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I met this girl online but when I see her in person, my mind goes dizzy cos there are angles to her face that gives a bit ugly. Its like I am talking to a different person

This seems to kill the vibe when we speak

Orosunnuku:
@Bakre,
have you discussed this issue with your girlfriend and how long have you been dating her? Is she an occassional lier or chronic compulsive one? How and where did you meet her 'cos they say show me your friend and i will tell you who you are!

You can’t discuss with a compulsive liar cos they will lie more and more

- - should be in diary section but I don’t mind if anyone comments.

Life is weird. I look back I see nothing. I look forward its just not clear.

My family don’t know who I am but they expect a lot. I question everything around me. I don’t know if I have friends again.

Experiences have changed me but I shouldn’t let them change me. I cannot trust anyone.

I ve made bad decisions but i cannot change them. I smile in the face of the decisions.

U gats to pull urself up,

Step by step

generationz:
Guilty conscience. You said he called off the relationship. He might have not been so into you but "he feels" you were good to him.

On your part there are two reason you see this as abnormal to bring it here:

1. You've never been around people with strong internal moral code to know people do things because it's a part of their value system not because that's how everyone is or that they have an ulterior motive.

2. You weren't so good and his perception of you isn't who you really are. You know in your heart you don't deserve the kindness.

Stop listening to anyone talking about sex. While a large percentage of men use money to lure women to have sex with them, not all men are controlled by their private parts.

What you ve said is the pure TRUTH and the only true reply here. Some people have a moral code that guides them regardless of what emotions and opinions say. The OP is simply still used to "games"

Takeit2017:
Congrats boss

Show me love
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Local boy is hungry

Bwahahahha

Una no dey ever forget drop acct

Luigi02:
Get Billy Gilmor the fûčk outta this game. How the hell isn't he on loan?

I won't lie... He is quite inexperienced here

LesbianBoy:
The problem I have with idiots like don jazzy that like talking in favor of ladies on social media is that they are FAKE most times

Does don jazzy want to say during him and dbanj buzzing days they never took advantage of ladies

Hypocrite! With his FAKE humility

I am not in support of harassing ANY woman, but I know their type. FAKE!

citywal:
Sometimes I feel like there is no God (don't get me wrong please) like is he really up there? Or is there a stage you get to in life before he comes it to help.

Been going through serious challenges but lately it just feels as if they increased the whole thing. Even my roommate is giving me attitude and his been behaving strangely.

Fact is I'm depressed, I keep having stupid thoughts, things I don't see myself thinking about. Don't even know if to ask for help or just quiet the whole thing down.

God I really need help I don't know how you are going to do it but I just pray it's not too late when you do, I know you are never late but I'm not sure if I can hang on much longer.

Trust me- I know your pain bro

Please matured minds only.

Maybe I am being negative because experiences have thought me not to allow any negative emotions to cloud my reasoning to be completely one-sided, however,

I had a past experience that has affected my level of trust in people as a whole. I was in this relationship and had two very close friends. At the beginning of the relationship, I used to tell friend A-call him Ody- a lot of things(of course not everything), I mean, I trusted him to the point I could share thoughts, ideas, plans. I am one of those who shares thoughts sometimes to echo what I am thinking if it makes sense morally, etc.

However, in the first fight with my then GF, she attempted to contact Ody about it which I stopped, I did not know she went behind me to still contact him. I expected that he will at least call to speak to me on the case, but then he actually contacted her privately where- I still have no idea what they spoke about because he asked her to delete all traces. Of course, I found out and confronted him, (we sort of "okayed it") but it just never sits well with me to this day. I mean a simple conversation would have been respectful.

2nd issue happened over time during the relationship, I had more fights with this girl who also contacted friend B - Dennis- who as well did not speak to me from then. She met and got close to Dennis and his cousin-sister through me, however, in moments of disagreement, she will often go to live with him. At the very least, I expected him to first ask me what is wrong because I truly was feeling a lot of pain, but he will instead speak with her where they discuss me. I found this very disturbing especially as she will not be aware if I and friend B were on talking terms at that moment. She will then go over and pour my whole relationship issues there. I really felt violated when this would happen.

