a girl is fine or when a girl visits me, she'll be calling d girl bitchhhh(behind her back of course)... Also she'll be like "I don't like the idea of dates, just two people sitting down and talking to each other and eating, I can eat in my room"(ive never taken her out though)..
.. Look, when I tried to define us, she was like "dating would make it so boring and maybe hard, let's just continue with what we have"... And d next day after an argument she was like.. "Define us, what are we".. Gadddd, very frustrating girl. I just don't know how I fell for her.
Oh and also, she has this thing about who will say "I love you" first.. She once said it when we were "doing" it.. And I was like "huh? "..she just formed moaning and I left it.
From this I wrote here, you can maybe judge that she is a small girl.. (Yea, 19yrs).I'm 2 years older than her though..she is cool though otherwise, and doesn't ask for money, also very intelligent.

H2Ossss:
I'll do that when you remove the " yded" in your moniker and add a "g"..... Now read it out.... Exactly what you are

E no gel.. Ur own no follow biko

H2Ossss:
Oga... Calm down... She made a mistake because of fear or insecurity.. If he really loves her he should be ready to forgive and move on.... Its not easy to start a new relationship

That "2".. In ur moniker should be removed. Good, now pronounce ur moniker..
Thats exactly the people u re talking like.. Ryt now.

Jodha:
Forgive her....its not totally her fault that some guys are thoughtless beasts.....

Abortion is not a good thing but...she made a mistake everyone does....

FORGIVE HER!!

Imagine what u re saying. This is murder for Christ's sake. It is her fault biko. It is 100% her fault. She knows the guy she is dating and she knows that he will accept that child, because there is no way he hasn't mentioned marriage to her once or twice in d past. Besides, if she wanted go stay with him, she will keep that child. He even wants to move because of her. Pls stop absolving her of d blame. It is her fault. No two ways about it.

if a girl loves you or is even serious with you,she won't stay 2days(tops) without either calling or chatting u up,doesn't matter if you guys are quarelling

someone who put nursing in unizik. jamb score:245 waec:2A and 3B. what are her chances pls? and what is their cut-off??. also,abia indigene

if u wanna kiss her.just kiss her,don't ask. kpata kpata she slap u.. or maybe she'd kiss u back

just saw this writeup and its so deep

Homeboiy:
Oya repent and follow the way of God

Jesus is there for u, on d last day both d fuckër and the fuckëè are going to hell


ok go beg her bt if she proves stubborn


move on

ur dating compound girl

lolz..yea just tried to talk to her few mins ago.
she came into my room,stood up for some mins and left..
me,I was waiting for her to sit down before I commence talk.for where??,she just comot.
mehn,I ain't gat no strength for all this drama.that's why I no want gf sef

Homeboiy:
Ok I can see ur a cool person, well the reason for her action is because ur relationship with her is undefined.

She only sees u as a friend n not a bf. stop over familiarity with her, stop visiting her constantly, ur afraid she might ignore u forever if u don't talk to her.

Be a bigger boy,If u c her next time, just hail her n go. smile but don't laugh


finally, if u want 70% of her respect, just try n fúck her.


Bye...I was in ur shoes many yrs ago bt now I don't talk to girls anyhow...

dude,I wrote fwb.
as in we re having sex..we re having constant sex,she wants me to define it but I don't want to..just yet.
sometimes,she holds back sha

Homeboiy:
children

I know u both are not up to 18yrs


Rubbish

cat n rat relationship

knock..no open..go>>come back knock e no open

no go do better thing with ur life

nope,I'm actually 21 and she is 20..
u see the difference is this,some of you have been in so many relationships that you know which action is childish and which isn't..
but spare some thoughts for some people who just suck at stuffs like this..
I understand books,I understand human behaviour,I understand exams..but I do not understand love and how it makes u do things u necessarily do not want to do.
I was childish back then,I know, but I'm not a childish person per say..I just had a childish act.
so calm down.and I'm doing something with my life,that may even be the reason i do not understand stuffs like love and its sold

okay,so I gat this girl and we gat this fwb situation although we both love each other,but nobody wants to make the first move.
anyway,today her friend's phone gat missing in her room and we all tried to find it but couldn't,apparently it was stolen when she went out,forgetting to lock her door.
this situation made her angry and she started snapping everywhere,tried to calm her down sha.
anyways,this night I saw her with our lodge security men as she was reporting the phone incident. I tried to ask whatsup and show care and she just nodded her way.
now later,I saw her on d staircase as I was going out again..she put her head on my shoulders and told me that her elder bro blames her for not locking her door.
anyways,this night I went to her room to ask how she was doing and I knocked but she didn't open.
I just angrily left and went back to my room,now she came back to my room and knocked d first time, I didn't open..she came back again and this time I opened and she found out that I was around but refused to open door for her.she angrily left..I later tried to apologize but she didn't open the door.
well..next thing I know,she knocks on my door and dropped my bucket that she was with,my shirt that she likes wearing and also drugs that I bought for her(she didn't even take them).
now I don't know what to do,I do like her,but I don't want to act as a pussy..and I'm really angry that she didn't even take d drugs I bought for her.imagine..
so wetin una suggest make I do..pls reduce d bashing

okay,so I gat this girl and we gat this fwb situation although we both love each other,but nobody wants to make the first move.
anyway,today her friend's phone gat missing in her room and we all tried to find it but couldn't,apparently it was stolen when she went out,forgetting to lock her door.
this situation made her angry and she started snapping everywhere,tried to calm her down sha.
anyways,this night I saw her with our lodge security men as she was reporting the phone incident. I tried to ask whatsup and show care and she just nodded her way.
now later,I saw her on d staircase as I was going out again..she put her head on my shoulders and told me that her elder bro blames her for not locking her door.
anyways,this night I went to her room to ask how she was doing and I knocked but she didn't open.
I just angrily left and went back to my room,now she came back to my room and knocked d first time, I didn't open..she came back again and this time I opened and she found out that I was around but refused to open door for her.she angrily left..I later tried to apologize but she didn't open the door.
well..next thing I know,she knocks on my door and dropped my bucket that she was with,my shirt that she likes wearing and also drugs that I bought for her(she didn't even take them).
now I don't know what to do,I do like her,but I don't want to act as a pussy..and I'm really angry that she didn't even take d drugs I bought for her since Thursday..
harddon,realpoacher..
abeg una advice is needed

anything you're doing do not come to absu(abia state university, uturu).
I repeat do not come to absu.
they have a good medical college and nice alumni and background..but its too expensive and they just love to see you suffer..
they enjoy your suffering