₦airaland Forum

fflamingo: Ogugua, I don't know whether it kinda late but sincerely I wish I could participate........hope therz are still allocation for me....

Underdogg: En-hen people, now I'm feeling you.
labongua, afrobaby, thanks for your frank feedback.

@ fflamingo
I'm glad you wrote back to clarify your position, I appreciate that we can still keep our communication lines open and also possibly have a positive exchange of ideas. I'm actually quite a sociable person, its just that I treat people with respect and I expect them to do the same to me...
As you requested, generally, its not proper to say 'people like you' because it indicates that you have assessed (judged) my personality (even though we have never met and you know nothing about me except the words I have writen) and placed me in a certain group separate from the mainstream and therefore subject to potential negative effects of discrimination. If for example you were a white person, you get to a congregation of black or Puerto Ricans in say, downtown Detroit, and say 'You people/People like you', you would be in serious trouble.

Underdogg: Dear fflamingo, please go back and look at the salutation on my opening post. It reads 'Hi Professionals!'.
Professionals address each other with courtsey. Cmann77 opened his post by saying 'U r either sufferin 4rm paranoia or u have a parochial mindset or even both.did u jst join linkedin?'. That wasn't ok. I didn't 'kinda insult' him, I just wrote back to him in the same flavour as he wrote to me... I'm glad it made you feel bitter, now you know how I felt when I read his post.
By the way, please be careful, writing 'people like you' is judgemental and could get you sued or damage very valuable professional relationships... I'd steer clear of that kind of terminology if I were you. As for your statement 'so u gave him MB to load on his phone or you add To his intellectual capacity by giving you such advise.......'
I honestly don't understand what you are trying to say.
Did you mean that he posted in SMS language because he was trying to economise on data? Or that it was wrong to advise that he should restrict such writing style to sending of SMSs? Sorry for trying to be helpful... but its very easy to forget yourself and write this way in an official letter, say, to a bank, a school, maybe even your boss. I was only trying to help.
And finally, what exactly more do you need me to TOLERATE? I'm responding to these posts aren't I?

All I asked the house was:
How do I respond to a total stranger's request to be added to my professional network? Is it courteous to ask the person why they are requesting? How can I determine if this is just a random weirdo/stalker/admirer or my next potential recruiter?