Of course, if you want to know, I mentally shut down and went mute, till the relationship dissolved, no one to talk to. I feel really violated and thinking of blocking all of them from my life now (in the aftermath) cos sometimes, it annoys me. Of course, I still have other friends who still believe me given the experiences, but I am thinking of confronting and blocking these ones completely.

For most of my life, I thought it was easier to trust guys than girls, but now I am thinking otherwise, in fact, I now do prefer the female company to male, because I already know what women are capable of, with men, I feel it is snake behaviour.

Aguilar:
mine is a liability

Haha. Guy you no love this your girl atall

nashito:
Story of my life

Are you still in it?

Lilfire:
The gal who was suppose to be my first love refused to accept my advances towards her, as times goes by I moved on, then I fell in love with a gal who now happens to be my first love, while we are together I got a job, became more exposed, the first gal came back to me by her self, told me she was in love with me but was a child then that was why she could not muster the courage to date me back in the days, she was creazy about me, she keeps shooting her shot so out of pity I gave her wat she wanted but deed down in my mind, I knew I don't feel the same way I feel for her the first time, I guess I dated her out of pity

So are you guys still together?

Aguilar:
I'm dating my current gf out of pity and she'll not take easy with me if I break her heart or dump her. She do reminds me that we still date.

Loll.. He say she reminds you..hahahhaa.. We never see finish

Timo werner is overrated

Anigreat:










What is this Fela used and dumped woman feeling like.


If people don't like you, how will they possibly respect you.

Nope... It's the opposite. Noone can like you if they have no respect for you. Respect is the foundation

bigjackass:
I see many videos and photos of my guys and girls having fun with other people all the time. They are not lonely. You will only feel lonely if you are one of those that tries to avoid associating with other Nigerians abroad

90% of what you see online is fake happiness. Most people will tell you that it's just for the gram, and would rather be at home chilling with the boys. Infact many don't like the food you even see online too and rather eat local meals.

tommy589:
I thought I have heard it all until this.

Did your dad stopped schooling for some reasons or your mom was not his choice to marry,but had to because he got her pregnant?

I think he is just bitter with himself about an event that happened in the past.A future that was never to be

My dad is well educated and actually respected. And tbh, if you met him, you ll think he is the nicest person there is. But at home is a different person. It's like a switch.
I suspect something happened a while back that was just not resolved. I have no idea on how they met- we just never discuss those sort of things. My mum tho says it was arranged.

iamadonis2:
Do I know you, felt?

I 'd doubt. Saw your posts and I' m not sure we ve ever come in contact.. But I still relate with some of your experiences

Gloriagee:
What's your gender? This is your father's true nature, unfortunately. Please try to do better when you have your family. Your mum sounds like a victim of emotional abuse. If you can get some therapy, by all means do. Otherwise cut yourself some slack, dont look for love where u cant get any n be deliberate about your choices and happiness.

I m male and thanks. I hold off even being fully serious with anyone because I often feel like I don't know myself well enough to want to bring someone into it. My mum actually did abuse me aswell, but I know it was due to ignorance. But well

Bola146:
Exact example of my father. My siblings hate him like a shit but I do tell them we don't have two fathers expect him. He gave someone #1.3m without telling his children, but he will always see us struggling with our education, my mother made us who we are today without his support. Two of my siblings are now PhD holders, I'm a university graduate too, all glory to God Almighty. I have promised that God should help me, I'll take good care of him even till 100 years. What if you don't have any parents, you will still survive. Kindly learn to love him, get closer to God, pray and fast for your future to be bright. I wish you best of luck

For me, it's a bit different because he actually paid our fees and all monetary needs. But I felt so bad I made sure I had admisssions to Federal uni with cheap sch fees and the money I borrowed to set myself up after school, I stylishly organised it and returned it back

I struggled with a lot of anxiety and was too forgetful. God.. I remember crawling on my knees round the compound over 20times bruising myself when I misplaced my phone, because I just didn't want him to know. I felt so bad.

