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There is nothing wrong with it. But you needed to be honest with her.

A man and a woman can be just friends.My trusted woman friend of ten years is my eye. She gives me the woman perspective in all that I do.

I have never felt anything for her except that I respect and cherish her friendship.It took her parents eight years to believe we are just friends.

I can assure you that you will find a decent and honest man who will love you right this time.

In the meantime, work on improving yourself - I mean add value to what you are already.

It can only get better.

Hail,

Go and lay your troubles before him.

Ujujoan has said it all. I go with her opinion.

Gentlemen: Happiness in this world comes from knowing less.

Lisa,

Why don't you look at it from my perspective: The guy did not deserve to have someone like you.That is what I tell myself when I get hurt.

Time will heal our hearts and faith will heal the rest.

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Sistawoman has said it all. My opinion is that those who play games are dishonest people. Why let people who honestly feel deeply for you pass through emotional turmoil ? Love is suppose to add value to you and not the opposite.I personally think any person who pretends is not worth his or her salt.

People don't come in complete packages,but we must all display our weaknesses and strengths.Let who ever wants to be with us chose to go with the successes and the baggages or take a dive.

I think iice has said it all. We want our women to show us love without getting us choked.We want our women to show us love and yet provide space for us to get things done.We want to be loved and allowed to be responsible in all aspects of our lives.We want to allocate time for church,football,friday nites,business meetings and some form of charity work without making our women feel we love them less.

Stag,

She was not my boss. She was a management secretary. I don't think we fell in love because we were spending much time together. Her beauty both internal and external attracted me to her.

We were close friends for a year before we started dating because initially she did not consider me serious.The maturity displayed by both of us made it a very beautiful experience until her friends killed it.

Honestly I dont see anything wrong with dating an older lady if you both truly feel something for each other. I had dated an older colleague who was three years older than me. It was and remains the best relationship I ever had.

We want to love and respect our women but we also don't want to play the fool. Your girlfriend may not be cheating but she needs to show you some more respect.That kind of behaviour is not acceptable and should be condemned. Why are you sitting down and carrying those bricks? Assert yourself,bring some beautiful women home,enroll new female friends and spend more time with them.Be tardy for every date with your girl,reduce the time together,reduce the calls and show more absences. You will be amazed at the results.

Life is too short to be unhappy even if we lived to be age 100.

Zarah,

Recall I had told you to take things easy then. The worst thing anyone can ever do is to return gifts that were given with Love. I see a problem here and I think you did overstep your bounds.When we are involved with people, we will always have an argument and disagree but we also need to refrain from actions that are disrespectful.

We want our women to be independent,assertive and the likes without being temperamental. I feel that your boy friend now sees a part of you that scares him despite the fact that he loves you.

From your post,I am certain that your boyfriend loves you and probably wants to be sure that he can put up with your behaviour for the rest of all times. We know that people don't come in complete packages but some behaviour is not acceptable.

Maybe some one else is showing him much more respect and kindness. I think you conduct at this time will determine if your boyfriend returns or not.

Going forward, dont call him anymore except he calls you and if he does call, be nice and respectful. Stay away from him and in no time he will be back.

Zarah,

I feel your pain. I think getting violent and acting out of sync will not solve this issue.You need to conduct yourself well and earn my respect at this time. Getting violent for what ever reason is not acceptable type behaviour.I know it hurts,but it can onlky get better.

Stamford bridge fell down flat.

Because it is a woman that marries the man not the other way round. Women are the ones who are officially being asked to be married to a man.When a woman consents,it is assumed that she is the one who married the man.

Kaaz,

This is not the time to be confused.I think this is a minor issue,as suggested, get her to call her friend and let him know that you will not tolerate such calls,be it at midnight or any other time.

Then if you get to find out that they are talking again,you would have got all the answers you require.

Be strong brother.It can only get better.

I honestly think she is innocent. But she needs to get her friend to halt those calls.That kind of behaviour is not acceptable type behaviour.

This is tricky. It can also be very hurting. I think you should give her the benefit of doubt.

That must be a beast.