My dad often had this phrase. Did you decide not to do it, or your brain was not working and told you to be stupid. And he ALWAYS demanded an answer

I deliberately kept this to my dad alone because recently I had to deal with him on various issues.
My relationship with my mum is essentially dead! I live two worlds with her. Most of our conversations is me listening to her fights with my dad and things I don't believe in. The only thing is that at least I can stand beside her while she talks and at the very least, I can communicate basic things with her, like "help me buy this foodstuff"

Tbh, its a totally big topic with my mum, but I think I prefer to keep this one sided for now... None of them have an idea about my personal life.

I don't know the feeling when people put their mum online and say nice things there, infact when she calls me about "mothers day" I genuinely feel manipulated


cchub
HarunaWest

I struggle a lot because I don't have an emotional relationship with my dad. He never opened up about anything, not even his childhood, failures and all. He is well respected, so it always feel like a struggle to be as good as him. He is nicer to people outside and just cold at home. I don't even want him to be nice at this point because I am already used to him being cold, but I still hate it.

I grew up with a "2 parent" childhood. I say two because my parents have been together for about 30years and basically argued all through.. For about 15 years, have never slept in the same room.

It may sound crazy but I can tell you all my life, I ve seen him laugh just once with us, and that day, I was shocked and confused how to respond to it. If I never saw him happy with his friends, I d have thought he was never capable of it.

He never congratulated me, instead compares us with others. Even when I finished sec school, after the graduation event when everyone is happy, the first words from his mouth with a disgusting look was "no prizes" when he realised I didn't receive any graduation prize.

No one feels comfortable with him. We can't even be around close perimeter when he is around, we speak to him from a corner because of fear. It's extremely uncomfortable when you find yourself alone with him, because the only conversation is perhaps a complaint or talking about the future, and it is one-directional and controlling.

Yes, he didn't really beat us, but he was and is still distant and extremely controlling. If he entered the sitting room, we all left. He watches (TV) news alone and even if we just weren't interested, he makes us feel worse by asking us questions and ridiculing us for not knowing. And not a joke type of ridicule, but plain... "Are you stupid" type. The first time he saw me watching a movie at 14, he called me stupid watching people make money, instead of learning how to make mine. First time I genuinely asked him a question about something I didn't understand in my science book, he made me look so stupid. It made me doubt myself so bad and want to choke myself whenever I didn't understand anything. But looking back, how will I really fully understand something I ve never seen and a young age...at 13 years old. Infact the exact topic was on electromagnetism (Motors and generators).. I can cram the definitions and did relatively well in the tests, I was only looking for an actual understanding. I remember I will then read random abstract non-related books online to force myself to understand everything, and go in a loop when. I can't. Recently I ve tried to slowly and very consciously tell myself that it is okay not to understand sometimes.

The atmosphere around him is horrible. Very horrible. I hate being around him, I do. I am closer with my managers at work than him. I tend to bond more to strangers than home. And I am by no stretch a failure, I have achieved things that people would have doubted I did, but he never congratulated me. Instead he makes me feel bad for not doing it his way or not doing better. He compared me with many people growing up, but now I am better than them, he never congratulated me.


I don't like him. People say they love their dad. I basically simply do not!. I only feel appreciation towards him and tbh, I d love to gather and return all the money I think he may have spent on me growing up, so maybe I will feel free. I don't just like him.

To our Older people here,.. Please help me...

I m getting past my mid 20's and this is troubling me. I don't want to say this, but tbh, I hate him, I hate the person he made me become. I do understand people have fights with their spouses but I question what we (kids) really did to deserve this. What was our offence

Maybe my offence is existing and I am sorry for doing that Sir.

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